Do You Want To Do You Want To Be Very Happy?Be Very Happy?

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Let me tell Let me tell you you

a crazy story a crazy story ……

One morning, a woman was sad when she faced

the mirror. She discovered she only had 3 strands of hair on her

head. Suddenly, she smiled. “Today,” she

said, “I’ll braid my hair!” And after doing

so, she walked out of her home and had fun, fun,

fun.

The next morning, the woman woke up and felt

sad as she saw the mirror. She discovered she only had 2 strands of hair. Suddenly, she smiled. “Today,” she

said, “I’ll part my hair in the middle.” After she

did that, she walked out of her home and had

fun, fun, fun.

The next morning, the woman woke up and felt

sad as she saw the mirror. She discovered

she only had 1 strand of hair left. Suddenly, she smiled. “Today,” she

said, “I’ll wear my hair in a ponytail.” After she did that, she walked out of her home and had fun,

fun, fun.

The next morning, the woman woke up and felt

sad as she saw the mirror. She discovered

she had zero hair left. Suddenly, she

smiled. “Yeepee!” she shouted in glee, “I don’t

have to do my hair today!”  Immediately, she walked out of her

home and had fun, fun, fun.

Do you want Do you want to be happy?to be happy?

Here’s how…Here’s how…

A thick wad of P1000 bills gives pleasure.

A fun movie, gives

pleasure.

A roller coaster ride

gives pleasure.

A kiss gives

pleasure

A chocolate parfait with thick syrup

gives pleasure.

Then what’s the Then what’s the difference difference

between pleasure and between pleasure and happiness? happiness?

Pleasure is an outside job.But happiness is an inside job.

It doesn’t depend on any external circumstances. Yep, even if you only have three strands of hair on your

head.

Happiness isn’t the absence of problems.

HappinessHappiness

The Bible doesn’t say, “Be joyful sometimes.” 

Or “Be joyful when you don’t have problems.” 

The Bible says,

“BE JOYFUL ALWAYS.” Is that possible? I mean, c’mon. 

No one can be happy 365 days a year.But the Bible says, “Be joyful always”

because happiness isn’t a mood. Happiness isn’t an emotion either.

Happiness is a way of life.

““Be Joyful Always”Be Joyful Always”

What is common?What is common? I know of strange human beings walking this face of the earth who are extremely

happy. Not just moderately or mildly happy. 

But deeply joyful. (Hey, you may be one of them. Congratulations!)

I know them. Some of them are my friends.

Because of my work, I’ve traveled all over the world.

 So I asked myself this question: Who are the happiest people I know? 

I listed them down. After sifting through the hundreds of thousands of people

archived in my brain, I asked a more difficult question:

What is common among them all?

7 Tools Of Happiness7 Tools Of Happiness

1.Happy people create their destiny2.Happy people like themselves a lot3.Happy people nurture connections4.Happy people find delight

everywhere5.Happy people embrace change6.Happy people trust deeply7.Happy people work their purpose

daily

I came up with seven great things I see in extremely happy people. I call them

the 7 Tools of Happiness:

Let me share with you why many people are unhappy…

The enemy of happiness isn’t sadness. The enemy of happiness isn’t

problems.The enemy of happiness isn’t

loneliness.

The enemy of happiness is FEAR

Our lives are so fueled by it.We run our lives by fear !!!

Why people Why people unhappy?unhappy?

Your Body Is Hardwired To Be AfraidYour Body Is Hardwired To Be Afraid

In Dan Baker’s excellent book, What Happy People Know, he explains how our body circuitry is wired to fear.

           Our brains have three parts. The brain stem, the amygdala, and the neocortex. The more primitive parts of our brains, the brain steam (also called

the reptilian brain, because reptiles have these for brains) and the

amygdala are

“programmed for fear”.

FEAR

Why? Our ancestors needed fear for their physical survival. Imagine

yourself living in the wilderness with lions, wolves, and cobras around

you. Danger lurks behind every tree and shadow. 

Once their brains register fear, the endocrine glands produce our fear

hormones adrenaline and cortisol. It gave them super strength to fight or flight. And in fighting or fleeing, they exhaust the adrenaline and cortisol in

their bodies. 

Our Ancestors Needed Our Ancestors Needed FearFear

Well and good. But what about us who usually sit behind desks and work on

computers? We still have the same fear mechanism.

But this time, we’re no longer afraid of lions or cobras behind every tree.

We afraid of our rising credit card bills.We’re afraid of our boss.

We’re afraid of losing our jobs.We’re afraid for our children future?

We’re afraid that at 35, we won’t get married.

We’re afraid we’ll grow lonely.We’re afraid we’ll run out of money.

We’re afraid of social rejection.We’re afraid of social shame and losing

face.We’re afraid of disease.

What about now?What about now?

And these fears are so real, our endocrine glands produce

adrenaline and cortisol as well. And because we’re seated behind our desks, pounding on our computers, we

really don’t use up any of it. Adrenaline and cortisol become

POISON in our bodies, destroying our health bit by bit.

Poison in lifePoison in life

Poison

Thus, very few people are happy.

If you want to be happy, we need to overcome our

fears.

How?

ConclusionConclusion

Twenty years ago, a friend gave me a book about facing fears. My arrogant

response to her: “Thanks for the book. But frankly, I don’t think I need it. I don’t know why, but fear isn’t a problem

for me. I don’t have any fears.” Ten years later, I ate my words.

Because after a deep soul search, I realized how my life was run by many

fears. Many of the things I was doing I did

because of fear!I feared what other people said about

me.I feared failure.

I feared angry people.I feared of not having enough.I feared of not being enough.

What is our fear?What is our fear?

The Only Antidote to Fear Is…The Only Antidote to Fear Is…

In my life, I’ve discovered that there is only one thing that can overcome fear.

There is only one thing that is more powerful than fear.

The only antidote to fear is LOVE.When you fill your life with love, your

fears naturally disappears.I’m talking about a love for God, a love

for others, a love for yourself, and a love for life itself. The Bible says,

Perfect love casts out all fear and I totally believe it.

In fact, remember the “7 Tools of Happiness” I listed

above? 

Every single one of them is really a facet of love

Each tool can drive away a specific fear in your life. 

Once your fears are gone, happiness will flood your

soul.

Facet of loveFacet of love

May your dreams May your dreams come true come true

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