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Common Core Standard ICR 1.4 ICR 1.4 Summarize principles of healthy dating ICR 1.5 ICR 1.5 Explain how power and control in relationships can contribute to aggression and violence Slide 2 What are the principles of healthy dating? How do power and control in a relationship contribute to aggression and violence? Slide 3 Define your expectations Put yourself out there Be selective Make a good first impression Be interested and interesting Slide 4 Avoid being smothering or obsessive Be honest Dont try too hard and be spontaneous Slide 5 Apologizes and/or makes excuses for his/her partner's behavior. Loses interest in activities that he/she used to enjoy. Stops seeing friends and family members and becomes more and more isolated. Casually mentions the partner's violent behavior, but laughs it off as a joke. Often has unexplained injuries or the explanations often don't make sense. Slide 6 Calls you names and puts you down in front of others. Acts extremely jealous of others who pay attention to you. Thinks or tells you that your parent (s), don't like them. Controls behavior, checking up constantly, calling or texting Demanding to know who you have been with. Slide 7 Physical Abuse- Physical Abuse- Slapping, hitting, rape, death Mental/Emotional Abuse- Mental/Emotional Abuse- Name calling, teasing, jealousy, stalking and controlling behavior Slide 8 Having sex Having sex As a way to show love, control the other person, get rid of anger, punish someone else Communication problems- Misunderstandings or poor communication skills Alcohol or drug use- Alcohol or drug use- Accentuates violence and makes problems worse Victims of Violence- Parental abuse set the example for how to treat their spouse/partner Peer Influence- Peer Influence- Friends who abuse their partners, encourage others to do the same. Slide 9 Here are some power issues that may come up in a relationship: Being overly responsible for the relationship for the relationship Being overly available Over focusing on others Being overly forgiving Repressing your feelings Good relationships have a balance of power between partners. Slide 10 http://www.wikihow.com/Date http://www.wikihow.com/Date http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/intimatepartnerviolence/teen _dating_violence.html http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/intimatepartnerviolence/teen _dating_violence.html http://loveisnotabuse.com/web/guest/a-list-of-warning- signs;jsessionid=8DF74F77E29C19016C9161EEE1E5929F http://loveisnotabuse.com/web/guest/a-list-of-warning- signs;jsessionid=8DF74F77E29C19016C9161EEE1E5929F http://www.clotheslineproject.org/teendatingviolencefacts.pdf http://www.clotheslineproject.org/teendatingviolencefacts.pdf http://kctherapist.blogspot.com/2011/10/finding-balance-in- relationships.html http://kctherapist.blogspot.com/2011/10/finding-balance-in- relationships.html