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20, Pope street,
Salt River,
Cape.
6th November, 1968.
Dearest Phyll,
Firstly, may 1 apologise for this very belated correspondence
and then enquire as to your health and that of the rest of
the family.
I also wish to thank you for the letter you wrote and give
you the assurance that 1 aim to fight for my rightfull place
in the family not only by turning my attentions to study,
but also by being a good wife to John and mother to our
children.
At the beginning 1 think it would be to adjust ourselves to
married life, with our ith in each other, the understanding
we both have 1 know we will go a long way. I aim to make
our marriage a success not because the whole world will
be looking, but because 1 love John very much~ and will spend
my entire life making him happy.
I have long since realised that he loves you and the rest of
the family very much. I don't think that he loves you all
less by loving me, 1 would be very selfish to expect him
to diminish his love you and 1 am not a selfish person.
As you no doubt are aware, the love one has for your family
is not the same type of love one has for a person one chooses
to marry.
I have given your letter carefull thought and as always
admire your frankness, I 11 take heed Phyll, your advice
1 shall value, thanks very much.
Now that summer is here atlast, the office has become quite
busy as work on the bridges and Dams which the firm specialises
can go forth. It is pretty dangerous to do this type of work
when 'the climate is like it has been these last few months.
The change of weather gives us all more work and 1 am very
pleased about this, sitting around doing nothing in the office
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can be very depressing.
At home there is much to be done as mother works and
we have to do our @wn washing and ironing also the
polishing and cooking.
It is very difficult to get someone to do ones work in
Cape Town so its a real luxury to have a maid here.
To get someone to do your house and washing for you,
atleast R20 is expected. I think this is because the
factory workers are very well paid. They earn almost twice
the amount here than in Natal. A women with your experience
considering the circumstances would get up to R180-00 per
month even more.
Job reservation does not seem to affect the people here so
much as in Natal, every big Company has white and Non-white
employees on their staff with very little difference in salary ,
if any.
I seem to be getting away from the point, in the beginning,
believe me Phyll, 1 lt so darn listless,that combing my
hair was an effort. I feel worlds better now,probably
just a passing stage. I am now looking forward to the
baby's arrival. I have done lots of knitting, 1 only hope
it will not be too hot as 1 don't really know what sort of
garments babies wear in Durban.
I have bought Nighties and Matinee jackets made of Dacron
and others made of linen which 1 think will be suitable.
I would appreciate it very much if you could advise me on this
score. as 1 don't want to buy things that would not suit the
climate. I havent knitted any baby socks as 1 don't really
care to see such small little mites in socks. I have knitted
a shawl which 1 know will come in handy its been a big job
but looks really lovely.
How is Sukthi, still as lively as ever? 1 would love seeing
her again and the boys. "
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Do write and let me know about those baby things
until 1 hear from you. my love to you and the
children, not forgetting A.J., 1 am patiently
waiting for him 1 think 1 shall burst if he does
not come soon.
Yours sincerely,
, . C (it·,
P.S. Just have a little faith in me please.
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27 Me.{rick Avenue,
DUPJ3.dN.
Nov. 16th, 1970.
Dear Phylliu,
You certainly have a pack of trcu-oles to contend with. I io hope your sons
are .!c;ttiYl..! better ae;ain, ami that ",hen the t~llle comes for the tOll€ila to come out,
h~ ;;rill not be fri~h ened., but rill i.,akt; 1. ,;001 an:! zpe recover)'_ It raus t
:,e lireaclful to SEe JOur once active anJ. intelli~ent father a sl~eecl:less an..i l.elpl~8s
invalid.. No -;ron;;'er you feel sore and. frustra.ted, realy to or:y out ac.:ainst th
unfairness of it all.
Now onlt want to _et involvel in ar~ment aN:.ut thL:. For t.}~oJe of' us
who be lieve il1 the ell." tence of a. God of ::oodness an.... love, the exi£: tenc'£: of pain
nd. sufferinfj, poze fl'ol)lemH wh.ich. a re not ea3.y to anS\-l.;:r. I believe there iB ~
ansgar, but not the kin of slick, u1i b a:l8Wt:r .i' ou C&_n ~.i V't. to a i'GrSOn in (!.e~1
trouble Have :vou rt:::... • . .lan Paton I s book "Instru.m~nt of Thy Pe'ice?" Be wrote it
w~ule Dorri a was seriously ill; Jr..no,l'1n", that she ,-iOulli (Let Yore~ FIn at better.
It is baaei Oll a very beaut ifLl _r a;, er of t. Franci3, who love~ Gol, his fellow
men, the biras ana ani~ale, ana all creation; a-ho cho::>e a lii\) of p"verty·
a.:w.d. j-et enjoYed lii~e !!lOrE fully than most of us manz_e to J.o. If ~ ou havend: t a. '::01-'
I can len.i you minCe It is not a. pmlosCiphical ar~ument; but it tells where
.dl""n foun.i .;;; tren~ th and ltl:llJ to ca.rr;} Lim throu. a vcry Qiffioult time.
But there is one thin~, I lo want: to Gay, a tuat is, please don't let this
eulinr.. of sorenesfI ieptroy your peace and a:11 to Jour already heavy bUXae!1l>.
I am sorr .y that Y0l... .i fn. ther I s belief In :rayer lreventE;,i hi:;} from seekin(; medical
help a.t a tilJe l~LeL. th~ lac tors 'Ili",ht h~vtl b.een b!st able to help him. Nevertne
le;,'3, fro!': ~ha.t .Jot;. tall ree, thou[):•. ue oan no lon",er speak, he Ca.;:) unier;:;t.a.n.i
-,1.Ll:i t is ,-,ai~ to him, fUl was 8.h10 to exyre;::s his love foI. you, s ud his balief
in the pOW",J:' of rr:~y6r, b the sJ"-l:Ibolic z.ction of CUl'l)in~ h~.! haniF' ill p ra:;-3r.
In spit~ of his disabilitieo, _e still f inds 8tren~th and aUPlort in tJi~ beli8f.
Shoul d. you not boa thankful that now, ".-hen he ._leeds it moet, he still h-=t3 thi~ •
ciUlJ:f,Ort? I c a n un-9rstdr.d . oii it haneuoi tnat YOUl' visit to him ~€:t him. You
1'",1t hi helr.lescness, -ou rt:H~ted the "bIer that he.d .fallon BO ltnfairly ; - aB it ~
seef!H.;GL t.o :vo'.!; you conv.ejei ;yourdi3tre0S and frustrction t o him; int!' thin!:s
WOr se fer -lim. But ... f nBzt 'tir.e .Iou ~o , ;you trj' to ,0 in a more pOsl.tive spirtt;
,iet.erm->-ll.:;l to ,us.re ,dtl hl.m, not Jot'r lia treas, but your lov il. !affer-tio'1 for
im; could ~G4 not to !Us har.r.i!le.:c" ]- oinf!? Brain l.njuri&3 cl.l'el ... ear thi~
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