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This month Coastal Christian Family features an amazing man. Interviewing Walt Richardson was anexperience I won’t forget. He is a genuine man of God with so much love and compassion in his heart. It isobvious, as he reflects; “the fingerprints of God” hasbeen all over his life. Listening to Deacon Richardsonis truly inspiring and we can all learn so much fromhis love of God and country.

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Volume 13, Number 5CONTENTSMay 2013

DEPARTMENTS3 From the Editor

6 Bringing Out the Winner in Your Child• The Better Child We Become...

the Better Parent We Will Be6 First Priority

• Reaching Students at a Younger Age7 Hassle Free Zone• Spring into Action

• Amanda’s Top Tips for Spring Cleaning8 Faith Under Fire

• Some Assembly Required9 Bargainomics

• Simple Money Saving Tips9 Senior Scene• Better Aging

10 Business Today• Competence & Character in Leadership

10 Legal Matters• 6 Ways to Protect Your Family

11 Mission Makers• Family Life Ministries

11 Pot Luck• Super Summer Sandwich

14 Music Notes• Shake the City

• Annie Moses Band15 Healthy Living

• Just Say No to Norovirus16 Teachable Moment• It Happened Again

• Big or Little17 An Encouraging Word

• How to Be Rich18 The Single Life

• 5 Questions to Ask Before Getting Engaged

18 Best Books• C.S. Lewis: The Man Behind the Art

18 Cool Stuff with A Mighty Message• Back to Africa

18 Kid’s Korner• Holy Strength

20 Coloring Page

21 Calendar

22 Advertising Directory

FEATURES8 Making or Faking a Reputation

17 Super Mom

PLUSMUCH MORE!

NEXT ISSUEBishop Gregory

Parkes,Pensacola-Tallahassee

Diocese

Being a Tuskegee Airman, a retiredChief Master Sergeant, businessmanand Deacon in the Catholic Church,Walter Richardson has led a full lifeof service to God and country.See page 12.

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The Better Child We Become…the Better Parent We Will BeEarlier this year I was in Dallas speaking at a women's conference. Yes,that's right, a women's conference. My wife is still laughing her head off! Atthe event, Christian recording artist Travis Cottrell performed a partialremake of the beloved hymn, “Just as I Am.” He added these words thatstruck a chord deep within my heart:

"I come broken to be mended, I come wounded to be healed. I come desperate to be rescued, I come empty to be filled.I come guilty to be pardoned by the blood of Christ the Lamb,And I'm welcomed with open arms Praise God, just as I am." *

If you wanted to use a group of words to describe our children at the BigOak Ranch, their life experiences and what we try to do daily for them, youjust read it in the above paragraph.

Cottrell’s words also remind me that in many ways I am broken, wounded,desperate, empty, and guilty. I am in great need to be mended, healed, res-cued, filled, and pardoned. Perhaps you are like me and so many othersworking every day to be a better person, spouse, and parent. You and I willnever be the mates, people, or parents we need to be and want to be unlesswe realize as best as we humanly can that we "are welcomed with openarms" by our Father. Then and only then will we be the best individuals

and parents we truly desire to be. Just think, the better child we become tothe Lord the better parent we will be. I really want to be better, don'tyou? Join me and let’s go “Just as we are.”

— John CroyleExecutive Director

Big Oak Ranch,Author of Bringing Out the Winner in Your Child

Visit www.bigoak.org

*“Just as I Am” from When the StarsBurn Down, Travis Cottrell

BRINGING OUT THE WINNER IN YOUR CHILD

The Priority of theChurch: Reaching Studentsat a Younger AgeWhen First Priority began more than 20 years ago, the emphasis was to reach stu-dents at secondary schools. This was the legal precedent that allowed First Priorityclubs to exist on secondary campuses. At that time, the focus was mostly on highschools. First Priority was thought of by many as, “A last chance to impact a student’slife before they graduate high school.” Over the years, middle schools quickly becamevery active and fruitful.

Now that more time has passed a trend continues. For years, church leaders haveheard the claim that nearly nine out of 10 Christians accept Jesus as their saviorbefore the age of 18. If that statistic was accurate in the past, it no longer depicts U.S.society. The current Barna study indicates that nearly half of all Americans whoaccept Jesus Christ as their savior do so before reaching the age of 13 (43%), and that

two out of three born-again Christians (64%)made that commitment to Christ before

their 18th birthday. Less thanone out of every four born-again Christians (23%)

embraced Christ after their21st birthday.

While the urgency to reacha student prior to graduat-

ing is still important, we

know from experience that it is becoming easier to do so in middle school than it isonce they are in high school. While First Priority has traditionally been focused onmiddle and high schools, the need to reach students younger is now the trendknocking at our door every day. This means that as the opportunity presents itself,First Priority is establishing First Priority Kids Clubs in intermediate and elementaryschools. While the legality issues are different, they are not more difficult than mid-dle and high schools. At this time there are more than 30 First Priority Kids Clubs inGreater Birmingham.

The response at these intermediate and elementary clubs is overwhelming to say theleast. It is not unusual to see half of the entire school’s student population attendweekly meetings before school. Just as in middle and high school clubs, our staffworks with volunteers to make these times inspirational, fun and all about Jesus.Resources for these Kids Clubs are currently being developed. More volunteers andfinancial support are needed to meet the demand for services that First Priority iscurrently experiencing. When you make a tax-deductible gift, we will use it in aresponsible manner to help many more schools prepare to start campus ministry forthe next school year. For more information about starting a First Priority Kids Clubin your area, contact us at 205-871-8886 or info@gofirstpriority.com.

Consider every school zone a Prayer Zone. For more information or ideas abouthow to get your church and community involved visit www.gofirstpriority.com orcall 871-8886.

— Matt WilsonExecutive Director, First Priority

FIRST PRIORITY

Amanda’s Top Tipsfor Spring Cleaning

For me spring cleaning is like the Super Bowl of organizing. This is MY time! I startvery methodically in the same place each year, my laundry room. I don’t go in alone.I am armed with my famous pink bag of tricks, which for the laundry room ofcourse include Q-tips. What better way to reach those nooks and crannies that oftenget overlooked and forgotten than with a Q-tip? Hey, I’m not even charging for thattip, it’s free!

Spring cleaning is the time to take inventory of what we have, ask ourselves what we reallyneed and see what we have room for. It’s a great time to let go of the excess and start fresh.As I work my way through each room of the house, I take out all of the contents of eachdrawer, cabinet, and closet. I clean the space thoroughly, and then begin to place itemsback into their systems. Don’t forget to evaluate the organization that you have in place todetermine if it meets the needs of your family or if it needs to be tweaked. It’s important toremember that being organized isn’t about changing everything about yourself; it’s aboutgetting to know yourself well enough to know what works for you and what doesn’t.

As you work your way through your own home, you should be collecting a consider-able pile of items to donate. Make a call to the donation place of your choice ahead oftime to schedule them to pick up your donations. I have been into home after homewhere I see the “good intentions” pile. You go through your home and purge, but thenyou are left with piles of donations, which creates more stress and chaos. I have also seenthat little ones love to find those piles and pull out all of the things you were hoping toget rid of. Make the call!

3 Favorite Spring Cleaning Tips1. Purge the closet. As you move winter out, go ahead and get rid of any thing you didn’t wear last winter.

2. Set up a system for toys. This includes arts and crafts. The kids will beout of school soon and once they are home, you will be wishing all of thefun things that keep them occupied were ready to go!

3. Be the tortoise and not the hare. It’s better to take your time and thinkthrough the space, rather than rush through and not set up systems thatwork for you!

Create peace, calmness, and organization in your home. Take a breath offresh air and set your mind to it. Until next time—Happy Organizing!

