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Sabbath School LessonsSenior Division

First Quarter 1988

THE CHRISTIAN HOME

Lesson

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God With Us

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2 Marriage: A Lifelong Union 8

3 Husband and Wife 11

4 Parents and Children 14

5 Parents and Children (continued) •.•... 17

6 Religion in the Home 20

7 Home Atmosphere 23

8 The Home as a Training School 27

9 Family Discipline 30

10 Family Discipline (continued) •.••••..• 34

11 Influences of the Home 37

12 Friends, Relatives, and Recreation 40

13 How to Handle Home Difficulties 44

The Sabbath School Lesson Quarterly, The Christian Home, for January-March1988, is published by the Seventh Day Adventist Refonn Movement General Confer­ence, Sabbath School Department. It is printed and distributed by Refonnation HeraldPublishing Association, P. O. Box 7240, Roanoke, Virginia 24019-0240, U.S.A.

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FOREWORD

The Christian Home is the general title of the lessons which willbe studied during this quarter.

To a degree never witnessed before, the family is under attackby the enemy of all righteousness. Frequent family arguments,maladjusted couples, betrayal of the marriage vow, painful separa­tions, divorce and remarriage, neglected or abandoned children, etc.are rapidly increasing as "the end draweth nigh." These thingsshow that the breakdown of the home is one of the most serious pro­blems facing many countries today. It is a sad fact that thecharacteristic Christian home is becoming an "endangered species"in the twentieth century. Among the tragic signs of the breakdownof the home, divorce with its baleful consequences must be put atthe top of the list.

Only the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ can save the home. Tothis effect, we find the necessary guidelines in the Bible and thewritings of the Spirit of Prophecy. If we fail to walk in the light, put­ting our human "wisdom" above the wisdom of God and allowingthe carnal inclinations of the old man to bear sway, then a curse willrest upon us and our family life will most probably suffer shipwreck.But if we follow the counsels contained in the word of God, we willbe richly blessed and our home will be a piece of heaven on earth.

When discipline, order, and neatness, as well as harmony,peace, and love are carefully cultivated; when songs and prayers as­cend from converted and thankful hearts gathered around the familyaltar morning and evening; when the members of the family live outthe teachings of God's word, then the presence of Christ and of theholy angels will be felt in the homes, and these homes will be placesof refreshing to weary pilgrims, training schools for young people,as well as missionary fields.

May the blessings of God be with parents and children, teachersand students, as they study these lessons!

The General Conference Sabbath School Department

Thirteenth Sabbfor a

Chapel in Macei6, BraZl

At a delegation session of the Brazilian Union held in November 1986,the work in Brazil was divided into two Union Conferences-the NorthernUnion and the Southern Union. The Northern Union includes an area whichis frequently subject to long droughts. For this reason, that area, which cor­responds to the major part of the Northeastern Conference, has been facinggreater economic depression than other areas. And, consequently, the pro­gress of our work in that Conference has been hindered, in spite of the factthat our brethren in that droughty region have been struggling hard againstthe effects of the weather and other challenging conditions. The message ofreformation is, nevertheless, being proclaimed in that territory, and manysouls are being rescued from the powers of darkness.

A good number of new souls were recently aroused in Macei6, state ofAlagoas, where the brethren and friends are holding their meetings in aplace which has become inadequate for their present needs.

A plot of land for the building of a chapel in that northeastern city hasalready been secured, but, with all the spirit of self-denial shown by thebrethren there, the funds available are insufficient for the work of construc­tion. In compliance with their appeal for help, the General Conference Coun­cil decided that the thirteenth Sabbath offering, first quarter 1988, should beallotted to them.

Therefore, all our members and friends around the world are requestedto please consider the appeal of those brethren and come prepared, March26th, to make a special sacrifi~e in behalf of the project in Macei6.

May the Lord bless your willingness to help!

The General Conference Sabbath School Department

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Lesson 1 Sabbath, January 2, 1988

GOD, CHRIST, AND MAN

"Since Jesus came to dwell with us, we know that God is acquainted with ourtrials, and sympathizes with our griefs. Every son and daughter of Adammay understand that our Creator is the friend of sinners." - The Desire ofAges, p. 24.

KEY TEXT: "God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputingtheir trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word ofreconciliation." 2 Corinthians 5:19.

THE LOVE OF GODD Sunday

December 27

1. In what relationship was Christ with the Father - (a) before He came intothe world, and (b) when He was in the world? Philippians 2:5-8; John 3:16,17; John 17:5,22.

"The seventeenth chapter of John speaks plainly regarding the personality ofGod and of Christ, and of their relation to each other."-The SDA Bible Commentary[E.G. White Comments], yol. 5, p. 1145.

"The Sovereign of the universe was not alone in His work of beneficence. He hadan associate-a co-worker who could appreciate His purposes, and could share Hisjoy in giving happiness to created beings. 'In the beginning was the Word, and theWord was with God, and the Word was God. The same was in the beginning withGod.' John 1:1, 2. Christ, the Word, the only begotten of God, was one with the eter­nal Father-one in nature, in character, in purpose-the only being that could enterinto all the counsels and purposes of God."-Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 34.

2. What will be seen in us when we practice the heavenly principle of eternallove? 1 John 4:9-11.

"Religion is founded upon love to God, which also leads us to love one another. Itis full of gratitude, humility, long-suffering. It is self-sacrificing, forbearing, merciful,and forgiving. It sanctifies the whole life, and extends its influence over others.

"Those who love God cannot harbor hatred or envy. When the heavenly principleof eternal love fills the heart, it will flow out to others.... This love ... is as broad asthe world and as high as heaven, and is in harmony with that of the angel workers.This love cherished in the soul sweetens the entire life and sheds a refining influenceon all around.... If we love God with all the heart, we must love His children also."- Testimonies, Yol. 4, pp. 223, 224.

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CREATION AND GOD'S CONCERND Monday

December 28

3. For what purpose did God create this earth? Isaiah 45: 18. When and howwill God's original purpose be fulfilled? Psalm 37:29; 2 Peter 3:13.

4. What attitude does God take toward those who respond to His proposals?Psalm 145:18, 19; Isaiah 49:14-16.

"When we beseech the Lord to pity us in our distress, and to guide us by His HolySpirit, He will never turn away our prayer. It is possible even for a parent to turnaway from his hungry child, but God can never reject the cry of the needy and longingheart."- Thoughts From the Mount of Blessing, p. 132.

GOD'S RELATIONSHIP WITH MAND Tuesday

December 29

5. How are we blessed through our relationship to the Godhead? Matthew7:7-11. What evidence has God given to us that He loves us and is concernedabout our well-being? Jonah 4:2 (last part); Micah 7:18.

"The angels love to bow before God; they love to be near Him. They regard com­munion with God as their highest joy; and yet the children of earth, who need so muchthe help that God only can give, seem satisfied to walk without the light of His Spirit,the companionship of His presence."-Steps to Christ, p. 94.

"God has bound our hearts to Him by unnumbered tokens in heaven and in earth.Through the things of nature, and the deepest and tenderest earthly ties that humanhearts can know, He has sought to reveal Himself to us."-Ibid., p. 10.

6. What is God willing to do in behalf of the members of the human family inspite of their depraved condition? Matthew 6:25-30. Who assists men inachieving right relationships? Galatians 5:22, 23; 2 Peter 1:3-7.

"In His Sermon on the Mount, Christ taught His disciples precious lessons inregard to the necessity of trusting in God. These lessons were designed to encouragethe children of God through all ages, and they have come down to our time full of in­struction and comfort. The Saviour pointed His followers to the birds of the air asthey warbled their carols of praise, unencumbered with thoughts of care, for 'theysow not, neither do they reap.' And yet the great Father provides for their needs. TheSaviour asks, 'Are ye not much better than they?' "-Steps to Christ, p. 123.

"Those who become new creatures in Christ Jesus will bring forth the fruits ofthe Spirit, 'love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness,temperance.' "-Ibid., p. 58.

GOD RELATES TO HUMAN NEEDSD Wednesday

December 30

7. What were the reasons that Hagar and her son fled to the desert? Genesis21:9-11. In what way did God respond to the needs of Hagar and her son?Genesis 21:17-20.

8. In regard to personal relationships, what principle is demonstrated in thestory of the woman taken in adultery? John 8:10, 11. How did Jesus recog­nize the dignity of humanity?

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"In His act of pardoning this woman and encouraging her to live a better life, thecharacter of Jesus shines forth in the beauty of perfect righteousness. While He doesnot palliate sin, nor lessen the sense of guilt, He seeks not to condemn, but to save."- The Desire of Ages, p. 462.

"Jesus sat as an honored guest at the table of the publicans, by His sympathy andsocial kindliness showing that He recognized the dignity of humanity; and men longedto become worthy of His confidence. Upon their thirsty hearts His words fell withblessed, life-giving power. New impulses were awakened, and the possibility of a newlife opened to these outcasts of society."-Ibid., p. 274.

THE IDEAL RELATIONSHIPD ThursdayDecember 31

9. Why should we have a strong desire to communicate God's truth to any manwho will listen? 1 Corinthians 9:16; 2 Corinthians 5:14.

