responsibility: give it to get it ralph whalen, parents & students december 2, 2009 welcome

Responsibility: Give It to Get It

Ralph Whalen, Parents & Students

December 2, 2009

Welcome

Student Panel

Parent Q: Reaction to Students

Guidance

Adding Responsibilities

When Not R.

Financial R.

Q & A

HandoutsNext SeminarsEvaluation

Meeting Overview

GoalsConnect with others.

Learn one idea about responsibility that will help you in your family.

Learn from each other.

Middle School Students

How have responsibilities at school changed from grade three to grade eight?

At home?At School?For Self Care?For Others?

Grade 8: Carl B.Dominique B.

Grade 7: Alex L.Vergil H.Vincent H.

Middle School Students

What consequences have you “heard” parents use for irresponsible behavior?

At home?At School?For Self Care?For Others?

Grade 8: Carl B.Dominique B.

Grade 7: Alex L.Vergil H.Vincent H.

Round Table Discussion

Introduce Yourself

What did the students say that you think all parents should hear?

What surprised you?

Why ImportantAge 18

Competence

Confidence

Self Esteem

Why A Grade Three UnitPreteen Age

More Choices

Field Trips

Camp

Grade 3 Teachers’ Expectations

Classroom Routines

Organize Materials

Follow Directions

Homework by Yourself

Ask for help

Control Actions

Go Quietly to __

Work time VS Playtime

Bonus: Show initiative

What Would You Do?

What Would You Do?

Student Sheet

Student Sheets

Partner Talk: What could you change?

More Responsibilities Guidelines

Age

Safety

Ability

Family values

Cost

Rites of passage

Giving New Responsibilities

Decide what

Time for training

Model

Freedom to fail

Watch for Monkeys

Irresponsibility Consequences

Natural Consequences

Logical Consequences

Would You Do This?

Logical ConsequencesLink behavior to consequence

Goal: to teach

Immediacy

Testing period

Consistency

Responsibility Problems

Not enough

Too much

Domestic help

Not doing his/her part

Partner Discussion

Look at the handout. What logical consequence could you use?

Social Responsibility

Financial Responsibility

Spend, Save, Give

Trip money

Gift money

Allowance

AllowancePurpose

Earned or given

Age to start

Amount

Parameters

Age to end

Q & A

SummaryHandouts

Evaluation

Next Year?