— Amanda LeBlancOrganization Specialist

Spring into ActionFor me spring cleaning starts with pen and paper and a walk through eachspace of my home. I write down all of the tasks I want to complete in eachroom- anything from painting to pulling out the washer and dryer to takingdown window treatments and having them professionally cleaned. After I havea thorough list of what I want to accomplish, I create a schedule of how thingswill get done. I personally like to complete one room at a time before movingon to the next. I have seen other methods where you may handle cleaning allof the rugs, carpets and window treatments, then move on to having all of thebedding cleaned, etc. Whatever works for you is the approach you should take.

Within each room, I encourage you to take a close look at what is workingor not working for you. Evaluate the contents of the room and really lookat what can be donated to someone else. This is the time to let go of theexcess and simplify your life. Call ahead and schedule for a donation truckto come to your home to pick up your donations.

I recently spoke with a very overwhelmed mom about having us come inand help her get her home in better order. She has a nice home and it’s notin terrible shape, but the clutter and constant mess strewn about the houseis causing her sadness and stress. As we spoke, I told her that the best thing

she could do is give herself permission tolet go. One example was her gift-wrappingsupply. She had a large amount and noplace to store it. She was concerned aboutletting it go because she had spent moneyon the supplies and didn’t want to bewasteful. Her first mistake may have beenbuying something that she didn’t reallyneed or have room for, but the bigger mis-take would be holding on to it. Admit you made a mistake or that as muchas you would like to have a gift wrap station, it’s just not feasible right now.Then, donate it to an organization that can use it. The same can be said forthat $200 shirt you bought and never wore! Do you think letting it sit inyour closet for two years with the tags isn’t wasteful? Let it go. Spring-clean-ing is the impetuous, but quality of life is the real reason.

And remember spring-cleaning doesn’t have to be one weekend or onemonth. If you want to do it right, spring-cleaning may be more like half-the-year cleaning! One of the reasons individuals fail to successfully organ-ize or clean their home the way they would like is because they are unrealis-tic about the time it will take. As you spring clean, open the doors of yourmind, let the breeze of generosity and self-forgiveness blow through andclear out the clutter!

— Amanda LeBlanc

HASSLE FREE ZONE

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Making or Faking a ReputationLately, I’ve read several blocs—comments around keepinga good reputation or managing one. Should we be moreconcerned about keeping or about managing a good rep-utation? Let’s head down a different avenue and first con-sider making a good reputation.

Will Rogers said, “It takes a lifetime to build a good repu-tation, but you can lose it in a minute.” More recently,Michael Hyatt offered, “We cannot develop a good repu-tation if we constantly mix sweet actions with souractions. . . . No amount of spinning turns sour actionsinto a sweet reputation.” One way or the other, reputationlasts forever, and if that’s true, then it is tied to far-reaching spiritual principles.

What about the expression “Fake it ‘til you make it” regarding reputation? Does itparallel Confucius’ “Be good until you become good,” or are there subtle differ-ences separating the two? Is faking it a cover up, a less than honest attempt ofonly pretending to have something of great value—a way to con others intobelieving a falsehood? The fake-it motto has traveled for years in our culture,even spilling from pulpits.

If we fake a reputation, what do we really have? Why are we trying so hard to fakeit? Obviously, we value it if we want to emulate it. Why not just build a real one?

When I was a little girl, my mom wrote a verse in the front of my new Bible: Agood name is rather to be chosen than great riches; and loving favous than silver andgold (Proverbs 22:1). I thought it unnecessary to receive such information, andbesides, I wasn’t familiar with great riches—nor did I know why she spelledfavour with a “u.” I’ve never forgotten that verse. Whether my ignorance aboutgreat riches and King James spelling or the actual sentiments guaranteed thememory, I don’t know, but the verse stuck and eventually took on great meaning.Even if they didn’t realize it, my dad and mom set the stage for pondering a good

name and the beginnings of a goodreputation: living an honest, hardwork-ing, secured-on-a-handshake kind ofdaily lifestyle. They modeled a way oflife for me: there’s no faking necessarywhen everyday life is based on God’sWord and God’s Worldview. That’swhy faking it holds such distaste forme—especially if I try it myself.

Pondering this idea of a fake versus agood reputation, we can draw fromanother perspective: Confuciusexpresses, “Real knowledge is to know

the extent of one's ignorance.” How can we gain real knowledge if we live to fakeothers beginning with ourselves? Then, Confucius reminds us that “By threemethods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, byimitation, which is easiest; and Third by experience, which is the bitterest.” Noticehe does not recommend imitation of reputation. Perhaps Confucius provides thebottom line for faking versus building a good reputation in “The superior manunderstands what is right; the inferior man understands what will sell,” and sell-ing a false image can become full-time work for a man who describes himself as“lying when telling the truth would be easier.”

Will Rogers, Michael Hyatt, Confucius? Building a good name—a good reputa-tion—over a lifetime seems to fall right in line with Jesus’ life view: “Do unto oth-ers as you would have them do unto you” (Matthew 7:9-12; Luke 6:27-31) and“love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 19:19). Perhaps it begins at home withMom and Dad living out a good name and a handshake worthy of closing a deal.

— Sheila Moss Author of Living to Matter. Contact Sheila@livingtomatter.com for copies of thisresource; for professional editing contact Sheila at www.editingthatmatters.com.

SPECIAL FEATURE

Some Assembly RequiredDo you know the three most frightening words in the English language?“Some assembly required.” You order something online; a toy or a bicy-cle for your children. Or you go to a big box store to get a grill or pieceof patio furniture.

When UPS brings it to your door or you find the item you’re lookingfor in the store, it’s not ready to go like you saw in the online catalog orthe advertisement in Sunday’s paper. “Some assembly required,” the tagon the box says. There are buckets of screws, connectors, rods and unidentifiable smallpieces of plastic that you will never use no matter what the directionssay. And for the next six weeks you attempt to put this thing together.

Some assembly required: This is true of the products you buy, your rela-tionships, the children you are raising, and the person you are becom-ing. We are all works in progress, even as this relates to faith. The ApostlePaul said: “Continue to work out your salvation.” We have been giventhis wonderful gift of grace and salvation. We have come to understandGod’s love and have answered a call to a life of faith. This gift is like get-ting a bicycle in a box or a swing set bound by straps and smothered inStyrofoam peanuts. It’s like possessing a new piece of patio furniture butit’s in a dozen pieces, the materials scattered across the yard.

You’ve got to work it out. You’ve got to put it all together.You can’t ride the bike if it stays in the box. You can’t playon the swing set if it remains disassembled. You can’tenjoy your furniture if you don’t connect the pieces. Andfaith will not be what it is intended to be – what Godwants it to be in your life – if you don’t work it out, ifyou don’t open the box and put it together. Maybe faithhas become such a burden for some of us because we’relugging around on our backs the box full of assortedspiritual materials rather than putting it all together.

So pop the bands off the box that’s waiting for you inthe garage. Put on your work gloves and break out thetool chest. Call your neighbor to lend a hand. Before youknow it, all the pieces might just fall into place.

— Ronnie McBrayer Ronnie is a syndicated columnist, speaker, and author of multiple books.

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FAITH UNDER FIRE

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Window We Get Started?Don’t waste money on window and mirror cleaningproducts, which are mostly water. Make your ownsuper cleaner by mixing in a clean spray bottle onecup of each: water, rubbing (isopropyl) alcohol andlemon scented ammonia. The lemon scent gives your cleaner a nice fresh smelland the cleaning power will absolutely amaze you. Make sure you label the bottle.

