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Breaking Your Negative Patterns

Healthy, Wealthy & Wise with Ogbo Awoke Ogbo

TV Speech Transcript

Email: [email protected]

Good morning everyone! Welcome to HWW Today on STV. My name is Ogbo

Awoke Ogbo. Family and friends call me Ogbo the Great but my only my wife calls

me Sweetheart. Today, I will talk to us about breaking the negative patterns that hold

us back. But before then, mark May 11 on your calendar - the date for our next

executive session!. I hope to see you there SMS the number on the screen for

reservation details.

Theres an Igbo proverb that says: What killed the grand father? Mushroom.What killed the father? Mushroom. Where is the son? He has gone to the forest to

look for mushrooms. If you are not aware of the patterns in your life, the same thing

that hurt your father will hurt you. The udara fruit does not fall far from its tree.

Two years ago, I counseled a family with an unusual history. There are 4 girlsborn to that family. One by one, each of these girls got pregnant while in school in

almost exactly the set of circumstances. It was like an unbelievable movie. The only

son in the family told me how he had hoped that the last girl would be different

because she appeared academically promising. He was happy that the jinx was finally

broken but almost committed suicide the day he got the news that their youngest

girl had also gotten pregnant in school. Today, none of them is married and some

have had additional babies out of wedlock. To complicate the mystery, two of their

nieces also became pregnant out of wedlock.

Being aware of both the positive and negative patterns operating in your familyor in your personal life is the beginning of greatness. You reinforce the positive

patterns and break the negative ones. In emotional intelligence, this is referred to as

self awareness. Man know thyself is the first commandment of greatness. We are

creatures of habits and patterns. Therefore it is of utmost importance to be aware of

those habits and patterns that are stunting your development as a successful human

being. You cannot manage what you cannot measure. You must know yourself very

well.

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Let me give you an example of the negative patterns that operated in my life. Irealized as a fresh graduate that each time I was at the verge of stepping out for

something big, I became very unsure of myself and always needed someone to

validate me. Each time, the people I turned to told me that my ideas were bad. They

would discourage me and I would chicken out of the idea. It happened again andagain. I wasnt my own man. I couldnt take decisions about my life. I depended

entirely on other peoples opinion about me.

Now, this doesnt mean that one should not ask for advice but I discoveredthat I had covenanted myself to a pattern get a good idea, seek for peoples opinion,

people say no, then drop the idea. With this pattern running in my life, I wasted the

first two years of my life after my youth service hustling on the same spot. This is

one thing that negative patterns do to you. It wastes your years and wastes your life.If you have been marking time on the same spot for years - no promotion, no new

experience, the same frustration year in year out, going in circles, never moving

forward, I can assure you that there is a negative pattern at work in your life.

When I discovered this negative self referenced pattern in my life, I decided tobreak it. Later, I will tell you how how I broke that negative pattern in my life. But

lets come back to you. What are the signs of negative patterns in your life? There are

many signs and I have enumerated them in my new book soon to be published butlet me mention only 3 because of time. During our May 11 coaching class I will give

the remaining 7 signs and go in details about how to break them.

(1) The first sign is Stagnation. You are as stagnant as the economy. In my wifes

home town they say, Oba no dey go leave, e no dey go transfer. Your life has

not added any value in the past 5 years. Instead, youre going down in age, in

money, in respect and in influence. You have stagnated in your career. You have

stagnated in your finances and business. You have stagnated in your

relationships. This is a sign of a negative pattern.

(2) Near success syndrome is another sign. Just when youre about to succeed

something happens and you drop to zero level again. You are almost always

getting a good job but never getting it. You are almost always getting married

or passing your exam, but it never happens.

(3) A cycle of depression. Youre always getting in and out of depression. Youre

supposed to be a happy person but something about your marriage or about

your career is always plunging you in and out of depression. These negative

patterns in our lives are like a computer program. Once something triggers

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it, the whole program runs. Common triggers include our environment, fear

of the future, anxiety, feeling of insecurity, poor self esteem, anger and other

negative emotions.

Finally today, how did I break the negative pattern that operated in my life? DidI go to prayer houses? Did I go for a spiritual bath in the river? Did I light red andblue candles at midnight and chant incantations? Did I go for deliverance? No. Heres

what I did: I decided to quit.

Let me tell you one of my greatest discoveries in life: Choice is more powerfulthan prophecy. The greatest power that God has given man is the power to choose.

Man can choose what he wants to become. Man can choose his own destiny and

even God cant do anything about it if you choose to destroy yourself. God, through

Moses, told the Israelites, Today I have given you the choice between life and death,between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice

you make. God has given you the power to choose your destiny but you are waiting

for Him to choose for you. Keep waiting.

Anyway, I chose to break this pattern. I decided to simply stop asking foropinions before doing something great. I wanted to own my decisions and the

consequences. I had a big opportunity when I saw the girl I wanted to marry. All the

people who used to give me their respected opinions told me that I shouldnt marryher because it wont work. Once of them said, Ogbo, women from that part of the

county only give birth to baby girls. There was nothing I didnt hear. Its a fearful

thing to run your ife 100% on other peoples opinions, including mine.

But guess what? today, Ive been married to this same girl for 18 years. Theopinion givers told me that she would never give birth to a boy but guess what, she

gave birth to 3 boys! I broke that pattern forever. I ask for advise but I take a

decision and I stand by it.

Will you be interested in learning the various tools and techniques forbreaking negative patterns in your life and family? Join us in our executive coaching

class on May 11. Send your name and email to the numbers on the screen

(+2348087999777) for registration and payment information.

Until same time next week, I am Ogbo Awoke Ogbo. I love you. Whatever you do, be

Healthy Wealthy and Wise!

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