40 things men and women do to their marriages by: laurie snyman, lcsw
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40 THINGS MEN AND WOMEN DO TO
THEIR MARRIAGES
By: Laurie Snyman, LCSW
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GOD ESTABLISHED MARRIAGE
Marriage was God’s planFor companionshipA safe environment
to raise families
“It is not good that man be alone, I will make him a helper….
Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and cling to his wife and
they shall become one flesh.”
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Man is incomplete..
..until he is married. Then he is really finished.
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Here is advice for the teens in this congregation
You need only do three things in this country to avoid poverty -
1) finish high school,
2) marry before having a child, and
3) marry after the age of 20.
“79 percent of those who fail to do this are poor.”
-William Galston, of the Clinton White House
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“This seminar is not meant to replace counseling or mentoring needed for
troubled couples.”
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Counseling and treatment is necessary for couples with the
3 A’s: Addiction
Abuse Adultery
(or suffering from mental health issues)
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If you are married to a non-believer,
Know the seminar today may have some suggestions that are difficult to
conform to if one does not have an interest.
Although this seminar is mostly focused on Christians and SDA Christians,
there are suggestions that any marriage will benefit from. Singles can also benefit from this seminar.
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TOO LITTLE PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING
Couples considering marriage need to explore subjects like:
• finances, • children,
• goals, • roles in the home,
• future expectations, • spiritual interest,
• family of origin problems, • careers,
• emotional issues,• in-law issues.
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“Pre-marital counseling takes the surprise out and helps a
couple prepare for their upcoming marriage.” Norman
Wright, PH.D
“Too many enter marriage equipped with only the world’s pattern. “James
Dobson
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SUBJECTS FOR PREMARITAL COUNSELING
Book Suggestion: Before You Marry by Norman Wright,
Ph.D and
Falling In Love For All The Right Reasons
by Neil Warren
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The Big D(ivorce)
50% of couples that divorce separate
before the 5th anniversary (and the
majority before the 2nd anniversary).
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U.S. Highest Divorce Rate
The United States today has the highest divorce rate in
the entire world.
More than 1/2 of all first marriages end in divorce (about 67%)
2nd marriage divorce rates are higher (most blame problems on the kids)
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CHILDREN SUFFER
of all divorced fathers
rarely see their children, and most pay
no child support.
“I hate divorce” says God.
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CHRISTIANS ARE NOT ABOVE THE PROBLEMS
“Neither... Adulterers…
will inherit the kingdom of God.”
I Cor. 6:10 NIV
Christians are divorcing and
committing adultery at the same rate
as non-Christian’s.
Guard your heart. Proverbs 7:24-27
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RELIGION IS NOT MAKING A DIFFERENCE
Born again Christians have a higher divorce
rate than non-Christians.
George Barna
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AND GROWING……..!!!
Divorce in the bible belt of
the United States is higher
than in the rest of the United States
as a whole.
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Women have had
an explosive growth
in online affairs.
Just like in the Garden of Eden, the snake enticed
the woman into conversation until she
sinned.Women yearn for conversations
on a deep level.
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DEFINITION OF ONLINE AFFAIRS
An online affair (or cyber affair)
is an intimate/sexually explicit communication
(instant messaging, email, exchanging pictures) between
a married person and someone (other than
their spouse) that takes place on the Internet.
75% of emails between men and women are of a
romantic/sexual nature.
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SH-H-H, IT’S A SECRET..
Most people think having an online affair is a big secret, but it sucks
the life out of the present marriage.
Scripture tells us, “You may be sure that your sin will
find you out”. (Num. 32:23).
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TWICE AS LIKELY..
are as likely to file for divorce
than men are. When women are unhappy, they are more likely to visit a divorce lawyer. They are
more reactive.
Women often cite neglect more than abuse, an affair
or an addiction.. as the reason they want a divorce.
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Divorce at ages 40-50..