And instead of using paper towels or cloths to clean and dry your windows &mirrors, use newspaper. As incredible as that sounds, it's the best product for thejob. Wear gloves because the newspaper print will get on your hands, but it won'tget on the mirror or glass. Newspaper will give you a streak-free finish and,unlike paper towels or cloths, it won't leave behind any lint or fuzz.

Awesome Easy Asparagus CasseroleThis is so tasty & so simple! Here’s what you’ll need: (A) 2 cans (15 oz. each) ofasparagus pieces, drained - keep 1/2 cup of the liquid; (B) 1/8 tst. pepper; (C) 1½ cups of saltine crackers, crushed; (D) 1 can of cream of mushroom soup; (E) 1½ cups of shredded cheddar cheese & (F) 1/4 cup of margarine, melted.

Preheat oven to 350. Spray a 2-qt. casserole dish with nonstick cooking spray. Setaside 1/2 cup of cracker crumbs. Mix together the remaining ingredients, gentlyblending in asparagus last. Spread mixture into casseroledish; sprinkle remaining crackers on top. Drizzle meltedbutter over the crackers. Bake uncovered at 350for about 30 minutes or until the crackers looklight golden brown.

Mold and Mildew RemedyMold and mildew can be easily cleaned away with plain olm’ undiluted vinegar.Wear latex gloves and it’s a good idea to also wear eye protection and a breathingmask. Mold and mildew put out microscopic spores that flutter about in the airand these can cause some nasty respiratory problems. You don’t want to end upwith any of these, so eliminate the mold and mildew around your home and besafe while you’re doing it.

Both mold and mildew thrive on moisture. If there’s a particular spot where youtend to see either of these, check for water leaks if there are water pipes or otherwater sources (icequaker water line, hot water heater, etc.) nearby. Then invest ina good dehumidifier. A one-room unit costs around $50 and most can absorb upto a cup of moisture a day..

Closing Thoughts“Blessed are the people whose God is the Lord” (Psalm 144:15, NIL). As Christ’srepresentatives, it's critical that we learn to wisely use His blessings. May we allcommit to being better stewards of the time and money He has so temporarilyentrusted to us.

—Judy Woodward Bates is a speaker, TV personality, columnist forwww.Examiner.com and www.Travellable.com and author of

Bargainomics: Money Managementby the Book.

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Better AgingA new science giving four basic strategies of pursuit to age successfully. Strategies torefining age, adding years without adding pain, disease and dementia is perhaps theeasiest and certainly crucial. Gerontologist Henry Lodge, MD of Manhattan and fac-ulty member of Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons puts itvery frank, “Don’t Eat Crap!”. Instead of chips, desserts, canned, frozen andprocessed foods down to juicy rib eyes or fatty sausage dogs, it is time we acknowl-edged how bad these food items truly are for us and to give them up.

Aging Nutrition 101: We need the good fats, unsaturated fats in our diet to buildstrong resilient cells and tissues. The two other fats are the bad fats, saturated andtrans fat. They are found in thick marble lard in red meats along with full-fat dairyproducts: butter, milk, cheese and cream, as well as in coconut and palm oil. Nomore pina coladas! Skim milk, non fat yogurt and low fat cheese are good for you aswell as a source of good protein! Avoid foods fried in saturated fats or gasp, rolled inbacon, our southern tradition. ‘Bad’ fats raise LDL or bad cholesterol. This ‘bad’ fatincreases inflammation (white blood cells) invading artery walls and causes a buildup of plaque, leading to a variety of heart diseases. Consistent diets high in saturateand trans fat as well as sugar increases the formation of proteins implicated andlinked to Alzheimer’s Disease.

When you over-eat starch or carbs, you tell your body to send in the wrecking crewof dangerous chemicals: insulin, gastric acid and many others. These digestionchemicals break down the starch into sugar which sends your body into hyperab-sorption or hyper break down. In this hyperabsorption the body absorbs every laststarchy/sugary calorie as stored energy or ‘fat’. This stored energy is saturated fat, thefat that dominates our diet today. So we eat carbs which turns into saturated fats ontop of saturated fats, i.e. gooy sausage dog on a white bun with chips and soda. As aresult of this hyperabsorption caused from constant and continual consumption ofcarbs over the years, we overeaters suffer diabetes, heart disease, stroke, obesity,arthritis, cancer. No wonder we are all so heavy. No wonder we are all suffering andare in pain.

Just eat the good stuff: fresh fruits, fresh vegetables and whole grains. Make sure yourbreads are made from true whole grains, (whole wheat does not usually count aswhole grain, read the label). All three major foods help to ease our digestion, slowdown the absorption of fat and cleanse our colon, keeping it working and keepingus as healthy and as cancer free as possible. The second important reason to indulgein fresh fruits, fresh vegetables and whole grains is so your body can absorb tracevitamins and minerals or micronutrients they provide that canned, industryprocessed foods or store bought supplements cannot provide. Micronutrients areabsolutely essential to having a strong immune system, the best heart and bonehealth, good productive blood formation and very importantly, proper and effectivemuscle and brain function.

Four eating rules for the rest of your life: DO NOT EAT STARCH or refined car-bohydrates, the white foods such as plain white potatoes, white rice and practicallyanything made with refined white flour. Eat fresh fruits, vegetables and WHOLEgrain foods. Go real-super easy, on saturated and trans fats. Read the label.

We are committed to exercising our bodies and our brains to reproduce and activatecells, creating a healthy energetic body. These are stages one and two. We can helpthis renewal and growth by avoiding simple carbohydrates and easing up on the sat-urated and trans fat and provide our cells with nutrients. Stage three in a nut shell,no pun intended, eat healthy.

— Janet Rich PittmanDirector of Marketing/Licensed Dementia Administrator

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Competence & Character in LeadershipI am glad to be writing for Birmingham Christian Family! I hope to provide youwith a solid base of content to develop your own leadership abilities, whatever yourleadership context. Two of the most important elements are competence and char-acter. They are vital, and they play an important relationship to each other as well

Competence. Competence has to do with your skill sets. They are those special abili-ties you have which help you clarify where you can best invest your time and energy.God originally told us to subdue the earth (Gen. 1:28), and we all have different tal-ents for that. Here are a few of the key ones:Visioning: The ability to see the big picture in the future, and create it from nothing.Visionary leaders have the 50,000 foot view and see where the organization could betomorrow, no matter where it is today. Strategizing: Being able to think through the plan of what will get the organizationfrom beginning to goal. The strategist has a path in mind, and knows what the nec-essary resources and timelines are. Relating: Connecting with others, to create trust with them, direct them and developthem. Relating is that special ability to have people feel like they belong. Your directswill put up with a lot of struggle when they feel like you relate to them.Executing: The “ops” gift, which is the ability to simply make sure that what needs tobe done, really gets done. Executors don’t get a lot of glory, but they are the linemenwho know that systems and processes are vital. Technical: Often, a leader will also have some skill set that isn’t about leadership, butis important to an organization. For example, you may be an engineer, a scientist , ateacher or an artist. This gives you a “deep bucket” that can also be useful as you lead,and also lends credibility to your people as someone who “has been there.”

Character. Character is often seen as having integrity, being honest and being reli-able. It is all of those, but it is broader than that. I define character as that set ofcapacities the leader needs to meet the demands of reality. That is, leadership has itsdemands: running the organization, making sure people are in their proper places,connecting with them, dealing with finances, sales, marketing, administration, andso forth. You need strong fiber! A person of character is one who connects well; isclear in her responsibilities; can handle problems and negative realities; and under-stands her role and mission. The Bible teaches that perseverance produces character,and character produces hope (Rom. 5:4). Character is best developed over time, andit creates a leader who lives in hope.