"If you would be His followers, you must cultivate compassion and sympathy.. . . If you are looking to Jesus, and drawing from Him knowledge and strength andgrace, you can impart His consolation to others, because the Comforter is with you."- Welfare Ministry, p. 26.

"The love of Christ, revealed to us, makes us debtors to all who know Him not.God has given us light, not for ourselves alone, but to shed upon them."-Steps toChrist, p. 81.

10. What is God's promise to each individual committed to His care? Zechariah2:8; Isaiah 49: 15, 16; Matthew 10:29,30. When we commit our lives to God,how can we be sure the heavenly agencies will protect us?

•'The soul that is yielded to Christ becomes His own fortress, which He holds in arevolted world, and He intends that no authority shall be known in it but His own. Asoul thus kept in possession by the heavenly agencies is impregnable to the assaults ofSatan."- The Desire of Ages, p. 324.

"While He extends to all the world His invitation to come to Him and be saved,He commissions His angels to render divine help to every soul that cometh to Him inrepentance and contrition, and He comes personally by His Holy Spirit into the midstof His church."- Testimonies to Ministers, p. 15.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSD FridayJanuary 1

a. How can we understand to some degree the relationship between Christ andGod?

b. What message is directed to those who in days of darkness feel that God isunmindful of them?

c. What evidence shows that our relationship to the Godhead is very precious?

d. Relate the experience of Hagar and the woman caught in adultery. How doesGod show His concern for man?

e. What are some of the traits that the followers of Christ should possess sothat they may manifest the characteristics of heaven to others? •

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Lesson 2 Sabbath, January 9, 1988

MARRIAGE: A LIFELONG UNION

"Like every other one of God's good gifts entrusted to the keeping of humanity,marriage has been perverted by sin; but it is the purpose of the gospel torestore its purity and beauty."-Thoughts From the Mount of Blessing, p. 64.

KEY TEXT: "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."Matthew 19:6.

ORIGIN OF MARRIAGEo Sunday

January 3

1. When God brought the marriage institution into existence, what law did Heestablish for men and women? Genesis 2:24. For what reasons was marriageinstituted? Genesis 2:18; 1:26-28; 1 Corinthians 7:2.

"God celebrated the first marriage. Thus the institution has for its originator theCreator of the universe. 'Marriage is honorable' (Hebrews 13:4); it was one of the firstgifts of God to man, and it is one of the two institutions that, after the Fall, Adambrought with him beyond the gates of Paradise. When the divine principles are recog­nized and obeyed in this relation, marriage is a blessing; it guards the purity and hap­piness of the race, it provides for man's social needs, it elevates the physical, the in­tellectual, and the moral nature."-Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 46.

2. How do we know that it is the will of God that a man should have only onewife, and a wife only one husband? Matthew 19:4-6. Give the name of thefirst polygamist mentioned in the Bible.

"In the beginning, God gave to Adam one wife, thus showing His order. He neverdesigned that man should have a plurality of wives. Lamech was the first who de­parted in this respect from God's wise arrangement. He had two wives, which createddiscord in his family. The envy and jealousy of both made Lamech unhappy." -Spirit­ual Gifts, vol. 3, p. 99.

CHOOSING A COMPANIONo Monday

January 4

3. What example was given by Abraham in the choice of a wife for Isaac?Genesis 24:1-4, 67. How widely do professed Christians differ from Isaac inthis matter? What is the consequence?

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"What a contrast between the course of Isaac and that pursued by the youth ofour time, even among professed Christians! Young people too often feel that thebestowal of their affections is a matter in which self alone should be consulted-a mat­ter that neither God nor their parents should in any wise control. Long before theyhave reached manhood or womanhood they think themselves competent to maketheir own choice, without the aid of their parents. A few years of married life areusually sufficient to show them their error, but often too late to prevent its balefulresults. For the same lack of wisdom and self-control that dictated the hasty choice ispermitted to aggravate the evil, until the marriage relation becomes a galling yoke.Many have thus wrecked their happiness in this life and their hope of the life to come."-Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 175.

4. Give examples of unwise choices. Luke 17:32; Genesis 26:34,35; 27:46; Job2:9, 10; Judges 14:1-3. Why do you think Lot chose the wrong marriagepartner who later proved to be a hindrance to him?

"The wife of Lot was a selfish, irreligious woman, and her influence was exertedto separate her husband from Abraham. But for her, Lot would not have remained inSodom, deprived of the counsel of the wise, God-fearing patriarch. The influence ofhis wife and the associations of that wicked city would have led him to apostatize fromGod had it not been for the faithful instruction he had early received from Abraham.The marriage of Lot and his choice of Sodom for a home were the first links in a chainof events fraught with evil to the world for many generations."-Patriarchs and Prophets,p.174.

LOYALTIES IN MARRIAGED Tuesday

January 5

5. What change in family relationships and loyalties must take place for a suc·cessful marriage? 1 Corinthians 7:33, 34.

6. What oneness does the Christian marriage vow elicit from man and woman?Mark 10:8, 9; Hebrews 13:4 (first part).

"God made from the man a woman, to be a companion and helpmeet for him, tobe one with him, to cheer, encourage, and bless him, he in his turn to be her stronghelper. All who enter into matrimonial relations with a holy purpose-the husband toobtain the pure affections of a woman's heart, the wife to soften and improve thehusband's character and give it completeness-fulfill God's purpose for them."-TheAdventist Home, p. 99.

"In the youthful mind marriage is clothed with romance, and it is difficult todivest it of this feature, with which imagination covers it, and to impress the mindwith a sense of the weighty responsibilities involved in the marriage vow. This vowlinks the destinies of the two individuals with bonds which naught but the hand ofdeath should sever."-Ibid., p. 340.

DIVORCE-NOT GOD'S PLAND Wednesday

January 6

7. Why were divorce and remarriage tolerated in' the Mosaic legislation? Mat·thew 19:7, 8. What is the cause for which a man may put away his wife? Mat-thew 5:32; 19:9. .

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8. How does the Bible restrict the rights of a divorced person and make it plainthat man is not permitted to meddle with the sacred marriage institution?Mark 10:12; Luke 16:18; Romans 7:1-3; 1 Corinthians 7:10, 11,39.

"Jesus came to our world to rectify mistakes and to restore the moral image ofGod in man. Wrong sentiments in regard to marriage had found a place in the mindsof the teachers of Israel. They were making of none effect the sacred institution ofmarriage. Man was becoming so hardhearted that he would for the most trivial ex­cuse separate from his wife, or, if he chose, he would separate her from the childrenand send her away.... Christ came to correct these evils, and His first miracle waswrought on the occasion of the marriage. Thus He announced to the world that mar­riage when kept pure and undefiled is a sacred institution."-TheAdventistHome, p. 341.

"Every marriage engagement should be carefully considered, for marriage is astep taken for life. Both the man and the woman should carefully consider whetherthey can cleave to each other through the vicissitudes of life as long as they both shalllive."-Ibid., p. 340.

A STABLE RELATIONSHIPo Thursday

January 7

9. On what does the stability of the marriage relationship depend? 1 Corinthi­ans 12:25 (last part); 1 Peter 5:5.

"In your life union your affections are to be tributary to each other's happiness.Each is to minister to the happiness of the other. This is the will of God concerningyou. But while you are to blend as one, neither of you is to lose his or her individualityin the other. God is the owner of your individuality. Of Him you are to ask: What isright? What is wrong? How may I best fulfill the purpose of my creation? 'Ye are notyour own; for ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and inyour spirit, which are God's.' 1 Corinthians 6:19, 20....

"Make Christ first and last and best in everything. Constantly behold Him, andyour love for Him will daily become deeper and stronger as it is submitted to the testof trial. And as your love for Him increases, your love for each other will grow deeperand stronger." - Testimonies, vol. 7, pp. 45, 46.

10. Whose presence in the home will impart stability to the marriage relation­ship? John 15:5 (last part).

"The grace of Christ, and this alone, can make this institution [marriage] whatGod designed it should be-an agent for the blessing and uplifting of humanity. Andthus the families of earth, in their unity and peace and love, may represent the familyof heaven."- Thoughts From the Mount of Blessing, p. 65.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSo FridayJanuary 8

a. Which are the two institutions that originated in Paradise?b. To what lengths did Abraham go to secure a proper companion for Isaac?c. What attitude should husband and wife take toward each other so that God's

purpose for them may be fulfilled?d. How does the Gospel affect the marriage institution?e. How should husband and wife act toward each other in order to preserve the

sanctity of their marriage relationship? •

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Lesson 3 Sabbath, January 16, 1988

HUSBAND AND WIFE

"[A]s your love for Him increases, your love for each other will grow deeperand stronger. Though difficulties, perplexities, and discouragements mayarise, let neither husband nor wife harbor the thought that their union is amistake or a disappointment.... Continue the early attentions.... Study toadvance the happiness of each other."-The Adventist Home, p. 106.

KEY TEXT: "Put on ... bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meek­ness, longsuffering, forbearing one another and forgiving oneanother." Colossians 3:12, 13.

FACTORS OF SUCCESSD SundayJanuary 10

1. How can husband and wife help each other grow in love, grace, and in theknowledge of our Lord? Galatians 6:2.

"The wife is to respect her husband. The husband is to love and cherish his wife;and as their marriage vow unites them as one, so their belief in Christ should makethem one in Him. What can be more pleasing to God than to see those who enter intothe marriage relation seek together to learn of Jesus and to become more and moreimbued with His Spirit?"-The Adventist Home, p. 114.

2. What other factors will add to the success of the marriage relationship? Co­lossians 3:12-15.

"You now have duties to perform that before your marriage you did not have.'Put on therefore, ... kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering.''Walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us.' Give careful study to the following in­struction: 'Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Forthe husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church.. . . Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their ownhusbands in every thing.' "-The Adventist Home, p. 114.

HUSBAND-WIFE RELATIONSHIPD MondayJanuary 11

3. What instructions should assist the family members in their interpersonalrelations inside and outside the home? 1 Peter 3:1-4. What is God's plan forthe Christian home?

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"God would have our families symbols of the family in heaven."-The AdventistHome, p. 17.

"[Husband and wife] should cultivate patience by practicing patience. By beingkind and forbearing, true love may be kept warm in the heart, and qualities will bedeveloped that Heaven will approve."-Ibid., p. 106.

4. Under what condition will harmony in the marriage relationship endure?How should husbands and wives treat each other? Ephesians 5:22, 23, 25;Matthew 7:12.

"We must have the Spirit of God, or we can never have harmony in the home.The wife, if she has the spirit of Christ, will be careful of her words; she will controlher spirit, she will be submissive, and yet will not feel that she is a bondslave, but acompanion to her husband. If the husband is a servant of God, he will not lord it overhis wife; he will not be arbitrary and exacting. We cannot cherish home affection withtoo much care; for the home, if the Spirit of the Lord dwells there, is a type of heaven.. . . If one errs, the other will exercise Christlike forbearance and not draw coldlyaway."-The Adventist Home, p. 118.

"Around every family there is a sacred circle that should be kept unbroken. With­in this circle no other person has a right to come. Let not the husband or the wife per­mit another to share the confidences that belong solely to themselves." - The Ministryof Healing, p. 361.

MUTUAL LOVE, RESPECT, HONOR IN MARRIAGED Tuesday

January 12

5. What attitude should the husband have toward his wife? Colossians 3:19.

"[I]t was not the design of God that the husband should have control, as head ofthe house, when he himself does not submit to Christ. He must be under the rule ofChrist that he may represent the relation of Christ to the church. If he is a coarse,rough, boisterous, egotistical, harsh, and overbearing man, let him never utter theword that the husband is the head of the wife, and that she must submit to him."- TheAdventist Home, p. 117.

6. What does the Scripture teach about submission of wives to husbands? Co­lossians 3:18; 1 Peter 3:4-6.

A SENSE OF SELF-WORTH

7. How deep is a man's love to be for his wife? Ephesians 5:28.

D WednesdayJanuary 13

"The wife is to respect her husband. The husband is to love and cherish his wife;and as their marriage vow unites them as one, so their belief in Christ should makethem one in Him."-The Adventist Home, p. 114.

8. How may each spouse complement and encou~age the marriage unit proper­ly, warmly and honestly? Ephesians 5:33; 1 Peter 3:1,7. How can we be thehappiest of families? Colossians 3:16, 17; Psalm 128.

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"Let each give love rather than exact it. Cultivate that which is noblest inyourselves, and be quick to recognize the good qualities in each other. The con­sciousness of being appreciated is a wonderful stimulus and satisfaction....

"Neither the husband nor the wife should attempt to exercise over the other anarbitrary control. Do not try to compel each other to yield to your wishes. You cannotdo this and retain each other's love. Be kind, patient, and forbearing, considerate, andcourteous. By the grace of God you can succeed in making each other happy, as inyour marriage vow you promised to do."-The Ministry of Healing, p. 361.

MARRIAGE, AN INSTRUMENT OF SALVATIOND Thursday

January 14

9. What principle is to have a special place in the Christian home? Matthew5:14-16; Titus 2:1-4.

10. In what ways can marriage become an instrument of salvation to unbe­lievers? Titus 2:4-6; 1 John 3:18.

"From every Christian home a holy light should shine forth. Love should be re­vealed in action. It should flow out in all home intercourse, showing itself in thought­ful kindness, in gentle, unselfish courtesy."-Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 144.

"The best test of the Christianity of a home is the type of character begotten byits influence. Actions speak louder than the most positive profession of godli­ness."-Ibid., p. 579.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSD Friday

January 15

a. Summarize the mutual duties of husband and wife.

b. What is God's instruction concerning interpersonal relations within andwithout the home? How will harmony be maintained in the marriage rela­tionship?

c. What attitudes, if exemplified by husband and wife, will bring the atmo­sphere of heaven into the home?

d. Mention some of the ways in which each person in the marriage commitmentmay contribute to each other's sense of self-worth?

e. In what ways is marriage an instrument of salvation? •

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Lesson 4 Sabbath, January 23, 1988

PARENTS AND CHILDREN

"Children are committed to their parents as a precious trust, which God willone day require at their hands. We should give to their training more time,more care, and more prayer." - The Adventist Home, p. 161.

KEY TEXT: "Behold, I and the children whom the Lord hath given me are forsigns and for wonders in Israel from the Lord of hosts, which dwellethin mount Zion." Isaiah 8:18.

MAN AND WOMANo SundayJanuary 17

1. What does the report about the creation of Adam and Eve tell us regardingGod on the one hand and man on the other? Genesis 1:27. Why did Godcreate people? Isaiah 43:7.

2. What is so significant in the fact that the Creator made them male andfemale? Genesis 2:18; 1:28; 3:20. In what way should the human familyreflect the image of God?

"The Lord was pleased with this last and noblest of all His creatures, and designedthat he should be the perfect inhabitant of a perfect world. But it was not His purposethat man should live in solitude. He said: 'It is not good that the man should be alone;I will make him an help meet for him.' "-The Adventist Home, p. 25.

A PRIVILEGE AND A DUTYo MondayJanuary 18

3. How did the men of God consider the privilege of having children? Genesis30:1,2; Psalm 127:3.

"Children derive life and being from their parents, and yet it is through the crea­tive power of God that your children have life, for God is the Life-giver. Let it beremembered that children are not to be treated as though they were our own personalproperty."- The Adventist Home, p. 280.

4. To what extent are parents responsible for the spiritual upbringing of theirchildren? Isaiah 8:18; Hebrews 2:13. What will be the reward of faithfulshepherds in the home? 1 Peter 5:4.

"Christ was once a little child. For His sake honor the children. Look upon themas a sacred charge, not to be indulged, petted, and idolized, but to be taught to live

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pure, noble lives. They are God's property; He loves them, and calls upon you tocooperate with Him in helping them to form perfect characters.

"If you would meet God in peace, feed His flock now with spiritual food; for everychild has the possibility of attaining unto eternal life. Children and youth are God'speculiar treasure."-The Adventist Home, p. 280.

CONSIDERATION FOR CHILDREND Tuesday

January 19

5. When mothers tried to bring their children to Jesus to be blessed of Him,what did the disciples try to do? Matthew 19:13-15. What object lesson didJesus present to His disciples that is applicable to us?

"In the days of Christ mothers brought their children to Him, that He might layHis hands upon them in blessing. By this act they showed their faith in Jesus and theintense anxiety of their hearts for the present and future welfare of the little onescommitted to their care. But the disciples could not see the need of interrupting theMaster just for the sake of noticing the children, and as they were sending thesemothers away, Jesus rebuked the disciples and commanded the crowd to make wayfor these faithful mothers with their little children. Said He, 'Suffer little children, andforbid them not, to come unto Me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.' "-TheAdventist Home, p. 273.

6. What is one of the reasons why we should not neglect our children? Matthew18:10. How does the Lord regard children? Matthew 18:6.

"Children are committed to their parents as a precious trust, which God will oneday require at their hands. We should give to their training more time, more care, andmore prayer. They need more of the right kind of instruction....

"Remember that your sons and daughters are younger members of God's family.He has committed them to your care, to train and educate for heaven. You mustrender an account to Him for the manner in which you discharge your sacred trust."- The Adventist Home, p. 161.

THE FAMILY UNITYD Wednesday

January 20

7. Around whom do most things in the home revolve? Why? Proverbs 31:10-13,25, 28. Why are unity, order, tidiness and discipline in the home essentialfor the general well-being?

"Mothers, make yourselves as attractive as possible; not by elaborate trimming,but by wearing clean, well-fitting garments. Thus you will give to your children con­stant lessons in neatness and purity. The love and respect of her children should be ofthe highest value to every mother. Everything upon her person should teach clean­liness and order and should be associated in their minds with purity. There is a senseof fitness, an idea of the appropriateness of things, in the minds of even very youngchildren; and how can they be impressed with the desirability of purity and holinesswhen their eyes daily rest on untidy dresses and disorderly rooms? How can theheavenly guests, whose home is where all is pure and holy, be invited into such adwelling?

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"Order and cleanliness is the law of heaven; and in order to come into harmonywith the divine arrangement, it is our duty to be neat and tasty."-The Adventist Home,p.254.

8. What must the father convey to his wife and children as the head of thehousehold? Psalm 103:13. Why does the wife look to him for help in trainingthe children?

"The husband and father is the head of the household. The wife looks to him forlove and sympathy, and for aid in the training of the children; and this is right. Thechildren are his as well as hers, and he is equally interested in their welfare. Thechildren look to their father for support and guidance; he needs to have a right con­ception of life and of the influences and associations that should surround his family;above all, he should be controlled by the love and fear of God and by the teaching ofHis word, that he may guide the feet of his children in the right way."-The Ministry ofHealing, p. 390.

EVERY CHRISTIAN HOME A BETHELD Thursday

January 21

9. Narrate Jacob's experience at Bethel. Genesis 28:16-19. How can Christianparents transform their homes into a Bethel (house of God)?

"Our homes must be made a Bethel, our hearts a shrine. Wherever the love ofGod is cherished in the soul, there will be peace, there will be light and joy. Spreadout the word of God before your families in love, and ask, 'What hath God spoken?' "- The Adventist Home, p. 19.

10. To what extent is the home life instrumental in the development of thechild's character and of the condition of society? Galatians 6:7-9.

"As the youth are educated, and as their characters are molded in their childhoodto virtuous habits, self-control, and temperance, so will their influence be upon socie­ty. If they are left unenlightened and uncontrolled, and as the result become self­willed, intemperate in appetite and passion, so will be their future influence inmolding society. The company which the young now keep, the habits they now form,and the principles they now adopt are the index to the state of society for years tocome."-The Adventist Home, p. 15.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSD Friday

January 22

a. In creation, what evidence shows that man was made a sociable being?

b. In the matter of procreation, what shows that Jacob understood that God isin control of events?

c. What did the disciples try to do as the mothers sought to bring their childrento Jesus to be blessed by Him? In what sense is the object lesson that Jesustaught to His disciples important to us today?

d. How are the parents' roles complementary one to the other?

e. In what way does the home influence affect the children and the society inwhich they live? •

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Lesson 5 Sabbath, January 30, 1988

PARENTS AND CHILDREN

(continued)

"It was God's plan for the members of the family to be associated in workand study, in worship and recreation, the father as priest of his household,and both father and mother as teachers and companions of their children."- Education, pp. 250, 251.

KEY TEXT: "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.... Fathers,provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurtureand admonition of the Lord." Ephesians 6:1-4.

PARENTS AND CHILDREND SundayJanuary 24

1. How is the home a natural place to start the work of reform? Malachi 4:5, 6;Luke 1:17.

2. What is our duty toward our children as far as disciplining them in the fear ofthe Lord? Proverbs 19:18; Hebrews 12:7,8.

"Many parents will have to render an awful account at last for their neglect oftheir children. They have fostered and cherished their evil tempers by bending totheir wishes and will, when the wishes and will of the children should bend to them.They have brought God's frown upon them and their children by these things. Par­ents, have you forgotten that which was written in the holy word: 'He that spareth therod hateth his son'? Children are left to come up instead of being trained up. The poorlittle children are thought not to know or understand a correction at ten or twelvemonths old, and they begin to show stubbornness very young."- The Review and Herald,March 28, 1893.

DUTIES OF PARENTSD MondayJanuary 25

3. How can an ideal interrelationship be established between parents and chil­dren? Colossians 3:20, 21.

'thildren are the heritage of the Lord, and the plan of redemption includes theirsalvation as well as ours. They have been entrusted, to parents in order that theymight be brought up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, that they might bequalified to do their work in time and eternity."-The Adventist Home, p. 280.

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"Actual wrong should be made to appear just as sinful as it is, and a firm, decidedcourse should be pursued to prevent its recurrence; yet children should not be left in ahopeless state of mind, but with a degree of courage that they can improve and gainyour confidence and approval."-Child Guidance, p. 279.

4. What questions shall we have to answer in connection with our children?Jeremiah 13:20.

"Exact obedience in your family; but while you do this seek the Lord with yourchildren, and ask Him to come in and rule. Your children may have done somethingthat demands punishment; but if you deal with them in the spirit of Christ, their armswill be thrown about your neck; they will humble themselves before the Lord and willacknowledge their wrong. That is enough. They do not then need punishment. Let usthank the Lord that He has opened the way by which we may reach every soul."-ChildGuidance, p. 244.

FURTHER DUTIES OF PARENTSo Tuesday

January 26

5. What essential quality must a man reveal as a son before he can have successas a father? Proverbs 15:20. How will a wise son qualify to be a competentfather? Proverbs 1:5; 13:1; 14:16.

"Never will education accomplish all that it might and should accomplish until theimportance of the parents' work is fully recognized, and they receive a training for itssacred responsibilities."-Education, p. 276.

6. How important is it for parents not to indulge blind affection or to manifestundue severity toward their children? John 10:27; Ephesians 6:4.

"While we are not to indulge blind affection, neither are we to manifest undueseverity. Children cannot be brought to the Lord by force. They can be led, but notdriven. 'My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me,' Christdeclares. John 10:27. He does not say, My sheep hear My voice and are forced intothe path of obedience. Never should parents cause their children pain by harshness orunreasonable exactions. Harshness drives souls into Satan's net.

"Administer the rules of the home in wisdom and love, not with a rod of iron.Children will respond with willing obedience to the rule of love.... Make their livesas happy as possible.... Keep the soil of the heart mellow by the manifestation oflove and affection, thus preparing it for the seed of truth."-Counsels to Parents,Teachers, and Students, p. 114.

DUTIES OF CHILDRENo 'Wednesday

January 27

7. How are children to obey the divine command to honor their parents? Ephe­sians 6:2, 3. What are they to do in the home environment?

"The obligation resting upon children to honor their parents is of lifelong dura­tion.... Our obligation to our parents never ceases. Our love for them, and theirs for

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us, is not measured by years or distance, and our responsibility can never be set aside."- The Adventist Home, p. 360.

"Parents are entitled to a degree of love and respect which is due to no other per­son. God Himself, who has placed upon them a responsibility for the souls committedto their charge, has ordained that during the earlier years of life, parents shall stand inthe place of God to their children.... The fifth commandment requires children notonly to yield respect, submission, and obedience to their parents, but also to givethem love and tenderness, to lighten their cares, to guard their reputation, and succorand comfort them in old age."-Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 308.

8. Besides the parents, who else should be treated with special respect? Leviti­cus 19:32; 1 Timothy 5: 1. How will Christian children act in the home en·vironment?

"A true Christian will never be unkind, never under any circumstances be ne­glectful of his father or mother, but will heed the command, 'Honour thy father andthy mother.' God has said, 'Thou shalt rise up before the hoary head, and honour theface of the old man.' ...

"Children, let your parents, infirm and unable to care for themselves, find theirlast days filled with contentment, peace, and love. For Christ's sake let them go downto the grave receiving from you only words of kindness, love, mercy, and forgiveness.You desire the Lord to love and pity and forgive you, and to make all your bed in yoursickness, and will you not treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself?"- The Adventist Home, pp. 362, 363.

THE HOME AND THE SABBATHD Thursday

January 28

9. What is the value of the Sabbath as a means of education in the home? Ex­odus 31:13; 20:11.

"The value of the Sabbath as a means of education is beyond estimate. Whateverof ours God claims from us, He returns again, enriched, transfigured, with His ownglory. The tithe that He claimed from Israel was devoted to preserving among men,in its glorious beauty, the pattern of His temple in the heavens, the token of Hispresence on the earth. So the portion of our time which He claims is given again to us,bearing His name and seal. 'It is a sign.' He says, 'between Me and you; ... that yemay know that I am the Lord'; because 'in six days the Lord made heaven and earth,the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the Lord blessedthe Sabbath day, and hallowed it.' Exodus 31:13; 20:11."-Education, p. 250.

10. Where and how were the family and the Sabbath linked together? Genesis2:1-3. How does the Sabbath provide for the family an opportunity for com·munion with God?

"The Sabbath and the family were alike instituted in Eden, and in God's purposethey are indissolubly linked together. On this day more than any other, it is possiblefor us to live the life of Eden. It was God's plan for the members of the family to beassociated in work and study, in worship and recreation, the father as priest of hishousehold, and both father and mother as teachers ,and companions of their chil­dren."-Education, pp. 250, 251.

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Lesson 6 Sabbath, February 6, 1988

RELIGION IN THE HOME

"Religion is needed in the home. Only this can prevent the grievous wrongswhich so often embitter married life. Only where Christ reigns, can there bedeep, true, unselfish love. Then soul will be knit with soul, and the two liveswill blend in harmony."-Testimonies, vol. 5, p. 362.

KEY TEXT: "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: a good understand­ing have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth forever." Psalm 111:10.

IMPORTANT PRINCIPLESo SundayJanuary 31

1. What is the basic principle of true home religion? Psalm 111:10; Job 28:28.

"Fathers and mothers who make God first in their households, who teach theirchildren that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, glorify God beforeangels and before men by presenting to the world a well-ordered, well-disciplinedfamily, a family that love and obey God instead of rebelling against Him.... Suchfamilies can claim the promise: 'Them that honour Me I will honour.' "-The AdventistHome, p. 322.