The fastest growing segment of divorces is
for couples who are in their 40’s and
50’s.
(If a wife feels she has been raising the family
alone with little support emotionally,
she is longing for some time to develop
herself. She often pulls away to learn new skills, travel,
try new recreational pursuits.
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When are we most vulnerable?
H---HUNGRY? (Esau’s pottage)A---ANGRY? (When men feel
angry, they equate sex as healing the anger)
L---LONELY? (David and Bathsheba)
T---TIRED? (More open to nurturing
comments)B---BORED? (More interested in entertaining
yourself with
conversations)
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Can Churches Really Help?
When churches deliberately
focus on marriage and family in their church services
(such as praying for them in public, educating in seminars, programs for marriage and family,) it was found to make a significant impact in decreasing the divorce
rate in their church.
-George Barna- Researcher
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.. he who sleeps with another man’s wife..
no one who touches her will go unpunished.
Proverbs 6:27-29
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“.. may you rejoice..
..in the wife of your youth.”
Proverbs 5:15,18
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COUPLES PROCRASTINATE
Most couples do not go for marriage
counseling till 6 months after their problems began.
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Only 35% of marriage counseling
is successful.38% of those successful in marriage counseling
will go back to their old ways
within 1 year of counseling.
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Is It The Fault of The Therapist?
Only an experience with Jesus Christ keeps us
“others focused” so that we actually change
from the inside out. Without Christ,
we do things on our own strength
and usually fail.
(See Romans 8)
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COUPLES WHO STAY TOGETHER
STUDY OF 100 COUPLES WHO DECIDED TO STAY
TOGETHER WERE STUDIED FOR 30 YEARS
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GOOD VS EVIL…GOD VS. SATAN
We know there is Good and Evil. Who is Good? God Who is evil? Satan
God vs.SatanWho wants marriage
to be “heaven on earth” Who wants your marriage to be miserable?
If God wants you to have peace in your home, what would please Satan?
Turmoil.
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So, when husbands or wives refuse to work on their marriage, who are you pleasing? (Satan)
Women, If God commands you in the Bible to respect your
husband, what does Satan want? (Disrespect)
So men, if you are to LOVE your wife, do you think working on
your marriage would be a loving thing to do?
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There is a war between good and evil,
is there not?
Light and darknessHappiness vs. turmoil
Life vs. death
Marriage is a part of this fight:God’s will vs. Satan’s delight
GOOD AND EVIL…
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriage
1)You don’t communicate well.
“Let the husband and wife talk things over together”.
EGW in 10 MR 185
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriage
2) Ignoring your wife.(might be tv, working
outside, tuning out her concerns)
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30,000 – 60,000 WORDS…WOW!
It has been said that men speak about 30,000 words per day and women speak 60,000 per day. Men speak their words at work and women speak 30,000 words at work and save the other 30,000 for the husband and family in the evening.
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3) Spending most of your free time with
other men, the church, other activities and not carving out time with
her.
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriage
4)Not calling when you are late.
“It is the will of God that the husband and wife will respect each other…AH
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5) You rarely help with household chores.
Statistic: No husband has ever been shot
while doing the dishes.
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QUOTES
You now have duties to perform that before your marriage you did not
have. AH 114
Whoever wishes to become great shall
be a servant. Matt. 20:25-28
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriage
6) You think your only marriage duty is to be the provider.
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Neglect by Husband
Husbands that work long hours and feel their
greatest contribution to the marriage is to make an income often fall into
this category -where a wife perceives
she is neglected by him.
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriage
7) Not being honest because you want to
avoid conflict at all costs.
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Honest Doesn’t Mean Every Detail…
Wives usually give too many details and expect same of husband. This takes away from excitement of marriage.
However, men or women will often lie to protect themselves (lies of omission). This erodes the trust of the marriage and is self-centered not God-centered.
David Stoop, Ph.D
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriage
8) Acting like a bachelor instead of a team player.
