the curious kat
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The Curious KAT explores that relationship that develops within self, the in-
trapersonal, and that relationship that develops between self and others,
the interpersonal, in both the primary and secondary social contexts.
The author is a dynamic therapist, trained mediator; and educator since
2000. Kerriann is also a certified Employee Assistance Programme (EAP)
Professional.
Kerriann and KarryOn have a sound appreciation that all experiences take
place within relationships of one kind or another, and therefore to improve
in understanding and practice of relationships is essentially to improve in
one’s quality of life and life satisfaction.
KarryOn
www.karryonservices.com
No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means without written permission.
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Kat waited with baited breathe to get his feedback. It seemed like an eternity before
he spoke. Then there it was a smile, slow and then ever widening. He nodded, stood
walked over to her and said; “had no idea what to expect … but truly have gained
so much.” He agreed that it was worth sharing and consented to publish it. And
now it is available for us all … this contribution and invitation into this thing we call
relationships … welcoming “The Curious Kat.”
It was weeks later that she walked past somewhere and noticed the cover, and so
she briefly recalled how it came to be.
Once upon a time there was … Kat started laughing. She recalled her meeting daily
with Lolita along her usual journey, and there was this smile nod and wave of the
hand. This pattern went on day in and day out but for one day when Lolita just
seemed to be watching at Kat but yet looking way past her. And then the pattern
returned. Kat could not contain herself and so a few days after that odd day, she
approached the lady and enquired into what was wrong on said day. Of course she
had to explain that for months now there was a pattern and that day seemed quite
different. After Lolita explained what occurred on that day, she nicked Kat, Curious
Kat and so the name was born.
Of course, thereafter each time she would pass by, Lolita would greet her with
Pleasant Day okay … Curious Kat and then they would exchange a knowing smile.
Looking into the coffee shop, Kat noticed her friend and her thoughts went to
spending a lovely evening with her friend. They had actually not spoken for some
time as much focus had gone into writing the book.
As usual it was a good time. Kat laughed and had a time and on her way home now
could not help but realize how much of the conversation was taken up with some
sort of relationship or the other.
Bedtime was always a time to relax and enjoy her evening ritual. As Kat looked at
her reflection in the mirror she recalled Chapter One of the book.
Bursts of laughter for her story was well told. But actually it really was not funny at
all. So someone in the crowd, who simply could not resist, asked her how that
made her feel. Kat remember thinking if the questioner deemed herself some sort
of psychologist or something of that sort. Anyways, the girl responded that it was
not a big deal to know that her bearer wondered where her real baby was, as the
girl then was not what was expected.
Silence was all around as she was in tears. No one knew what triggered this, only
what followed. She insisted that it is difficult for us all and recalled how the roof
was the best place to get that perfect hue. The rays of the sun would definitely do
its work there. And all this to be accepted by the family of her lover. This time it
was Kat who wanted to ask that question. Instead she just wondered what it must
be like for both women.
What is it like when the external environment applies such pressure, to make one
reflect and/or even act upon themselves to feel more accepted? And how then
does this impact the relationship one develops within? What does one say to self
internally?
And yet KAT thought, is it not all around us, in the magazines, in the movies, on the
billboards, subtle and not-so-subtle. Sometimes it is part of a culture and then we
get the messages directly and indirectly from those with whom we interact.
It suddenly hit Kat, that while these females had stories to tell, their experience is
for us all in different forms and to different extents. She also realized that the
struggle that must have developed for them, is one for us all.
It is the on-going work of building a happy healthy relationship with the one with-
in.
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Kat recalled her days in providing guidance for young ones. What struck her was
the commencing of the session series with modules on ‘who am I?’ Surely, she
thought to herself that there can be no real strides made academically if the child
had no concept of who he/she was.
