Bullying Between Bullying Between Girls Girls

What Can Cause Girls to be What Can Cause Girls to be Aggressive?Aggressive?

Unmet needs at before Unmet needs at before age 4age 4

Stuck in early stageStuck in early stage Insecurity Insecurity The need for The need for

control/powercontrol/power Jealously/EnvyJealously/Envy Fear of peer rejectionFear of peer rejection

What Can Cause Girls to be What Can Cause Girls to be Aggressive?Aggressive?

Wanting to be popularWanting to be popular Negative role modelsNegative role models Lack of attentionLack of attention Others accepting Others accepting

meanness meanness Lack of supervisionLack of supervision WANT TO FEEL GOOD WANT TO FEEL GOOD

ABOUT THEMSELVESABOUT THEMSELVES

These Girls Often…These Girls Often…

Lack empathy when Lack empathy when bad things happen bad things happen to othersto others

Lack empathy when Lack empathy when they hurt othersthey hurt others

Want their wayWant their way Believe the victim Believe the victim

deserves bad deserves bad treatmenttreatment

Have been bullied Have been bullied by a family member by a family member

Who do they pick on the Who do they pick on the most?most?

Anybody…. if they think they can get away with it

Girls they feel threatened by

“Uncool girls” Girls who don’t stick

up for themselves Girls where others

don’t stick up for them

What the Girls Say…What the Girls Say… ““Hating me won’t make you prettier.” Hating me won’t make you prettier.”

““Girls are vicious. Everyone calls me a Girls are vicious. Everyone calls me a slut, but I would rather hang out with slut, but I would rather hang out with guys than endure the pain and suffering guys than endure the pain and suffering from girls.”from girls.”

““I get mooed and oinked at and my I get mooed and oinked at and my science teacher and other classmates lets science teacher and other classmates lets them do it.”them do it.”

Lastly…Lastly…

““The popular girls made me drink my The popular girls made me drink my mashed potatoes with chocolate milk mashed potatoes with chocolate milk through a straw so I could sit with through a straw so I could sit with them at lunch. I did and they just them at lunch. I did and they just laughed at me. I don’t know why. I laughed at me. I don’t know why. I hate school and I hate my teacher hate school and I hate my teacher and I hate them.”and I hate them.”

Possible effects of Relational Possible effects of Relational Aggression…Aggression…

SchoolRefusal

Family Fights

Poor Self-Image

Anxiety

Depression

SchoolShootings

Fights

Lower Grades

RA

Girls will be Girls…Girls will be Girls…IrrationalIrrational ThinkingThinking

The STOP MethodThe STOP Method– Is the relational aggressionIs the relational aggression

SevereSevereTraumaticTraumaticOngoingOngoing

If so, you should try to stop it!If so, you should try to stop it!

Stop BullyingStop Bullying

1.1. Help OthersHelp Others2.2. Speak OutSpeak Out3.3. Get Adult HelpGet Adult Help

Help and Include Help and Include OthersOthers

Schools that have the least Schools that have the least bullying is where students bullying is where students help each otherhelp each other

Being kind can mean to Being kind can mean to include other girls. Not include other girls. Not charity case.charity case.

Our students can be Our students can be supportivesupportive

Speak OutSpeak Out Mean girls look for easy Mean girls look for easy

targets who noticeably get targets who noticeably get upsetupset

Get better at effectively Get better at effectively managing conflictsmanaging conflicts

Don’t come down to their Don’t come down to their levellevel

Paradox - sometimes Paradox - sometimes speaking out can mean to speaking out can mean to ignore itignore it

Get Adult HelpGet Adult Help

Our staff is committed to Our staff is committed to stopping bullyingstopping bullying

Snitching vs. Getting HelpSnitching vs. Getting Help If one adult doesn’t help, go If one adult doesn’t help, go

to another adultto another adult Your favorite teachers and Your favorite teachers and

school counselors will help school counselors will help youyou

RememberRememberBrain functioning effecting Brain functioning effecting

aggression between girlsaggression between girlsMale and female bullying Male and female bullying

differences differences Causes of relational aggressionCauses of relational aggressionFemale friendships and social Female friendships and social

junglejungle Interventions to combat girl Interventions to combat girl

bullyingbullying