child discipline. 10-1 god.in.simplicity -- jeff.in -- 63-0317.1m remember: love is corrective,...
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10-1 GOD.IN.SIMPLICITY -- JEFF.IN -- 63-0317.1M10-1 GOD.IN.SIMPLICITY -- JEFF.IN -- 63-0317.1MRemember: Love is corrective, see--always. Remember: Love is corrective, see--always. Genuine love is corrective. So, you must be able Genuine love is corrective. So, you must be able to stand the correction. And mothers know now to stand the correction. And mothers know now that there's a place there for your baby. You that there's a place there for your baby. You young kids know different than to run around young kids know different than to run around over the building, see. And you adults know over the building, see. And you adults know different than to talk and carry on your different than to talk and carry on your conversations in the auditorium, see. Don't do conversations in the auditorium, see. Don't do that; it's wrong. It isn't pleasing to God.that; it's wrong. It isn't pleasing to God.
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Correction should not just mean a Correction should not just mean a spanking but instruction to teach the childspanking but instruction to teach the child
The objective is to get to the Heart or The objective is to get to the Heart or Soul of the Child so that they respond out Soul of the Child so that they respond out
of the love to do right.of the love to do right.
SoulSoul
We Are A Triune BeingWe Are A Triune BeingBodyBody
SpiritSpirit
ImaginationImagination
ConscienceConscience
ReasoningReasoning
SeeSee
SmellSmell HearHear TasteTaste
FeelFeel
MemoryMemory
AffectionAffectionHeb 4:12Heb 4:12
FaithFaith DoubDoubtt
Child DisciplineChild Discipline1) Discipline means Instruction and begins 1) Discipline means Instruction and begins
before birthbefore birth"By the sixth month, the unborn child can see, "By the sixth month, the unborn child can see, hear, experience, taste and even learns while hear, experience, taste and even learns while
in the womb." in the womb." Communication in the womb can increase the Communication in the womb can increase the capacity for learning outside the womb.capacity for learning outside the womb.
Research shows that a the unborn child has a Research shows that a the unborn child has a greater capacity to respond to whatever greater capacity to respond to whatever
material was spoken to him in the womb. material was spoken to him in the womb.
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2) Discipline can begin the day a child is 2) Discipline can begin the day a child is born.born.
a) Routine also establishes contentment as it a) Routine also establishes contentment as it gives them limits on their freedom.gives them limits on their freedom.
b) This will produce a baby that will not demand b) This will produce a baby that will not demand feeding.feeding.
If you allow demanding feeding this creates If you allow demanding feeding this creates a child which nobody likes! a child which nobody likes!
Funnel Effect Of DisciplineFunnel Effect Of Discipline
Child Becomes Child Becomes Adult Adult
Free To Make HisFree To Make HisOwn ChoiceOwn Choice
TrainingTrainingYearsYears
Giving Them More Giving Them More Rights & Rights &
ResponsibilitiesResponsibilities Discipline Begins AtDiscipline Begins AtThe Birth Of The The Birth Of The
ChildChild
Child DisciplineChild Discipline3) How do you strengthen communication with the 3) How do you strengthen communication with the
Soul of your children?Soul of your children?
a) The key to a deepening relationship between a child & a) The key to a deepening relationship between a child & his parents depends upon the depth of the his parents depends upon the depth of the communication that the parents develop between their communication that the parents develop between their heart & the child's heart. heart & the child's heart.
It should be accompanied by a serious facial It should be accompanied by a serious facial expression. expression.
It all begins with the word It all begins with the word "NO""NO"!!
The opposite is true with the word The opposite is true with the word "YES""YES", the facial , the facial expressions of delight and approval should accompany expressions of delight and approval should accompany it. it.
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3) How do you strengthen communication with the 3) How do you strengthen communication with the Soul of your children?Soul of your children?
b) Parents must make sure what they are b) Parents must make sure what they are communicating from their Heart. communicating from their Heart.
You need to make sure your actions are consistent You need to make sure your actions are consistent with your words. with your words.
