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7 Habits of Highly Effective People

By Stephen Covey

Presented by

Karim Meghani

Objectives

To understand the meaning of Paradigms &experience the Paradigm Shifting

To understand the process of continuummaturity

To be aware of the basic foundational ideas of7 habits

To learn different techniques to help us makethe 7 habits work

To learn how to be effective in our lives


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How to understand the material?

Not a quick fix program

You have to internalize the material

Learn it (work with your mind in a sustained way)

Teach it (with in 24 to 48 hrs, you will learn better,and make commitment with the material,cultivate your habits, change your role as astudent to a teacher)

Making a statement socially

Do it

(Apply it to your life)

Change Your Role

In your mind you have a different role or pictureof your self or for your character.

If you want to change people behaviorsignificantly change people picture of their roles

Term Paradigm the way you see the world or

the universe, the way you see your role Paradigm Shift

e.g. of Subway with a Man with Kids

Learn to get a better Paradigm


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What is a Habit?

Internalize your Principles is a Habit Habit is overlapping of

Knowledge (What to do)

Skills (How to do)

Attitude (Want to do or Why to do)

For e.g. Customer service in any institution

Youth issues

7 Habit of highly effective people will make your

growth, it is not a quick fix, it is a continuum maturityprocess

Dependence to Independence toInterdependence

Dependence Character of you, blaming you always

Need people to do every thing for them selves

Independent I can do it, self reliance

Can get what they want through your own efforts

Interdependency We can do it, we cooperate

They require combine efforts

All the nature and society is interdependency

For .e.g. of Ecology

We can achieve Interdependence but we have to be independent


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Interdependency

Independency

Dependency

Continuum Maturity

How the personality ethicsdifferentiate from character ethics

First three habits are basically character habits

Next habits are the personality habits (natural

outgrowth of character)

Character Ethics contains the basic principles

of effective living

Experience true happiness after learn and

integrate these principles in your basic

character


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Personality Ethics

Character Ethics

Iceberg of Human Life

Habit 1- Be Proactive

Be Proactive

Taking responsibility of your own life

Response- ability (Ability to choose your response)

Effective people are proactive

Behavior is a product of their own decisions based on

values rather then be a product of their own conditionbased on feelings

E.g. Picnic in a storm

Proactive people tend not blame to anybody orcircumstances


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Be Proactive

Being proactive is really true to your human

nature

Your basic nature is to act and not be acted

upon

In past human nature explain by;

Determinism (dont choose any thing, choices

are nothing then automatic responses tooutside conditions or stimuli)

Determinism Genetic determinism (genetics)

Grand parents did with you, ancestors did with me

Psychic determinism (upbringing)

Parents did with you, for e.g. comparison with some body

Environmental determinism (environment)

Your boss did with you or your spouse or economical

situation, national policy

Opposite of Proactive people is reactive

Language of reactive people is that I cant do this that is in

my nature because I been raised like this, I am not

responsible, increasing feel victimized, not in charge of

their own life


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Be Proactive

Proactive person dont deny that genetics, upbringing and

environment make a difference but they see them as an

influence only

Proactive person exercise his free will, freedom to chose your

responses which best applies to your own values, in this case

you have a control of your own circumstances rather to be

control by them

How you respond to any situation like a traffic jam, like a

disobedient child, problem with family etc

For e.g. Man Search for meaning Victor Frankl (A prisoner in

World War II)

Be Proactive

Where is the industry going?

I dont have time to exercise.

How much money can I

expect to make if I do X?

Ill try it and see whathappens.

Im too tired.

Nothing really inspires me.

What is the meaning of life?


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Be Proactive

Where is the industry going? Where shall I go next, and how willI get there?

I dont have time to exercise. How shall I make time to exercise?

How much money can I

expect to make if I do X?

How much money do I want to

make, and what will I do to earn it?

Ill try it and see what

happens.I'll do it.

Im too tired. What can I do to increase my energy?

Nothing really inspires me. What would I tackle if I knew I

couldn't fail?

What is the meaning of life? What is the meaning I wish to give

to my life?