And needless to say, many have contributed to the discussions, and provided
many an explanation. The basic idea remains that as time goes by the child must
build a concept of themselves physically, socially, usually begins in the family, and
personally, developing likes/dislikes, preferences, intellectually, gaining
knowledge of core facts, and of different opinions and philosophies from which
they choose. All in all this concept is noted by words such as; I am, I love/dislike, I
have, I believe and so on. This is the start of building a sense of self.
On the other hand, if the child is exposed to intense hurt, confusion and distress
in body/mind/spirit, there is this tendency to try to make sense of what is now
happening. And would you believe, the funny thing is that children have an innate
tendency to take responsibility. They wonder what they have done wrong or what
is wrong with them. It is such that threatens an acceptance of the self. For the
child in viewing the self, as bad, rejects self and now wonders what changes can
be made to them to better the situation. This thought pattern leads to feelings
and these feelings lead to behaviours. Behaviours where adjustments are made in
one way or the other to hide the self, replace the self, or repair the self. In such
cases, as time goes and interactions take place in the wider community, there is a
tendency to have an identity that simply reflects the times, and the people of the
moment. The person tends to adopt the identity of some person or persons in
the current social context. Bottom line is that there is no solid self.
One wonders then, what might be done at this point?
There are many factors that come together to help build or rather re-introduce
the solid self, when the prime time for building it is no more. For different people
the factors work and combine in their own unique way. Overall they include these.
The listing is inclusive but in no way exhaustive. It includes:
Friendly Fortune Find—Sometimes life is incredibly kind and the one who is
struggling to find their identity, meets someone who sees them and values
them at their very core. This is usually a very terrifying experience for one who
hardly now knows themselves. But once sincere, and the rejection of the self
was not too severe, and interactions continue with this person, who shows,
firm loving acceptance, then in time the self resurfaces and grows stronger and
stronger. This friendly fortune find might be in the form of a relative, friend,
spouse or therapist, sometimes it is a mix of two or more.
Focused Feeding-In the absence of the former, or sometimes if the rejection of
the self was great, there are benefits to be gained from focused feeding. This
entails creating a diet to foster self-growth. It might include mirror work, self-
talk, journaling. The idea is to feed the self with words and admonishments of
love and appreciation for qualities.
Fact Finding-At other times, enquiring from others as to their views on how
they view self, proves helpful. A few persons in different social contexts might
be selected. What would be noticed is that there will be repeated descriptions
and those would more often than not point to some aspect of self that holds
true in some measure.
It is solely up to the individual to decide which of these three might be best and
to what extent. All though have their place in developing solid self.
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While in the grocery, Kat could not help these children as they helped their parents
place items into the cart and with pushing the cart. It was the awesome look of
pride on their little faces that truly got her attention. It was a look she had seen in
different environments, but always linked to being helpful to the relating adult. Kat
reflected on how simple it was that a sense of industry started.
Based upon the idea behind psycho-social development, there are two options
available as this sense of industry develops. If one does not move toward industry
then the other option of inferiority takes hold. Simply put it is the idea of being
lower in quality or state than another. Of course, when it comes to human beings, it
is the idea of thinking of one’s self and feeling lower in quality or state to another
person or people in general.
So it is that if industry is being developed, it moves from working at helping the
adults in one’s environment in some way to discovering a desire and interest in
working toward helping people in general in some way. And when there is a mesh
between how one is helping and how one is rewarded for helping, that look of
pride of the boy or girl is found on the faces of men and women.
But before one can reach there. Most times, to varying degrees, some sort of prior
learning must take place.
And it was here that Kat considered how from very early, some parents and other
attending adults do their children and charges a dis-service. How many have taken
the time to consider why children go to school? Because it is the norm, they are
told to do so. Why aren’t more children being made to understand that student is
their occupation and their job is to learn as best they can and the reason for it?
And so many might well be unknowingly set up to develop inferiority.
With respect to industry vs. inferiority, there are two aspects worth investigating.
