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Being a Father, 4 Times a Day

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Malachi 4:5-6Deuteronomy 6:4-7Psalms 68:5

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Malachi 4:5-6"See, I will send you the prophet Elijah

before that great and dreadful day of the LORD comes. He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.”

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Malachi 4:5-6"See, I will send you the prophet Elijah before that great and

dreadful day of the LORD comes. He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse."

Deuteronomy 6:4-7“Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the

LORD is one. Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

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Malachi 4:5-6"See, I will send you the prophet Elijah before that great and

dreadful day of the LORD comes. He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse."

Deuteronomy 6:4-7“Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. Love the

LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

Psalms 68:5 A father to the fatherless, a defender of

widows, is God in his holy dwelling.

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Malachi 4:5-6"See, I will send you the prophet Elijah

before that great and dreadful day of the LORD comes. He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.”

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Malachi 4:6 “He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.”

1. There is a reality of bad relationships between fathers or parents and their children.

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Malachi 4:6 “He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.”

1. There is a reality of bad relationships between fathers or parents and their children.

• God threatens to strike the land with a curse if things are not made right

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Malachi 4:6 “He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.”

1. There is a reality of bad relationships between fathers or parents and their children.• God threatens to strike the land

with a curse if things are not made right a) Literal understanding – God will literally

send calamities

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1. There is a reality of bad relationships between fathers or parents and their children.• God threatens to strike the land

with a curse if things are not made right a) Literal understanding – God will literally

send calamities b) According to Romans 1:24 “God will

give them over to their sinful desires. ” – God will allow people to sin for the

time being, and they will reap the consequences of their sins.

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Schicklewuber

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“… The statistics are grim for these children. They are more likely to live in poverty, get minimal medical care, and do poorly in school. …

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“… The statistics are grim for these children. They are more likely to live in poverty, get minimal medical care, and do poorly in school. …

Misconception #1: Raising children is women's work

Fact: Without fathers, most children lack the support, guidance, and discipline required to deal with life outside and within the family

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Misconception #2: Girls do not need their father

Research shows: Girls with active and hardworking dads are more ambitious, more successful in school, attend college more often, and are more likely to attain careers of their own.

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Misconception #3: Small children do not need their father’s influence and that the dad can just step in when the kids are older

Fact: If a man waits until his son or daughter is older, the child probably will resent Dad's lack of previous involvement, will have become over-dependent on Mom, and will show little interest in Dad's favored activities, opinions, or suggestions.

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An avalanche of evidence from educators, law enforcement officials, mental health facilities, and teen pregnancy programs show the negative consequences of raising kids without fathers.

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An avalanche of evidence from educators, law enforcement officials, mental health facilities, and teen pregnancy programs show the negative consequences of raising kids without fathers.

So powerful is the relationship between fatherlessness and juvenile crime that this factor alone is more predictive than poverty level, race, and education level.”

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Malachi 4:6 “He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.”

1. There is a reality of bad relationships between fathers or parents and their children.

2. God’s promise to heal the relationship between children and parents, between children and their fathers.

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2. God’s promise to heal the relationship between children and parents, between children and their fathers. • If a parent-child relationship is

not good, then we go to Jesus the Great Physician, and we pray and ask Him to intervene

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2. God’s promise to heal the relationship between children and parents, between children and their fathers. • If a parent-child relationship is not

good, then we go to Jesus the Great Physician, and we pray and ask Him to intervene

we would also follow certain spiritual healing steps, such as repentance, seeking and releasing forgiveness, prayer and fasting, doing acts of love and kindness towards your parent or child, and so on.

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2. God’s promise to heal the relationship between children and parents, between children and their fathers.

• If a parent-child relationship is not good, then we go to Jesus the Great Physician, and we pray and ask Him to intervene

we would also follow certain spiritual healing steps, such as repentance, seeking and releasing forgiveness, prayer and fasting, doing acts of love and kindness towards your parent or child, and so on.

• If the parent-child relationship is currently still good, then we have to do what we can to maintain and even build up this relationship.

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Deuteronomy 6:4-7“Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the

LORD is one. Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.

Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

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Mentor your children

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Greek Model & Hebrew Model

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Greek Model & Hebrew Model

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Greek Model – “Classroom method”

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Greek Model – “Classroom method”

Hebraic Model – “Coach method”

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Hebraic Method :

Students follow and live with Teacher,

Teacher give Verbal Instructions,Teacher demonstrates, Students do and experience lesson,

Teacher gives feedback – accountability and assessment

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Greek Model Hebrew Model

1.The Classroom Model The Coach Model

2.Academic Relational

3.Passive Experiential

4.Theoretical On the Job Training

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Hebraic Model

Perfect for fathers to teach their children.

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Deuteronomy 6:7“Impress them on your children. Talk

about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

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Deuteronomy 6:7“Impress them on your children. Talk

about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

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A time whereby parents can spend time with their children would be the meal-time.

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1. When you sit at home – Meal-time – Be a teacher

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• Did anything unusual happen at school today ?

• Did you get to play with (your best friend) ?

• What did your teacher think about your assignment ?

• What kind of day was it today ? • Did you get a chance to help

anyone ? • What was the best part about the day

for you ?

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1. When you sit at home – Meal-time – Be a teacher

2. When you walk along the road – Travel time – Be a friend

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1. When you sit at home – Meal-time – Be a teacher

2. When you walk along the road – Travel time – Be a friend

3. When you lie down – Bed time – Be a counselor

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1. Is there a story from my past that illustrates a truth I want them to learn ?

2. Is there a story from their world that illustrates the truth I want them to learn ?

3. Is there a story from past or current events that illustrates this truth I want them to learn ?

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“The best time to plant a tree is 25 years ago.”

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“The best time to plant a tree is 25 years ago.”

“The second best time is today!”

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1. When you sit at home – Meal-time – Be a teacher

2. When you walk along the road – Travel time – Be a friend

3. When you lie down – Bed time – Be a counselor

4. When you get up – Morning time – Be a coach

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Being a Father, 4 Times a Day

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Being a Father, 4 Times a Day

Let us not miss the daily opportunities to mentor our children.

May we stir ourselves to this God-given task.

And I believe it can be done, because God’s grace is sufficient for us all.

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Psalms 68:5 A father to the fatherless, a

defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.

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Malachi 4:5-6

Deuteronomy 6:4-7

Psalms 68:5