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M KE SENSE


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The most important person is YOU

DIRECT YOUR LIFE


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SEVEN HABITS of HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

Independence

Dependence

Interdependence

PUBLICVICTORY

PRIVATEVICTORY

Seek First toUnderstand

… Then to be Understood

Synergize

Think Win/Win

Put FirstThings First

BeProactive

Begin withthe End in

Mind

S h a r p e n t h e S a w


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Habit 1 : Be Proactive

• Pro-activity ~ more than taking initiative~ we are responsible for our own lives

• Reactive people are often affected by their

physical and social environment but

proactive people form their own.


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Proactive People

• Are not easily offended• Take responsibility for their choices

• Think before they act

• Find ways to make things happen

• Focus on things they can do something about.


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Identify What you can control

Circle of NO Control

Circle of Control


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Reactive Language vs Proactive Language

Reactive Language

Let’s look at other

alternatives

I can choose adifferent approach

I control my own

feelings

I choose

I Prefer

I will

Proactive Language

There’s nothing I can do

That’s just the way I am

He makes me so mad I can’t

I must

If only


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Nothing is Impossible


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Being Proactive

• Accepting Responsibility• Making choice based on principles & Values

• Being Agents of change (Self awareness,

• Consience, imagination, independent will)

• Resolve to be creative force (most fundamental)

• What G.B. Shaw has to say about it

• People are always blaming their circumstances for

what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The

people who get on in this world are people who get up

and look for the circumstances they want, and if they

can’t find them, they make them.


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Habit 2 : BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

• Start with a clear understanding of your destination• Principle : “ All things are created twice : first the

mental creation and then the physical creation “

• Personal Mission Statement

• GRAVE EULOGY

• Individuals, Families, Teams and Organizations shape

their future by creating a mental vision for purpose or

project.

• Mission statement (mental creation) Highest form

because all other decisions and actions depends upon

mission statement.


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Habit 3 : PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST

Urgent Not Urgent

Important

Not Important


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Prioritize

Stress

Burn-out

Vision

Perspective

Control

Balance

Out of control

Short term focus

Feel victimized

Irresponsibility

Dependence on

others

Urgent Not Urgent

Important

Not Important

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Sector 2 is the KEY

• Planning long and short range• Preparations

• Reading/Expanding the minds

• Professional development

• Physical Exercise

• Leisure / Re-creation

• Devising systems

• Implementing Systems• Preventions

• Envisioning the future


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Manage Time or Ourselves

Things which matter mostmust never be at the mercy

of things which matter least

Time management is a misnomer -

the challenge is not to manage time

but rather our selves

Purpose, vision, values, priorities.


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Habit 4 : THINK WIN/WIN

• Six Paradigms Of Human Interaction: Win/WinWin/Lose Lose/Win

Lose/Lose Win/Win or No Deal Win

• Win/Win constantly seeks mutual benefit in all humanreactions

• It’s not your way or my way ; it’s a better way


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Win/Lose

If I win, you lose.I win even if that means that you lose.

I get my way, you don’t get yours.

Most of life is not a competition. Most of life

is an interdependent reality.


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Lose/Win

I lose you win.Go ahead, have your way with me.

Lose/Win has no expectation, no demands, no vision


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Lose/Lose

If I don’t get it, you don’t get it either.

When two self centered, egostic Win/Lose

people come into contact.


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Think win-win

Mutual benefit, mutual respect in allinteractions.

Thinking in terms of abundance / ever

expanding pie. (wealth, resource/ scarcity, adversity)


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Habit 5 : Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood

• Key to effective interpersonal communication• 5 Levels of Listening : Ignoring, Pretending to listen, Selective

Listening, Attentive Listening, Emphatic Listening

• Empathic Listening : Listen with our eyes for feeling, rather than

listening to the words

• Empathy – Other people’s pain living in your heart. • When we listen not to reply but to understand true

communication & understanding results.

• Seeking to understand takes kindness

• Seeking to be understood – takes courage.

• Effectiveness lies in balancing the two.


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The Emotional Bank Account

Deposits Seeking first to understand

Keeping promises

Honest, Openness

Kindnesses, courtesies

Win-Win or no deal thinking

Clarifying Expectations

Loyalty to the Absent

Apologies

With-drawls Seeking first to be understood

Breaking promises

Smooth Manipulation

Unkindness, Discourtesies

Win-Lose or Lose-Win

Thinking

Violating Expectations

Disloyalty, Duplicity

Pride, conceit, Arrogance


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If only the world were perfect !!


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Habit 6 : SYNERGIZE

• The habit of Creative Cooperation• Synergy = The whole is greater than the

sum of its parts

• Synergy means 1 + 1 = 3 or 8 or 1000

• Synergistic communication is opening your mind andheart to new possibilitis.

• Synergy is achieved through creativity, which is

terrifying, because all creative endeavors are

somewhat unpredictable.• TEAM – Together Everyone Achieves Miracle


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Together we are Strong


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Searching for the best way

The "middle" way may not be compromise, but a thirdalternative, like the apex of a triangle.

Synergy leads to a safe environment for brain storming.

Excitement can replace respectful exchanges and ego

battles.


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Valuing the Differences

That two people can disagree and both be right is notonly logical, it's psychological.

Synergy is to value the mental, emotional, and

psychological differences between people. The key is torealize that all people see the world, not as it is, but as

they are.


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Perception is EVERYTHING


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Habit 7 : SHARPEN THE SAW

• Principles Of Balanced Self-Renewal• Renewing our four dimensions

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