BE AN UP-STANDER NOT A BY-STANDER
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By-Standers are Silent… Up-Standers Live Out Loud
WHAT IS BULLYING?
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school agedChildren/Teens that involves a real or perceived power
imbalance.
In order to be considered bullying the behavior must be:- Repeated (or has the potential to be repeated)- Aggressive in nature- An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—
such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. (Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people).
FACT:
People who bully have power
over those they bully.
TYPES OF BULLYING
VerbalSocialPhysical
TYPES OF BULLYING CONT.
Mean Texts
Rumors on Social Media or Other Electronic Devices
Embarrassing Photos/Videos
Anonymous Threatening and Taunting Emails or Posts
Nasty Fake Profile is Posted at a Social Networking Site Using
a Student’s Real Name, Photo, and Contact Information
Cyberbullying
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WHY IS CYBERBULLYING DIFFERENT?Kids who are cyberbullied are often times bullied in person as
well. Additionally, kids who are cyberbullied have a harder time getting away from the behavior.
- Cyberbullying can happen 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and reach a kid even when he or she is alone. It can happen any time of the day or night.
- Cyberbullying messages and images can be posted anonymously and distributed quickly to a very wide audience. It can be difficult and sometimes impossible to trace the source.
- Deleting inappropriate or harassing messages, texts, and pictures is extremely difficult after they have been posted or sent.
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MYTH:
People who bully are insecure
and have low self-esteem.
WHERE DOES BULLYING TAKE PLACE?
Internet HallwaysBuses
Bathroom
Locker RoomCafeteria
Parking LotWalking to and From School
EFFECTS OF BULLYING
Be unwilling to attend school
Receive poor gradesHave lower self-esteemHave more health problems
Mental health issuesSuicide
HOW TO DEAL WITH BEING BULLIED…
Your Feelings are Important
Do not blame yourself.
Be proud of who you are.
Do not be afraid to get help.
WHAT TO DO…WHEN YOU ARE BEING BULLIED.Tell them to stop. Know when to walk away. Don’t show emotion.Protect yourself. Tell an adult you trust. Find a safe place. Stick together. Find opportunities to make new friends. Avoid reading negative comments that may be
posted about you.
MYTH:
Bullying often resolves itself
when you ignore it.
MYTH:
Reporting bullying will make the
situation worse.
10 WAYS TO BE AN UP-STANDER1) Learn more about mean, cruel and bullying behavior.
2) Help others who are being bullied.
3) Stop untrue or harmful messages from spreading online or in person.
4) Get friends involved.
5) Make friend outside of your circle.
6) Be aware of the bullying and Up-Stander policies at your school.
7) Welcome new students.
8) Refuse to be a bystander and be a role model to others instead.
9) Respect others’ differences and help others to respect differences.
10)Develop and Up-Stander/Prevention program or project with a teacher.
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IF YOU ARE THE BULLY…MAKE IT RIGHT
-Apologize-Resolve to do better-Ask for help-Speak with friends or family members
-Talk to a professional-Seek help to prevent you from
bullying in the future.
HOW DO I GET HELP?
-Tell your parent or guardian about the situation and share your feelings
-Your school counselor is an excellent resource to discuss the bullying situation and your options
-Once you’ve brought the bullying situation to the attention of a trusted adult, act on some of the suggestions.
-Should the bullying situation continue or become unacceptable “REPORT IT” !
HOW DO I GET HELP?
STEP 1: Report it to your Assistant Principal or you may report the abuse anonymously at DHS.CaresAbout.Us
STEP 2: Inform your parents or guardian about the report. Communication is key
HOW DO I GET HELP?
STEP 3: Share any fears of retaliation with the principal or our SRO
Step 4: Remember YOU can be the Change by being an Up-Stander and report bullying on behalf of a friend or someone you witnessed being bullied.
LIVE OUT LOUD… BE AN UP-STANDER
Take a stand and do not join in. Support the person being bullied.Talk to an adult you trust. You have the power to stop it!Be the HERO in the HALLWAY!!!
BE THE CHANGE!!!
DON’T STAND BY… STAND UP
RESOURCES
Resources and Acknowledgements: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Center for Mental Health services www.kidshealth.org www.forkidsake.org www.teachingtolerance.org www.peaceworks.org www.olweus.org www.bullyhelp.org www.bullybust.org
This information has been presented to you by the DHS counseling team