2. What attitude, if associated with the fear of the Lord, will make the religionof Christ attractive in the home? Proverbs 15:13 (first part).

"Parents are to make the religion of Christ attractive by their cheerfulness, theirChristian courtesy, and their tender, compassionate sympathy; but they are to be firmin requiring respect and obedience. Right principles must be established in the mindof the child."-The Adventist Home, p. 323.

HOME RELIGIONo MondayFebruary 1

3. How did Abraham rule his own house? Genesis 18:18, 19. How firm are weto be with our children in commanding them?

"When we have good home religion, we will have excellent meeting religion.Hold the fort at home. Consecrate your family to God, and then speak and act at home

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as a Christian. Be kind and forbearing and patient at home, knowing that you areteachers."-The Adventist Home, p. 319.

"[S]how in your life that Jesus is everything to you, and that His love makes youpatient, kind, forbearing, and yet firm in commanding your children after you, as didAbraham."-Ibid., p. 317.

4. What influences that rule in the home life are applicable in the church life? 1Thessalonians 2:10-13. What theme should occupy a central place in thetraining of our children? Romans 16:25,26.

"In the home the foundation is laid for the prosperity of the church. The in­fluences that rule in the home life are carried into the church life; therefore churchduties should first begin in the home."-The Adventist Home, p. 318.

KNOWLEDGE OF SCRIPTURES ESSENTIALo TuesdayFebruary 2

5. What great responsibility do we have for our children and how will God blessour efforts? Proverbs 4:1-8.

"The father and the mother are responsible for the maintenance of religion in thehome."- The Adventist Home, p. 321.

"Those who hold positions of trust in the cause of God are to perfect the life afterthe divine similitude. In the home, in the church, before the world, they [parents] areto reveal the power of Christian principle to transform the life,"-Counsels to Parents,Teachers, and Students, p. 397.

"God will do great things for those who will open the heart to His word and let ittake possession of the soul temple,"-Ibid., p. 396.

6. What will religious instruction in the home accomplish for our children?Proverbs 4:10-13. How will parents teach their children to approach Jesus?

"When parents are diligent and vigilant in their instruction, and train their chil­dren with an eye single to the glory of God, they cooperate with God, and God cooper­ates with them in the saving of the souls of the children for whom Christ has died.

"Religious instruction means much more than ordinary instruction. It means thatyou are to pray with your children, teaching them how to approach Jesus and tell Himall their wants."-The Adventist Home, p.317.

"Without the vital principles of true religion, without the knowledge of how toserve and glorify the Redeemer, education is more harmful than beneficial."-Counselsto Parents, Teachers, and Students, p. 412.

o WednesdayKNOWLEDGE OF SCRIPTURES ESSENTIAL (continued) February 3

7. How early are we to bring the light of God's knowledge to our children? 2Timothy 3:15.

"As soon as the little ones are intelligent to understand, parents should tell themthe story of Jesus that they may drink in the precious truth concerning the Babe of

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Bethlehem. Impress upon the children's minds sentiments of simple piety that areadapted to their years and ability."-The Adventist Home, p. 320.

8. How diligent must we as parents be in teaching the Holy Scriptures to ourchildren? Isaiah 34:16 (first part); Deuteronomy 6:6-9. In what does familyreligion consist? Proverbs 22:6.

"Family religion consists in bringing up the children in the nurture and admoni­tion of the Lord. Everyone in the family is to be nourished by the lessons of Christ,and the interest of each soul is to be strictly guarded."- The Adventist Home, p. 317.

A CAUSE-AND-EFFECT RELATIONSHIPo Thursday

February 4

9. As far as child training is concerned, mention an example of cooperation be­tween husband and wife. Judges 13:8-12. In what sense should parents becautious and of what should they be sure before they are qualified to traintheir children? Deuteronomy 4:9.

"The father of the family should not leave to the mother all the care of impartingspiritual instruction. A large work is to be done by fathers and mothers, and bothshould act their individual part in preparing their children for the grand review of thejudgment."- The Adventist Home, p. 321.

10. What influence will true home religion exert upon society? Deuteronomy4:5-8.

"If religion is to influence society, it must first influence the home circle. Ifchildren were trained to love and fear God at home, when they go forth into the world,they would be prepared to train their own families for God, and thus the principles oftruth would become implanted in society and would exert a telling influence in theworld. Religion should not be divorced from home education."- The Adventist Home,p.318.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSo Friday

February 5

a. How and why should cheerfulness be combined with the fear of the Lord inthe home school?

b. When we have good home religion, what will we have in the church?

c. What will God do for parents who open their hearts to His word in connec­tion with the training of their children?

d. Weare to bring up our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.What does that mean?

e. What principles should parents instill into their children? •

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Lesson 7 Sabbath, February 13, 1988

HOME ATMOSPHERE

"Never forget that you are to make the home bright and happy for yourselvesand your children by cherishing the Saviour's attributes.... You will be ableto help your children to be trees of righteousness, bearing the fruit of theSpirit." - The Adventist Home, p. 17.

KEY TEXT: "Blessed is every one that feareth the Lord; that walketh in his ways.. . . Yea, thou shalt see thy children's children, and peace upon Is­rael." Psalm 128:1, 6.

CHRIST'S PRESENCE IN THE HOMEo SundayFebruary 7

1. How will Christ's presence in the home be manifested? Psalm 16:11; Gala­tians 5:22, 23. What will be inherent in the home where children love theirparents and God?

"The home that is beautified by love, sympathy, and tenderness is a place thatangels love to visit, and where God is glorified. The influence of a carefully guardedChristian home in the years of childhood and youth is the surest safeguard against thecorruptions of the world. In the atmosphere of such a home the children will learn tolove both their earthly parents and their heavenly Father."- The Adventist Home, p. 19.

2. To what extent will daily sanctification be instrumental in forming Christiancharacters in the home? 2 Thessalonians 2:13 (last part); John 16:13 (firstpart).

"Holiness to God is to pervade the home.... Parents and children are to educatethemselves to cooperate with God. They are to bring their habits and practices intoharmony with God's plans.

"The family relationship should be sanctifying in its influence. Christian homes,established and conducted in accordance with God's plan, are a wonderful help informing Christian character. ... Parents and children should unite in offering lovingservice to Him who alone can keep human love pure and noble." - The Adventist Home,p.19.

PROPER ATTITUDESo MondayFebruary 8

3. How did Christ, by precept and example, teach that Christians shouldalways pray? Matthew 14:23; Luke 6:12; 18:1.

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"Have a place for secret prayer. Jesus had select places for communion with God,and so should we. We need often to retire to some spot, however humble, where wecan be alone with God."-Thoughts From the Mount of Blessing, p. 84.

4. What are the two extremes that are to be avoided in every Christian home?Isaiah 3:16; Proverbs 23:21 (last part).

"While we are to guard against needless adornment and display, we are in nocase to be careless and indifferent in regard to outward appearance. All about our per­sons and our homes is to be neat and attractive. The youth are to be taught the impor­tance of presenting an appearance above criticism, an appearance that honors Godand the truth....

"God is displeased with disorder, slackness, and a lack of thoroughness in any­one. These deficiencies are serious evils, and tend to wean the affections of the hus­band from the wife when the husband loves order, well-disciplined children, and awell-regulated house. A wife and mother cannot make home agreeable and happyunless she possesses a love for order, preserves her dignity, and has good govern­ment; therefore all who fail on these points should begin at once to educatethemselves in this direction, and cultivate the very things wherein is their greatestlack,"-The Adventist Home, pp. 22, 23.

IMPORTANCE OF RULESo TuesdayFebruary 9

5. What will be present as a central part in every well-disciplined Christianhome? Proverbs 6:20-23.

"Every Christian home should have rules; and parents should, in their words anddeportment toward each other, give to the children a precious, living example of whatthey desire them to be. Purity in speech and true Christian courtesy should be con­stantly practiced. Teach the children and youth to respect themselves, to be true toGod, true to principle; teach them to respect and obey the law of God." - The AdventistHome, p. 16.

6. What is one of the strongest arguments in favor of the Christian religion? 1Timothy 3:4,5.

"One well-ordered, well-disciplined family tells more in behalf of Christianitythan all the sermons that can be preached. Such a family gives evidence that theparents have been successful in following God's directions, and that their childrenwill serve Him in the church." - The Adventist Home, p. 32.

HEAVEN ON EARTHo Wednesday

February 10

7. Too often children are considered "disturbers of the peace" of the home.What can parents do to ameliorate this situation? Psalm 128:1,3,6; Prov­erbs 31:27, 28.

"Home should be made all that the word implies. It should be a little heaven uponearth, a place where the affections are cultivated instead of being studiously re­pressed....

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"To a large extent parents create the atmosphere of the home circle.... Thework of transforming must be done now. Our daily lives are determining ourdestiny."-The Adventist Home, pp. 15, 16.

8. What experience should be the aim of every member of the family? Philip­pians 2:1-5. How can parents make the home an attractive place?