(On earth, your spouse is to occupy #1 position, not job, not ministry,
not self. If this isn’t happening, you need to apologize and change.)
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriage
9)Not complimenting your wife’s clothes, hair,
personality, etc. and/or making negative comments about something your wife
cannot change. (Wives want to know they are
attractive to you.)
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriage
10) Thinking leadership means total control and
dominance.
“Love, honor and negotiate”..
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WARNING- DON’T EVEN SAY IT…
“(If the husband is not)..under the rule of Christ…. If he is ..rough,.. egotistical, harsh, ..let him never utter the words (that he).. is the
head of the wife, and that she must submit to him in everything; for he
is not the Lord, he is not the husband in the true significance of
the term. . . . AH 117.1
Professing to be wise, they became fools.
Rom. 1:22.
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THINGS WOMEN DO TO KILL MARRIAGE
..for bitter or worse…
1. I nag my husband to get him to do things.
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“..nothing discourages a man more from trying to be good husband than the
feeling that no matter what he does, his wife is never
pleased with him. “ Dr. Laura
Continual outbursts are not healthy. Proverbs 29:22
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TREAT HER LIKE A THOROUGHBRED….,
They say, “Treat your wife
like a thoroughbred and she will never
act like an old nag.
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2) I expect my husband to express more feelings like
my female friends.
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3) I believe my husband should know how I feel
about things.
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4)I tend to obsess on my husband’s shortcomings and remind him often of them.
“A harsh word stirs up anger” Prov. 15:1, NIV. “(S)he who holds her tongue is wise.” Prov. 10: 19, NIV
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5) I yell at my husband during disagreements.
Temper is folly. Prov. 14:29Let your conversation be full of grace Col. 4:6
Let your mind dwell on..whatever is lovely.Phillippians 4:8
ITS BEEN SAID…. Married life is very frustrating.
In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the
woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks
and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and
the neighbors listen.
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6) I have threatened divorce because my
husband isn’t really meeting my needs.
A patient (wo)man has understanding. Prov. 14:29
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7) I have called my husband derogatory names.
(like jerk, idiot, etc.)
He (she) who guards his (her) tongue keeps (her)himself from
calamity James 3:2
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FACTS AREN’T THAT IMPORTANT
Too many couples think the facts are more important than
the feelings or opinions of their partner. A wife and
husband can be frustrated but getting an issue solved in a
healthy way is the most important to the health of the
marriage and the environment. Every issue unsolved accumulates to
damage the marriage.
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Allow your spouse to be real and express ideas,
opinions you don’t agree with. Intimacy in
marriage is built on truth.
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VERSES TO REMEMBER
“A gentle answer turns away wrath.”
(Prov. 15:1, NIV).
Speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into Him
who is the head Christ (Eph. 4:15).
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8)I have expected the worst of my husband in
some situations. Let us stop passing
judgment on one another. Rom. 14:13
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9)I have started bringing up old issues when fighting
with my husband. Love does not keep a record of
wrongs. I Cor. 13: 5
When Satan reminds you of
your past problems, remind him of his future.
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Propensity To Change
A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but
he doesn’t.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won’t
change, and she does.
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10) I have told my husband he reminded
me of one of his parents, brothers (etc.)
in a negative way.
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11) Dislikes responsibility and wants his wife to take care of him.
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12) Letting things slide and not taking an active part in
fixing a problem with the marriage.
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The Problem is NOT the Problem..
It is how the couple solves it (handout-unfair fighting)
69% of problems will not resolve. Couples who succeed in marriage learn how to stop letting it eat at them, laugh at
it and go on their way.
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Happiness
To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot
and love him a little. To be happy with a woman,
you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.
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13) Not listening
(Women want conversation on a deep level)
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14) Being self-focused
There are many obligations in the marriage covenant. The husband is to love his wife "as
Christ also loved the church" (Eph. 5:25).