The first aspect of investigating industry vs. inferiority:
What is at the base of the dis-satisfaction? Often times inferiority shows up as
one simply goes through the motions, gets into a job and finds that there is a
nagging foreboding dis-satisfaction. This dis-satisfaction is usually the desire
for a sense of industry that is going unsatisfied. This has absolutely nothing to
do with how prestigious or not, or well paying or not the job is. It is a matter
of doing something that one enjoys in a reasonable measure knowing it is
making a contribution to people in some way.
What was the motivation to abandon industry? There must have been some
reason that led one to move away from industry, that is doing or working at
what they enjoyed and toward doing or working at something else. One must
consider; was it a desire to please or satisfy the desires of a parent? Was it that
they felt their area of interest was not as worthy of pursuit as one that another
person might find interesting? It is only when this is done and appreciated can
one now exchange reasons for now moving toward industry.
How to go about making the switch? If there is success during the second part
of the investigating phase, then one can now progress nicely toward career
planning. Exploring options and discovering channels to getting into the real
desired field.
Those who get blocked along any one of these phases, will come to find that they
are either quite committed and hard working in seeking to feel industrious but
resentful of the newbies who have that look on their faces. Or else might find the
feeling of dis-satisfaction spilling over into other aspects of life.
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The second aspect of investigating industry vs. inferiority:
Inconsistent Employment– Almost everyone knows of someone who is at a
job inconsistently, to the point that it is their consistency. While it might be
frustrating to others, what is often not recognized is the feeling of some sort
of unworthiness; whether it is the idea of not deserving the opportunity, or
the idea that someone else is better deserving, or of being okay until more
was required with potential for mobility in the company that again is viewed
as better for some one else. And interestingly, often the response is to show
annoyance by belittling the behaviour, when what is needed is an abundance
of patience and attempts at endorsing belief in the person. Belief that they
know what is best, it is helpful then to combine enquiring about the plans and
desires of the person and supporting such.
Poor Performance– Generally employers bring employees on board with the
expectation that given they are within their desired position, they will perform.
Yet there are varied level of performance. What is certain is that those on the
higher end have a higher level of industry. What then is the employer to do
with the employee who has no desire to leave or be dismissed and yet they
continue to perform poorly. As much as the hard-lined approach might be
taken, it is good to have progressive praise as the modus operandi. And this is
for the simple reason that one tends to perform poorly on an ongoing basis,
once all other things are equal, because it is tied to their self-perception. It is
then therefore helpful to highlight the exceptions for this employee over time
along with guides to progressive improvements. Only if this fails, then the
hardline could be drawn.
Investigating inferiority takes many forms, key is to remember that it is opposite
to industry. If industry is absent then it is usually the hidden culprit.
Kat just finished a conversation with her friend on the telephone. You could always
count on her with some weird story to share. It led Kat to thinking of the different
relationships she had developed with ones over the years. And then she recalled
Mr. Grumps as some fondly called him. He too always had a story to tell and it was
really mind-blowing how it always went back to why he chose to be a loner as he
liked to describe himself. Kat wondered at that idea of being a loner, wondered if
that were even possible.
When it comes to how we relate to others, there are really three overall trends:
A trend toward moving away from people which seemed to be the idea behind
the loner. It is the general belief that people just plain out cannot be trusted, so
sure you would interact but eventually you feel there is no choice but to move
away.
A trend toward moving against people. It seems to have the same idea of people
not being trust-worthy but with a mix of being justified in dealing with people as
one would deem fit. So eventually whether as a self-protective measure or due to
the person behaving just as one would expect, ‘wrongly ’measures are taken to
effect justice as one would deem fit.
A trend toward moving toward people. Here no rose-coloured glasses are worn
but people are viewed as generally wanting to be their best. And as for those who
choose to be less than their best, you try as much as possible to consider how they
tend to behave and make decisions accordingly.
