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Attraction Social Psychology
Attraction and Relationships
Relatively new to social psychology
Psychologists generally only focus on
individuals
Romance and attraction isn’t a ‘scholarly’
thing to study
Relationships have a number of
important health benefits.
Ideal Qualities in a Romantic Partner
1 2 3
Less than me About the same as me More than me
1 Extraversion
2 Conscientiousness
3 Agreeableness
4 Openness
5 Neuroticism
6 Age
7 Height
8 Education
9 Intelligence
10 Good Looks
11 Social Status
12 Spirituality
13 Dominance
Overview What leads to attraction?
Proximity
Mere exposure
Physical attractiveness
Similarity
Matching
Mimicry
Attraction-Proximity
Proximity: We tend to like people
who are closer to us
Festinger et al. (1950s):
friendship patterns in dormitories
Closer friends with people who
lived near
Proximity
Why do you think proximity increases
attraction?
1) More opportunities to meet, interact
2) People are likely to live near people of similar
economic, social backgrounds
3) Mere exposure
Attraction
Mere exposure
Moreland & Beach (1992): women coming into class; the
more they came to class, the more other students liked her
Mere Exposure Effect Mere exposure effect repeated exposure to a stimuli will
eventually lead to finding that stimuli appealing; even if the
stimuli was not initially liked.
Conceptions of attractiveness vary by culture
Examples…. The mere exposure effect can be applied to
many different situations.
For example, you may have heard a song, that at
first you did not like, but after hearing it multiple
times the song grew on you.
Examples….
Relationships are often the
result of the mere exposure
effect. Most people don’t
start dating right away, but
through hanging out they
start to become attracted to
each other.
Preferred Qualities in
Partners (Buss et al., 1986)
Women Men
1) Kind/understanding Kind/understanding
2) Exciting Personality Exciting Personality
3) Intelligent Intelligent
4) Healthy Physically Attractive
5) Easy Going Healthy
6) Physically Attractive Easy Going
Who do you think is friendlier?
Who do you think is more outgoing?
To whom would you be friendlier?
Physical Attraction
“What Is Beautiful Is Good” stereotype People tend to attribute desirable characteristics such
as sociable, friendly, poised, warm,
competent, and well adjusted to
those who are good looking
Attractive children and adults
are judged and treated more
favorably
Implications for career & salary
Card activity
Don’t look at your
card.
Match with the person
with the highest card
who will also agree
to match with you.
Attractiveness
Physical
attractiveness: Hatfield, Berscheid, et al.
(1966):
Randomly matched 752
incoming students as blind
dates for an orientation
dance
MOST IMPORTANT:
physical attractiveness
But… matching effect
Matching Effect People’s perception of their
own physical attractiveness
also plays a role in romantic
love.
The tendency for men and
women to choose as
partners those who are a
"good match" in
attractiveness and other
traits.
Computer Dating Study Physical attractiveness was rated the most important
factor
Intelligence and personality were not related to future
dating
Video
How is
compatibility
calculated?
Scent of Symmetry People tend to find symmetrical
faces more attractive.
In fact, according to numerous
studies by Gangestead and
colleagues, women seem to
think that symmetrical men even
smell better, but only when their
ovulating.
Men did not seem to be able to
pick up symmetry by scent.
Attraction-Similarity What traits did you want to match your partner on?
Similarity A Great deal of evidence shows that we seek similarity
in relationships
Couples tend to be similar in age, race, religion, social class, personality, education, intelligence, physical attractiveness, and attitudes
Personality similarity related to marital happiness.
Similarity
Why do we like people like us?
Why does similarity increase relationship
satisfaction?
Mimicry-Similarity in Behavior
When we want to
belong to a group
or want others to
like us, we mimic
their behavior.
We like people
who mimic our
behavior.
People get more
similar over time
Zajonc et al. (1987)
Dissimilar looking
couples at marriage
look more similar 25
years later.
Happier couple look
more similar
Decades of shared
emotions?
Similarity to Pets
When all else fails…
Ok, so if all else fails—you’ve
moved closer to your crush,
you keep inexplicably keep
running into them (mere
exposure), you try to look as
physically attractive as
possible, you mimic their
behavior—if you’ve done all
these tricks, there’s still one
more you can try…
Misattribution of Arousal
The tendency to
mislabel our feelings of
fear arousal as feelings
of romantic arousal
Take your date
somewhere exciting,
somewhere sure to get
the adrenaline pumping.
Why do you think they
always do this kind of
date on The Bachelor?
Video
Video
Types of Love Social Psychology
Definitions of Love Passionate Love
usually present at the beginning of a love relationship
Involves absorption in another person, sexual desire, tenderness, and intense emotion.
Companionate Love deep affectionate attachment we
feel for those with whom our lives are intertwined
Definitions of Love
Three components (Sternberg, 1986) –
Intimacy, Commitment, Passion
Intimate and Love
Relationships
Intimacy: Intimacy is the
warm, close, sharing aspect
of a relationship.
Not present in all friendships
or romantic relationships
Related to self-disclosure:
revealing intimate aspects of
oneself to others
Maintaining Relationships Social Psychology
Maintaining Relationships Equity Theory
a condition in which people receive from a
relationship in proportion to what they give to it
You get what you give
Maintaining Relationships
Attachment Theory
Some researchers study the influence of childhood
attachment styles on adult relationships.
Many researchers believe that as adults, people relate to
their partners in the same way that they related to their
caretakers in infancy
Secure attachments
Avoidant attachments
Ambivalent attachments
Evolutionary Views on Choosing
Relationship Partners Social Psychology
Evolutionary views on choosing
relationship partners
Facial symmetry can be an indicator of good
health,
Many developmental abnormalities tend to
produce facial asymmetries.
A small waist-to-hip ratio, which produces an
“hourglass” figure,
Indicates high reproductive potential.
Evolutionary views by gender
Women Reproduction is longer and
riskier for women
More selective in choosing a
mate
Tend to value partners’ social
status, wealth, and ambition,
These are characteristics of
men who can successfully
provide for offspring.
Evolutionary views by gender
Men
Reproduction is quick and
easy for men
Tend to be more interested in
their partners’ youthfulness
and physical attractiveness.
These characteristics indicate
that women will be able to
reproduce successfully