"While there are weighty responsibilities devolving upon the parents to guardcarefully the future happiness and interests of their children, it is also their duty tomake home as attractive as possible. This is of far greater consequence than to ac­quire estates and money. Home must not lack sunshine. The home feeling should bekept alive in the hearts of the children, that they may look back upon the home oftheir childhood as a place of peace and happiness next to heaven. Then as they cometo maturity, they should in their turn try to be a comfort and blessing to their parents.

"The home should be to the children the most attractive place in the world, andthe mother's presence should be its greatest attraction. Children have sensitive, lov­ing natures. They are easily pleased, and easily made unhappy. By gentle discipline,in loving words and acts, mothers may bind their children to their hearts."-TheAdventist Home, p. 21.

EFFICIENT HOME TRAININGo Thursday

February 11

9. What suggestion is contained in the record about Christ's childhood? Luke2:40,52.

"Notwithstanding the sacred mission of Christ, His exalted relationship withGod, of which He was fully aware, He was not above performing the practical dutiesof life. He was the Creator of the world, and yet He acknowledged His obligation toHis earthly parents, and at the call of duty, in compliance with the wishes of Hisparents, He returned with them from Jerusalem after the Passover, and was subjectunto them. He submitted to restraints of parental authority and acknowledged the ob­ligations of a son, a brother, a friend, and a citizen. He discharged His duties to Hisearthly parents with respectful courtesy.... Jesus was not turned aside by an in-fluence from the faithful service expected of a son Christ was sedate, self-denying, gentle, cheerful, kind, and ever obedient. There is an important lessonfor parents and children to learn in the silence of the Scriptures in reference to thechildhood and youth of Christ. He was our example in all things. In the little noticegiven of His childhood and youthful life is an example for parents as well as children."-My Life Today, p. 299.

"The Sacred Record says of His childhood, 'The Child grew, and waxed strong inspirit, filled with wisdom: and the grace of God was upon Him.' ... 'Jesus increasedin wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men.' Luke 2:40, 52. The work ofparents and teachers is here suggested.... They should aim so to cultivate thetendencies of the youth that at each stage of their life they may represent the naturalbeauty appropriate to the period, unfolding naturally, as do the plants in the garden."-Counsels to Parents, Teachers, and Students, p. 141.

10. What temptation should be counteracted by tr'ue home training? Job 15:35.Why is it unwise to give children special notice and in their presence repeattheir clever sayings? How should our children be educated in the home?

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"Those children are most attractive who are natural and unaffected. It is not wiseto give children special notice and repeat their clever sayings before them. Vanityshould not be encouraged by praising their looks, their words, or their actions. Norshould they be dressed in an expensive or showy manner. This encourages pride inthem and awakens envy in the hearts of their companions. Teach the children that thetrue adorning is not outward....

"The little ones should be educated in childlike simplicity. They should be trainedto be content with the small, helpful duties and the pleasures and experiences naturalto their years."-Counsels to Parents, Teachers, and Students, pp. 141, 142.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSD Friday

February 12

a. What experience should be seen daily among those who are striving toemulate the life of Christ within the home circle?

b. What are some of the factors that will improve the home situation?

c. What commandment was given on Mount Sinai specifically for the childrenin the home? Why are rules necessary for all the members of the family?

d. As children reach maturity, how will they look back upon the Christianhome in which they were brought up?

e. What attitude on the part of parents and children will promote a healthyhome atmosphere? •

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"The great reformative movement

must begin in the home. Obedience to

God's law is the great incentive to in­

dustry, economy, truthfulness, and just

dealing between man and man."

-Child Guidance, p. 489.

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Lesson 8 Sabbath, February 20, 1988

THE HOME AS A TRAINING SCHOOL

"True education is missionary training. Every son and daughter of God is... called to be a missionary; we are called to the service of God and our fellow

men; and to fit us for this service should be the object of our education." - TheMinistry of Healing, p. 395.

KEY TEXT: "Set your hearts unto all the words which I testify among you this day,which ye shall command your children to observe to do, all the wordsof this law." Deuteronomy 32:46.

TRAINING FOR SERVICED Sunday

February 14

1. What plan does Christ have for every soul that turns to Him? John 17:18.Why is it necessary for our children to be trained in the home circle to be mis­sionaries for God?

"[Training for service.] This object should ever be kept in view by Christianparents and teachers. We know not in what line our children may serve. They mayspend their lives within the circle of the home; they may engage in life's commonvocations, or go as teachers of the gospel to heathen lands; but all are alike called tobe missionaries for God, ministers of mercy to the world.... Of all His children tothe close of time, no less than of the first disciples, Christ said, 'As Thou hast sent Meinto the world, even so have I also sent them into the world' (John 17:18), to berepresentatives of God, to reveal His Spirit, to manifest His character, to do Hiswork."-The Ministry of Healing, pp. 395, 396.

2. What is the purpose of directing our children into paths of Christlikeminis­try? Matthew 20:27, 28; 10:16.

"With us as parents and as Christians it rests to give our children right direction.They are to be carefully, wisely, tenderly guided into paths of Christlike ministry. Weare under sacred covenant with God to rear our children for His service.... 'God soloved ... that He gave,' 'gave His only-begotten Son,' that we should not perish, buthave everlasting life. 'Christ ... hath loved us, and hath given Himself for us.' If welove, we shall give. 'Not to be ministered unto, but to minister' is the great lessonwhich we are to learn and to teach."- The Ministry of Healing, p. 396.

THE HOME TEACHINGD MondayFebruary 15

3. What contrast is shown between Jesus' home training and that of theeducators of His time? Luke 2:40; Matthew 7d9. Where should our childrenreceive the first and most important missionary training?

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"The home is the child's first school, and it is here that the foundation should belaid for a life of service...."- The Ministry of Healing, p. 400.

"Jesus secured His education in the home. His mother was His first humanteacher. From her lips, and from the scrolls of the prophets, He learned of heavenlythings.... The educators of the time sought to command respect by display andostentation. To all this the life of Jesus presented a marked contrast. ... 'The childgrew, and waxed strong in spirit, filled with wisdom: and the grace of God was uponHim.' Luke 2:40. Thus prepared, He went forth to His mission, in every moment ofHis contact with men exerting upon them an influence to bless, a power to transform,such as the world had never witnessed."-Ibid., pp. 399, 400.

4. What advice does the wise man have for the person who does not like towork? Proverbs 6:6-11. When should the youth be given duties to performin the home?

"Very early the lesson of helpfulness should be taught the child. As soon asstrength and reasoning power are sufficiently developed, he should be given duties toperform in the home. He should be encouraged in trying to help father and mother,encouraged to deny and to control himself, to put others' happiness and conveniencebefore his own, to watch for opportunities to cheer and assist brothers and sisters andplaymates, and to show kindness to the aged, the sick, and the unfortunate."-TheMinistry of Healing, p. 401.

PROMISES OF BLESSINGD TuesdayFebruary 16

5. What has the Lord made known to parents to enable their children to gain aknowledge of God? Deuteronomy 32:46; 11:18, 19,21.

"Weare numbered with Israel. All the instruction given to the Israelites of oldconcerning the education and training of their children, all the promises of blessingthrough obedience, are for us."-The Ministry of Healing, p. 405.

6. How does God love those who give themselves to His service? Micah 5:7,8;John 17:22,23.

"Wonderful, wonderful words, almost beyond the grasp of faith! The Creator ofall worlds loves those who give themselves to His service, even as He loves His Son.Even here and now His gracious favor is bestowed upon us to this marvelous extent.He has given us the Light and Majesty of heaven, and with Him He has bestowed allthe heavenly treasure.... He desires us to enjoy everything that will ennoble, ex­pand, and elevate our characters. He is waiting to inspire the youth with power fromabove."-The Ministry of Healing, p. 405.

RESPECT FOR AUTHORITYo Wednesday

February 17

7. What is required by the fifth commandment? Exodus 20:12. What shouldparents have in view when teaching respect for paternal authority? What doyou know about Isaac's training?

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"Parents should never lose sight of their own responsibility for the future hap­piness of their children. Isaac's deference to his father's judgment was the result ofthe training that had taught him to love a life of obedience."-Messages to Young People,pp. 465, 466.

8. How may Ishmael's character be described? Genesis 16: 12. How did he, inhis latter days, benefit from the training received from his father Abraham?

"Abraham's early teachings had not been without effect upon Ishmael, but the in­fluence of his wives resulted in establishing idolatry in his family. Separated from hisfather, and embittered by the strife and contention of a home destitute of the love andfear of God, Ishmael was driven to choose the wild, marauding life of the desert chief,'his hand' 'against every man, and every man's hand against him.' Genesis 16:12. Inhis latter days he repented of his evil ways and returned to his father's God, but thestamp of character given to his posterity remained. The powerful nation descendedfrom him were a turbulent, heathen people, who were ever an annoyance and afflic­tion to the descendants of Isaac."-Patriarchs and Prophets, p. 174.

THE HOME A TRAINING SCHOOLD Thursday

February 18

9. What special instruction should parents have in mind in the training of theirchildren? Romans 14:19; Philippians 2:15.

"The Bible gives explicit directions concerning the work of educating children.. . . Here are positive directions that reach down to our time. God is speaking to us inthese last days, and He will be understood and obeyed."-Testimonies, vol. 5, p. 328.

