resilience, a lifelong skill
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Resilience is the ability to positively adapt, grow, and thrive no matter what rides into
your life. Elizabeth Wallace
Tarleton State University
Jolyn DahlvigCalvin College
Students who stop going to class Students who don’t complete
assignments-or promised follow-up Students who drop classes Students who fail to attend events Students who give up by mid-Fall Students who can’t navigate
interpersonal relationships
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Four uses of resilience Overcome obstacles
Steer through daily adversity
Recover from crisis
Open up to new experiences
Resilience helps students:
Connect
Persist
Succeed
Expand horizons
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Refocus on the human strengths
Individuals are capable of life change “Explanatory style” or thinking is the
key to resilience
Accurate thinking however is critical
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Me vs Not MeAlways vs Not AlwaysEverything vs Not Everything
Emotion Regulation
Controlling Impulses
Empathy
Optimism
Analysis of Cause
Self-Efficacy
Expanding-reaching outĴ
1. Understanding our ABCDE’s1. Adversity, Belief, Consequences Disputation,
Energization
2. Avoiding Traps in Thinking3. Detecting Icebergs4. Dissecting and Challenging
Thinking5. Taking Perspective6. Calming & focusing7. Getting Real
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Adversity:
Consequences:• • • • • • •
Beliefs:• • • • • • •
Adversity: (record objective facts-who, what, when, and where)
Chef Kate came back from time off after her sister died and found that her boss had hired a Sous Chef from an Italian restaurant named Nick.
Consequences(record the emotions felt and the
consequences as a result of the emotion):• Disbelief- denial: ignore Nick’s presence• Rude- perpetuate perception that she can’t handle people• Betrayal- gave all my expertise and return/this is the result: yell at my boss • Anger- silent treatment
and yelling • Fear- incapable of seeing the opportunity •
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Beliefs-Ticker Tape (record any beliefs without censor that come from the adverse situation):
•They found a replacement•My boss hired him•My boss thinks he is good•My boss wants to replace me •I am not good enough •I will not have a job •I will lose who I am Ĵ
Adversity: Let’s use our own example:
Consequences:• • • • • • •
Beliefs:• • • • • • •
Jumping to conclusions Tunnel vision Magnifying & minimizing Personalizing Externalizing Overgeneralizing
Different than surface beliefs Fundamental Deep-rooted Define “who you are” Define “your place in the world”
Achievement
Acceptance
Control
Map The A-B-C Check the B-C Connection
Are the “C’s” out of proportion?Do the “C’s” match the “B’s?”
If yes, :What does that mean to me?What is the most upsetting part of that for
me?
Identify worst case
Determine likelihood
Identify best case
Determine most likely outcomes
Identify Solutions
Worst Case
Beliefs
How Likely?
Best Case Beliefs
Likely Outcom
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Solutions
Worst Case
BeliefsDetermined
to not be a good enough
chef
Fired from job
How Likely?
Not at all likely
Not likely
Best Case Beliefs
Receive world wide
recognition
Instantly able to
relate to people
Likely Outcom
esLearn to work with Sous Chef
Encounter some
conflict on the way
SolutionsSpend time getting to know Sous Chef
Ask what Sous Chef is interested in learning/gaining
Work on listening skill set Ĵ
Worst Case
Beliefs
How Likely?
Best Case Beliefs
Likely Outcom
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Solutions
Calming Techniques Educators already use!Positive RefocusingMentoring Techniques
Three MantrasA more accurate way to view this could be:That’s not true because:A more likely outcome would be:
First Generation Study Grant
Possible positive impact on RETENTION
ResilienceReivich, K. & Shatte, A. (2002) The resilience factor; 7 essential skills for overcoming life’s inevitable obstacles. Broadway Books, New York.Wallace, E., (2007). The construct of resilience. Unpublished manuscript.
Self EfficacyWallace, E., (2008) Well-being, self-efficacy, and engagement at Tarleton State University. Unpublished manuscript.
Emotional IntelligenceGoleman, D. Boyatzis, R. McKee, A. (2002) Primal leadership; Learning to lead with emotional intelligence. Harvard Business School Press. Boston, Massachusetts.
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