Whichever of the three we tend toward usually reflects in our basic attitude toward
our social world. It also determines how well we bonce back when others would
disappoint us, since our trend tendency acts as a sort of default.
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One of the most common problematic manifestations of how self tends to move
in relation to others, is the tendency to:
Reduce-Life is complex. This is so because there are many factors imparting
upon us, and it is the interplay of a variety of factors that ultimately goes into
determining behaviours. It is therefore not uncommon to find that persons
with all three tendencies seeking a relationship. However, what is certain is
that even within the relationship, the tendency will show itself. Thus for both
persons who tend to move away from and move against persons, there is a
basic operation within the relationship to do things to reduce the emotional
connection. Moving away tendency might opt for simply crowding the time
for their partner with lots of activities. Moving against tendency usually shows
in behaving in ways to reduce others positive viewpoint of the partner.
Recruit– When one who tends to move away makes a decision to oblige and
enter a relationship, whether due to societal pressures or some other factor, a
way must be found to be true to the tendency. One of the easiest ways to
both be true to moving away and also maintain that societal expectation to
form a relationship, is to recruit other persons. Thus the person can move
now between relationships and feel more at ease. For the person who tends
to move against, recruiting usually carries a story of ‘bad’ behaviour of the
current partner. However, the new eventually becomes the one they would
tell about to the next recruit.
Run-Of course the most obvious response for a moving away tendency is to
just run when the other person begins to move toward a relationship.
Rampage– The most obvious for moving against is the tendency to run but
the split usually is quite ’ugly.’
Kat considered how relationship on the whole are very challenging, reflecting on
how people have to learn each other and continually work at building the type of
relationship they desire. Yet sure enough, even with two people who tend toward
moving toward people, relationships do not work out. Then Kat thought about
how much more challenging it would be if one partner tended to move away or
against people. It was then that she recalled the three measures that might be
used if there is tendency in one partner to move away:
Tackle Tension-The person who decides to enter a relationship and has that
tendency to move away, needs first and foremost be prepared to tackle some
tension. It will be uncomfortable and therefore he/she must find ways to deal
with the tension when it arises in a new way that will not sabotage the current
relationship.
Take Training-In connection, as a natural follow through, is the willingness to
take training. That training to appreciate that what the tension is, is a change in
arousal state, an increase in adrenaline that prepares him/her for flight. All that
is needed is to be able in that moment to do something productive that will
help release or decrease the adrenaline. The idea is to find an activity that will
not sabotage the relationship. Trust building exercises are also helpful.
Talk Together-This tendency developed over time and therefore it might be
helpful to talk with the partner, so that they can support efforts.
But after all is said and done, no change will hold unless the person has some real
internal motivation to change. This motivation must be tackled while it is there and
the above applied if any progress is to be made.
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One big underground topic in organizations among cohort employees that is a
part of moving against people, is workplace bullying. This occurs at a staggering
rate and results in companies losing human resources and credibility. Yet many
go along and suffer in silence. To address this aspect of moving against people
in the workplace:
Breathe–It is best for the target to remain mindful that whatever is being
done or not done to frustrate them at work, is as a result of the bully doing
all they deem necessary to make sure the target pays for some perceived
wrong. No constructive action can be taken without remaining calm. The first
measure then is to monitor breathing and keep breathing in such a way that
the stomach moves and not the chest area. Movement of the chest area is a
reflection of shallow arousal breathing.
Understand-No matter how extreme and/or unfair the behaviours, the bully
is convinced it is deserved. Therefore attempts at reasoning are futile and
any consideration is usually fake and feigned. Once this is understood efforts
are not wasted on actions that will see no change.
Learn-Learn self-protective behaviours quickly and get into action. It might
involve record-keeping, remaining silence unless in the presence of some
witness, or even working to-rule. Also learn more self-care methods and then
apply them vigorously. Bullying is not good for a persons health.