10. What should be the parents' daily monitor? Psalm 119:105, 130.

"Here the duties of parents are clearly set forth. The word of God is to be theirdaily monitor. It gives such instruction that parents need not err in regard to theeducation of their children; but it admits of no indifference or negligence. The law ofGod is to be kept before the minds of the children as the great moral standard. Whenthey rise up, and when they sit down, when they go out, and when they come in, thislaw is to be taught them as the great rule of life, and its principles are to be inter­woven with all their experience. They are to be taught to be honest, truthful, temperate,economical, and industrious, and to love God with the whole heart. This is bringingthem up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. This is setting their feet in thepath of duty and safety."- Testimonies, vol. 5, p. 329.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSD Friday

February 19

a. How important is it to give our children the right direction into paths ofChristian ministry?

b. In what sense and why should missionary training begin in the home?

c. How does God want to reach the children through the parents?

d. Wherein can you see a remarkable difference between Ishmael and Isaac?

e. What are some of the fundamentals of Christian child training? •

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Lesson 9 Sabbath, February 27, 1988

FAMILY DISCIPL~NE

"A sacred trust is committed to parents, to guard the physical and moral con­stitutions of their children, so that the nervous system may be well balanced,and the soul not endangered. Fathers and mothers should understand thelaws of life, that they may not, through ignorance, allow wrong tendencies todevelop in their children." -Fundamentals of Christian Education, p. 143.

KEY TEXT: "My son, keep thy father's commandment, and forsake not the law ofthy mother." Proverbs 6:20.

THE FATHER'S ROLEo Sunday

February 21

1. What kind of influences should surround our children and young people inour homes? Romans 12:10; Ephesians 5:2. What is the father's role in thisrespect?

"Our children stand, as it were, at the parting of the ways. On every hand theworld's enticements to self-seeking and self-indulgence call them away from the pathcast up for the ransomed of the Lord. Whether their lives shall be a blessing or a cursedepends upon the choice they make. Overflowing with energy, eager to test their un­tried capabilities, they must find some outlet for their superabounding life. Activethey will be for good or for evil."-The Ministry of Healing, p. 396.

"The children look to the father for support and guidance; he needs to have aright conception of life and of the influences and associations that should surround hisfamily; above all, he should be controlled by the love and fear of God and by the teach­ing of His Word, that he may guide the feet of his children in the right way."-TheAdventist Home, p. 211.

2. What will enable the father to make the home a happy, peaceful place? Phi­lippians 2:5. How will a faithful head of the household discharge his respon­sibilities toward his family?

"The father should do his part toward making home happy. Whatever his caresand business perplexities, they should not be permitted to overshadow his family; heshould enter his home with smiles and pleasant words." - The AdventistHome, pp. 211, 212.

"The father is to stand at the head of his family, not as an overgrown, undisciplinedboy, but as a man with manly character and with his passions controlled. He is to ob­tain an education in correct morals. His conduct in his home life is to be directed andrestrained by the pure principles of the word of God. Then he will grow up to the fullstature of a man in Christ Jesus."-Ibid., p. 213.

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THE FAMILY FIRMo MondayFebruary 22

3. What attitude on the part of the husband and father will contribute to thesuccess of the household? 1 Corinthians 11:1.

"The husband and father is the head of the household. The wife looks to him forlove and sympathy and for aid in the training of the children.... What his influencewill be in the home will be determined by his knowledge of the only true God andJesus Christ whom He has sent."-The Adventist Home, pp. 211, 213.

"The Lord has constituted the husband the head of the wife to be her protector;he is the house-band of the family, binding the members together, even as Christ isthe head of the church and the Saviour of the mystical body.... So let the husbandexercise his power and imitate the great Head of the church."-Ibid., p. 215.

4. How may Hannah's example and her faithful prayers to God be a blessing tomothers today? 1 Samuel 1:11.

"What a reward was Hannah's! and what an encouragement to faithfulness is herexample! There are opportunities of inestimable worth, interests infinitely precious,committed to every mother. ... It is the mother's privilege to bless the world by herinfluence, and in doing this she will bring joy to her own heart."-Patriarchs and Proph­ets, p. 572.

THE MOTHER'S ROLEo TuesdayFebruary 23

5. What are the sacred duties of a woman in relationship with those of a man?Give an example. Judges 13:9-12.

"This work of education the Infinite One has counted so important thatmessengers from His throne have been sent to a mother that was to be, to answer thequestion, 'How shall we order the child, and how shall we do unto him?' (Judges13:12), and to instruct a father concerning the education of a promised son."-Educa­tion, p. 276.

"Woman should fill the position which God originally designed for her, as herhusband's equal. The world needs mothers who are mothers not merely in name butin every sense of the word. We may safely say that the distinctive duties of womanare more sacred, more holy, than those of man. Let woman realize the sacredness ofher work and in the strength and fear of God take up her life mission."- The AdventistHome, p. 231.

6. Why is it that, next to God, the mother's power for good is the strongestknown in the family and in society? To what extent are the mother and herchild bound by a more tender bond? Give an example. 2 Timothy 1:5.

"The mother is God's agent to Christianize her family. She is to exemplifyBiblical religion, showing how its influence is to control us in its everyday duties andpleasures, teaching her children that by grace alone can they be saved, through faith,which is the gift of God."-The Adventist Home, p. 235.

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"Let her educate her children for usefulness in this world and for a fitness for thebetter world. We address Christian mothers. We entreat that you feel your respon­sibility as mothers and that you live not to please yourselves, but to glorify God.Christ pleased not Himself, but took upon Him the form of a servant."-Ibid., p. 236.

CORRECTING CHILDREND Wednesday

February 24

7. To what may be ascribed the rebelliousness of some children in professedChristian homes? 2 Timothy 3:2. What counsel should be held up before ourchildren? Proverbs 6:20. When are parents to begin to correct their children?

"Mothers, the destiny of your children rests to a great extent in your hands. Ifyou fail in duty, you may place them in Satan's ranks and make them his agents toruin other souls.... Let us mercifully correct our loved ones and keep them from thepower of the enemy."-Child Guidance, p. 224.

"One of the signs of the 'last days' is the disobedience of children to their parents.2 Timothy 3:2. And do parents realize their responsibility? Many seem to lose sight ofthe watch care they should have over their children, and suffer them to indulge in evilpassions, and to disobey them. They take but little notice of them until their own feel­ings are raised, and then punish them in anger."-The Review and Herald, March 28,1893.

"Parents, correct your children. Begin while they are young, when impressionscan be more easily made, and their evil tempers subdued before they grow with theirgrowth and strengthen with their strength.... You should correct your children inlove."-Ibid.

8. What is often necessary in our efforts to correct our children? Proverbs19:18.

"After you have done your duty faithfully to your children, then carry them toGod, and ask Him to help you. Tell Him that you have done your part, and then infaith ask God to do His part, that which you cannot do. Ask Him to temper theirdispositions, to make them mild and gentle by His Holy Spirit. He will hear you pray.He will love to answer your prayers. Through His word He has enjoined it upon youto correct your children, to 'spare not for their crying,' and His word is to be heededin these things."-The Review and Herald, March 28,1893.

SPECIAL INSTRUCTIONSD Thursday

February 25

9. What lesson of tender care toward the wife and children should Christianfathers learn from Jacob's example? Genesis 33:13, 14.

"The average father wastes many golden opportunities to attract and bind hischildren to him. Upon returning home from his business, he should find it a pleasantchange to spend some time with his children.

"Fathers should unbend from their false dignity, deny themselves some slightself-gratification in time and leisure, in order to mingle with the children, sympathiz­ing with them in their little troubles, binding them to th'eir hearts by the strong bondsof love, and establishing such an influence over their expanding minds that theircounsel will be regarded as sacred."-The Adventist Home, p. 220.

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"Many a husband and father might learn a helpful lesson from the carefulness ofthe faithful shepherd. Jacob, when urged to undertake a rapid and difficult journey,made answer: 'The children are tender, and the flocks and herds with young are withme: and if men should overdrive them one day, all the flock will die.' ... 'I will leadon softly, according as the cattle that goeth before me and the children be able to en­dure.' Genesis 33:13, 14. In life's toilsome way let the husband and father 'lead onsoftly,' as the companion of his journey is able to endure."-The Ministry of Healing,p.374.

10. What promise may faithful parents claim in the training of their children?Isaiah 49:25 (last part).

"Parents stand in the place of God to their children, and they will have to renderan account, whether they have been faithful to the little few committed to theircare."-The Review and Herald, March 28,1893.

"The sphere of the mother may be humble; but her influence, united with thefather's, is as abiding as eternity....