Eye to eye contact is needed. Eye to eye contact is needed. Followed by "Yes Mum or Yes Dad"Followed by "Yes Mum or Yes Dad"
Child DisciplineChild Discipline3) How do you strengthen communication with the 3) How do you strengthen communication with the
Soul of your children?Soul of your children?
c) This heart felt experience is the only lasting basis of c) This heart felt experience is the only lasting basis of communication. communication.
Given a pen to write upon their Soul.Given a pen to write upon their Soul.
Window to the Soul is sometimes opened. Window to the Soul is sometimes opened. Don't rearrange the furniture!Don't rearrange the furniture!
Primary ConsciencePrimary ConscienceSupplies the sense of right & wrongSupplies the sense of right & wrong
MindMind SpiriSpiritt
1) God given sense of right & 1) God given sense of right & wrongwrong2) Fear of rejection & 2) Fear of rejection & accountabilityaccountability3) Man's primary sense of 3) Man's primary sense of shameshame
Moral Moral ConscienceConscienceSupplies the standards of right & Supplies the standards of right &
wrongwrong1) Warns when about1) Warns when about
to do wrongto do wrong
2) Accuses when 2) Accuses when wrongwrongis done ~ Guiltis done ~ Guilt
5) 5) TrainableTrainable
PartPart
3) Prompts to do right3) Prompts to do right
4) Confirms when right4) Confirms when rightis done ~ Approvalis done ~ Approval
HearHeartt
SouSoull
Child DisciplineChild Disciplinec) This heart felt experience is the only lasting basis c) This heart felt experience is the only lasting basis
of communication.of communication.
After the child is three years old they are ready to know After the child is three years old they are ready to know the moral reason the moral reason "WHY""WHY" you are giving them you are giving them instructionsinstructions
If this spiritual line of communication is not developed, If this spiritual line of communication is not developed, there is often little reason in the child's mind to there is often little reason in the child's mind to
continue communicating with his parents after he continue communicating with his parents after he grows up. grows up.
Child DisciplineChild Discipline3) How do you strengthen communication with the 3) How do you strengthen communication with the
Soul of your children?Soul of your children?
d) The three things that destroys the communication d) The three things that destroys the communication are, when you wound the soul of the child by;are, when you wound the soul of the child by;
i) Angeri) Anger
ii) Name callingii) Name calling
iii) Saying you cannot please me.iii) Saying you cannot please me.
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4) There is a need to define responsibilities in 4) There is a need to define responsibilities in discipline.discipline.
a) Inconsistency in instruction and a) Inconsistency in instruction and "rule setting""rule setting" will will result when parents have not worked out their individual result when parents have not worked out their individual
responsibilities for training the child.responsibilities for training the child.
Father gives the commandsFather gives the commands
Mother administers the law (or how to's)Mother administers the law (or how to's)
E-29 INFLUENCE -- PHOENIX.AZ -- 1963 E-29 INFLUENCE -- PHOENIX.AZ -- 1963 I had my little son Joseph on my lap the I had my little son Joseph on my lap the other day, He's eight years old, and some other day, He's eight years old, and some little boy stepped on his toes. And he and little boy stepped on his toes. And he and the little boy had a fight. So I said, "Joseph, the little boy had a fight. So I said, "Joseph, don't do that." He said, "But Daddy, he did don't do that." He said, "But Daddy, he did such-and-such." I said, "But that doesn't such-and-such." I said, "But that doesn't matter, see, what he did. Just remember, matter, see, what he did. Just remember, Joseph, that you love your father." He said, Joseph, that you love your father." He said, "Yes, Daddy." I said, "Then remember, that "Yes, Daddy." I said, "Then remember, that people are going to look at your life as a people are going to look at your life as a minister's son. And then if you do anything minister's son. And then if you do anything wrong, then they're going to say, `Does this wrong, then they're going to say, `Does this minister permit his child to do such?'" minister permit his child to do such?'"
