Changes in the Changes in the WorkplaceWorkplace

Randi RauhTylerRandi RauhTyler

Do you balance work and home?Do you balance work and home?

NO ONE can completely separate NO ONE can completely separate business and family.business and family.

NO ONE can balance a personal life NO ONE can balance a personal life with a business life.with a business life.

NO ONE lives in a vacuum.NO ONE lives in a vacuum. NO ONE exists without relationships NO ONE exists without relationships

with both co-workers and family with both co-workers and family members.members.

CHANGES EFFECT BOTHCHANGES EFFECT BOTH

WHY DO WE DRAW TREESWHY DO WE DRAW TREES

Can you answer the question?Can you answer the question?

Because they are Because they are Y’sY’s

Everywhere you have one Y you Everywhere you have one Y you have another, little at the top, big at have another, little at the top, big at

the bottom!the bottom!

Forest and the TreesForest and the Trees

You may have heard the expression, You may have heard the expression, you can’t see the forest for the you can’t see the forest for the

trees? trees?

In changes in the workplace, you can’t In changes in the workplace, you can’t find YOU because of the Y’sfind YOU because of the Y’s

You will never get answers to all You will never get answers to all the Y’sthe Y’s

YOUYOUYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

PAST PAST PRESENT PRESENT

FUTUREFUTURE

PAST Y’sPAST Y’s I should haveI should have

Present Y’sPresent Y’s I would haveI would have

Future Y’sFuture Y’s I could haveI could have

SHOULDA, WOULDA, COULDASHOULDA, WOULDA, COULDA

You will never change the past, You will never change the past, present or future with what you present or future with what you should have, would have, or could should have, would have, or could have done.have done.

WHAT CAN YOU CHANGE?WHAT CAN YOU CHANGE?

YOU!YOU!

What are the changes?What are the changes? Long term Long term

illness of an illness of an employeeemployee

Illness of a Illness of a family member family member (especially a (especially a child)child)

AccidentsAccidents DeathDeath StressStress AutomationAutomation

Moving Moving BirthBirth DivorceDivorce PromotionPromotion FiredFired RetirementRetirement

Anything that Anything that affects your affects your personal life!personal life!

Why do these PERSONAL Why do these PERSONAL changes effect BUSINESS?changes effect BUSINESS?

Changes in your employee always Changes in your employee always affect performance.affect performance.

They affect the amount of time doing They affect the amount of time doing a job.a job.

They affect how well the job is done.They affect how well the job is done. The bottom line is, they affect the The bottom line is, they affect the

bottom line!bottom line!

What is Grief?What is Grief?

Grief is the normal response to Grief is the normal response to change.change.

Change indicates a loss of the Change indicates a loss of the known and the future of the known and the future of the unknown.unknown.

It is a loss of control over the It is a loss of control over the circumstances.circumstances.

Can you go through grief during Can you go through grief during a “happy” change? YESa “happy” change? YES

What are the stages of grief?What are the stages of grief?

Shock - Denial - Guilt –

Anger - Acceptance

Shock: The numb time, when you can do everything or nothing. A dreamlike state, infused with suffering. Acting on instinct, automatic pilot, and ultimately not really believing that the loss is real.

Denial: This is the time when you most often say, this is not real, it’s all a bad dream. Many will come to the conclusion it’s all some conspiracy, that the person did not really die, they may even think they have seen them.

If you stay in DENIAL, you only LIE to YOURSELF!

Guilt: all the “shoulda, woulda, couldas” come to mind. If I would have done this, I should have said this, I could have changed things. Most of these feelings come from the unanswered Why, the why me? Why am I alone?

Sometimes a little bargaining is Sometimes a little bargaining is added here, I promise to give up ___ added here, I promise to give up ___ if only _____.if only _____.

Anger: many times the anger will surface towards others, when the true fact is you feel you have been cheated, and your real anger is at the “supreme being” who planned all this death. Anger for some lasts longer if the death was caused violently, or a legal proceeding continues. There seems to be crying, depression and self punishment. Agony over unanswered questions and loneliness.

Unresolved Grief is mostly made up of Unresolved Grief is mostly made up of ANGER!ANGER!

Acceptance: Realization that you are alive, redefining, refocusing, setting new goals. This all occurs at a snails pace. Slowly but surely strength is found to deal with the hurts. Recovery is built a little at a time, and with the help of empathic people to encourage you when you grow discouraged or weary.

Finding the NEW you after the CHANGE!

The cost of DyingThe cost of Dying

Each day in the United States, Each day in the United States, 6,694 people die. For the survivors 6,694 people die. For the survivors of the deceased the average cost of the deceased the average cost of the funeral is $8,000.00. This of the funeral is $8,000.00. This leaves four to five family members leaves four to five family members little resource to consult a little resource to consult a physician or professional to help physician or professional to help deal with their grief. deal with their grief.

Number of deaths: 2,443,387 Number of deaths: 2,443,387 

Death rate: 845.3 deaths per 100,000 Death rate: 845.3 deaths per 100,000 populationpopulation

Life expectancy: 77.3 yearsLife expectancy: 77.3 years

With life expectancy increasing, an With life expectancy increasing, an aged workforce will experience more aged workforce will experience more change.change.

