battle hymn of the tiger mother
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Battle Hymn
of the Tiger Mother
amy chua
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For Sophia and Louisa
And for Katrin
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This is a story about a mother, two
daughters, and two dogs. It’s also about
Mozart and Mendelssohn, the piano
and the violin, and how we made it to
Carnegie Hall.
This was supposed to be a story of how
Chinese parents are better at raising kids
than Western ones.
But instead, it’s about a bitter clash of
cultures, a fl eeting taste of glory, and how
I was humbled by a thirteen-year-old.
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Part One
The Tiger, the living symbol of strength and power,
generally inspires fear and respect.
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The Chinese Mother
A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereo-
typically successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to
produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies, what it’s
like inside the family, and whether they could do it too. Well, I
can tell them, because I’ve done it. Here are some things my
daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:
• attend a sleepover
• have a playdate
• be in a school play
• complain about not being in a school play
• watch TV or play computer games
• choose their own extracurricular activities
• get any grade less than an A
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• not be the #1 student in every subject except gym
and drama
• play any instrument other than the piano or violin
• not play the piano or violin.
I’m using the term “Chinese mother” loosely. I recently met a
supersuccessful white guy from South Dakota (you’ve seen him
on television), and after comparing notes we decided that his
working-class father had defi nitely been a Chinese mother. I know
some Korean, Indian, Jamaican, Irish, and Ghanaian parents who
qualify too. Conversely, I know some mothers of Chinese heri-
tage, almost always born in the West, who are not Chinese moth-
ers, by choice or otherwise.
I’m also using the term “Western parents” loosely. Western
parents come in all varieties. In fact, I’ll go out on a limb and say
that Westerners are far more diverse in their parenting styles
than the Chinese. Some Western parents are strict; others are
lax. There are same-sex parents, Orthodox Jewish parents, sin-
gle parents, ex-hippie parents, investment banker parents, and
military parents. None of these “Western” parents necessarily
see eye to eye, so when I use the term “Western parents,” of
course I’m not referring to all Western parents—just as “Chi-
nese mother” doesn’t refer to all Chinese mothers.
All the same, even when Western parents think they’re
being strict, they usually don’t come close to being Chinese
mothers. For example, my Western friends who consider them-
selves strict make their children practice their instruments
thirty minutes every day. An hour at most. For a Chinese mother,
the fi rst hour is the easy part. It’s hours two and three that
get tough.
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Despite our squeamishness about cultural stereotypes, there
are tons of studies out there showing marked and quantifi able
differences between Chinese and Westerners when it comes to
parenting. In one study of 50 Western American mothers and 48
Chinese immigrant mothers, almost 70% of the Western moth-
ers said either that “stressing academic success is not good for
children” or that “parents need to foster the idea that learning is
fun.” By contrast, roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers felt the
same way. Instead, the vast majority of the Chinese mothers said
that they believe their children can be “the best” students, that
“academic achievement refl ects successful parenting,” and that if
children did not excel at school then there was “a problem” and
parents “were not doing their job.” Other studies indicate that
compared to Western parents, Chinese parents spend approxi-
mately ten times as long every day drilling academic activities
with their children. By contrast, Western kids are more likely to
participate in sports teams.
This brings me to my fi nal point. Some might think that the
American sports parent is an analog to the Chinese mother. This
is so wrong. Unlike your typical Western overscheduling soccer
mom, the Chinese mother believes that (1) schoolwork always
comes fi rst; (2) an A-minus is a bad grade; (3) your children
must be two years ahead of their classmates in math; (4) you
must never compliment your children in public; (5) if your child
ever disagrees with a teacher or coach, you must always take the
side of the teacher or coach; (6) the only activities your children
should be permitted to do are those in which they can eventually
win a medal; and (7) that medal must be gold.
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also by amy chua
Day of Empire: How Hyperpowers Rise to
Global Dominance—and Why They Fall
World on Fire: How Exporting Free Market Democracy
Breeds Ethnic Hatred and Global Instability
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First published in Great Britain, 2011
Copyright © Amy Chua, 2011
The moral right of the author has been asserted
Portions of Chapter Four first appeared as “On Becoming American” in Defining a Nation: Our America and the Sources of Its Strength, edited by David Halberstam (National Geographic, 2003).
All photographs are from the author’s family collection, with the following exceptions:p. 30, Bachrach Photography
p. 168, © Susan Bradley Photographypp. 216 & 223, Peter Z. Mahakian
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