Habit 2- Begin with the End in Mind

That literary means Image of your end of your life as aframe of reference, as the criteria by which youexamine every thing in your life

Visualization exercise Attending a funeral of your dear one, imaging your self in

this situation, suppose that this is your funeral and imagineyour life 3 years from now. Four people have to deliver aspeech about you one from your family, one from yourfriend, one from your work and one from your community.What the people say about you as a friend, your character,your contribution or about your achievements (thinkcarefully and write in a piece of paper)

Habit 2 is the clear understanding of your destination


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Definition

Begin with the end in mind Decide what your own value system is ?

Write your own philosophy, own missionstatement, own believe system, own creed-writein your mind and heart by using your imaginationand emotions, dont tie yourself to your history,tie your self with your potential, also you can useyour conscious which can tell you what is rightand wrong

You can also called this habit as the Leadershiphabit

What is the difference betweenLeadership & Management

Leadership

Deals with direction

Management

Deals with speed, coordination, logistic and going

on that directionFor e.g. of the Jungle and machete

E.g. of the Managing director of Seattle


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Leadership & Management

What is leadership, and what is the differencebetween leadership and management?

In a nutshell, the difference between leadershipand management is:

Leadership is setting a new direction or vision fora group that they follow, i.e.: a leader is thespearhead for that new direction

Management controls or directs

people/resources in a group according toprinciples or values that have already beenestablished.

The difference between leadership and management can beillustrated by considering what happens when you haveone without the other.

Leadership without management

...sets a direction or vision that others follow, withoutconsidering too much how the new direction is going to beachieved. Other people then have to work hard in the trail thatis left behind, picking up the pieces and making it work. Eg: inLord of the Rings, at the council of Elrond, Frodo Bagginsrescues the council from conflict by taking responsibility for thequest of destroying the ring - but most of the management ofthe group comes from others.

Management without leadership ...controls resources to maintain the status quo or ensure things

happen according to already-established plans. Eg: a refereemanages a sports game, but does not usually provide"leadership" because there is no new change, no new direction -the referee is controlling resources to ensure that the laws ofthe game are followed and status quo is maintained

For reference : http://www.teamtechnology.co.uk/leadership-basics.html


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Subject Leader Manager

Essence Change Stability

Focus Leading people Managing work

Have Followers Subordinates

Horizon Long-term Short-term

Seeks Vision Objectives

Approach Sets direction Plans detail

Decision Facilitates Makes

Power Personal charisma Formal authority

Appeal to Heart Head

Energy Passion Control

Dynamic Proactive Reactive

Persuasion Sell Tell

Style Transformational Transactional

Exchange Excitement for work Money for work

Likes Striving Action

Wants Achievement Results

Risk Takes Minimizes

Rules Breaks Makes

Conflict Uses AvoidsDirection New roads Existing roads

Truth Seeks Establishes

Concern What is right Being right

Credit Gives Takes

Blame Takes Blames

http://changingminds.org/disciplines/leadership/articles/manager_leader.htm

Put First Things Firsthabit 3

Management Habit

Time Management

Challenge is not to actually to manage the time

but to manage yourself (to gain control of time

and events in your life by seeing them how theyrelate to your mission)

Two dimension importance and urgency create

categories of time demands
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Definitions

Important

It attaches to habit two, your mission, your rolesand goals. That is important, You to decide yourdirection

Urgent

Pressing things upon you, things which give you asense of urgency, you must act upon it (for e.g.like ringing phone that phone is ringing may be itis total waste of your time not attached to yourmission and goals but it need to be answered)

What first thing first will do?

Help you focus your priorities, it will help you payattention to how you spend your time as you actupon you priorities day in day out moment bymoment

Dr. Covey comes up with four division of time

that all combination of two term i.e. important &urgent

Imagine your time in a square box and divide thisbox with four small squares (time managementmatrix)


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Time Management Matrix

Q1

Urgent & Important

(Problems, crisis, important

meeting with urgent agenda)

Q2

Not Urgent & Important

(it attach your mission and goals

but there is no urgency)

Q3

Urgent & Not Important

(its pressing, its that ringingphone , un answered mail, may

be they are urgent but not

connecting with your mission &

goals, important to other people)

Q4

Not Urgent & Not Important(time wasting activities,

excessive TV, unnecessary

meeting )

Example

Think one activity which you did or you want to do whichwill give your marvelous result Personal Life

Education life

Work life

What quadrant this activity fit in? It will be definitely in Q2 because most of our important

activities are not urgent

Activity results of each quadrant Q1Management by crisis

Q2crisis will become smaller and smaller

Q3- essential but important for other people, learn to say No

Q4- worthless quadrant


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Quadrant 2 Important not urgent

Saying No to Q3,Q4 you are saying yes to Q2 and

reducing our Q1 activities

For e.g.