Their connection. Finally, these two elements rest on each other. You must haveboth. A person who has character and the wrong competence will not be effective.And an individual who has competence and a character problem can ruin the cul-ture of an organization. However, always start with character. It is the core of yourbeing. And if your character is working, you will naturally be inclined to find thebest fit for your competencies. Character drives us to growth, and that growthincludes finding where your talents lie.

Every month, myself and my associate, Dallas-based executive coach Elaine Morris,will be providing business and leadership content for you. Let us know what is help-ful, and let us know what you want us to write on! God bless you.

— Dr. John TownsendBusiness consultant, leadership coach and psychologist. Author or

co-author of 27 books, selling 6 million copies, including the 2 mil-lion best-seller Boundaries; Leadership Beyond Reason; and

Handling Difficult People.

BUSINESS TODAY

Ways to Protect Your Family

Spend a few minutes discussing with your insur-ance agent these six basic and enhanced auto

insurance coverage options. It’s a simple way to showyour family you care.

1. Uninsured motorist coverage protects you whenanother driver at fault in an automobile collision has no

insurance at all. It covers lost wages, medical costs, and otherexpenses associated with serious injuries.

2. Underinsured motorist coverage safeguards you if you are injuredby a careless driver who has only minimal insurance. Since uninsuredmotorist coverage doesn’t apply, the other driver’s minimal liability policymay not cover injuries you suffer. Your own policy may not cover injuries,either.

3. Coverage “stacking” can help if your household insures more than onecar. Stacking increases uninsured/underinsured motorist limits based on thenumber of autos covered. You can stack insurance coverage up to three carsin Alabama.

4. Add a wage-loss benefit. If your insurance company doesn’t provide awage-loss benefit, request it. Although many carriers cap benefits at 80 per-cent, some insurance carriers offer additional wage-loss expense enhance-ments.

5. Increase medical expense to obtain additional coverage for larger med-ical bills in case of serious injury. Many policies place a limit of $10,000 formedical expenses, but that may not be adequate. Health-insurance coveragehas large deductibles for serious injury, and auto insurance medical cover-age may pay for chiropractic or other specialized medical treatment exclud-ed by health insurance.

6. Purchase more bodily injury insurance. The customary $25,000 mini-mum coverage may not protect you if you are sued for causing a collision inwhich someone else is seriously injured. Bodily injury coverage can protectyour home, cars, and other assets.

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MISSION MAKERS

Family Life MinistriesFamily Life Ministries of NW Florida has been in operation since 1986. It was origi-nally founded on a vision and desire to meet the needs of women and girls facingcrisis pregnancies and save the unborn. In 1987 the Ronda Coon Women’s Homewas completed and the first residents moved in. In 2005 the SOZO Life ConnectionResource Center was opened to provide counseling and be a resource center for sav-ing lives, preserving the family and promoting sexual integrity. In 2009 the focus wasexpanded to also support women in homeless situations.

The Ronda Coon Women’sHome is a 3,580 square foothome, which houses eight resi-dents. Under the direction of acompassionate staff, women arehelped through hard times andcounseled through difficult situ-ations to get back on their feet

and on with their lives. Amy Daopoulos, Executive Director of Family Life Ministriesfeels strongly about assisting these women and giving them the love, help and goodnews of Christ. The residential manager, Cyndie Brown oversees the home andassists these women with Jennifer Geno being a case manager and Elaine Manthey,the SOZO Manager and counselor. The organization is unique in that instead ofcounseling and parenting classes in groups, it is one on one counseling.

SOZO is a Greek word that means saved, pulled from danger, or lifted above trouble.This resource actively educates, teaches and counsels men and women of all ages onpreserving the family, sexual integrity, recovery programs, parenting skills, pregnancytesting, post abortion counseling, adoption support, mentoring and much more.

The programs offered are: Earn while you learn, Understanding your toddler,Homes of Honor, Labor 101, Portrait of Promise, Newborn Care 101, SingleParenting that Works, Love and Logic: Parenting classes, Budgeting Classes/FinancialLiteracy, Resume Building/Job placement assistance/ Interviewing skills and Dressfor success, Understanding our partner agencies in the community, Women’s men-toring program and Celebrate Recovery. These programs are offered weekly and arefacilitated by men and women with the expertise to successfully teach and make adifference in the lives of those involved in the programs.

For further information or to find ways to help Family Life Ministries of NWFlorida, call (850) 243-5800, email at admin@flm.gccoxmail.com or see their websiteat www.familylife-sozo.org

Ashley Mac’s SuperSummer Sandwich:Turkey Avocado withLemon Basil AioliHomemade Lemon Basil Aioli and freshavocado make a simple turkey sandwichinto something extra delicious and perfectfor spring and summer! You can also makethese in wraps and slice into pinwheels orcreate on small rolls and serve them as an appetizer.

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“Too blessed to be stressed ”. That’s what you’ll hear if

you ask Walter Richardson how he’s doing. This often-heardcomment rings true coming from him. Walt Richardson is 84years old, a Tuskegee airman, a retired Chief Master Sergeant,a business owner, a deacon in the Catholic Church, an author,a vocalist, a father and a husband. He says his whole life wasbuilt on three pillars: Faith, hope and love. He grew up inPensacola, Florida and was raised by a single mother. Hismother, along with his schoolteacher, Lillie James, taught him tolove God and love his country. Mrs. James later became themother of Chappie James, the first African American four-stargeneral and had a huge influence on Richardson. She advisedher students “to keep their bags backed because they neverknow when opportunity comes along for little colored boys andgirls.” She also gave them the eleventh commandment, “Thoushall not quit”. Those words of advice have stayed withRichardson throughout his life.

Integration of the MilitaryTuskegee Airmen were noted for escorting bombers but theywere also responsible for integration of the military. Beingassigned to Eglin Air Force base in 1951, Richardson was a bigpart of the integration. The base was full of white soldiers andJim Crowe laws were still enforced. Jim Crowe laws meantAfrican Americans couldn’t leave base but their assignment wasto integrate the military.

Walt Richardson reflects on where the United States stood onintegration and segregation in 1949 when he became aTuskegee airman and the changes that have occurred in the

over 60 years since. He said it was amazing to be at the inau-guration of President Obama. One of Richardson’s favorite say-ings, “Amazing and America both start with the same letter, firstand second letter. It’s all about what it is to be an American.” Hecontinues, “One thing about being an American, we do have aforgiving heart. We have citizens with such a wonderful spirit,resilience. This is also the spirit of being an American. There area lot of things, stumbling blocks. You’re black. You’re male. Theycannot erase my birth certificate that says I’m a United States citi-zen. And within these 50 states I can organize a business, I caneducate my children, my grandchild. I can even join the CatholicChurch and become a deacon, be able to baptize, witnessweddings and all that.” Richardson points out that we have asystem where we have a vote, a powerful instrument that a lotof people don’t exercise. He states, “They don’t have to like thepresident or the governor and they can say it vocally and sleeppeaceful. In some countries, you may disappear.”

Deacon RichardsonRichardson decided to study and become ordained as a dea-con in the Catholic Church in 1979. Even at that time AfricanAmericans were not allowed to study with the other deacons inNew York. The Bishop arranged for him to get private instructionso he could be ordained. After getting that instruction Richardsonwas ordained with his class and still serves as a deacon at St.Mary’s Catholic Church.

Family LifeDeacon Richardson and his lovely wife, Helen, have been mar-ried 60 years and have raised eight college-educated children.

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When asked what’s held them together for all those years, DeaconRichardson says, “It’s an American correlation. You are born inAmerica, you get a birth certificate and you commit to “in God we trust”and we commit to the pledge to the flag. When you say yes to a com-mitment, it’s an oath, the same oath I took when I obey the presidents ofthe United States. I was entered in the Air Force to serve our country nomatter who was the commander in chief.” He believes in marriage youspeak vows and make a similar commitment. Richardson says not onlyhas love kept them together but keeping spiritual values high, prayingtogether and having a sense of humor is essential. He believes teachingthese values to children is important, “what’s going on in the home isthe real foundation and strength of America.” As a father, he believesyou have an obligation to fulfill that responsibility.

