ACTUALLY LISTENAbandoning the three faults of a vessel

How good do you think your capability at listening to others?

Importance of listening – what are the bad habits in listening?

A vessel might have the following three faults

Introduce the vessel – analogy:

1. A vessel being upside down◦Not go inside (cannot be filled)

◦Do not pay attention

◦What are we thinking when others are talking?

Video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6TeOGJP5vGA Bad listeners

2. Though held right side up, being dirty/contaminated

◦Go inside, but be unable to fulfil its function - cannot be drunk, because it is contaminated by filth

◦ Though paying attention, misunderstand what is heard or listen with a bad motivation such as attachment

Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ne0Z_fwIXw4 Milo

Can you see any different perception lurking in your mind?

3. Though clean, having a leaky bottom

◦Not be polluted by filth, yet not remain inside and drain away

◦Though lacking the last two faults, do not solidify the words and meanings taken in at the time of hearing but let them fade due to forgetting them and so forth.

How much can you remember from the last class?

◦ Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aP55nA8fQ9I Raymond

◦ Abandoning the three faults of a vessel – how to ‘actually listen’?

Role play: Messenger

◦Concentration

◦Staying one-pointed, attentive, with your mind focused

1. Remedies - A vessel being upside down

2. Remedies - being dirty/contaminated◦Listen while wanting to understand everything

Tips:

◦Did you Interrupt in the middle of a conversation?

◦Do you think you know better than the people you are talking to? And you really want to correct them?

3. Remedies - leaky bottom

◦Hold it in mind

◦Reflecting with complete composure.

Your turn now ~

◦Observe what you have been doing while listening to others; are you in the three faults?

◦ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TA-RaDNVKpw Good example of Actually listen

◦ Internet source:

◦ http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-purified-water.htm#glass-of-dirty-water

◦ http://www.masterfile.com/stock-photography/image/676-02367840/Hand-pouring-water-from-a-glass-into-a-leaking-pail