7/28/2019 Courageous MentorGuide RoleofFather[1]

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Online Helps

Dad University

by Dennis Rainey

Introduction to Fatherhood

by Howard Hendicks

Courage and Fear

by Bob Lepine

10 Ideas: How to Be Your Daughter's Daddy

by Dan Bolin

10 Ideas on How to Be Your Little Man's Dad

by Dan Bolin

Did You Do Something of Value Today?

by Dennis Rainey

A Great Patriarch

by Gary Rosberg

I Was a Workaholic

by Bill Eyster

You Are Not My Coach

by Mario Zandstra

Dennis Talks to Dads

by Dennis Rainey (Online Video)

More Online Helps on Fatherhood

Scriptures

Hope:

James 1:5(if you lack wisdom, ask of God who gives generously)

Galatians 6:9(do not grow weary and you will reap in due time)

Philippians 4:13(I can do all things through Christ)

Psalm 127:3-5(children are a blessing; blessed is a full quiver)

Proverbs 29:17(correct your son, and he will give you comfort)

Proverbs 22:6(train up a child in the way he should go)

Exodus 20:5-6(He shows steadfast love to thousands who obey)

Psalm 112:1-2(descendants of the upright will be blessed)

1 Thessalonians 2:8(I loved you so much, I shared my life with you)

Help:

Joshua 24:15(as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!)

Psalm 78:5-7(fathers are to teach each successive generation)

1 Corinthians 4:15-16/

1 Corinthians 16:13(stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong)

Ephesians 6:4(fathers, do not provoke your children to anger)

Colossians 3:21(fathers, do not exasperate your children)

Deuteronomy 6:6-7(teach them diligently to your children)

Proverbs 3:12(whom the Lord loves He reproves even as a father)

Proverbs 22:15(folly is bound up in the heart of a child)

Proverbs 3:5-6(trust in the Lord with all your heart)Matthew 5:19(one who breaks commands and teaches others to)

1 Timothy 5:8

Conversation Starters

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you as a child? What would you have changed?

What have you learned so far as a father? Are there things

good at? Areas of weakness?

What is your plan for becoming a better father? Are you reading

any good books right now?

Tell me about your children. How old are they? What gender?What is unique about each of their personalities?

What single-word descriptor would you use for each of your

children? Why did you choose that particular word?

If you were to ask your children to describe you, what three

words would they use?

Do you pray with your children regularly?

Are you involved in a church for growth and encouragement?

Do you have other dads that you connect with regularly for

encouragement and accountability? (Proverbs 27:17)

How can I best help you right now as a mentor?

Key Resources

Raising A Modern Day Knight

by Robert Lewis (Paperback)

Growing a Spiritually Strong Family

by Dennis Rainey (Hardback Book)

Letters from Dad

Greg Vaughn (Hardback)

What He Must Be (If He Wants to Marry My Daughter)

by Voddie Baucham (Hardback)

Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters

by Meg Meeker (Paperback)

Boys Should Be Boys: 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons

by Meg Meeker (Paperback)

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Mentor Guide Role of Father

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Pray: simple and powerful

Listen: people desire to feel heard

Ask: good questions foster healthy conversation

Consider: think carefully and biblically

Encourage: uplift rather than criticize

Good mentors avoid

Fixing: this is a person, not a project

Preaching

Carrying: be concerned but not overburdened

Blaming: no condemnation

Rescuing

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