creating cohesive conversation
DESCRIPTION
Connectivity is much more than we think and I can confidently say that it is through our connectivity that we are able to create. We often think consciousness is different to nature, but of course it is consciousness that is driving all of creation. I call this level of connective reality Communication Networks of Consciousness. Just like every thing in nature, our consciousness also has finite systems that operate on the principle of pathways and connectivity. The cosmos is in fact a sea of communication (common-union). Clarity of purpose while in common-union, creates. It is at this level of participation that true coherence can and will occur. Coherence is like the glue of creation, there needs to be a consistency in logical interconnection plus an overall sense or understanding between other operating parts. It may sound complicated in relation to community, but in fact that is where we need to understand the nature of coherence most of all. Before we can really co-create we have to have coherence and before coherence we have to have connectivity. There are many levels of connectivity between humans, but it is only when there is a collective impulse of true purpose alive in a community that the creative process will activate and start moving forward. Each and every part of the whole must be in alignment with the desired outcome and each member must be fully present to his or her role in that outcome. The collective vision must always be the driver for the whole group.TRANSCRIPT
C R E A T I N G C O H E S I V EC O N V E R S A T I O N
Believe it or not fear of public speaking tops the lists of phobias in various surveys done around the world.
WHY ?
•BEING PRESENT
•HAVING PRESENCE
•BE THE REAL DEAL
• We can feel disconnected from the group. (we don’t feel safe)
• We often think what we have to say is of no value to others. (low self esteem)
• We think we need to be well rehearsed, clever and entertaining in order to present well. (we think we need to be perfect)
The Human Condition
We are all hardwired to be in relationship.
On a core level we know we want to connect with others, but because of our personal sensitivities we create defenses and particular behaviors that keep us from what we long for the most…
We want to Resonate with another human being and our world around us… As babies we instinctively know that we
need to Experience Being Experienced to grow.
But somewhere in those early months or years of life our needs weren't fully met.
Being Present means creating a resting place within that is void of the everyday noise
that occupies your mind, time, space and energy.It is the ability to create a clear space in your mind - in your whole being where you are able to experience life in the NOW.
It creates space for Resonance to occur.
• First step - Arrive (in the true sense)
Listening from within.
• Make gentle eye contact.Create a soft gaze with your group or partner (like you are having a one on one conversation)
• Refrain from making any approving gestures. (such as nodding, finishing sentences etc.)
• Remember to breath.
Having presence comes from being present…
Present in your body, present in the way you communicate and present with your authenticity.
Now that sounds easy…
There are many outside influences bombarding us daily…
we become confused about who we are…
we start to manufacture what we
think is our “personal best”…
what we need is more
connection, with who we are on the inside.
Presence is not something we can buy or learn… it is simply our
Personal Beauty Revealed.
So how did we lose site of this precious thing
“presence”? • FAMILY
• PEERS
• SCHOOL
• WORK PLACE
• THE MEDIA
Experiences from our past and most definitely influences from the present are affecting your personal presence.
The media is constantly telling us who and how we should be. Just like with your style… the same applies with your communication.
“choose your own influences”.
Being the REAL DEAL means being “Authentically Appropriate”.
1. The key is speaking your truth.
2. Expressing who you are through your
presence/essence.
3. Connecting by being REAL.
Beyond the fear and into the TRUTH.The essence of being a good
communicator is the ability to know
your truth and speak it with purpose.
This can be person to person or it can be in a larger group situation.
•BEING PRESENT
•HAVING PRESENCE
•BE THE REAL DEAL
These three fundamentals are always present when Creating Cohesive Conversation and the number one message is we need to…
Experience Being Experienced To Grow