Deep relationship building

Planning & organizing

Reading, Exercise, Education

Reorganizing your life according your vision and mission

statement

REVISION

First HabitHabit of personal vision

Be Proactive

Second HabitHabit of personal leadership

Begin with the end in mind

Third HabitHabit of personal management First things first


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Think win-win is a frame of mind and

heart that constantly seeks mutual

benefit in all human interactions. Win-win

means everyone wins because

agreements or solutions are mutually

beneficial and satisfying - all parties feel

good about the decision and feel

committed to the action plan.

Habit 4Think win-win


Win-Win Re-scripting - believe in the third

alternative.Most of us have scripts that are

ineffective (win-lose conditioning) However,

we can re-script, or learn new ways of

behavior, by improvement through win-winthinking (on the interdependent level).


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Re-scripting is a three step process:

1. Developing self-awareness

2. Writing new scripts

3. Developing new scripts


Win-win relationships come from believing in the

third alternative and from willingly abandoning

selfish positions to look for it. People who dont trust

each other do not create win-win agreements. Trust

comes from the repeated deposits in the emotional

bank account. When trust is high, win-winagreements naturally follow. Win-win relationships

develop as deposits are made in the Emotional bank

account. On the other hand, relationships are

destroyed through withdrawals from the emotional

bank account.


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Integrity.People of integrity are true to their

feelings, values and commitments.

Abundance Mentality.People with Abundance

Mentality believe there is plenty for everyone.

Maturity.Mature people express their ideas and

feelings with courage and with consideration for theideas and feelings of others.

Habit 5Seek First to Understand, then tobe Understood

Diagnose before you prescribe Its easy to immediately diagnose another's situation or

problem and offer advice based on your own paradigm.

When we overcome the natural tendency to hastily diagnose,

jump to conclusions, defend ourselves and push our opinions

on other people, our interpersonal communications becomemore effective.

It is then, that we can stop reading our own autobiographies

into other peoples lives.(4 autobiographical responses are as

follows: advising, probing, interpreting and evaluating)


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Habit 5Seek First to Understand, then to

be Understood

Listening with eyes, ears and heart will

help us understand feeling, meaning &

content

Nonverbal expressions are vitally important when we

are trying to understand another person. Words only

account for 7% of communication.

Habit 5Seek First to Understand, then tobe Understood

Empathic listening takes practice

The basic skill of empathic listening is helping

the speaker feel understood: reflect feelings,

rephrase content OR be able to discern when

empathic listening is not appropriate

Empathic listening give speaker psychological

room to think and explore their feelings


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Habit 5Seek First to Understand,

then to be Understood

The second half of the skill of creating

understanding is seeking to be

understood. Once we understand, we seek to be understood. Others will

be able to understand us if we present our own ideas clearly,

specifically, visually, and in the context of a deep

understanding of their paradigms and concerns. Like win-win

this habit balances courage and consideration. Whileunderstanding another person takes consideration, getting

another person to understand us takes courage

Habit 6: Synergize

An Underlying Principle:

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts

Key Paradigms:

I value the differences in others and seek the

Third Alternative Valuing the Differences

Creating the Third Alternative

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts


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Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

An Underlying Principle:

Production (results) requires development of Production

Capability (resources)

Key Paradigms:

I will increase my effectiveness through personal renewal

in each of the four dimensions of my life

I will continuously improve

Four dimensions of Renewal The Upward Spiral

Principal-Cantered Living


Sharpen the saw means maintaining and improving

the things that help us

accomplish our work and other desires.

Woodsman story

4 dimensions of renewal

Physical

Mental

Spiritual

Social/emotional


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Make gradual changes every day

The only constant in life is change. People cannot live with

change if they dont have a changeless core inside them.

Whatever is at the center of their lives will be the source of

their security, guidance, wisdom and power.

Security - sense of worth

Guidance - source of direction Wisdom - perspective in life

Power - capacity to act

Next Steps

Work from the inside out

Starting with why and why we are naturally wired

to start from the inside out in every successful

task we complete.

Be a light tower

Consciously work to change habits

Focus on the Circle of influence


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Circle of influence

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