Thou Shall Not QuitRemembering that eleventh commandment even in these late years,Deacon Richardson hasn’t quit. He has a vision for a new pro-gram and is in the midst of planning a preparatory school tohelp those who want to enter into the work force to have anopportunity to learn how they should do it and what they shoulddo. The preparatory school is going to instill values of being anAmerican and that we are “in God we trust”. The program wouldfocus on high school students or those who have not made uptheir minds whether they want to attend college, join the military orwhat they want to do and prepare them for those opportunities.Richardson’s passion for this new project is evident. “Young peopletoday are very well aware of the fact that it’s a world out therethat’s very difficult and they need some help. All of us have to helpone another. This preparatory school is going to tell them what theyneed to hear and haven’t heard.”

There is so much more to know about WalterRichardson, from his military career experiencesto his beautiful singing voice for which he wasactually offered a recording contract. Readabout him in his book, “How Great Thou Art: ABlack Boy’s Depression-era Success Story.”You can find it at amazon.com and Barnesand Noble.

—Joanna Amunds

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Shake the CityThe heart of Shake the City is for people to experience a life-changingencounter with the presence of God. A combination of Australians andAmericans uniting their gifts for the Glory of God include worship leaders,youth pastors, song writers and musicians. Shake the City seeks to assistthe local churches by forming a unity that will reap a great harvest. RoyMills, leader of Shake the City, wants people to open their minds to what’sinside of them -- their spirit, soul and body. This is an experience for allages. Roy reiterates that “God’s word is a mirror to show us who we areand that we are a brand new creation.”The website for Shake the City hasvideos of their events to check out andeven has a store where music and t-shirts can be purchased.

Shake the City is an event held every 1stTuesday of each month at 7:00 – 8:30p.m. at 1023 Partin Drive, at the LivingFaith Church building in Niceville,Florida. For more information contactRoy Mills at (850) 259-8944 or go theirwebsite, www.shakethecity.com

Annie Moses BandThe Annie Moses Band is a family bandthat are in their fourth year as a musicgroup ministering to families. They areuniversally acclaimed by critics and audi-ences alike for their electrifying instru-mental virtuosity and shimmering lay-ered vocals, the Annie Moses Band pres-ents a sophisticated, complex blending ofclassical, jazz, folk and even a frisson ofCeltic. The group is dedicated to thevision of Psalm150.

They chose the name of their band tohonor their great grandmother, AnnieMoses. According to Annie, “Her life wasone of daily toil and hardship but Godblessed her because of her faithfulness”.

You can see the Annie Moses Band at Village Baptist Church in Destin,Florida May 19th at 6 p.m.

Tickets are available at www.itickets.com; Lifeway in Destin or you can con-tact the church office at (850) 837-8107.

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HEALTHY LIVING

Just Say No to Norovirus:3 Ways to Protect Your Family & Stay HealthyHave you ever heard anyone say they have the “stomach bug” or “foodpoisoning”? It’s possible that is not what is making them sick at all. Theymay actually be suffering from Norovirus, a highly contagious virus thatcauses the stomach and/or intestines to become inflamed (acute gastroen-teritis). Symptoms include stomach pain, nausea, diarrhea, vomiting,fever headaches and body aches. There is no spe-cific medicine to treat it but it is critical todrink plenty of liquids to ward off dehydra-tion. The virus can be especially seriousfor young children and the elderly.

A person can become infected withNorovirus by accidentally eating con-taminated food or drinking liquids,touching contaminated surfaces andthen putting fingers in mouth or touchingyour face and being in proximity to some-one who is infected with Norovirus.

So what’s a parent to do? BeProactive. There are three critical ways to defend againstthis virus.1.Wash Hands often and carefully with soapand water. This is especially important afterusing the toilet and changing diapers or before eating, preparing, or han-dling food. Twenty seconds is a must! If it helps, sing “Happy Birthday”from beginning to end twice and teach everyone in your household to dothe same.

2.Clean, rinse, dry and disinfect all surfaces, and focus especially onthose that you think may have come into contact with the virus. Start bycleaning any surfaces that are touched frequently with soapy water. Then,rinse thoroughly with plain water. Wipe dry with paper towels and dispose

of them in the trash receptacle. Last, disinfect. Since germs can remain onsurfaces even after cleaning, disinfecting is important. For hard surfaces,the CDC recommends a mix 1/3 cup of bleach + 1 gallon water and wipedown the surface. For a non-porous surface mix 1 2/3 cup of bleach + 1gallon of water and clean the surface. Make sure to wash your hands thor-oughly after you have disinfected all surfaces, and remember that this con-centration is toxic to pets and people and should be rinsed from toys orsurfaces that children come into contact with before using. Alternatively,consider a disinfecting solution that has a residual effect and is completelysafe for children. Our choice for our schools is PureGreen24 (www.pure-green24.com), an EPA registered, broad spectrum antimicrobial disinfec-tant with unique 24 hour residual effectiveness. It’s non-flammable, non-corrosive, and odorless, without the harsh fumes or skin irritation associ-ated with traditional disinfectants. PureGreen24 is strong enough to killthe most dangerous bacteria (MRSA) and viruses (Influenza A) in a hospi-tal environment, yet EPA registered for use on children’s toys at home.

3.Stay home! Isolate children and adults who are ill. Symptoms ofnorovirus infection normally last from between one to three days in mostpeople. The most recent strain has been harder hitting, lasting a week orlonger in some. People infected with norovirus begin being contagiouswhen they develop symptoms. They continue to be contagious for at leastthree days after all their symptoms disappear. This can cause problems forparents who are typically allowed to return children to school or daycarewhen they have been “symptom free” for twenty four hours. WithNorovirus, they are typically contagious for at least two more days andperhaps as long as two weeks. If children return to school or daycare oryou return to work as soon as they are “symptom free” and “feel” well, thepossibility of making someone else sick is significant.

Learn more about protecting against norovirus and other family relevantnews you can use at www.dayspringkids.us.

— Tina LoganDirector, Dayspring Child Care

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It Happened AgainI had just finished some things in the office yesterday and walked into the kitchen tosee my family. They were coming in the door from a day of birthday shopping andMorgan was anxious to show off the things she had purchased with her birthdaymoney. About half way through her "show", my phone rang. I recognized immedi-ately that it was one of my dearest friends, a true brother that means the world tome. Since I had not talked to him in a while, I excused myself to take the call.

My exuberant "What's going on brother?" was met by a silence. It was brief, verybrief, but long enough to let me know that this was no call just to catch up with oneanother. After the silence, he started slowly. "I've been better. I'm about 200 yardsfrom the hospital. My daughter's been in a wreck."

I won't go into the rest of the conversation. Some moments are only meant to beheld between the two who shared that conversation. As my friend shared what hap-pened, I couldn't stop the tears. The things he was saying were all too familiar. Thecrack in his voice revealed the hurt going on in his heart. He simply wanted prayer. Iwas more than happy to give that and more...anything for this guy and his family. Ididn't keep him long. I could sense he had a 100 phone calls to make and notenough time to answer all my questions. I simply assured him of my love andprayers and let him get to his daughter.

I'm very thrilled (I truly mean I am very thrilled) to report that she went home lastnight. Tests revealed she was okay despite the fact that she had totaled her car. Shewas resting well when I checked on her this morning. Then, my friend sent this mes-sage to Lisa: "The officer at the scene told me that my daughter was one luckygirl. 1/2 second sooner or later to this intersection and she probably wouldn't be

alive." She had t-boned a truck pulling apiece of equipment. 1/2 second sooner orlater to the intersection and either the truckwould have crushed her...or the equipmentwould have.

