boys and the media
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BOYS AND THE MEDIA. Kris Van Gieson and Thomas Weber Hyla Middle School Sponsored by the Bainbridge Island Just Know Coalition February 28, 2012. INTRODUCTIONS AND WHY WE’RE HERE. Thomas Weber and Kris Van Gieson are educators at Hyla Middle School. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
BOYS AND THE MEDIAKris Van Gieson and Thomas Weber
Hyla Middle School
Sponsored by the Bainbridge Island Just Know Coalition
February 28, 2012
INTRODUCTIONS AND WHY WE’RE HERE
Thomas Weber and Kris Van Gieson are educators at Hyla Middle School.Hyla believes that nurturing the healthy social and emotional development of middle school children must go hand in hand with their academic learning. Visit www.hylamiddleschool.org.
Mapping the Territory
Social MediaSocial Media GamingGaming
Media ConsumptionMedia Consumption
Media CreationMedia
Creation
Tech Skills
Tech Skills
Facebook, Chat, Skype, etc.Wide range of games available
Websites, TV, Movies, Radio, Magazines, Online Video, Music
Making art, movies, music, websites, and games
Media consumption has a big influence on the other spheres. Privacy and easy access to pornography are particular concerns. There is more power to create and consume independent media and more variety in media.
Mapping the Territory: the Past
Social MediaSocial Media GamingGaming
Media ConsumptionMedia Consumption
Media CreationMedia
Creation
Tech Skills
Tech Skills
Telephone, Lettters Board games, neighborhood games,
TV, Movies, Radio, Magazines
Very limited and expensive tools
A safer and simpler landscape. Less variety and less opportunity to create and share media.
Mapping the Territory
Social MediaSocial Media GamingGaming
Media ConsumptionMedia Consumption
Media CreationMedia
Creation
Tech Skills
Tech Skills
Cultural ShiftsG
uid
ing Prin
ciples
Parents’ In
fluen
ce
You can’t control cultural change, but you can use your values and your parenting.
Characteristics of Boys
Attracted to kinetic/physical world and associated use of strategic and tactical thinking
Communication more direct, less verbal, more physical
Emotions are sublimated Parallel and competitive play over
collaborative playUnderstanding general characteristics of boys helps to explain their attraction to video games
Act Like a Man Box
MachoCrassStrong
PhysicalBrave/Unemotional
Problem-SolverLeaderAthletic
MachoCrassStrong
PhysicalBrave/Unemotional
Problem-SolverLeaderAthletic
PassiveCooperativ
eEmotional
Artistic
PassiveCooperativ
eEmotional
Artistic
Peace-loving
SensitiveFollower
Intellectual
Peace-loving
SensitiveFollower
Intellectual
Social pressures influence boys to conform to social stereotypes.
Fears about Boys’ Use of Media Social Media: bullying, privacy Gaming: exposure to violence, addictive Pornography: distorts views of sex,
gender, and relationships Other Media Consumption: superficial,
time away from more balanced lifestyle Media Creation: time intensive, can
mimic hurtful media Tech Skills: rule-breaking, vandalism
Positive Outcomes of Boys’ Use
Be a friend Communicate Share unseen
talents Overcome
shyness Social Skills
Kinesthetic Strategic/Tactical Trial and error Mastery Share interests give-and-take
Social Nurturing Gaming
Positive Outcomes of Boys’ Use
less driven by corporate media
Enjoy great variety
Make music, movies, websites
Design games/ worlds within games
Tech skills Write Express yourself
Media Consumption Creative Process
Your Guiding Principles
About healthy play? About relationships? About use of time? About good parenting?
Articulate these to yourself (and your spouse) before you engage in conversations with your son.
Parenting Styles
Permissive/NeglectfulPermissive/Neglectful
Authoritarian/
Controlling
Authoritarian/
Controlling
Broad range of acceptable styles
•Avoid the extremes or swinging from one end to the other.•Know that you may need to adapt styles to different personalities and different ages•Use guiding principles
GuidingGuiding Authoritative
Authoritative
Personality Styles
Extrovert/Introvert?Internally or externally motivated?Naturally cautious or risk-taking?
Outside or inside?Athletic or Non-athletic?Books or Video Games?
Look at yourself , your son, and others. Talking about personalities helps to understand and affect which parenting strategies will be most effective.
Solve it Together: Parent-Child Conversations
Think ahead to possible scenarios. what would you do and say and how does that
convey your values?
You feel your son is wasting time on trivial computer activities.
You find your son looking at pornography. You feel your son is addicted to gaming.
Some Recommendations
Know what’s on the computer on a regular basis Include time to investigate privacy controls
Regular conversations—limits and consequences aren’t as important as the conversations you have with them. Be wary of shutting down conversations with how you impose limits and consequences
5:1 rule: listen to 5 minutes of your kid talking for every minute you talk.
Negotiate boundaries with your principles in mind Notice how your own behavior is a model
Resources
Teachers, Counselors, Bainbridge Youth Services, Church Youth Groups, Just Know Coalition….
More about boys: two books Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Lives of Boys The Minds of Boys: Saving our Sons from Falling Behind in School and Life
More about gaming Visit the websites for each of the games. http://kiwicommons.com/index.php?p=10964&tag=how-to-recognize-online-
gaming-addictio More about social media
Works both ways--cruelty and self-esteem abound Social media: the playground/neighborhood in the best sense of the term http://bits.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/01/25/does-technology-affect-happiness/
A good general consumer guide for parents http://www.commonsensemedia.org/about-us/our-mission