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Maximizing ROP:Return on Positivity

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50%

10%

40%Genetics,Background & Programming

Circumstances

What you can control and change

Source: The How of Happiness, Sonya Lyubormirski

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ROH: Return on Happiness Doctors put in a positive mood

3x more intelligence and creativity Accurate diagnosis 19% faster

Optimistic sales people Outsell their pessimistic peers

by up to 56% Students primed to be happy

Outperform their neutral peers on proficiency tests

“Optimism is a force multiplier” Colin Powell

ROH: 7 times the benefit Handle stress and uncertainty better Increased creativity and innovation Greater trust Better problem solving Less conflict and contention – better

relationships Lower workplace turnover Healthier and happier

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“You don’t have to get mad just because you don’t know the answer!”

Who’s king of the jungle?

ROV: Return on Value –

Personal Value

Give yourself more credit!What you

do!

Who you are!

Your roles, your net worth, your mistakes, service to others,

profession, accomplishments, awards, recognition, your weight,

your looks, your body, etc..

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I make mistakes

I am a bad person!

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Incompetent

Inadequate

I am able to do good things!

I am a good person!

Competent

Adequate

W.A.I.D.T.Why am I doing this?

ROSA: Return on Self-

Acceptance

You are OK!

You are not perfect You are unable to meet

everyone’s expectations

Your weaknesses don’t define you

Though you could be better – you are OK.

ROS: Return on Strengths

Maximizing your strengths!

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Your Strengths Equation

Strength

Talents& Gifts

Skills Acquired abilitiesIntellect Factual KnowledgeExperience Experiential Knowledge

Time Invested

S =T&G

xSIE

x Time

People who focus on their talents are 6 times more likely

to be successful in their job and 3 times more likely to report an excellent quality of life.

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I AM STRONG

T: Top of Mind and gut reactions

R: Recurring themes, situations or requests

I: Insights from those who ‘believe’ in you

P: Passions and yearnings

L: Learning (speed) – how fast you learn

E: Effortless (or Flow)

S: Satisfaction and fulfillment

Discovering your talents: T.R.I.P.L.E.S.

Adapted from Now Discover Your Strengths by Donald Clifton

• Take Charge• Communicator• Inclusive• Observation• Thinker• Competition• Connectedness• Vigilant• Coach• Fairness• Goal Oriented• Ideation• Innovator• Collector

• Add value• Optimism• Relationships• Ownership• Problem Solver• Self-Assurance• Meaningfulness• Strategic• Rapport• Kind • Framer• Careful• Orderly

• Perseverance• Empathy• Resilience• Compassion• Learning• Curious• Deduction• Collaborative• Peacemaker• Achievement• Action• Adaptability• Analytical• Arranger• Ethical

Talents – A new vocabulary

Adapted from Now Discover Your Strengths by Donald Clifton

ROF: Return on Failure

ROT: Return on Trust

Sine qua non“Without which –

no”

The Formula to Build and Maintain Trust

T: Trustworthy

R: Responsible

U: Under-react

S: Sincerity

T: Transparency

ROD: Return on Discipline

Think small

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ROW: Return on Who!

(not What!)

Harvard Men’s Study:1930 to Present Day

“After 70 years of research it is clear that people matter, and matter more

than anything else.” George Vaillant

Facts

Feelings

Needs

Out

side

inInside out

Return on Who – not What!

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Key phrases to focus on who! “I am willing to consider that you may be right – but I

need more information…”

“I can tell this is important to you. Can you tell more about what this means to you?”

“Before we continue to disagree, what is it we agree on?”

“Can I have some time to process this so that I can give you a thoughtful response?”

“Did I?”

ROQ: Return on Quiet

坐下闭嘴SDASU

Sit down and shut up!

Follow this simple formula:

W.A.I.T.Why am I talking?

Questions?

Maximize ROP: Return on Positivity

ROV: ValueROSA: AcceptanceROS: StrengthsROF: FailureROT: TrustR.O.D. DisciplineROW: WhoROQ: Quiet

Tomorrow:The Optimist’sAdvantage

Thank you

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