1/2 second! My heart stopped as Lisa readthat message. My mind raced back to 9years ago when my friend stood in my office just days after our accident and saidsomething very similar, "1/2 second sooner or later to this intersection and thiswreck would have never happened. Your family would be here and everyonewould be okay."

1/2 second.

Our lives are filled with those half-seconds. Moments that can change our lives orrearrange our futures. The problem is that we race so quickly through those 1/2 sec-onds we forget that the next one could be the most important. It could be the onethat allows you to dream the biggest dream or it could turn your world into a night-mare. Don't take 1/2 seconds for granted. Should God choose to give them to you,you'll have 172,800 of them in the next 24 hours. Spend them wisely and with care.You'll not be allowed to relive any of them. Once they are gone, they become a partof history. With their passing comes no way that you will have no regrets on howeach moment has passed.

— Ridley BarronRidley Barron Ministries

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As Americans, we like to think BIG. BIG ideas, BIG visions, BIG dreams, make for aBIG splash. As I consider this thought, let me state clearly, I do not believe that any ofthese are wrong; however, BIG in itself has become another religion in our westernworld. The BIG play, the BIG hit song, or the next BIG thing, BIG is in.

Even in church we celebrate BIG!! More often than not the general population likesto hear from teachers and communicators who lead the largest groups of people.

I would, however, like to throw some caution up in the air and see where it lands.Reality is most of the overnight BIG splashes that I know of do not last verylong. One hit wonders, 15 minutes of fame, and other cliché sayings come to mind.So what does the Kingdom say about BIG?

In the Kingdom, the least are the greatest, the first is the last (Mark 10:44). In manyof Jesus’ teachings; the general sentiment is the Kingdom is at hand now. Then, fol-lowed in the same breath, blessed is the outcast, the last, the least of these. The little,or seemingly insignificant seen to be most important.

If all that is true, then why do some many of us "Christians" celebrate BIG? Or betteryet, does celebrating BIG fall in line with our true discipleship in Jesus?

Jesus fed 5000 men one day, probably 13,000 or so people including women andchildren. With what? A little boy's lunch of 5 loaves and 2 fish. This story has been

celebrated thousands upon thousands of times around the BIG things Jesus can,does and will do. Considering what we know about this boy, think about all the littlethings that had to happen in his life that day. The Mom had to give permission forhim to go. She had to make a decision to not let him run to this gathering withoutfood. She had to know something about Jesus or the little boy wouldn’t havebeen allowed to leave. Without the little, this BIG may not have been recorded.

As Christ followers, I believe we are called to focus on the little things. In fact, Iwould suggest we are called far more to the little things then the BIG. I can believeBIG, and dream BIG (ask my family, I do). When it comes to how our family choos-es to live in our home, it’s the little things that matter most. For in our faithfulnessto the little things, starting with focusing on Jesus first each day, BIG, long-lasting,enduring things are built.

Our faith is built on a daily desire to seek Jesus in spirit and truth. Our children arediscipled based on daily worship, family scripture-reading, and Sunday churchattendance. None of which will probably ever make the news as BIG, but be assured,our family's faith in the living God is huge.

For with God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19). So as you move into this nextseason of life, what little things need to be aligned or re-aligned in your world? For Iam convinced, stay focused on the little things, and the truly BIG things will takecare of themselves.

— Steve and Jessi CherricoSteve@fpoa.org

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How to Be RichThink of the last time you gave someone a big tip. I’m not talking about an extra $5or $10. I’m talking about the kind of tip where the waiter or waitress stops in theirtracks and begins to cry because they have a sudden realization of how that moneywill change their current situation.

Last Christmas, I had the opportunity to give a struggling waitress a $40 tip on a $35ticket. As my 8 year old was watching, we saw her tear up because she suddenly hadhope in a tangible form. She was overwhelmed with joy. She saw the love of Jesus inthe form of two $20 bills. People know that money is valuable. So, when others seeyou give up that which you value for their sake, they tend to be more receptive towhat you have to offer.

Have you ever wanted more money? Think of all of the things more money wouldenable you to do, have and be. So, it would make sense to pursue more money withgreat effort and passion, not for the sake of money itself, but for the sake of what itaffords. Not merely for possessions, but for the way it allows you to be a blessing toothers. Isn’t that what we all want? To be a blessing to others?

After reading Proverbs 11 the other day, I was reminded again of God’s economy.On paper, it doesn’t make sense, yet it works. It reminds me of my faith. Whendescribing faith and the role it has in my life, I can’t write it out on paper, but I knowit’s real. This is the exact same when it comes to the blessings of God and prosperity.God’s economy in not man’s economy. Society says to hold on to what you have.God’s economy says to give it away.

Have you ever been around someone who exuded generosity? How aboutyou? When others think of you, do they think of a giver? I’ve had to playcleanup for years of past mistakes. Holding on to what I am given is a con-

stant struggle. Realizing that whatI have is only passing through mypossession is a lifelong journey.

How does being a giver make you rich? Idon’t pretend to have all of the answers in thisarea but I know one thing for sure. I’ve been insituations where I had to choose between paying mytithe and buying groceries. Thankfully I choose the tithe.What happened next was a sign to me that confirmed you can’t out-give God. After giving it on a Sunday night, the next day I got a check in themail for the same amount from a drumming gig I had forgotten I played over threemonths prior.

THAT is how God provided. Take a step of faith and trust Him to provide for you.He will open the floodgates of heaven and pour out blessing you cannot contain.So whether you are giving a tithe or giving to someone in need, don’t hesitate. Be agiver. Let others find you being generous. That is the key to being truly rich.

Remember this in all you do in regard to money-“If you are not a giver with only$20 in your pocket, you won’t be when you have $100 in your pocket”. Begin givingnow with whatever you may have. Be faithful in the little things and God will blessyou in much.

—Jeff Jones Jeff is a speaker, author, and host of The WISE™ Life podcast. Having played drums for

Dove Award winning band Big Daddy Weave for over 13 years, Jeff recently left theroad to be home with his family and share with others insights on living life with pas-

sion, making marriage matter, raising kids with character and fulfilling your dreams atJeffDrummer.com.

3 STEPS TO MORE FAMILY TIME!Being a mom can be very rewarding, but also busy and challenging. As a working mother of three daughters,

here are a few tips I have discovered that help me make the most of my time as mom!

Away with the guilt trip! I can’t count how many times my mom has helped my threedaughters with their homework instead of me. But Instead of feeling guilty in these situa-

tions, I have learned to have gratitude. I’m happy there is someone who cares enough to help my chil-dren with their homework. It doesn’t matter if it’s a grandparent, a teacher or an older sibling, as long as it is someonetrustworthy. I also keep in mind that my personal level of peace has a huge effect on the family just as a healthy mealdoes. I choose not to feel guilty for sometimes eating out 3 times in one week at a fast food restaurant.

Create a calendar system. I find using and reviewing a calendar that has school events, project due dates, birth-days and extracurricular activities to be a lifesaver. It’s saved me from forgetting my daughters’ school pictures, lunch

money, appointments and special events. It reduces stress because I know what to expect next. If I know my child has anupcoming event, I will have time to communicate with my employer about requesting a day off or coming in a bit late or leavinga little early. If something does come up unexpectedly I can check the calendar to see what I have to work around.