Level-The bully attacks fast and furious and has few if any limits. It is then up
to the target to find ways to level the playing field. Survey what is happening
and then take action. Leveling the field includes leaving the company for
some people.
Yield-Accept that there are thongs out of your control!
Again human dynamics are intricate. The thing is that behaviours usually occur
on a continuum. They are viewed as productive or counter-productive based
on how extreme it is along the continuum. And so it is important to really get
that people who move towards people when applying wisdom know when
and/or how to move away from some persons. They also get to the idea that at
times it might even be necessary to move against some persons, not in the
sense of attacking the person, but working to prevent some of the might be
impacts of the negative behaviours that the persons are engaging in.
It is then helpful for reporting officers to support their bosses at times. There is
the odd time when a boss is so committed to moving towards persons that
even when needed the necessary steps are not taken to move against office
behaviours that are impacting staff negatively. It is helpful then to:
Recognize-Appreciate the orientation of the boss and desist from nagging.
Report-It is imperative though to report the behaviors. Be sure to have hard
examples before reporting.
Register-Be proactive. There are steps that can be taken on a direct report
level to improve the situation. Take those steps and then register them with
the boss. Given their orientation they might not indicate but actually be
very much appreciative of the support.
Reflect-While there are some things that are outside the jurisdiction of a
direct report, a boss with this orientation is hardly likely to frown upon a
well put workable suggestion.
In situations like these a systems approach and good team work are essential.
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Kat and her friends enjoyed guy watching, really watching what they called the
oh so cute guys.
When it comes to the physical self, can anyone say Money, Money and More
Money. By far across the world this is one aspect of self that is given very high
importance. What is interesting though is how over time the industry has been
able to work more in the area of physical self-improvements. One wonders. One
must surely wonder.
This part of us though has a high level of uncontrollable factors. And while it is a
standard now that man can re-create his physical self into the preferred look,
one wonders at what this says in the psyche of man. Is the new psyche that we
work to be our best physical selves? If this is so, then one wonders again, is it
then now standard to be comfortable with being dis-satisfied with some aspect
of the physical self, once there is the opportunity to alter it to the satisfaction of
the person. So is it that we are now more satisfied with our physical self? Is it that
we have developed a ready-made dis-satisfaction action plan? Is it that now
there is no such thing as being dis-satisfied with the physical self? And this
would be because we now enter the world knowing it is either a) be satisfied or
b) accept dis-satisfaction and use the action plan to experience satisfaction.
Surely when it comes to the physical self, we are now in very interesting times.
Times that have crept upon us so incrementally that we have taken no time to
consider what it really means. But trust if a girl child begins crying because she
does not like herself and it causes problems and her mom who incidentally has
had jobs done, seeks to reassure her, and it fails, then thoughts are given to the
above. Yet with changing times it demands that we consider what it means for
how we interact ethically with those who are newly arrived.
That image that stares back at us in the mirror, is all in the eyes of the beholder.
Whatever we see reflected is a reflection of:
Single–Some people are near-sighted and some are far-sighted and their
glasses are prescribed accordingly. With regards to the self-image, we are
either single-sighted or whole-sighted. For those who are whole sighted the
reflection in the mirror is a reflection of a human being. For these persons
their outward style tend to reflect their individuality in some way. For those
who are single-sighted, their physical self is the be-all-and-end-all of their
existence. The way they look is what they are. Needless to say there is a kind
of obsessive focus on self-presentation.
Enemy-Sometimes as a result of an abuse upon the physical being, this part
of the self becomes the enemy. This puts the person at increased risk for self
-harm, anorexia/bulimia and other such behaviours.
Lifeline-Happy feelings can endure when taking in the reflection, when it is
the one thing among other disappointing aspects of self, the brings a sense
of satisfaction. In such cases, the person might be considered beautiful by
societal standards. Although it is a source of pleasure, here it is a hindrance
to the person experiencing a more meaningful life.