Number of deaths for leading Number of deaths for leading causes of death:causes of death:

Heart disease: 696,947Heart disease: 696,947 Cancer: 557,271Cancer: 557,271 Stroke: 162,672Stroke: 162,672 Chronic lower respiratory diseases:Chronic lower respiratory diseases: 124,816124,816 Accidents (unintentional injuries): 106,742Accidents (unintentional injuries): 106,742 Diabetes: 73,249Diabetes: 73,249 Influenza/Pneumonia: 65,681Influenza/Pneumonia: 65,681 Alzheimer's disease: 58,866Alzheimer's disease: 58,866 Nephritis, nephrotic syndrome, and nephrosis: Nephritis, nephrotic syndrome, and nephrosis:

40,97440,974 Septicemia: 33,865Septicemia: 33,865

Number of births:  4,021,726Number of births:  4,021,726

Birth rate:  13.9 per 1,000 populationBirth rate:  13.9 per 1,000 population Fertility rate:  64.8 per 1,000 women Fertility rate:  64.8 per 1,000 women

aged 15 - 44 yearsaged 15 - 44 years Percent born low birth weight:  7.8Percent born low birth weight:  7.8 Birth rate to unmarried women: Birth rate to unmarried women:

43.7 per 1,000 unmarried women aged 43.7 per 1,000 unmarried women aged 15 - 44 years15 - 44 years

Then and NowThen and Now

One hundred years ago, people within One hundred years ago, people within a community were aware of a a community were aware of a member’s grief, they were given member’s grief, they were given outward indicators, by the dressing in outward indicators, by the dressing in black, or an armband that was worn for black, or an armband that was worn for a year to indicate that they may still be a year to indicate that they may still be in mourning. Today, people are given in mourning. Today, people are given three days to deal with a death, make three days to deal with a death, make arrangements, and be back at work. arrangements, and be back at work.

Grief – A response to changeGrief – A response to change

These people are rushed into a “get over These people are rushed into a “get over it” feeling, and not given options to deal it” feeling, and not given options to deal with the issues of loss. According to the with the issues of loss. According to the Mental Health Association,Mental Health Association, the average the average for a person in grief is four to five years, for a person in grief is four to five years, not days; this response of grief is not days; this response of grief is sadness, not depression. Not as intense sadness, not depression. Not as intense as the initial grief, the sadness can as the initial grief, the sadness can develop into unresolved grief. develop into unresolved grief. Unresolved grief can cripple a person Unresolved grief can cripple a person emotionally.emotionally.

SupportSupport

How people obtain support for grief varies How people obtain support for grief varies depending on the circumstances. depending on the circumstances.

Some people may have been a caregiver to Some people may have been a caregiver to the deceased and will have an opportunity the deceased and will have an opportunity to talk to a doctor or hospice worker and be to talk to a doctor or hospice worker and be given information on dealing with grief. given information on dealing with grief.

A religious organization, like a church or A religious organization, like a church or synagogue, will provide information for synagogue, will provide information for those arranging for a memorial service. those arranging for a memorial service.

Others still will receive information from a Others still will receive information from a funeral home about the possible grief funeral home about the possible grief related issues. related issues.

AT WORKAT WORK

How can a company deal with How can a company deal with supporting a change in an supporting a change in an employee’s personal life?employee’s personal life?

How can a company assist in a How can a company assist in a change in the company’s business?change in the company’s business?

As an individual what can you do?As an individual what can you do?

The questions and y’s are many, The questions and y’s are many, and the answers are:and the answers are:

Is time off (leave) the answer ?Is time off (leave) the answer ? What happens to the work?What happens to the work? When does it end?When does it end? Professional help?Professional help? Groups?Groups? Buddy Support?Buddy Support? New Perspectives?New Perspectives?

Working TogetherWorking Together

Assisting someone in a change means Assisting someone in a change means making sure the company can making sure the company can “survive” the change.“survive” the change.

Clear procedures and policies support Clear procedures and policies support change.change.

Creative thinkingCreative thinking Empathetic response (not Empathetic response (not

sympathetic)sympathetic) EducationEducation

Working through ChangeWorking through Change

Everyone wants to feel that the change Everyone wants to feel that the change they have been through is recognized. they have been through is recognized. They need validation.They need validation.

No one wants to feel alone during a No one wants to feel alone during a change.change.

Anyone wants to believe they are normal Anyone wants to believe they are normal and have a normal response to change.and have a normal response to change.

Changes can be positive, they begin a Changes can be positive, they begin a new cycle of life for those left with the new cycle of life for those left with the change.change.

A Company after ChangeA Company after Change

A company can find new avenues of A company can find new avenues of production with change.production with change.

They can become stronger financially.They can become stronger financially. If the change helps them to focus on a If the change helps them to focus on a

closer workforce, it strengthens the closer workforce, it strengthens the workforce.workforce.

Change can bring about Change can bring about enlightenment of procedure through enlightenment of procedure through education.education.

An Employee after ChangeAn Employee after Change

NEGATIVES:NEGATIVES: Emotionally-Can shut down without support. Emotionally-Can shut down without support. Mentally-Can become ineffective on the job. Mentally-Can become ineffective on the job. Physically-Can become ill. Physically-Can become ill.

POSITIVES:POSITIVES: Education-Can learn new skills Education-Can learn new skills Spiritually-Find new purpose Spiritually-Find new purpose Emotionally-Learn to handle change Emotionally-Learn to handle change

effectivelyeffectively

Change for the BetterChange for the Better

Learn coping skills Learn coping skills Stay current in your field with Stay current in your field with

education.education. Discover a creative outlet.Discover a creative outlet. Have a healthy lifestyle.Have a healthy lifestyle. Strengthen your empathetic Strengthen your empathetic

response to others.response to others. Share!Share!