Enjoy Family Time! Spending time with your family doesn’t have to mean going out or spending money. Family time is as simple as sitting and talking during din-ner. After I stopped feeling guilty about not spending enough time with my family, I sat down and came up with ways to do it. My schedule rotates at work so on the

days I go into work late I wake my daughters up in time to fix them breakfast before school. This gives us time to get ready for our day ahead, talk about what we’re lookingforward to or what we may be anxious about, and confront the day ahead as a tight family unit. With no television or radio blaring, I have 15 to 20 minutes extra each dayto talk with them. You may not have a rotating schedule, but what about waking up 15 minutes earlier to gain a few extra minutes to spend with your family?Just a few extra special minutes each morning can makes a huge difference. Way to go Super Mom!

— Tami Reed

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C. S. LEWIS:The Man Behind the ArtLet me share with you something I love. Themost influential person for the Christianfaith during the last century never wore aminister’s robe, never preached a sermon,never held a revival and never went on amissionary trip. No, the one towering figurewho stands above all others was a professorof English literature. Love him or loathehim, C.S. Lewis was the de facto theolo-gian of the twentieth century. No otherman of his era has had more of a directimpact on the spiritual life of so manypeople. As we mark the fiftieth anniver-sary of his death, it is telling that morepeople will read his books this year thanthe year in which he died. God is stillworking in the hearts and minds ofpeople through the writing of thisremarkable lover of words.

In his new book, C. S. Lewis: Eccentric Genius. ReluctantProphet(Tyndale, $24.99), author Alister McGrath covers the life and work of thisextraordinary man. Well researched, this biography covers Lewis’ childhood years,his experience in the Great War and his rise within the academic halls of Oxford.Later, as Lewis slowly emerged from atheism to faith in the message of Jesus, his

writing began to reflect his newfoundChristian life. In works such as MereChristianity or The Screwtape Letters,we find masterful presentations whichare explicitly Christian in nature andstill resonant with readers long aftertheir initial publication. In TheChronicles of Narnia, the Christiantheme is everywhere implied for thediscernable reader. In fact, Lewis’ long-time friend J.R.R. Tolkien believed theNarnian books were too obvious intheir Christian orientation and shouldbe toned downed for artistic reasons.

For the multitudes who have been awed by Lewis’ work, whether in prose or fic-tion, C. S. Lewis by McGrath is a worthy investment of time. It allows us to see theman behind the art, thereby appreciating even more the gift that he left behind forus within the pages of his books.

—Darrel Holcombe

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1. Am I marriage material? Am I ready to do what ittakes to put this relationship first in my life and priori-ties? The definition of commitment, according to Dr. DonaldHarvey's book, LoveDecisions, is "your ability to do what's in the best interest of therelationship, even if it makes you uncomfortable." Perhaps you don't share a lot ofyour inner thoughts, and your partner needs you to do so. You make the choice tostep out of your comfort zone and open up to him/her and begin the paradigmswitch of being more open. That change may not be comfortable for you to make,but it is what the relationship needs. A good marriage will cost you something. Areyou ready?

2. Do I feel first in my partner's life? Everybody deserves to be first in someone'slife. That kind of exclusivity is what marriage is all about—being first to one otherperson. Do you feel first? If not, what prevents you from being first—his or herother interests, work, love of self? "Am I first?" is the silent question in everyspouse's heart. If “yes” is your answer to that question, many of life's argumentsmay never happen. Behaviors speak louder than words, and the old adage "Whatyou do speaks so loudly, I can't hear what you say" is usually the truth in this case.

3. What's our pattern in dealing with conflict? No matter how compatible youand your mate are, the two of you will have conflict. Most of us didn't see goodmodels of assertiveness and respect in our families when it came to differences ofopinion. We often saw arguments, but we rarely saw them resolved in a healthyway. Consequently we tend to avoid conflict in different ways: silence, leaving,changing the subject, humor, anger (Yes, anger is a sophisticated way to avoid deal-ing with an issue.), or intellectualizing. Learning how to resolve conflict healthily isone of the most rewarding skills you'll ever learn.

4. Are our values compatible? What you believe about life is vital to sharing yourdreams for the future. Don't marry a person based on your hormones or attrac-tions. They will change. Couples who share values can have an exciting life together.The more those values differ the more work will be required to keep the marriageafloat. Our core values are our identity. Look truthfully at how close your values areto your fiancé's. Your future admiration for your partner rests on the similar valuesthat you two share.

5. Have I truly left home? This question isn't about geography. It's about whetheror not your decisions are based on your own opinions or on your parents’ wishes.Healthy marriages begin with two autonomous adult individuals who make choic-es based on their mutual needs. You can't fully attach with intimacy to another per-son without first detaching from your family. That requirement does not mean youdo not love and listen to your family. It does mean that—after considering all thewisdom they offer—you choose to put your spouse first and make your own deci-sions. The task of the newlywed couple is to establish boundaries around them-selves for the first year or two. That task requires that you make your spouse a pri-ority, and all others(BOLD) come second. Once that hierarchy is established, yourmarriage is off to a great start.

— Jan Harvey, LMFT.

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Holy StrengthThrough God all things are possible!

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYSMatthew 19:26“Jesus looked at them and said, “Withman this is impossible, but with Godall things are possible”. (NIV)

HANDS-ON EXPERIMENTDiaper Genie Wind BagYou will need:Diaper Genie Refill

Instructions:STEP 1: Remove about 6 feet of Diaper Genie refill, cut, and then tie a knot inthe end of the Diaper Genie refill.STEP 2: Using two fingers and two thumbs, hold open the end of the bag that isnot tied.STEP 3: Hold the bag 6 to 12 inches from your mouth, blow a stream of air intothe bag, and observe.

EXPLANATIONAs the stream of air from your mouth blows intothe bag, it pulls more air into the Diaper Geniebag, creating a super breath. This method allowsyou to fill the bag with one breath.

BIBLE CONNECTIONWhen you put a space between your mouth andthe bag, you were able to create a super breaththat allowed you to blow up the bag with onebreath of air. God is your super breath andthrough Him all things are possible.

— Jason LindseyGo to www.hookedonscience.org for

Beyond the Science Lab videosegments and more hands-on experiments.

At Back to Africa every purchase changes lives. The Back to African Projectis focused on providing a fair wage to vulnerable widows, orphans, andrefugees in communities throughout Africa. Proceeds from the jewelry salesare sent directly to Africa and are used to support our artisans and orphanministries through Heart of the Bride. Hand-made jewelry is purchased

from Africa andshipped back to theUnited States to sell.Today, thanks to thepurchases of theseproducts, these samepeople are now ableto consistently feedand clothe their chil-dren, send them toschool, purchaseother resources likefarm animals andhelp their family andneighbors who arenot as fortunate.

The hand-made jewelry includes necklaces, bracelets and earrings. Theunique jewelry makes great gifts and can be ordered on-line through back-toafricastore.com and there is a store located at 113 Bailey Drive, Suite 1 inNiceville, Florida. They can be reached at (850) 678-9008.

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If you have an event you would like listed in the Coastal

Christian Family Community Calendar e-mail us the information. Email to: CoastalChristian@cox.net Subject line- Calendar

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May 570th Homecoming Celebration- SpringfieldBaptist Church 3615 East 3rd StreetPanama City, Florida. Music and RemembranceService @ 9:45 Worship Service @ 10:45 withlunch to follow you plan to stay for lunch, pleasecall church office: (850)785-6591 or E-mail:springfield785@bellsouth.net

May 7 – 11Blessing Week- Destin, FL, Pastor Ministry Day,Blessing of the Marketplace, Blessing of theFleet, Youth Day, Celebration on the DestinHarbor. See schedule of events at www.thechur-chofdestin.com

May 10, 1111th Annual Art in the Park- Seville Square,Downtown Pensacola, FL, juried arts show withover 100 national and regional artists. For moreinformation (850) 432-6247.