Now we know they do it anyhow. But we Now we know they do it anyhow. But we know as Christians, we know that we try to know as Christians, we know that we try to bring up our children right. But it's a good bring up our children right. But it's a good thing to keep that before them all the thing to keep that before them all the time--to do what's right. Don't never take time--to do what's right. Don't never take that other side. So I said, "Because you that other side. So I said, "Because you see, that doesn't only reflect on you, see, that doesn't only reflect on you, Joseph, but it reflects on your mother, Joseph, but it reflects on your mother, reflects on your sisters, it reflects on your reflects on your sisters, it reflects on your father, and the very cause of the family--father, and the very cause of the family--what we're standing for.what we're standing for. And then what we And then what we stand for, it reflects on that, on Jesus stand for, it reflects on that, on Jesus Christ.Christ.
You don't want to do that." I said, "Our You don't want to do that." I said, "Our Lord told us if somebody smites us on one Lord told us if somebody smites us on one cheek, just turn the other." Of course, cheek, just turn the other." Of course, that's kind of hard for a little boy with a hot that's kind of hard for a little boy with a hot temper to begin with, to think of such temper to begin with, to think of such things. But place it before him anyhow, things. But place it before him anyhow, see, that he should not do it.see, that he should not do it.
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5) As parents you must communicate 5) As parents you must communicate to the mind and heart of the child.to the mind and heart of the child.
Primary ConsciencePrimary ConscienceSupplies the sense of right & Supplies the sense of right &
wrongwrong
MindMind SpiritSpirit1) God given sense of right & wrong1) God given sense of right & wrong
2) Fear of rejection & accountability2) Fear of rejection & accountability
3) Man's primary sense of shame3) Man's primary sense of shame
Moral ConscienceMoral ConscienceSupplies the standards of right & wrongSupplies the standards of right & wrong
1) Warns when about1) Warns when aboutto do wrongto do wrong
2) Accuses when wrong2) Accuses when wrongis done ~ Guiltis done ~ Guilt
5) Trainable5) TrainablePartPart
3) Prompts to do right3) Prompts to do right
4) Confirms when right4) Confirms when rightis done ~ Approvalis done ~ Approval
HeartHeart SoulSoul
Truthfulness vs. DeceptionTruthfulness vs. Deception
Earning future trust by Earning future trust by
accurately reporting pastaccurately reporting past
facts. Eph 4:25facts. Eph 4:25
Obedience vs. WillfulnessObedience vs. Willfulness
Freedom to be creative Freedom to be creative underunder
the protection of divinely-the protection of divinely-
appointed authority. 2Co appointed authority. 2Co 10:510:5
Gratefulness vs. UnthankfulnessGratefulness vs. Unthankfulness
Making known to God and Making known to God and
others in what ways they haveothers in what ways they have
benefited my life. 1Cor 4:7benefited my life. 1Cor 4:7
Meekness vs. AngerMeekness vs. Anger
Yielding my personal rightsYielding my personal rights
and expectations to God.and expectations to God.
Psalm 62:5Psalm 62:5Sincerity vs. HypocrisySincerity vs. Hypocrisy
Eagerness to do what is rightEagerness to do what is right
with transparent motives.with transparent motives.
1 Peter 1:221 Peter 1:22
Virtue vs. ImpurityVirtue vs. Impurity
The moral excellence andThe moral excellence and
purity of spirit that radiate frompurity of spirit that radiate from
my life as I obey God's Word.my life as I obey God's Word.
2Pe 1:52Pe 1:5
Self-Control vs. Self-Self-Control vs. Self-IndulgenceIndulgence
Instant obedience to the initialInstant obedience to the initial
promptings of God's Spirit.promptings of God's Spirit.
Galatians 5:24-25Galatians 5:24-25
Punctuality vs. TardinessPunctuality vs. Tardiness
Showing high esteem for Showing high esteem for thethe
other people and their time.other people and their time.
Ecclesiastes 3:1Ecclesiastes 3:1Joyfulness vs. Self-PityJoyfulness vs. Self-Pity
The spontaneous enthusiasmThe spontaneous enthusiasm
of my spirit when my soul is of my spirit when my soul is inin
fellowship with the Lord.fellowship with the Lord.
Ps 16:11Ps 16:11
Enthusiasm vs. ApathyEnthusiasm vs. Apathy
Expressing with my spirit Expressing with my spirit thethe
joy of my soul.joy of my soul.