If all you have is from God,Why act like you
Are so great? I Cor. 4:7
(Women want family time and commitment to the marriage.)
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Give and Get
“Anything that would mar the peace and unity of the family should be firmly repressed…. He who manifests the spirit of tenderness.. and love will find
the same spirit will be reflected upon him…..They will
be striving together for the mansions Christ has gone to prepare for those who love
Him. AH 120
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15) Letting your differences between husband and wife alienate you from
each other.
If anyone thinks he knows all the answers, he is
just showing his ignorance. 1 Cor. 8:1-3
Be ye kind to one another, tender-hearted and forgiving..
Eph. 4
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16) Refusing to get help for medical, emotional
or mental health issues.
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17) An attitude of haughtiness or arrogance.
After a quarrel, a wife said to her husband, "You know, I was fool
when I married you." And the husband replied, "Yes, dear, but I was in love
and didn't notice it."
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18) Thinking romance is a waste of time.
(Women want romance and affection without a goal.)
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GENDER DIFFERENCES
There are some definite gender differences.
While attending a Marriage Seminar dealing with communication, Tom and his wife Grace listened to the instructor, “It is essential that husbands and wives know
the things that are important to each other."
He addressed the man, ‘can you describe your wife's favorite flower?’
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Tom leaned over, touched his wife's arm gently and
whispered, "It's Pillsbury, isn't it?
(Women want to be appreciated for who they are and not just what they do. Clue:
Do not give frying pans and vacuum cleaners for her birthday.)
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19) Avoid problems till they blow apart. (Most men will avoid conflicts at all cost.)
We need to grasp God’s perspective whenwe are stressed and perplexed by trials.
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20) Not being financially responsible with our
money
(One of women’s greatest needs is to know she is being cared/provided for.)
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1I) I lose my self-control when I am arguing.
(when there is arguing, there is nothing being accomplished except denial and
defending)“Live in peace with everyone.”
Rom. 12:18
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Both Spouses Need to Reflect
Am I trying to fix my spouse
Am I trying to change my spouse
Am I trying to blame my spouse
Would I really be happy if my spouse did it my way?
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Progressive ways to fix a marriage
Prayer, Bible Study, books, resources, videos, seeking out a trusted friend, pastor
or counselor, change of heart, trying to fix
the way you react.
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12) I have made negative comments about my husband’s body/appearance
that he cannot correct.
Don’t let unwholesome talk come out of your mouth.
Eph. 4:29
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13) I have compared my husband to other men with
better behavior and sensitivity.
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14) I’ve talked down to my husband, displaying an attitude that his opinion
isn’t important.
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15) I blurt out hurtful comments to my
husband when I am angry.
“Let us stop passing judgment on one another”. Rom. 14:13, NIV
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16. I’m reactive.
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17)I have expected my husband to
spend most of his free time with me
and complain when he does
things 1-2 times per week with others.
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18) I have felt justified in having
talking relationships with other males
near my age.
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19) I have made my children, my parent’s or
my business more important than my
husband.
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20) I give my husband that cold shoulder
when I am moody or upset at something
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BREAK
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21) Led by instincts.
“Renew the early attentions to each other…let (him) think how (he) can make the married life what
God would be pleased to have it be.”
10 MR 185.1
(Men have a great need for sexual fulfillment…but when focused on
their needs more than their wife’s need, this usually becomes a
problem area.)
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22) Use brute strength and intimidation to control the bride you vowed to love
and cherish.
“Satan would be glad to…make you suspicious, jealous of every little
thing…” 10 MR 184:2
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23) No sense of humor and being too intense.
Self-conceit and self reproach are depressing.
Phil.4:13
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24) Being a practicing slob.
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25) Not being an involved father
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26) Not encouraging your wife to have female friends.
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27) Talking/acting in a harsh, judgmental or angry manner.
“He who holds his tongue is wise” Proverbs 10:19, NIV.
