a family ministry initiative
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A Family Ministry Initiative U.A.E - Vicariate Of Southern Arabia.
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Q. What is the WAVE Program ? A. Wave is a campaign to develop violence free families
by uprooting the seeds of
violence.
WAVE We Abhor Violence Everywhere
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Q. What does WAVE aim to achieve ?
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A. This campaign hopes to: • Identify the root causes of violence
• Increase Awareness about every form of violence
• Build a culture of love, respect and appreciation
between all men, women and children, communities and religions.
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As we glance through the news in the media, we can notice an increase in the incidents of violence
among nations, in society – the shocking increase in violence against women has hit us all. �
More alarmingly, we are witnessing a great increase in the magnitude of dysfunction and
violence within the family itself, the very basic unit of society. �
�IF WE WANT A STABLE SOCIETY �
WE MUST BUILD STABLE FAMILIES ��
Pope John Paul II – “the future of humanity passes by way of the family” �
“The Family is the building block of society. The Family is an in8mate communion of
love and life" (Familiaris Consor8o,17)
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DOMESTIC CHURCH
Violence Is Violence is Not
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ü Intentional use of Force or Power threatened or actual -
ü Against self, another or a group
ü Results in psychological harm, death, injury, deprivation or mal-development
× Occasional expression or display of anger & frustration
× Consensual physical combat
× An argument or conflict
× Restraining another to prevent harm
Dimensions of Violence
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PHYSICAL – This is the most evident form- pushing, pinching, suffocating, strangling, kidnapping etc.
PSYCHOLOGICAL – Making the victim think he/she is crazy, humiliation, controlling the movements, who he/she talks to; blaming victim for abusive behaviour, accusing of infidelity to justify abusive behaviour, , denying the abuse, refusing to talk ...
THREATS – intimidation / instilling fear for kidnap or sole custody/ threatening suicide/injury; false allegations to the police / press
SEXUAL – Raping/forcing sexual practices/ forcing abortion/ birth control/ extramarital or sexual affairs / sexually assaulting children
ECONOMIC: Preventing employment or education, with holding money, prohibiting access to family income; lying about financial assets; making the victim beg; forcing victim to handover income; not contributing to bills / child support etc ...
ENTITLEMENT: treating the victim like a slave/ making all decisions for the victim and the children/ defining gender roles ...
CYBER: Cyber bullying / taunting / character assasination / humiliation etc.
VIOLENCE CUTS ACROSS EVERY
SEGMENT OF SOCIETY
AND OCCURS IN ALL
AGE, RACIAL, ETHNIC, SOCIO-ECONOMIC,
SEXUAL ORIENTATION AND RELIGIOUS
GROUPS
Case 1:
Roma, Myra and Susan are jealous of their classmate Abha and decide to mock her all over Facebook,
Abha finally closes her account. Would you say that Roma, Myra & Susan’s behavior is
violent?
Share Your Thoughts … Is This Violence ?
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Share Your Thoughts… Is This Violence ?
Case 2:
David and Rochelle, together in college, are in a
physical relationship.
Rochelle breaks the shocking news that she is pregnant but believes that they should have the baby and get
married. David is aghast!
He convinces her to have an abortion so that no one will know and they will not be embarrassed.
Would you say that David’s behavior is violent?
Share Your Thoughts… Is This Violence ?
Case 3:
Jimmy is a small-built child, very shy and a bit slow to do things.
In his family he is called “mouse ” because he nibbles his food and always seems to prefer hiding
away in a corner of the room. His sister is head-girl at school and is embarrassed to
acknowledge that he is her brother.
Would you say that the family’s behavior is violent?
Q. What is WAVE hoping to achieve with you ?
A. Seeking to Eliminate VIOLENCE in Families !
WAVE
The first exposure to Violence begins @ Home
Children are often silent witnesses What do they see?
ü Parental Relationship ü Parental Role - Sharing vs
Demarcation ü Problem Solving ü Relationship with other family
members ü Treatment of hired help
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Children and Violence
They start to experiment out with siblings, friends &
peers, the same behavior
as part of their daily
observing & learning experiences. 18
Yes !! Children can
hear & see You.
Children and Violence
Violent domestic interactions are passed on from generation to
generation and begin to be
seen as normal
behaviour19
Violence hurts You…
Effects of Violence in one’s life: Ø Difficulty in controlling anger Ø Mental health issues Ø Suicidal thoughts Ø Abusive relationship towards others Ø Addiction issues Ø Learning disabilities Ø Criminal behavior tendencies
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Q. How can YOU make a change in your life?
A. By changing the way you THINK & FEEL !
WAVE
How do i React?
What are the alterna2ves?
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BE the CHANGE
1. How do I react to
a situation?
2. What are the
alternatives?
Thoughts for Reflection
× Giving back in the same measure for instant gratification ?
× Paying back with interest – doubling the damage
× Walking away now – postponing your revenge
× Taking it out on your own family
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Thought 1 : How Do I React ?
What do you think of ?
Can I choose the Non Violent Alternative?
- Assess the magnitude of the situation feel empowered to resolve the problem - Seek legal recourse where required - Seek medical recourse where required - Separate the person from the action
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Thought 2 : What are my alternatives?
Have you ever thought of forgiveness???
Being Non-Violent
• Being secure in myself
• Being strong and empowered
• Being in control
• Being a leader of CHANGE
• Being a role-model
• Taking the road less travelled 25
means
• Healthyreaction&entertainment • Listen and talk • Reality vs fantasy • Expressing emotions • Appreciate • Reinforce values • Live with respect for oneself &
others
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How Do We Help Each Other to Build Non-Violence? COMMUNICATION
My Faith and Non-Violence
Do we choose to see what our
CHRISTIAN faith says about this ?
or Do we choose to build and propagate
our own interpretations? 27
What does our faith tell us? ������������
This is the Golden Rule of Conduct – mutual tolerance which gives us a key to a non-
violent existence.
The Fruits of Non-Violence
ü A Peaceful Mind ü Health of Mind , Body and
Spirit..
ü Role model for one’s society
ü A New Attitude & Culture – A NON-VIOLENT CULTURE
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Teaching our children non-violent behaviour
builds a culture of non-violence for the next generation
PARENTS ��
Let us help our children see themselves as skilled problem solvers ... �
�Empower them with the ability to transform
conflicts into peaceful and gratifying situations. �
�Teach them what to say and do when
conflicts arise. ��
CHILDREN NEED TO BE CONVINCED THAT POSITIVE CONFLICT RESOLUTION IS POSSIBLE
My Commitment to Peace
Lord, make me an instrument of Your peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; where there is sadness, joy.!
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My Commitment to Peace !
O, Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love; For it is in giving that we receive; it is in pardoning that we are pardoned; it is in dying that we are born again to eternal life.!
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�Be part of our campaign and create a �
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to turn the tide and make our world a safer place, starting first and
foremost with our domestic churches ... �
Our own families. �
