Bullying. What is it?

• DELIBERATE

• REPEATED

• EXERCISE OF POWER

WHERE DOES IT HAPPEN?

• At school both inside and out

• Playing out

• Home

• Work

• It happens everywhere

WHY IT HAPPENS?

• Why bullies bully?

• To appear confident/cool

• To be in charge

• To get attention

• To get things from the victim

• To make others afraid/respect them

OTHER REASONS

• Jealousy

• Because they are bullied

• To fit in with a gang

• There are lots and lots of reasons

TYPES OF BULLYING

• PHYSICAL

• VERBAL

EMOTIONAL

• STEALING• KICKING

• NAME CALLING• TEASING

• EXCLUDING• HUMILIATING

KNOW YOUR BULLY

• Three types

• Confident aggressive bully who wants to feel secure

• This is the one we recognize easily!

KNOW YOUR BULLY

• The anxious bully

• This person tends to be less popular and weaker in school

• This person may have become a bully to hide this

KNOW YOUR BULLY

• The bully victim

• This type tends to have been bullied before by others and is, he feels “getting his own back”

• This type also tends not to be popular

School will have policy

• You have the right to a safe environment

• Your school encourages you to speak out

• It will investigate incidents fully and seek to resolve the problem

School will help

• BUT you must be sensible and report it

• Bullying will only thrive where there is silence and fear

• Do not have bullies in your circle of friends

Advice and Guidance

• If you are bullied it is NOT your fault

• Take action speak out

• Do not retaliate

• Do not ‘buy off’ the bully with presents

DO NOT IGNORE IT

• Telling an adult will make it better not worse

• Your school will want to stop the bullying

• Bullying may be a crime!!

CRIMINAL BULLIES

• Theft of your things

• Vandalism of your things

• Violence against you. If adults punch/kick someone and the police are involved the adult may go to court

Dealing with bullies

• CRIMINALS ARE DEALT WITH BY THE COURTS YOUR SCHOOL MAY HAVE OTHERS METHODS

• DETENTION• HAVE TO SAY SORRY AND HEAR HOW

THE VICTIM FELT• HAVE TO DO SOMETHING FOR THE

VICTIM TO MAKE UP FOR THE BULLYING• LOSS OF A TREAT

WHY ARE CRIMINALS PUNISHED?

• RESTORE THE BALANCE THE CRIMINAL HAS TAKEN AN UNFAIR ADVANTAGE EG BY STEALING FROM THE VICTIM

PURPOSE OF PUNISHMENT

• TO MAKE THEM SO AFRAID HE / SHE WILL NOT DO IT AGAIN

• REFORM THEM MAKE HIM/HER SEE WHY IT IS WRONG

DOES PUNISHEMNT WORK? SOME QUESTIONS

• ARE YOU LESS LIKELY TO DO THE ACT AGAIN IF YOU ARE PUNISHED?

• SHOULD YOU BE PUNISHED MORE HARSHLY IF YOU CONTINUE TO DO WRONG AGAIN AND AGAIN?

• THE ALTERNATIVE:

• BRINGING THE PARTIES TOGETHER TO SEEK TO RESOLVE THE CONFLICT MAY HELP

• LISTENING TO BOTH SIDES OF THE PROBLEMS AND SEEKING AN AGREED SOLUTION

WHAT WORKS TO STOP BULLYING?

• IF THE BULLY THINKS THEY WILL BE CAUGHT THEY MAY WELL THINK TWICE BEFORE THEY BULLY

• DON’T BE PART OF THE BULLY’S CIRCLE OF FRIENDS

• HELP ANYONE YOU SEE BEING BULLIED

• KEEP YOUR SCHOOL A BULLY FREE ZONE