cross-generational and non-normative relationships
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Cross-Generational and Non-Normative Relationships
By: Amy Rothblum and Lisa Martin
Generational Relationships Nontraditional grandparenting roles Non-normative romantic relationships
Preview
Catharine Zata Jones and Michael Douglas
Generation:◦ Roughly 30 years◦ Average period between when children grow up
and birth their offspring.
Cross-generational: ◦ Skipping over one generation to the next
What are generational Relationships?
For younger people, most high quality communication occurs with grandparents◦ Most frequent◦ First source of intergenerational communication
Mutually beneficial ◦ Grandchild has a more effective transition to
adulthood◦ Grandparent has a higher social interaction and
life satisfaction(Harwood, 2007)
Grandparenting
Closer to grandmothers than grandfathers Closer to maternal grandmother Grandchildren are more fond of healthier
and younger grandparents
Why do you think that might be?
Closeness in Grandparent Relationships
Affiliation: Expression of love
Pride: Express accomplishments to others
Exchange: Describing what they do for their grandchild and what their grandchildren do for them
Distance: Geographically distant or distant due to grandchild’s parents
Closeness in Grandparent Relationships
Grandparents are celebrated Founded by Marian McQuade Originally started to help the lonely elderly
in nursing homes Hoped to persuade grandchildren to gain
knowledge and history Celebrated the first Sunday after Labor Day
◦ September 9, 2012◦ Grandparents Day
Grandparents Day
Non-Traditional Grandparents
Off-time Grandparents Typically very young If one becomes a grandparent to early, they may
not feel “ready” and will resist the identity role that is expected ◦ Working full time◦ Raising children of their own◦ Difficulty integrating children with grandchild◦ How might this be hard for the parent as well?
Divorce ◦ Leads to grandparent rights◦ Especially hard if grandchild is not with custodial parent
Non-Traditional Grandparents
Grandparents raising grandchildren Strengths:
◦ Pride◦ Joy◦ Feeling of being needed
Hardships:◦ Social isolation◦ Shifts in social networks◦ Physical, emotional, psychological strain◦ Examples?
Non-Traditional Grandparenting
Grandparents raising grandchildren: negotiating the complexities of role-identity conflict Feelings of disappointment and frustration Lack of adequate financial and social
support Foster cares appreciated for what they do,
while they were expected to do the same job without government support
Felt unjustly blamed (Backhouse and Graham, 2011)
Non-Traditional Grandparenting
Grandparents are taking on a more predictable parent role
Problem lies with middle generation issues◦ substance abuse◦ child abuse ◦ neglect◦ teenage pregnancy◦ HIV/AIDS ◦ parental unemployment(Turner and West, 2006)
Non-Traditional Grandparenting
Non-Normative Relationships
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore
Defined Violates social norms with regard to partner age
differences and romantic involvementEvolutionary Theory Men select women who are able to bare children
◦ Men can be with young women because men are more fertile later in age than women
Women select men who can provide them security and commitment
Men accept women -15 yrs., women accept men +10 yrs(Cupach, 2011)
Have these roles changed?
Non-Normative Relationships
Society does not favor older women dating younger men.◦ The term cougar is coined◦ Connotative vs. denotative meaningsWhat do you think of this term since men do not have one?
Double standard◦ Older men can date younger women◦ Negative connotation with women dating younger men
Why do you think this is a double standard?
Non-normative relationships
Hue Hefner
Extreme cases ◦ Hollywood◦ News Story
Which is more acceptable?
Non-Normative Relationships
Negative Assumptions◦ Power imbalance-male vs. female◦ Clashes of personal values- evolutionary theory◦ Less support-family, friends, society
Positive Assumptions ◦ Increase life satisfaction (grandparent to
grandchild)◦ Less jealousy◦ More trust
Non-Normative Relationship
Older women/younger men: A look at the implications of age difference in marriage Women reported to being attracted to younger
men before marriage Half of the couples interviewed for the study
agreed that there were issues with power, money and work in different developmental stages
Some hesitant to tell others about relationship for fear of judgment prior to marriage
Men saw women's maturity and stability as advantage
Age Difference in Marriages
(Proulx, Caron & Logue, 2006)
Changing the scripts: Midlife women’s sexuality in contemporary US film Society is embracing phenomenon of the cougar
through media◦ TV land’s The Cougar and NBC Age of Love ◦ Potential market is baby boomer women ◦ This programming embraces a women’s sexuality◦ However, these women are “trimmed, dyed and fit”
and do not match the average looking 40 year old women
(Weitz, 2009)
Sexuality and Culture
How are the non-normative relationships represented in other cultures?◦ Mostly looked at in the Western societies◦ May be different in areas where arranged
marriages are customary
Further research will look at a more diverse sample in age gap romances◦ Homosexual or lesbian couples◦ Interracial relationships(Cupach, 2011)
Future Research
Backhouse, J., & Graham, A. (2012). Grandparents raising grandchildren: Negotiating the complexities of role-identity conflict. Child & Family Social Work, 17(3), 306-315.
Connor, S. (2006). Grandparents raising grandchildren: Formation, disruption and intergenerational transmission of attachment. Australian Social Work, 59(2), 172-184.
Cupach, W. R., & Spitzberg, B, H. (2011). The dark side of close relationships II. New York: Routledge Taylor & Francis Group.
Harwood, J. (2007). Understanding communication and aging. Los Angeles: Sage Publications.
References
National Grandparents Day Council. Grandparents Day.(2012). National grandparents day. Date Retrieved October 30, 2012 from http://www.grandparents-day.com/
Proulx, N., Caron, S. L., & Logue, M. (2006). Older women/younger men: A look at the implications of age difference in marriage. Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 5(4), 43-64.
Turner, L. H., & West, R. (2006). The family communication sourcebook. Thousand Oaks: Sage Publications.
Weitz, R. (2010). Changing the scripts: Midlife women’s sexuality in contemporary U.S. film. Sexuality & Culture, 14(1), 17-32.
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