habits: building good, breaking bad

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Building Good,

Breaking Bad

Habits

James 4

Summitpointe, Milpitas, CA

Developing good habits,

purging bad habits

Why?

DEFINITION

More or less fixed way of thinking, willing or feeling acquired

through previous repetition of a mental experience.

Acting “without thinking”

What’s a Habit?

B. R. Andrews,

The American Journal of Psychology (1903)

Psychologist Jeremy Dean

Making Habits, Breaking Habits

ICE BREAKER

Name one good habit

Describe one bad habit

What’s Your Favorite Habit?

ICE BREAKER

Good Habits Examples

ICE BREAKER

Examples

Bad Habits

How did you decide what’s a good (vs. bad) habit?

If you are a forgetful person, would you still do your good habit?

WHY?

Do without thinking

Keep organized

Stay alive

Advantages of Habits

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http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

Which habits should you adopt for yourself?

http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

WHO’S INTELLIGENT?

Intelligence Quotient

An indicator of an individual’s

mental abilities relative to

others of approximately the

same age.

http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

PERSISTENT

http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

SET GOALS

http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

READ

http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

COGNITIVE SKILLS

http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

BINGE DRINKING

http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

RECREATIONAL DRUGS

http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

SLEEP DEPRIVED

http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

ANXIOUS

http://www.online-phd-programs.org/smart-people/

ANXIOUS

Developing Good Habits

Trigger

RoutineReward

Developing Good Habits

Trigger

RoutineReward

1. Go to bed

2. Brush teeth

3. Receive praise

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EVALUATION

1. What’s the trigger?

2. What is your routine?

3. What reward do you receive?

For Your Good Habit(s)

http://inkcloth.com/good-habits-for-kids-to-learn/

Sneezing

EVALUATION

1. What’s the trigger?

2. What is your routine?

3. What reward do you receive?

For Your Bad Habit(s)

http://www.wowshack.com/a-faux-pas-or-a-way-of-life-14-classic-indonesian-habits/

Anti-social

JAMES 4.17 ESV

So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.

Sin of Personal Omission

Knows the right thing to do

Fails to do the right thing

Doing What You Should

Is getting a low test score a sin?

Is not doing your homework a sin?

1 CORINTHIANS 10.13 ESV

No temptation has overtaken you that is

not common to man. God is faithful, and

he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he

will also provide the way of escape, that

you may be able to endure it.

Temptation

What’s the right way to deal with temptation?

Avogel.ca

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Long Term Habits

Samuel Smiles

Sow a thought, and you reap an act;

Sow an act, and you reap a habit;

Sow a habit, and you reap a character;

Sow a character, and you reap a destiny.

http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/94528.Samuel_Smiles

Long Term Habits

Mahatma Gandhi

Your beliefs become your thoughts,

Your thoughts become your words,

Your words become your actions,

Your actions become your habits,

Your habits become your values,

Your values become your destiny.

http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/5810891.Mahatma_Gandhi

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Years ago I responded to letters within a

couple of weeks and kept my

correspondents happy. Then came the

fax machine, and they seemed content

with receiving a response within a

couple of days. Today, with email, instant

messaging, and mobile phones, a

response is expected the same day!

Be Still

http://odb.org/2016/02/22/be-still-3/

Personal Devotion

2

“Be still, and know that I am God.” In this familiar

verse from Psalm 46 I read two commands of equal

importance. First, we must be still, something that

modern life conspires against. In this hectic, buzzing

world, even a few moments of quiet do not come

naturally to us. And stillness prepares us for the

second command: “Know that I am God; I will be

exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the

earth.” In the midst of a world that colludes to

suppress, not exalt, God, how do I carve out time

and allow Him to nourish my inner life?

Be Still

http://odb.org/2016/02/22/be-still-3/

Personal Devotion

3

“Prayer,” writes Patricia Hampl, “is a habit of

attention brought to bear on all that is.” Ah, prayer

. . . a habit of attention. Be still and know. The first

step in prayer is to acknowledge or to “know” that

God is God. And in that attention, that focus, all

else comes into focus. Prayer allows us to admit our

failures, weaknesses, and limitations to the One

who responds to human vulnerability with infinite

mercy.

Be Still

http://odb.org/2016/02/22/be-still-3/

Personal Devotion

3

Dear Lord, help me to be still. Nourish my soul as I

spend time with You in prayer.

In prayer, God can quiet our minds.

Be Still

http://odb.org/2016/02/22/be-still-3/

Personal Devotion

NEXT TIME – IDENTIFYING BAD HABITS

Pick 1 bad habit you’d like to break

Pick 1 good habit you want to build

Habits

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