1 Thessalonians 5:16,191 Thessalonians 5:16,19
Diligence vs. SlothfulnessDiligence vs. Slothfulness
Visualizing each task as aVisualizing each task as a
special assignment from thespecial assignment from the
Lord and using all my Lord and using all my energiesenergies
to accomplish it. Col 3:23to accomplish it. Col 3:23
Contentment vs. Contentment vs. CovetousnessCovetousness
Realizing God has providedRealizing God has provided
everything that I need for myeverything that I need for my
present happiness. present happiness.
1Tim 6:81Tim 6:8Security vs. AnxietySecurity vs. Anxiety
Structuring my life around thatStructuring my life around that
which is eternal and cannot which is eternal and cannot bebe
destroyed or taken away.destroyed or taken away.
John 6:27John 6:27
Generosity vs. StinginessGenerosity vs. Stinginess
Realizing that all I have belongsRealizing that all I have belongs
to God and using it for Histo God and using it for His
purposes. 2 Corinthians 9:6purposes. 2 Corinthians 9:6
Humility vs. PrideHumility vs. Pride
Recognizing that God andRecognizing that God and
others are actually responsibleothers are actually responsible
for the achievements in my lifefor the achievements in my life
James 4:6James 4:6
Hospitality vs. LonelinessHospitality vs. Loneliness
Cheerfully sharing food, Cheerfully sharing food, sheltershelter
and spiritual refreshment withand spiritual refreshment with
those God brings into my life.those God brings into my life.
Hebrews 13:2Hebrews 13:2
Boldness vs. FearfulnessBoldness vs. Fearfulness
Confidence that what I have toConfidence that what I have to
say or do is true and right andsay or do is true and right and
just in the sight of God.just in the sight of God.
Acts 4:29Acts 4:29
Dependability vs. Dependability vs. InconsistencyInconsistency
Fulfilling what I consented to Fulfilling what I consented to dodo
even if it means unexpectedeven if it means unexpected
sacrifice. Psalm 15:4sacrifice. Psalm 15:4Orderliness vs. Orderliness vs. DisorganizationDisorganization
Preparing myself and myPreparing myself and my
surroundings so that I willsurroundings so that I will
achieve the greatest efficiencyachieve the greatest efficiency
1 Cor 14:401 Cor 14:40
Patience vs. RestlessnessPatience vs. Restlessness
Accepting a difficult situationAccepting a difficult situation
from God without giving Him afrom God without giving Him a
deadline to remove it.. Ro 5:3-deadline to remove it.. Ro 5:3-44
Flexibility vs. ResistanceFlexibility vs. Resistance
Not setting my affections onNot setting my affections on
ideas or plans which could ideas or plans which could bebe
changed by God or others.changed by God or others.
Colossians 3:2Colossians 3:2Forgiveness vs. RejectionForgiveness vs. Rejection
Clearing the record of Clearing the record of thosethose
who have wronged me andwho have wronged me and
allowing God to love themallowing God to love them
through me. Eph 4:32through me. Eph 4:32Deference vs. RudenessDeference vs. Rudeness
Limiting my freedom in orderLimiting my freedom in order
not to offend the tastes ofnot to offend the tastes of
those God has called me tothose God has called me to
serve. Romans 14:21serve. Romans 14:21
Love vs. SelfishnessLove vs. Selfishness
Giving to others' basic Giving to others' basic needsneeds
without having as my motivewithout having as my motive
personal reward.personal reward.
1 Corinthians 13:31 Corinthians 13:3
Child Discipline Child Discipline 5) As parents you must communicate 5) As parents you must communicate
to the mind and heart of the child.to the mind and heart of the child.
a) You need to realize the a) You need to realize the importance of learning character importance of learning character
qualities.qualities. i ) It reveals the true nature of Christ i ) It reveals the true nature of Christ who is our perfect fulfillment of each who is our perfect fulfillment of each
quality. quality. ii ) It is the basis for success ii ) It is the basis for success in life.in life.iii ) It explains why things happen to iii ) It explains why things happen to us.us.
