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“Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can't practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage.”
-Maya Angelou
SAFER PARENTING
Safer Office: Building 65, UU 217
Phone: (805) 756-2282
Email: [email protected]
Anonymous text/email: [email protected]
Anonymous confi dential drop box: Outside of off ice
SAFER
Sexual assault is any sexual act against another without their consent
Sexual assault includes rape, attempted rape, sexual harassment, sexual battery, and more
WHAT IS SEXUAL ASSAULT?
1 in 4 women and 1 in 10 men will be survivors of sexual assault by the time they graduate college
95% of sexual assaults are committed by somebody the victim knows
The majority of sexual assault victims are between the ages of 14 and 25
WHY DO WE TALK ABOUT SEXUAL ASSAULT?
Assault occurs everywhere, among all classes, genders and ethnicities
Occurs at Cal Poly
It’s important to know how to respond to a disclosure of your child
WHY DO WE TALK ABOUT SEXUAL ASSAULT?
Ask “how are you doing?”Stay ConnectedDon’t avoid difficult conversationsStart now
HEALTHY WAYS TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR
STUDENT
Start by believing
Be Knowledgeable About Campus Resources
Refer them, but let them make all the decisions
Check in regularly
Don’t let the assault define your child
IF YOUR STUDENT DISCLOSES TO YOU
Consent cannot be assumed just because you are in an official relationship with someone
Blaming the survivorWhat they were wearing doesn’t make a difference
Rape is always the perpetrator’s decision
It is never the victim’s fault
DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
Don’t avoid talking about sexIncorporating information about consent.
Build your child’s self-esteemEncourage assertivenessAssertiveness: openly expressing and pursuing your desires without limiting another’s freedom to pursue theirs
Challenge objectification
TALK TO YOUR STUDENT ABOUT CONSENT
http://www.ted.com/talks/tony_porter_a_call_to_men
TONY PORTER
We’re just sharing this information because sexual assault can occur anywhere and to anyone
Most students who are assertive and know their boundaries will tend to have healthy relationships
It starts with youYou have the power, not the responsibility
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Victims of sexual assault are:
3 times more likely to suff er from depression.6 times more likely to suff er from post-
traumatic stress disorder.13 times more likely to abuse alcohol.26 times more likely to abuse drugs.4 times more likely to contemplate suicide.
rainn.org
SEXUAL ASSAULT AND MENTAL HEALTH
Assess for risk of self-harm, suicide or any behavior that is alarming or out of character
Listen nonjudgmentally to your student
Give reassurance and information about resources that can help them at Cal Poly
Encourage appropriate professional help, self-help and other support strategies
WAYS TO HELP YOUR STUDENT
Cal Poly Counseling Services Phone: (805)-756-2511
Rise Phone: (805)-226-5400 Sexual Assault/Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence Programs and Crisis-Counseling It’s free
COUNSELING RESOURCES
Safer Office: Building 65, UU 217
Phone: (805) 756-2282
Email: [email protected]
Anonymous text/email: [email protected]
Anonymous confi dential drop box: Outside of off ice
SAFER