bloom check-up-slides11911-pdf
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This is the slide that has been updated for our 1-19-11 webinar.TRANSCRIPT
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How to Escape the Doom Cycle and Start to Bloom
BLOOM!BLOOM!How to Escape the Doom Cycle and Start to Bloom
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There is Good News and there is Bad News
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there is Bad News for All Marriages
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Bad News
Marriages were built to Fail
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Marriages were built to Fail
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Good NewsMarriages were designed for
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Marriages were designed for your fullness of life and for
God’s glory
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Doom Cycle
Bloom Cycle
Vs.
Whether you are fully aware of it or not, you are in one cycle or the other
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Cycle CycleVs.
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The Challenge:Most people don’t know how to
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Most people don’t know how to effectively assess whether they are in Doom or Bloom….why?
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Trusts in the LORDDelights in the law of the LORDOn his law meditates day and night
Leaves are always greenNever fails to bear fruitDoes not wither in the heat
Does not walk in the counsel of the wickedHeart is deceitful above all things
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Question: How do youknow the health of your marriage?
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marriage?
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Brian Brian RhenRhen::•• Pastor• Marriage Coach• Married• Kids
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• Kids
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5 Myths That 5 Myths That May Doom May Doom
Your Marriage!Your Marriage!
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Your Marriage!Your Marriage!
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Myth #1: Wedding vows are the most important commitment you
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most important commitment you make
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Myth #2: Most spouses know the other’s needs
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other’s needs
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Myth #3: Certain things cannot be forgiven
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be forgiven
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Myth #4: Communication gets better over time
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better over time
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Myth #5: God’s purposes will naturally evolve
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naturally evolve
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Myth #1: Wedding vows are the most important commitment you
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most important commitment you make (The Uncertain Couple)
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COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVECOMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE
DAILY
This is my command: Love (agape) each other. John 15:17
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YEARLY
SEASONALLY
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COMMIT TO “sacrificial” LOVECOMMIT TO “sacrificial” LOVE
-WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT -QUALITY TIME -GIFTS
5 Love Languages
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-GIFTS-ACTS OF SERVICE -PHYSICAL TOUCH
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CHECKUP QUESTION #1
How often do you re-commit to sacrificially loving?
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sacrificially loving?
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Committed to love?wife
complete
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Committed to love?
husband
completeroom to improve
room
to im
prove
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Myth #2: Most spouses know the other’s needs (The Card Carrying
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other’s needs (The Card Carrying Couple)
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CHERISH & RESPECT CHERISH & RESPECT However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,
and the wife must respect her husband. Eph. 5:33
with cherish
she he
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with respect
she responds
he responds
she reacts
he reacts
without respect
without cherish
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CHECKUP QUESTION #2
What is the degree you are currently cherishing (your
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currently cherishing (your wife) and respecting (your husband?)
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Cherished and Respected?
wife
respectin
g
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Respected?
husband
cherishingroom to improve
room
to im
prove
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Myth #3: Certain things cannot be forgiven (The Startup Couple)
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be forgiven (The Startup Couple)
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BE GRACIOUS & FORGIVEBE GRACIOUS & FORGIVEBear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you
may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Colossians 3:13
Grace leaves space for
Forgivenessreleases
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space for error
“an attitude”
releases
“a process”
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CHECKUP QUESTION #3
How capable are you of being gracious and of forgiving?
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gracious and of forgiving?
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Gracious and Forgiving?
wife
complete
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husband
completeroom to improve
room
to im
prove
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Myth #4: Communication gets better over time (The Yelling
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better over time (The Yelling Couple)
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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSEveryone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.
James 1:19
Argument REACTING the other
Destructive offensive, names, sarcasm, violent = scarring
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Disagreement REACTING issue
Harsh defensive, personalities arise = separating
Normal dialogue RESPONDING each other
Kind attentive, encouraging = supporting
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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCIRCUMSTANCE
EMOTIONS Hurt, Fear, Want, Joy
THOUGHTS
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Hurt, Fear, Want, Joy
3 sec.
with self REACT“FLESH”
with GodRESPOND “SPIRIT”
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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
REACT: “STAND OFF” REACT: “TELL OFF”
RESPOND
“GRACE
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REACT: “GIVE UP” REACT: “HOLD ON ”
“GRACE
&
TRUTH”
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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
REACT: “STAND OFF” REACT: “TELL OFF”
Listen
Clarify Thoughts
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REACT: “GIVE UP” REACT: “HOLD ON ”
Clarify Thoughts
Identify Feelings
Right Tone, Time, Words
Find Compromise
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CHECKUP QUESTION #4
Are you using the right words in your communication?
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in your communication?
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Myth #5: God’s purposes will naturally evolve (The Chaotic
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naturally evolve (The Chaotic Churchgoing Couple)
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SEEK A GREATER PURPOSESEEK A GREATER PURPOSEThe LORD will fulfill his purpose for me. Psalm 138:8
People
seldom hit
what they
do not
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do not
aim at.”
Thoreau
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SEEK A GREATER PURPOSESEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
•Marriage Purpose Statement•Marriage Verse•Values (being)
The LORD will fulfill his purpose for me. Psalm 138:8
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•Values (being)•Goals (doing)•Dreams•Prayer
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CHECKUP QUESTION #5
How purposeful is your marriage?
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your marriage?
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BLOOM!
Where are you?
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Where are you?
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FINAL CHECKUP FINAL CHECKUP Rank each on a scale of 1(weak) Rank each on a scale of 1(weak) -- 5(strong)5(strong)
______Commit to Love______Cherish & Respect
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______Cherish & Respect______Be Gracious & Forgive______Choose the Right Words______Seek a Greater Purpose
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Do you want to grow in Do you want to grow in any of these five areas?any of these five areas?
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A 5-WEEK TUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE
Bloom!Bloom!Bloom!Bloom!Bloom!Bloom!Bloom!Bloom!A 5-WEEK TUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE
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