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Harness the Good

Accomplishing God’s Work

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• mormon.org

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• josephsmith.net

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“…to assist by correcting

the morals and

strengthening the virtues of

the community.”

Teachings, Joseph Smith

p.452

“Refuse to be used. Refuse to be

manipulated. Refuse to support programs

that violate traditional family values. We may

be a small voice to begin with; nevertheless

let us speak out and encourage a more

uplifting, inspiring, and acceptable media.”

Elder M. Russell Ballard

General Conference, October 2003

The Dark Side

• Infidelity

The Dark Side

• Infidelity

• Cyberbullying

The Dark Side

• Infidelity

• Cyberbullying

• Internet addictions

The Dark Side

• Infidelity

• Cyberbullying

• Internet addictions

• Stealing of personal information

The Dark Side

• Infidelity

• Cyberbullying

• Internet addictions

• Stealing of personal information

• Sexting

The Dark Side

• Infidelity

• Cyberbullying

• Internet addictions

• Stealing of personal information

• Sexting

• Pornography

Sister Julie Beck

Our Might

• Power as a daughter of God

• Power from your covenants

• Power of the Holy Ghost

• Power from education

• Power in faith – you are not afraid to fight

for your family

• Power in uniting with others

• You are on the Lord’s side. His power is

mightier than those of the adversary.

Rationalizations

• I don’t know enough about all this new

technology. I’m overwhelmed.

• My husband does the computer stuff.

• I don’t want to foster curiosity.

• This will never be a problem with “my

kids,” they are too bright.

• It’s not really as bad as they say.

Non-Tech Prevention

• Set personal & family media

standards

• Clean & Safe Media Pledge

1. Have a family plan for dealing with media use

Non-Tech Prevention

• Set personal & family media standards

• Clean & Safe Media Pledge

• Internet Safety 101 Pledge

1. Have a family plan for dealing with media use

Non-Tech Prevention

• Set personal & family media standards

• Clean & Safe Media Pledge

• Internet Safety 101 Pledge

• 2012 February Ensign

1. Have a family plan for dealing with media use

Non-Tech Prevention

• Set personal & family media standards

• Clean & Safe Media Pledge

• Internet Safety 101 Pledge

• 2012 February Ensign

• Make an inventory

• Plan to monitor

• Agree, sign, and post

1. Have a family plan for dealing with media use

Jill Manning, Ph.D. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Non-Tech Prevention

• Layer with your values

• Be honest

• Avoid creating sexual shame

• Ask questions

• Never over-react

2. Have frequent dialogues

Possible Questions to Ask

• I saw something on the internet that made me

embarrassed/sad, scared/uncomfortable. What

do you do when that happens to you?

• Why should we keep our personal information

private? What is personal information.

• I did an internet search and accidentally saw

pictures of nude men and women. What can we

do when that happens?

• I saw some friends looking at pictures I found

disrespectful. What would you have done?

Possible Questions to Ask

• What do you post in your on-line profiles?

• Do you know what pornography is?

• What kind of a problem is pornography at your

school?

• When was the last time you saw pornography?

• How does your use of media affect your ability

to feel the Spirit or to love and serve others?

Non-Tech Prevention

• Sample lessons at

salifeline.org

• The Parents Guide

• Role play - a time to try

different responses

3. Teach true principles and let them practice

Let’s Role-Play

• You see pictures of people who don’t have

clothes on?

• You see a pop-up for a free game or give away?

• You get trapped on a website with inappropriate

content?

• You encounter online bullying directed at you or

others?

• A new online friend wants to meet you in person?

Let’s Role-Play

• Your friend wants you to see naked pictures

on his cell phone?

• Suggestive or sexual material is sent to you

on your phone, Facebook, or other media?

• Someone passes on to you something that

would hurt, embarrass or offend someone?

• Others say there is nothing wrong with porn,

you’re just being a prude.

Tech Prevention

• Learn to check your Browser History

• Google Search – How do I check my browser

history?

• Install Filters (toptenreviews.com)

Tech Prevention

• Monitoring Software (toptenreviews.com)

• Parental Controls on Gaming Consoles

• internetsafety101.org – “video game safety”

Tech Prevention

• Parental Controls on Cell Phones

• internetsafety101.org – “mobile device options”

• Monitor File-Sharing – P2P & “cloud” storage

You don’t need to do it all

• Decide on ONE thing.

• DO IT.

• Invite others to do the same.

Female elephants circle

to protect their young.

“The time has come when members of the

Church need to speak out and join with many

other concerned people in opposition to the

offensive, destructive, and mean-spirited

media influence that is sweeping over the

earth.”

Elder M. Russell Ballard

General Conference, October 2003

“May we continue to

oppose evil wherever it is

found.”

President Thomas S. Monson

General Conference, April 2012

You CAN make a difference

a minute at a time!

1. Use your sphere of influence.

2. Reach out to your community.

You CAN make a difference

a minute at a time!

3. Join with others on social media.

You CAN make a difference

a minute at a time!

4. Organizations to help you.

• womenfordecency.org

• combatingpornography.org

• netsmartz.org

• enough.org

• fightthenewdrug.org

• pornharms.org

• moralityinmedia.org

• iKeepSafe.org

• beautyredefined.org

• internetsafety101.org

• salifeline.org

You CAN make a difference

a minute at a time!

You are not alone.

You are women of

power!