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‘Life’s Journey: Helping your daughter write her story’
Consultation Sessions
• self-initiated sessions with teachers
• teachers availability – book early!
Remedial
• selected students whom the teachers think will benefit from the sessions
Stretch Programme
• begins in Term 3
• hone their skills
• time management
What your daughter experiences in school
2-minute Quiet Time
• daily routine in school – set priorities of the day; stay calm and be focused
Reading Period (Tuesday & Thursday)
• Short articles to help them to know about contemporary issues
Realistic Goal Setting + Charting the process to reach their goals
• SMART goals – small steps to success
• Making informed education & career decisions
Strategies
• Quiz yourself, make mind maps, make notes etc
What your daughter experiences in school
Good attendance in school
Keep abreast of the homework
• building blocks
• scaffold their learning
• ask questions to address their gaps
Supporting your daughter in school
Nutrition and Food intake
• breakfast at the start of the day is a good habit to have
• water
• small meals
Healthy sleep
• adequate and quality sleep
• electronic devices
Exercise
• a family activity?
• stretching and moving around
Supporting your daughter in school
Cognitive Biases
HaloHorn
Attribution errors
A single characteristic
Overshadowsall other
qualities
The kind of issues seen in Upper Secondary students
(Motivation Issues) Disparity between
perceived expectations and performance
Transition Issues
Relational issues: peers and family
Self-esteem/self-worth issues
Problem Areas
What contributes to academic success?
Personality
Traits: Conscientiousness
Qualities,
e.g.: self-control
Rimfield, K., Dale, P.S., Kovas, Y., Plomin, R., (2016); True Grit and Genetics: Predicting Academic Achievement
from Personality; Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 111(3), 780 -789
Make time to support your daughter
Model a growth mindset
Help her focus on her strengths Help her maintain a healthyperspective despite setbacks
Help her develop a sense of purpose that keeps her anchored to her goal
Empower her to voice ideas and act on her chosen pathway
Encourage self-control but do not demand it
Help her with selective focus to develop cognitive reasoning
How do we help?
Balance is key
Working in a smart manner versus working hard
Seeking help versus waiting for help to be given
Pressuriseoneself with impossible deadlines
The Yerkes-Dodson Law
Source:
https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/5/5f/HebbianYerkesDodson.JPG ,
retrieved on 23 February 2017
• Executive Functions
Sleeplessness
May cause cravings, thereby leading to unhealthy habits
Disrupts focus and concentration, which may result in tension
headachesSource: The Straits Times (2013); URL: http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/lack-of-sleep-is-
nothing-to-yawn-about
•Planning and Organising
Building congruence
Is learning to let go
• Of fears
• Of rigid beliefs
Is taking the time to be still
• To pace yourself
• To re-charge and renew
Is re-gaining focus
• By building awareness
• By letting go of distractions
Helping her write her story….and making it her bestseller
Learning Zone Performance Zone
Have a growth mindset –the goal is to improve
Execute
Deliberate practice Concentrate on what we have mastered
Use feedback to hone skills;
mistakes are expected
Minimise mistakes
Get guidance from a skilled coach
Perform flawlessly but stay within what you
knowBrinceno, E., (2016); How to get better at the things you care about; TEDx Manhattan Beach; URL: https://www.ted.com/talks/eduardo_briceno_how_to_get_better_at_the_things_you_care_about accessed 20 February 2018
DJ Samy Irssak (2016); URL:
https://www.google.com.sg/search?q=samy+irssak+quotes&sa=X&espv=2&biw=1366&bih=638&tbm=isch&tbo=u&sour
ce=univ&ved=0ahUKEwiKw5bOjZnRAhXBOI8KHU9wCgQQsAQIGA#imgrc=XM9Gp7batLgZCM%3A, retrieved on
29/12/2016
Your aspirations
Her dreams
Your daughter – always a flower in your eyes
Your observant eyesYour attentionYour unwavering support
You are the window to her future
Be Present
Be Proud
Let’s work together to realise her dreams