Fail-factor-On the opposite end, the reflection might also be the one and
only aspect of the self considered to be failing. Here the person usually finds
means of compensation. The good thing is that there is now easy access to
remedy any perceived fault. But for this person though the pervasive sense
of insecurity, creates an anxiety factor in their life, that is always with them.
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Re-imaging is often a long and tedious but worthwhile task. It involves:
Search-Searching out all those likeable traits that come together to make up
the entire being that is seen in the mirror. Interestingly, enough this sounds
so simple, yet it is so often difficult for persons to easily flow with their
strengths in all areas. But once this is done and held it helps to keep that
much needed balance in our ‘outward-looking’ society.
Empty-Other times it is a case of out with the old and in with the new. This
is when there is a lot of negativity. And one actually now must discover how
to let go of that way of seeing the self and fill up on new ways of seeing the
self. An easy exercise is to have another act as the mirror and reflect or tell all
the positive things that they see.
Leverage-The way to turn the negative lifeline image around, is to flip it to
leverage. Already there is an appreciation of the existing physical strengths,
so take the time and acknowledge them. Of course this will not be tough.
From there now think about expanding available assets. Make it fun, and
think through other aspects of self that others have identified before. Pick up
a hobby around this strength which would then allow for others to now
move the primary focus away from the physical and toward this other aspect
of the self.
Foster-Re-imaging is at its base an exercise in developing self-love. To be
effective then deliberate foster self-love by engaging in activities that help to
celebrate different parts of the self. Do things that soothe, relax, energize,
help to encourage or motivate the self and that have positive results for you
and your loved ones.
Kat found herself recalling some of the popular quotes from As A Man Thinketh
by James Allen. One in particular that always stood out for her was:
“A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently
cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it
must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an
abundance of useless weed-seeds will fall therein, and will continue to
produce their kind.”
Kat appreciated hot the quote reminded her to be the gatekeeper of her mental
garden as it were. It also highlighted the plight of many, who go about their day
to day tasks, neglecting to either recognize or remember to be the gatekeeper of
their mental gardens. The result is that some of their efforts ultimately end up
being undone. The reason being that all things are created first and foremost in
the mind.
People hardly really understand just how powerful the mind is, and that is why
Mind Control is such a powerful manipulative reality. Ironically, it is a reality that
takes place while people go through life as if in a dream. And so many without
realizing it, give their lives over to others. Many men are not even living their
own lives but that crafted by someone else.
Self-Perception is the key that unlocks the doors for outward manifestations in
all arears of a person’s life.
Kat took some time to consider how she was doing in this area.
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Another name for Self-Perception is Self-Thought. Self-Thought either works
for us or against us.
Taking-Our thoughts might without even realizing it take away from us the
capacity to produce our finest and best.
Transforming-Our thoughts have power to point the way to the things that
need to be done to shape our lives for the best possible results.
Hindering-Our thoughts might create road-blocks along a road that other-
wise seems quite clear.
Harvesting-Our thoughts are able to help us navigate a difficult course or
period in life and yield extremely positive results.
Outdating-Our thoughts might act like a broken record keeping us locked
in the past.
Ordering-Our thoughts might help direct our lives by expanding on what
we thought we were capable of with every new experience.
Undervaluing-Our thoughts might overemphasize our weaknesses.
Utilizing-Our thoughts might help us use our strengths well.
Gravitating-Our thoughts might create depressing feelings.
Guarding-Our thoughts might help us to think about how we think.
Hitting-Our thoughts might be abusing and hurting our social life.
Hoping-Our thoughts might fuel us with optimism.
Taxing-Our thoughts might be draining our energy.
Tiding-Our thoughts might help bring order to a messy situation.
Kat and her friends were having a fun time hanging out. They were particularly
taking pleasure in exchanging parent stories. It led her later to thinking about
the way people relate across generations. In this way culture also speaks to that
family culture that develops, the way that communications take place between
the members both verbal and non-verbal. The subtle unspoken understanding
when a particular word, tone or name is used.