Child Discipline Child Discipline 5) As parents you must communicate to the 5) As parents you must communicate to the
mind and heart of the child.mind and heart of the child.
b) The need to memorize the operational b) The need to memorize the operational definition of the character qualities.definition of the character qualities.
Operational definition goes beyond the Operational definition goes beyond the dictionary to include the practical functions of the dictionary to include the practical functions of the
term.term.Listening goes beyond hearing to the understanding of Listening goes beyond hearing to the understanding of
what is said.what is said.
Nodding, smiling, taking notes, asking questions, or Nodding, smiling, taking notes, asking questions, or just making comments are manifestations of listening.just making comments are manifestations of listening.
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5) As parents you must communicate 5) As parents you must communicate to the mind and heart of the child.to the mind and heart of the child.
c) Identify the quality in scripture.c) Identify the quality in scripture.
e.g. Attentiveness would includes e.g. Attentiveness would includes listening, hearing, giving ear, and listening, hearing, giving ear, and
being still.being still.
117-1 SMYRNAEAN.CHURCH.AGE -- CPT.4117-1 SMYRNAEAN.CHURCH.AGE -- CPT.4Unless we suffer with Him we cannot reign Unless we suffer with Him we cannot reign with Him. You have to suffer to reign. The with Him. You have to suffer to reign. The reason for this is that character simply is reason for this is that character simply is never made without suffering. Character is never made without suffering. Character is a VICTORY, not a gift. A man without a VICTORY, not a gift. A man without character can't reign because power apart character can't reign because power apart from character is Satanic. But power with from character is Satanic. But power with character is fit to rule. And since He wants character is fit to rule. And since He wants us to share even His throne on the same us to share even His throne on the same basis that He overcame and is set down in basis that He overcame and is set down in His Father's throne, then we have to His Father's throne, then we have to overcome to sit with Him. And the little overcome to sit with Him. And the little temporary suffering we go through now is temporary suffering we go through now is not worthy to be compared to the not worthy to be compared to the tremendous glory that will be revealed in us tremendous glory that will be revealed in us when He comes.when He comes.
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5) As parents you must communicate 5) As parents you must communicate to the mind and heart of the child.to the mind and heart of the child.
d) Balancing with related qualities d) Balancing with related qualities is a must.is a must.
No character quality stands alone; it needs No character quality stands alone; it needs others to keep if from being used in others to keep if from being used in
appropriately or incompletely. appropriately or incompletely. e.g. Attentiveness must be balanced with e.g. Attentiveness must be balanced with
Discernment and combined with Obedience.Discernment and combined with Obedience.
Truthfulness vs. DeceptionTruthfulness vs. Deception
Earning future trust by Earning future trust by
accurately reporting pastaccurately reporting past
facts. Eph 4:25facts. Eph 4:25
Obedience vs. WillfulnessObedience vs. Willfulness
Freedom to be creative Freedom to be creative underunder
the protection of divinely-the protection of divinely-
appointed authority. 2Co appointed authority. 2Co 10:510:5
Gratefulness vs. UnthankfulnessGratefulness vs. Unthankfulness
Making known to God and Making known to God and
others in what ways they haveothers in what ways they have
benefited my life. 1Cor 4:7benefited my life. 1Cor 4:7
Meekness vs. AngerMeekness vs. Anger
Yielding my personal rightsYielding my personal rights
and expectations to God.and expectations to God.
Psalm 62:5Psalm 62:5Sincerity vs. HypocrisySincerity vs. Hypocrisy
Eagerness to do what is rightEagerness to do what is right
with transparent motives.with transparent motives.
1 Peter 1:221 Peter 1:22
Virtue vs. ImpurityVirtue vs. Impurity
The moral excellence andThe moral excellence and
purity of spirit that radiate frompurity of spirit that radiate from
my life as I obey God's Word.my life as I obey God's Word.
2Pe 1:52Pe 1:5
Self-Control vs. Self-Self-Control vs. Self-IndulgenceIndulgence
Instant obedience to the initialInstant obedience to the initial
promptings of God's Spirit.promptings of God's Spirit.
Galatians 5:24-25Galatians 5:24-25
Punctuality vs. TardinessPunctuality vs. Tardiness
Showing high esteem for Showing high esteem for thethe
other people and their time.other people and their time.
