By: Jamie Roche

Amber Gonzales

Functional & Dysfunctional Conflict

YouTube short film “Strangers Again” illustrates dysfunctional conflict

https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=strangers%2Cagain

Intro to Functional and Dysfunctional conflict

Functional conflict:Achieve the best possible

outcome even strengthening the relationship

The outcome fall short of what is possible and have a damaging effect on the relationship.

Functional & Dysfunctional conflict Book Definition

Dysfunctional conflict:

We are all facing functional and dysfunctional conflict right now. There are several different types of Functional and Dysfunctional conflict, we choose the outcome of our conflict resulting with functional or dysfunctional relationships.

Significance of functional and Dysfunctional conflict

Integration vs. PolarizationCooperation vs OppositionConfirmation vs DisconfirmationAgreement vs CoercionDe-escalation vs. EscalationFocusing vs DriftingForesight vs. Short sidednessPositive vs Negative

Eight Pairs of conflict

IntegrationFunctionalView each others worth as

equivalent

DysfunctionalViews themselves as better

than otherControlling“A couple where one partner

is an introvert and the other is an extrovert, and they view their way as better than the other, causing friction.”

Integration vs. polarization

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CooperationFunctionalWork togetherMeet Half wayA dance team has

cooperative members who work together to make a routine.

DysfunctionalMy way or no wayYou win I looseA dance team has members

who believe their choreography is better than each others and cant put a routine together.

Cooperation vs. Opposition

Opposition

ConformationFunctionalDisagree but respect the

other opinion or belief“A couple with different

religions backgrounds don’t have same faith but respect each others differences.

DysfunctionalClose mindedDisagree out of spiteA couple with different

political preferences both like Obama but the republican still degrades Obama because of political party.

Conformation vs. Disconfirmation

Disconfirmation

AgreementFunctionalReward System“Parents deducting children

allowance for incomplete chores”

DysfunctionalBlackmail“Were close friends but I cant

give you rides if you keep talking to that girl; I don’t like her.”

Agreement vs. Correction

Correction

De-EscalationFunctionalDiscussion about small

issues before escalating to huge issues

Talking about feelings toward sister before relationship got more serious.

DysfunctionalThoughts bottled up until

untamableFight fire with fire

De-Escalation vs. Escalation

Escalation

27 Dresses

FocusFunctionalFocus on real issue without

bringing up separate, irrelevant issues.

Solve the initial issuehttp://www.youtube.com/

watch?v=6s5To4pDrbs

DysfunctionalBeating around the bushTo raise a topic irrelevant to

issuehttp://www.youtube.com/

watch?v=LL1kww4E_EY

Focus vs. Drifting

Drifting

PositiveFunctionalEffective outcome of

argumentRelationship grows stronger

Dysfunctional1. No one gets what they

wants2. Ruin any success with

continuing the relationship

Enemies

Positive vs. Negative Results

Negative

Frenship

•Eight Pairs

•Either Functional or dysfunctional

characteristics

•Functional causes relationship grow

•Dysfunctional outcome causes relationship

to fall apart

The Point Being

1. True or false: De Escalation occurs when a couple brings up an issue and solves it before it becomes a bigger issue

2. Drifting occurs when a group of friends argue and stay on topic to solve issues

3. Opposition occurs when a couple argues and does not find a solution because they have a mentality of “I win you loose”.

4. Agreement occurs when a friend chooses to blackmail her friend in need.

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