Some of this we are aware of. It was this awareness that provided the laughs
when Kat met with her friends that evening. But then there are those that are
ever present and some members might be aware of while from others it remains
hidden.
Whether aware or not, we are impacted both in a negative and positive way and
there is always room for improvement.
There is an aspect of this type of relations that makes it extra tricky. If there is to
be any adjustments it requires that the members make the adjustment and yet
the members operate within a system. Understanding systems is to understand
that systems maintain themselves. And so if one or more members attempt to
do anything new, it is a systems law that one or more members will behave in
such a way to help keep things just as they are. It is this type of dynamic that at
times frustrates members who try to introduce new positive ways into the family
system. And as such, a very common part of this type of relation is the trend to
cut off family members and start anew.
Now while it might be positively impactful at times to reduce contact for some
period and then slowly re-engage, to totally cut off members is unproductive
for it introduces the moving away from people paradigm in its extreme.
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It is held by some that the initial inter-generational interaction between parent and
child forms the blueprint for the partner the adult eventually selects. Modern views
might suggest that it is the most prominent adult figure be it parent or other the
creates this blueprint. Either way what is a regrettably common occurring dynamic
is that, the person who develops and maintain an issue with a parent be it the
mother or father will unknowingly and unwittingly select a partner with the exact
traits that they do not like. Often that person wakes up to find that they and their
spouse have become his/her parents. And so an inter-generational pattern is born.
Unfortunately though this is not one that is pleasant. In fact it is a pattern that
tends to often decrease the making of healthy relationships. In such cases, the one
who was selected, was selected as a sort of parent replacement. Such situations are
remedied if there is a move to:
Inspect the factors that really led to choosing of the partner. This is sometimes
grueling but it is the only way to open the gateway to release from negative
emotional ties that have shown up in the current relationship.
Navigate the course of the current relationship by considering what are the
traits that are unique to the partner. Traits that do not tie the partner to the
parent.
Travel back in time and recall how the relationship dynamics played out. Then
travel again to the present and search for differences in your relationship.
Educate yourself now very deliberately on how to build healthy relationships.
Look for couples that display aspects of what you would desire.
Re-create now the current relationship based on what you value and want for
your relationship as opposed to it being a current reincarnation of the past.
Kat had just signed her final book, the book signing was finished. Next they were
moving toward the area set up for discussions. As Kat walked toward this area
she thought of how many times ‘The Curious Kat’ could have been but was
not. She thought too about how it almost never came to be for there was this
pull for months but she kept pushing it aside. She had to ask herself some tough
questions then, the main being, what was her real objective? Once Kat kept at the
fore front her guiding mission, she realized the book was destined to be created.
The mid-morning discussions went well. It was an interesting exchange and Kat
learned as much from the persons present as they seemed to from her.
This led Kat to feeling a deep sense of awe now at how there is always this on-
going Universal flow of energy. Too often many forget that nothing is ever one
way or unidirectional. We impact each other.
It was a rainy evening. Kat took to the verandah with her cup of tea in hand, she
was enjoying the evening as she looked at the relaxing raindrops. Reflecting how
the raindrops did its job of refreshing and nourishing the plants as it hit upon the
lush green leaves and the rich brown of the earth.
And is it not true for us all, that we too like raindrops have the potential to enrich
our world. We have the potential to use our talents, skills, training, expertise to
nourish and refresh our world in some way. Helping it to move in the along in the
most positive progressive way possible.
Kat could only hope that in some small measure this is what ‘The Curious Kat’
might do now and continue to do in the future. She smiled and released all
thoughts of the book now freeing it to go where needs be.
As Kat lay now in bed, she took a moment to remember all who contributed to
her being and felt a rush of happiness. With these thoughts Kat ushered in her
much needed rest to embrace fully the new day.
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