Ecclesiastes 3:1Ecclesiastes 3:1Joyfulness vs. Self-PityJoyfulness vs. Self-Pity
The spontaneous enthusiasmThe spontaneous enthusiasm
of my spirit when my soul is of my spirit when my soul is inin
fellowship with the Lord.fellowship with the Lord.
Ps 16:11Ps 16:11
Enthusiasm vs. ApathyEnthusiasm vs. Apathy
Expressing with my spirit Expressing with my spirit thethe
joy of my soul.joy of my soul.
1 Thessalonians 5:16,191 Thessalonians 5:16,19
Diligence vs. SlothfulnessDiligence vs. Slothfulness
Visualizing each task as aVisualizing each task as a
special assignment from thespecial assignment from the
Lord and using all my Lord and using all my energiesenergies
to accomplish it. Col 3:23to accomplish it. Col 3:23
Contentment vs. Contentment vs. CovetousnessCovetousness
Realizing God has providedRealizing God has provided
everything that I need for myeverything that I need for my
present happiness. present happiness.
1Tim 6:81Tim 6:8Security vs. AnxietySecurity vs. Anxiety
Structuring my life around thatStructuring my life around that
which is eternal and cannot which is eternal and cannot bebe
destroyed or taken away.destroyed or taken away.
John 6:27John 6:27
Generosity vs. StinginessGenerosity vs. Stinginess
Realizing that all I have Realizing that all I have belongsbelongs
to God and using it for Histo God and using it for His
purposes. 2 Corinthians 9:6purposes. 2 Corinthians 9:6
Humility vs. PrideHumility vs. Pride
Recognizing that God andRecognizing that God and
others are actually responsibleothers are actually responsible
for the achievements in my lifefor the achievements in my life
James 4:6James 4:6
Hospitality vs. LonelinessHospitality vs. Loneliness
Cheerfully sharing food, Cheerfully sharing food, sheltershelter
and spiritual refreshment withand spiritual refreshment with
those God brings into my life.those God brings into my life.
Hebrews 13:2Hebrews 13:2
Boldness vs. FearfulnessBoldness vs. Fearfulness
Confidence that what I have toConfidence that what I have to
say or do is true and right andsay or do is true and right and
just in the sight of God.just in the sight of God.
Acts 4:29Acts 4:29
Dependability vs. Dependability vs. InconsistencyInconsistency
Fulfilling what I consented to Fulfilling what I consented to dodo
even if it means unexpectedeven if it means unexpected
sacrifice. Psalm 15:4sacrifice. Psalm 15:4Orderliness vs. Orderliness vs. DisorganizationDisorganization
Preparing myself and myPreparing myself and my
surroundings so that I willsurroundings so that I will
achieve the greatest efficiencyachieve the greatest efficiency
1 Cor 14:401 Cor 14:40
Patience vs. RestlessnessPatience vs. Restlessness
Accepting a difficult situationAccepting a difficult situation
from God without giving Him afrom God without giving Him a
deadline to remove it.. Ro 5:3-deadline to remove it.. Ro 5:3-44
Flexibility vs. ResistanceFlexibility vs. Resistance
Not setting my affections onNot setting my affections on
ideas or plans which could ideas or plans which could bebe
changed by God or others.changed by God or others.
Colossians 3:2Colossians 3:2Forgiveness vs. RejectionForgiveness vs. Rejection
Clearing the record of Clearing the record of thosethose
who have wronged me andwho have wronged me and
allowing God to love themallowing God to love them
through me. Eph 4:32through me. Eph 4:32Deference vs. RudenessDeference vs. Rudeness
Limiting my freedom in orderLimiting my freedom in order
not to offend the tastes ofnot to offend the tastes of
those God has called me tothose God has called me to
serve. Romans 14:21serve. Romans 14:21
Love vs. SelfishnessLove vs. Selfishness
Giving to others' basic Giving to others' basic needsneeds
without having as my motivewithout having as my motive
personal reward.personal reward.