“Make allowances for loved ones.”Ephesians 4:2
“Speak the truth in love..” Eph. 4:15
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28) You see marriage as a loss of masculine
freedom and come and
go and do as you please.
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29) Unwilling to say I’m sorry or taking
responsibility for wrong.
Pass on to them who are hurting the same help and comfort God has given us.
I Cor. 1:3
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30) You blame your wife for everything wrong in your life.
“If you refuse criticism, you will end in disgrace.
Prob. 13:18 and 17:10
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“A person that pollutes: …obsenities, lusts,
….greed, ..slander,arrogance, foolishness-all these are vomit from your heart. There is the
source of your pollution.” Mark 7:20-23 The Message Bible
Book Suggestion: It’s Not My Fault
By: Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
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21) I make less than 3 meals per week.
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Partners not only benefit, kids do too…
Regular meals are the single strongest predictor of
a) better achievement scores,
b) higher grades
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The way parents/partners interact at dinner
is powerful..
Mealtime was found to be a more powerful influence than time spent in school, studying, church, playing sports, or art activities.
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22) I don’t kiss my husband each morning and night.
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If my husband is angry and leaves to cool down, I follow him.
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24)I want my husband to treat
me just like he did when we were
dating.
Book Suggestion: “Men Read Newspapers
Not Minds” by Sandra Aldrich
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25) I am guilty for not getting help for past problems so I can have a better marriage.
“He heals the broken-hearted and binds the wounds” Ps. 147:3
“Put up with each other and forgive anyone that does you wrong. Just as
Christ has forgiven you!”Col. 3:13 CEV
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26)I often wonder why I chose my husband and if I married him for
the wrong reasons.
Mrs. White says: We should never give consideration to the thought
that we have married the wrong person.
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27) I am jealous. I often question my husband
about
other women (despite the fact he has never cheated).
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28) My kids have left home and I’ve been thinking about
my marriage flaws. I am unhappy in this marriage and want to change my
husband or get out.
Book Suggestion: Seasons of a Marriage
by Norman Wright
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29) My moods decide if I will like my husband on a daily
basis.
Suggestion: Chart your menstrual cycle and realize if it is your
PMS time, deal with things after it passes.
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MOODS
“Do not be overcome with evil but overcome evil with good.”
Romans 12:21“Treat others the way you want
them to treat you.” Luke 6:31
Book Suggestions: Freedom From Depression and
Depression is a Choice both by F. Minirith and P. Meier
And Mood Cure by Julie Ross
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30) I have complained to my children, parents and/or
friends about my husband’s behavior.
“Don’t let unwholesome talk come out of your mouth.” Eph. 4:29.
“Live at peace with everyone.” Rom. 12:18, NIV
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Last 10 Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriages
31) Getting involved with pornography.Let him deny himself
and follow me. Mark 8:34
Resources: Affairs of the Mind,The Porn Trap, Every Man’s Battle,
www.Pureintimacy.comwwww.xxxchurch.com
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ANONYMITY, AFFORDABILITY, ACCESSIBILITY
Because of the anonymity, affordability, and accessibility of Internet sexual
resources, the computer can accelerate the transition from "at risk" to
"addicted," as well as the progression of
sex addiction in those with a history of
prior sexual compulsivity.
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HOOKED
8-10 percent of Internet users become hooked on cyber sex.
-Center for Internet Addiction Recovery
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32) Not cultivating an affectionate relationship.
Guy-Girl Differences:
When women want intimacy, it mean talking and connection.
When men want intimacy, it means sex to feel connected.
David Stoop, Ph.D
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33) Having an affair.
“Husbands, love your wives and be not bitter
against them.” AH 116:2
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34) Not cultivating kindness in the relationship because you are
stressed, angry or tired much of the time.
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“The tongue has the power of life and death. Prov. 18:21
(Our burdens color our attitude)
Phil. 4:6,7
(Impatience is not Godly)
Gal. 5:22,23
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriages
35) Never initiate recreational time together.