May 17, 18, 19Fort Walton Beach Community Chorus-“This is My Country” Tickets $12 for adults, $10for seniors (over 60) and $8 for children under12. Tickets available at P.S. Gifts, Connect withFlowers, Alphy’s Catfish House, Eglin andHurlburt ITT offices, FNBT in Destin or FortWalton Beach. For more information call LisaStanhope (850) 545-5298

May 17Fort Walton Family YMCA Charity GolfTournament- Fort Walton Beach Pines

Municipal Gulf Course, 11 a.m. All proceedsbenefit the YMCA.

May 182013 Emerald Coast Mudrun for Orphans-Benefits orphans in the care of Heart of theBride in Africa, Haiti and Ukraine. For moreinformation www.emeraldcoastmudrun.com

May 184th Annual Little Black Dress Party- EmeraldCoast Convention Center, 6 to 11 p.m.The "Roaring 20’s" is the theme of the 4thAnnual Little Black Dress Party hosted by thenewly formed White-Wilson CommunityFoundation. This annual fundraiser providesfunds for organizations promoting women’shealth, early detection and preventive care. Thenight of entertainment includes a fashion show,casino games, and live and silent auctions.General tickets $65, premier seating $75, corpo-rate tables $650. For more information and tick-et sales visit www.fwblittleblackdressparty.com.

May 18 – 196th Annual Okaloosa Arts Alliance Family FunFest- Harbor Walk Village, Destin, FL Enjoy liveentertainment, arts and crafts booths, food andbeverages, and free kids activities. Fireworks dis-play Saturday evening over the Destin Harbor incelebration of Armed Forces Day.

May 232013 World’s Greatest Baby Shower- EmeraldCoast Convention Center, Fort Walton Beach,starting at 5:30 p.m. The shower is hosted by theHealthy Start Coalition of Okaloosa and WaltonCounties. All pregnant women and new parentswho have had a baby in the last three monthsare invited for fun, information, light snacks,and prizes. Admission is free. For more informa-tion contact Healthy Start (850) 833-9284.

May 25Golf Tournament- Crestview Chamber,Blackstone Golf Course, 8:00 a.m. For moreinformation and registration www.crestview-chamber.com

May 27Annual Gate-to-Gate Run/Walk- Eglin AirForce Base, 7:30 a.m. For more information(850) 882-6801 or www.active.com

May 30, 31Garage Sale-Okaloosa Walton Mental HealthAssociation, 9 – 4 at 571 Mooney Road, FortWalton Beach, FL. For more information (850)244-1040

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Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous-(FA) is a fellowship available to anyone in the community who may be suffering fromovereating, food obsession, under-eating, or bulimia. Everyone is welcome, includingthose who are concerned about someone who may be suffering. FA is a non-profitTwelve Step fellowship based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). Thereare no dues or fees for members. Meetings on Tuesdays at 7 p.m. at St. Simon’sEpiscopal Church, 28 Miracle Strip Parkway, Fort Walton Beach, FL. For more informa-tion call 850-259-0980 or visit foodaddicts.org.

Bi-Polar, Depression Support Group-Tuesdays 7:00 p.m., St. Simon’s Church, Fort Walton Beach, FL

Peer to Peer Support Group-Wednesday 3:00 p.m. once a month. Call (850) 244-1040 for actual dates. Location:Mental Health Association Building, 571 Mooney Road, Fort Walton Beach, FL 32547

Community Action Counsel-Wednesday 1:00 p.m. once a month. Call (850) 244-1040 for actual dates. Location: JobsPlus Conference Room, Fort Walton Beach, FL

Brain Injury-Wednesdays 9:30 a.m. Trinity United Methodist Church, 403 Racetrack Road, FortWalton Beach, FL (850) 862-4169

MOPS Groups-

Mary Esther MOPS-Mary Esther United Methodist Church, 703 Miracle Strip Parkway, Mary Esther, FL

2nd and 4th Tuesday 9:30 to 11:30 a.m., (850) 243-7595

Cinco Baptist MOPS-1st Wednesday, 9:30 to 11:45 a.m., Cinco Baptist Church, 26 Yacht Club Drive, NE, FortWalton Beach, FL (850) 243-7656

Shalimar MOPS-2nd and 4th Thursday at 9:30 to 11:45 a.m., Shalimar United Methodist Church, 1 OldFerry Road, Shalimar, FL (850) 651-0721

First Baptist Navarre MOPS-2nd and 4th Thursday, 9:30 to 11:30 a.m., 9302 Navarre Parkway, Navarre, FL (850) 939-5424

Destiny Worship Center MOPS-1st Saturdays, 6:30 p.m., 122 Poinciana Blvd., Miramar Beach, FL (850) 650-6800

GBUMC MOPS-1st and 3rd Thursdays, 9:30 to 11:30 a.m., Gulf Breeze United Methodist Church, 4115Soundside Drive, Gulf Breeze, FL (850) 916-1660

First Baptist Church MOPS,2nd and 4th Fridays, 9:30 a.m. to 12:00 p.m. 622 Bayshore Drive, Niceville, FL (850)729-6913.

Celebrate Recovery- Fridays Niceville United Methodist Church, Niceville, Florida,Dinner 5:45 pm. Program 6:30 p.m. For information call (850) 678-4411, ext. 146

Celebrate Recovery- Tuesdays, Mary Esther United Methodist Church, Mary Esther, FL,5:45 Dinner, Program 6:30 p.m. For information call (850) 243-7595Divorce Care-Village Baptist Church, Destin, Florida, Wednesdays 6:00 p.m., Room 2209. Call (850) 837-8107

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May 19The Annie Moses Band on Sun- May19 at 6:00 p.m. at Village BaptistChurch, Destin, FL. Universallyacclaimed by critics and audiencesalike for their electrifying instrumen-tal virtuosity and beautifully harmo-nized vocals, the Annie Moses Bandsoars to unprecedented heights ontheir new album and Concert Tour,“Pilgrims & Prodigals.” Tickets are$10 in advance (some vendors maycharge a handling fee) or $12 at thedoor and are available at the churchoffice (850-837-8107), LifeWayChristian Store in Destin, or atwww.itickets.com. For more detailedinfo about the band or their recentsuccess on national PBS stations goto www.villagebaptist.org orwww.AnnieMosesBand.com.

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June 7 – 9, 14 – 16thSkyscraper- A production performedby Stage Crafters. This is a story of life,love, friendship and chance encounters.Fort Walton Beach Civic Auditorium.Tickets are $15 and available at P.S.Gifts in Fort Walton Beach or BayouBooks in Niceville or by visitingwww.stagecrafters.com. Discountedstudent tickets are available at the door.

June 82013 Family Life Ministries Tee up“Fore” Life Golf Tournament- FortWalton Beach Golf Course. For infor-mation call (850) 243-5800 or go to thewebsite www.familylifesozo.org.

May 30 – June 158th Annual Billy Bowlegs PirateFestival-Torchlight Parade, Entertainment atthe Landing, The Pirate Skirmish,contests, fireworks and more. Seewww.billybowlegsfestival.com formore information and schedules.

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Good Shepherd Lutheran Church

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Ray Angerman - PastorCurtis Wiese - Family Life Minister

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Lord & Son Construction- We treat every one as we wouldwant to be treated, Steve Christopher, www.lordandson.comcell (850) 259-0334 or office (850) 863-5158

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Run the RaceWellness Coaching- Marilyn Smith (961) 271-0621

Wild Willy’s Adventure Zone – Coming Soon to OkaloosaIsland, Fort Walton Beach

WPSM, 91.1- The Positive Choice, 244 N. Hill Avenue, FortWalton Beach, FL 32548 (850) 244-7667. Contact Whitneyfor sponsor information. www.wpsm.com

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