1 Corinthians 13:31 Corinthians 13:3
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5) As parents you must communicate to the 5) As parents you must communicate to the mind and heart of the child.mind and heart of the child.
e) Now list when & where the character quality is to be e) Now list when & where the character quality is to be usedused
And at least eighty percent of the And at least eighty percent of the communication in our lives depends upon communication in our lives depends upon
Attentiveness.Attentiveness.
So, Attentiveness should be the first character quality So, Attentiveness should be the first character quality learned.learned.
Child Discipline Child Discipline 6) Design guidelines to learn the quality. 6) Design guidelines to learn the quality.
Attentiveness vs. UnconcernedAttentiveness vs. Unconcerned
a) one must learn to sit still for a given period of a) one must learn to sit still for a given period of timetimeb) Do not talk while others are speakingb) Do not talk while others are speaking
c) Lean forward when being spoken toc) Lean forward when being spoken to
d) Take notes during sermons or instructiond) Take notes during sermons or instruction
e) And maintain eye contact during e) And maintain eye contact during conversationsconversations
Child Discipline Child Discipline 7) When problems come turn them into character 7) When problems come turn them into character
quality classes.quality classes.
Lord giving you specially situations in which you Lord giving you specially situations in which you can better understood them and apply them.can better understood them and apply them.
This is a good reason to give thanks for the This is a good reason to give thanks for the trails & temptationstrails & temptations
You can now look at them as character building You can now look at them as character building friends rather than resented intruders in your life.friends rather than resented intruders in your life.
E-12 BE.NOT.AFRAID -- RICHMOND.VA -- 61-E-12 BE.NOT.AFRAID -- RICHMOND.VA -- 61-03110311
If you seen your child doing something, he was If you seen your child doing something, he was going to kill hisself with it, wouldn't you help going to kill hisself with it, wouldn't you help that child? If you had to give him a little, that child? If you had to give him a little, posterior protoplasm stimulation, you know, just posterior protoplasm stimulation, you know, just really pore it on him. You, you'd better off to do really pore it on him. You, you'd better off to do that, then it would be to let the kid get killed, that, then it would be to let the kid get killed, don't you think so? Certainly. If you'd really don't you think so? Certainly. If you'd really have to correct him and whip him and make him have to correct him and whip him and make him behave. Well, that's the way God does us. And behave. Well, that's the way God does us. And here's His whip, is the Gospel. It's sharper than here's His whip, is the Gospel. It's sharper than a two-edged sword. Really cutting. And if a a two-edged sword. Really cutting. And if a servant is called of God, he won't compromise servant is called of God, he won't compromise on one word. on one word.
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(Development for skills & (Development for skills & talents)talents)
MORALMORAL
Encouragement WithEncouragement With
Three Levels Of OffenseThree Levels Of Offense
Skills & Skills & TalentsTalents
Verbal PraiseVerbal Praise
Cause & EffectCause & Effect
Goal Goal IncentivesIncentives
ChildishnessChildishness
CorrectionCorrection
FoolishnessFoolishness
Admonishment Admonishment VerbalVerbal
Admonishment With Admonishment With ActionAction
ConsequencesConsequences
& Punishment& Punishment
WarningWarningRelatedRelated
ConsequencesConsequences
PropertPropertyy
PersonalPersonal
ResponsibilityResponsibility
PrivilegesPrivileges
NaturalNatural
ConsequencesConsequences
PAINPAIN
Helps them focusHelps them focus
StructuredStructured
ConsequenceConsequence
BehaviourBehaviour
LogicalLogical
ConsequenceConsequence
IsolationIsolation
ChastisemenChastisementt
Verbal Verbal RemindersRemindersDialogue Dialogue QuestionsQuestionsPositive Positive WordsWords
AffirmatioAffirmationnRewardsRewards
Pre-ActivityPre-Activity
Post-ActivityPost-Activity
EncouragemenEncouragementt
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Conclusion:Conclusion:
We need to realise that child rearing only last We need to realise that child rearing only last for part of your life.for part of your life.
You only get one shot at it and it is best to You only get one shot at it and it is best to equip yourself for the best shot.equip yourself for the best shot.
You need to rely on God's You need to rely on God's GraceGrace