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It says: “When you say I mean the world to
you..which part of the world are you talking about?”
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriages
36) Procrastinates on minor and major things.
“Trouble chases sinners while blessings reward
the righteous.” Proverbs 13:21
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriages
37) Inconsistent in standards, morals, ethics. Don’t realize I am leaving a legacy for my family.
“It is God who works in you to will and
to act according to his good purpose. “Phillippians 2:13 NIV
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriages
38) Not Spending Time with Other Men for friendship, prayer and accountability.
Overbooked? Isa 32:17
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriages
39) Don’t remember family traditions like birthdays,
anniversaries, or call their mother without being reminded.
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Things Men Do To Kill Their Marriages
40) Don’t work on your spiritual life.
There are many couple devotionals such as: Nite Lights by James Dobson, Touch Points
for Couples by Tyndale House and Moments Together by Dennis Rainey.
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Things Women Do To Kill Their Marriages
31) I say disrespectful things to my husband whenever I
want to.
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Things Women Do To Kill Their Marriages
32) I probably lecture or say way too much to my
husband on many subjects.
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Things Women Do To Kill Their Marriages
33) I have caused some financial hardship with my spending
habits
A little boy asked his father, "Daddy, how much does it cost to
get married?“ And the father replied, "I don't
know, son, I'm
still paying for it."
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Things Women Do To Kill Their Marriages
34) I avoid bedtime with my husband by keeping busy around
the house.
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Things Women Do To Kill Their Marriages
35) I probably like things perfect so I am guilty of being controlling in my
marriage.
Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his bachelor's
degree and the woman gets her master's.
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THE PERFECT HUSBAND
Some women went to a shopping center that was selling perfect husbands. The carload of women went to the 1st floor of the shopping center. The rules were only to pick one door and if they went past it, they could not come back to it.
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The first door sign reads: “These men have high paying jobs, and love kids.” But since, they could only pick one door, they say, ‘that is neat, but what might we at the next door and on the next floor. So, they go up to the second floor.
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The second door sign reads: “These men have high-paying jobs, love kids, AND are extremely good looking.”
The girls say, “Hmm…that is neat. But what if there is even a bigger prize behind the next door. I wonder what the guys are like at the next door. On they go to the next floor.
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On the 3rd door, the sign reads: “These men have high paying jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking AND help with housework.” ‘Wow’, say the women, ‘very tempting… After some discussion, they realize the men are getting even better with each door, so they wonder what is at the next door.
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The fourth door sign reads: ‘These men have high-paying jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking, will help with housework, and are terrific lovers.’ ‘O my,’ said the girls, ‘Just what might be awaiting us further up??’ Why settle…So, up to the 5th floor to the next door.
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The fifth floor sign reads: ‘This floor is just to prove that women are impossible to please. Please exit at the stairway door.’
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36)I don’t spend quality time weekly with my husband.
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THINGS WOMEN DO TO KILL THEIR MARRIAGE
37) I have not supported,
encouraged or suggested daily
devotions with my husband.
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Things Women Do To Kill Their Marriages
38) I deny my husband sex unless he has fulfilled what I asked him to do around the house or has met my emotional needs.
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Things Women Do To Kill Their Marriages
39) I rarely say I am sorry.
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Forebearing?
“Be ..forbearing, considerate and courteous. By the grace of God, you can succeed in making each other happy, as in your marriage vow you promised. AH 118:2
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Things Women Do To Kill Their Marriages
40) I am careless with my hygiene,
appearance and how I run my household.
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“Make a home for your husband and family. Remember that this is a high calling and responsibility. It has eternal value. Making others content and happy also make me more content and happy.”
From Dr. Laura’s book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands”
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IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Money spent on babysitting, dates, retreats is well worth it.
Do thoughtful things that spike your marital satisfaction levels
Learn about Love Languages by Gary Chapman so that
you are meeting needs of each other.
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It is of vital importance that the married couple stay in constant and
clear communication with the Head of
the Church..Christ.2 Tim. 4:2
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REMEMBER..
"Dusty Bibles lead to Dirty Lives."
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“Unmet needs..
.. are a primary cause of extramarital affairs”.
Dr. Willard Harley, author of the book His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
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MEN’S NEEDS-
1) Sexual Fulfillment2) Want a recreational companion3) A spouse well thought of and
attractive4) Someone to coordinate their
home5) Respect and admiration
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WOMEN’S NEEDS
1. AFFECTION-Not always sex2. CONVERSATION-on a deep level3. HONESTY AND OPENNESS4. FINANCIAL SUPPORT5. FAMILY/ TIME COMMITMENT
-Results of 500 Couples were asked by a research company what they needed in their marriage.
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WANT A GOOD MARRIAGE
YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD!
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WORK HARD
W-Wisdom We need God’s wisdom and get it from the Bible and
Prayer.
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WORK HARD
O- OPENNESS
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WORK HARD
R-RECREATION
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WORK HARD
K- KINDNESS
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WORK HARD
H- HONESTY
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WORK HARD
A- AFFECTION ATTITUDE
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WORK HARD
R- RESPECT Voices of culture tell us respect is to be
earned…he doesn’t deserve respect, how can I give it if I don’t feel it…
We have not earned God’s love and don’t deserve
it. When we give respect, we are obeying God.
Emmerson Eggerichs, PhD from Love and Respect
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ROUND AND ROUND WE GO..
When husbands feel disrespected, they are less loving. When wives
feel unloved, they are often disrespectful. He is trying to send
the message, “I don’t deserve this” and she is defensive. Women
put up walls if they feel unloved.
This starts a circle of unhappiness.
God wants us to stop spinning.
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WORK HARD
D- DOMESTIC SUPPORT
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PRAY, PRAY, PRAY
A Study was done on couples willing to pray for
the marriage and their spouse with prayers from
Stormie Omartian’s book on prayer for spouses.
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PRAYER
The Catholic and Protestant couples in the survey were to
pray for 30 days, each morning and each night using
the same prayers. Half were to affirm
their partners and half just pray.
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PRAYER-POSITIVE IMPACT
The Protestants improved more than the Catholics (they assume because they were more comfortable with that type of praying) saying it significantly impacted their relationships in a positive way. Those that also affirmed their spouses once daily also reported an even greater positive effect than just praying.
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Texts to remember in your marriage
Encouragement:“The Lord hears the cries of the righteous (and the forgiven) Ps.
34:15 Healing:
Confess your sins to each otherAnd pray for each other, so that
You can live together whole and healed.
James 5:16
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Change is not easy,....but worthwhileIt can be painful
but worth the effort.We must depend on Christ and not on
ourselves .It means acknowledging things that are not
comfortable instead of blaming othersChange requires humility, honesty.
It takes commitment (like your marriage)And it takes a change of heart.
(see Christ for directions)Chris Thurman, Christian Psychologist
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HOWEVER….
Two are better than one,Because they have a good
return for their work…Though one may be
overpowered,Two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not
quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NIV
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The end
What can be more pleasing to God than to see those who enter into the marriage relation seek together to learn of Jesus and to become more and more imbued with His Spirit?
AH 114.2
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RESOURCES
How to Communicate With Your MateNancy Van Pelt
Making Marriage WorkH.M.S. Richards, Jr.
Ten Keys to a Happy MarriageMike Tucker
Testimonies on Sexual Behavior, Adultery,
and DivorceEllen G. White
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CHRISTIAN BOOKSFive Years of MarriagePhillip Swihart & Wilford WootenBlueprints for a Solid MarriageDr. Steve StephensAwful to Awesome: A Marriage RestoredArt and Lysa TerKuerst