"The child is more readily impressed by the life and example of the mother thanby that of the father, for a stronger and more tender bond of union unites them." - TheAdventist Home, p. 240.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSD Friday

February 26

a. If there is a difference between the characteristic virtues of the husband andfather and those of the wife and mother, explain and compare.

b. What are the characteristics of a good father and those of a good mother?c. In what sense are the distinctive duties of a woman more sacred than those

of a man?d. Explain the difference between right and wrong methods of correcting chil­

dren.e. Mention some of the burdens that the parents can share in the home circle.•

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REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSD Friday

January 29

a. What prophecy of Malachi points to a special work to be done in Christianhomes today?

b. How ought Christian parents to develop skills necessary to achieve the bestrelations with their offspring?

c. To what extent are parents to encourage their children to manifest a seriousinterest in their Bible study?

d. What are children to do in obedience to the divine injunction to honor theirparents? How are they to treat their parents in their old age?

e. Why are the family and the Sabbath indissolubly forged together? •

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Lesson 10 Sabbath, March 5, 1988

FAMILY DISCIPLINE

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"Love proceeds from God. It is a plant of heavenly growth, and it cannot liveand flourish in the natural heart.... The very best way to reform thecharacter and regulate the conduct of your family is through the principle oflove. It is indeed a power and will accomplish that which neither money normight ever can."- Testimonies, vol. 4, p. 256.

KEY TEXT: "Then those who feared the Lord spoke with one another; the Lordheeded and heard them, and a book of remembrance was writtenbefore him of those who feared the Lord and thought on his name."Malachi 3:16, RSV.

RIGHT AND WRONG ATTITUDESD Sunday

February 28

1. What is essential in the discharging of our parental duties? Mark 13:33.What is the proper position of the parents?

"Watch, pray, work! To be in a position of watching, working, praying, and wait­ing, is to be in the proper position. Weare to act as wise stewards, as faithful servantsdoing the work of the Master. ... The father is to be the houseband of the family.This is his position, and if he is a Christian, he will maintain family government. Inevery respect his authority is to be recognized.... In many families the daily life isone of variance, full of the counterworking of the father against the mother and themother against the father. The mother thinks the father unnecessarily severe and ex­acting. Why? Because the children do not acknowledge and reverence the father,who, if he is a Christian, represents the divine authority of God, whose vicegerent heis."-The Review and Herald. March 13,1894.

2. Besides watching, praying, and working, what else should parents do? Mal­achi 3:16 (first part). What warning should they heed?

"Bro. L. ... You do not speak wisely and judiciously to your wife and children.You should cultivate kindness and gentleness. Your children have not had the best in­fluence and example before them. They should not control you, but you them, notharshly, not overbearingly, but with firmness and steadiness of purpose.

"Sister L, you have a great battle before you in order to overcome. You have letself keep the victory. Your stubborn will is the greatest enemy you have. You have anunsubdued temper, and do not control your tongue. The lack of self-control has beena great injury to yourself and to your family. Happin~ss, quietude, and peace haveabode in your dwelling but a short period at a time. If your will is crossed you are easi­ly irritated, and then you speak and act as though a demon had possession of you.

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Angels turn from the scene of discord where angry words are exchanged."- Testimon­ies, vol. 2, pp. 78, 79.

OTHER FACTORSo MondayFebruary 29

3. What other condition, also, will be helpful in maintaining family discipline?Matthew 18:19.

"Would that parents would work in harmony, guiding their children in the fear ofGod, and remembering that they are His agents."-The Review and Herald, March 13,1894.

4. What should we know about the mental development of a child so that wewill expect of him only that which his level of maturity permits? Whatchanges would occur in rules and methods of discipline as our children growinto adolescence? 1 Corinthians 13:11.

"Do not treat your children only with sternness, forgetting your own childhoodand forgetting that they are but children. Do not expect them to be perfect or try tomake them men and women in their acts at once."-The Adventist Home, p. 196.

SECURITY THROUGH LOVED Tuesday

March 1

5. In what attitude should we approach our children in order to train them?Matthew 18:3 (first part).

"These precious lessons may be so simply taught as to be understood even by lit­tle children. The heart of the child is tender and easily impressed; and when we whoare older become 'as little children,' when we learn the simplicity and gentleness andtender love of the Saviour, we shall not find it difficult to touch the hearts of the littleones and teach them love's ministry of healing."-The Adventist Home, p. 195.

"They [parents] must instill the right spirit, plant correct habits, and teach thechildren that the love and fear of God are the foundation of all wisdom."-The Reviewand Herald, March 13, 1894.

6. If the power of love is exercised by concerned parents, what will it do fortheir children? 1 Corinthians 13:7,8 (first part); Romans 15:1.

"Love's agencies have wonderful power, for they are divine. The soft answer that'turneth away wrath,' the love that 'suffereth long, and is kind,' the charity that'covereth a multitude of sins'-would we learn the lesson, with what power for heal­ing would our lives be gifted! How life would be transformed and the earth become avery likeness and foretaste of heaven!"-The Adventist Home, p. 195.

EXPRESSING LOVE AMONG FAMILY MEMBERSD Wednesday

March 2

7. What is one of the main factors of a successful family life? Philippians 2:2.Why should parents ever show their children that they are loved?

"Mothers are needed who will so guide their children that they will regardthemselves as part of the family.... You should ever impress upon your children the

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fact that you love them; that you are laboring for their interest; that their happiness isdear to you; and that you design to do only that which is for their good. You shouldgratify their little wants whenever you can reasonably do so."-The Adventist Home,pp. 197, 198.

8. How should the members of Christian families express affection one foranother? Ephesians 4:32; James 3:17.

"In many families there is a great lack in expressing affection one for another.While there is no need of sentimentalism, there is need of expressing love and tender­ness in a chaste, pure, dignified way. Many absolutely cultivate hardness of heart andin word and action reveal the satanic side of the character. Tender affection shouldever be cherished between husband and wife, parents and children, brothers andsisters. Every hasty word should be checked, and there should not be even the ap­pearance of the lack of love one for another. It is the duty of everyone in the family tobe pleasant, to speak kindly."-The Adventist Home, p. 198.

CONTROLLED BY THE HOLY SPIRITo Thursday

March 3

9. What example should fathers and mothers demonstrate before their chil­dren? Matthew 11:28-30.

"In the family, fathers and mothers should ever present before their children theexample they wish to be imitated. They should manifest one to the other a tenderrespect in word, and look and action. They should make it manifest that the HolySpirit is controlling them, by representing to their children the character of JesusChrist. ... Children should have confidence in their parents, and thus take in thelessons they would inculcate."-The Review and Herald, March 13,1894.

10. What aim should parents have constantly in mind in the training of theirchildren and how should they go about it? 2 John 4-6.

"Parents should make manifest in their daily life what it is to love God supremelyand their neighbor as themselves. Where religion is a practical thing in the home,great good is accomplished. Religion will lead the parents to do the very work Goddesigned should be done in the home. Children will be brought up in the fear and ad­monition of the Lord."-The Review and Herald, March 13,1894.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSo Friday

March 4

a. Why does the little child need firm guidelines? Why should he or she knowthe difference between what is good and acceptable behavior and what isunacceptable in the home?

b. Why is it important to consider the development level of a child and to expectonly that which his or her level of maturity permits?

c. What principle should be held up before our children as the foundation of allwisdom?

d. How essential is the expressing of affection among family members?

e. How will Christian parents show that they are controlled by the Holy Spirit? •

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Lesson 11 Sabbath, March 12, 1988

INFLUENCES OF THE HOME

"To a large degree the happiness of men and women and the success of thechurch depend upon home influence. Eternal interests are involved in theproper discharge of the everyday duties of life. The world is not so much inneed of great minds, as of good men, who are a blessing in their homes."- Gospel Workers, p. 204. .

KEY TEXT: "For we are unto God a sweet savour of Christ, in them that are saved,and in them that perish." 2 Corinthians 2:15.

"THE ISSUES OF LIFE"D Sunday

March 6

1. Why should the heart be kept with all diligence? Proverbs 4:23. What is theheart of the community, of the church, and of the nation?

"The restoration and uplifting of humanity begins in the home. The work of par­ents underlies every other. Society is composed of families, and is what the heads offamilies make it. Out of the heart are 'the issues of life' (Proverbs 4:23); and the heartof the community, of the church, and of the nation is the household. The well-being ofsociety, the success of the church, the prosperity of the nation, depend upon home in­fluences."- The Ministry of Healing, p. 349.

2. Describe the results of beneficial home influences. Psalm 115:11-14.

"It is by the youth and children of today that the future of society is to be deter­mined, and what these youth and children shall be depends upon the home. To thelack of right home training may be traced the larger share of the disease and miseryand crime that curse humanity. If the home life were pure and true, if the childrenwho went forth from its care were prepared to meet life's responsibilities anddangers, what a change would be seen in the world!"-The Ministry of Healing, p. 351.

A PRACTICAL DEMONSTRATION OF CHRISTIANITYD Monday

March 7

3. How can Christians make a practical demonstration of Christianity? Mat­thew 7:20, 21; James 1:25.

"To the man who is a husband and a father, I would say, 'Be sure that a pure, holyatmosphere surrounds your soul. ... You are to learn daily of Christ. Never, neverare you to show a tyrannical spirit in the home. The man who does this is working in

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partnership with satanic agencies. Bring your will into submission to the will of God.Do all in your power to make the life of your wife pleasant and happy. Take the wordof God as the man of your counsel. In the home live out the teachings of the word.Then you will live them out in the church and will take them with you to your place ofbusiness. The principles of heaven will ennoble all your transactions. Angels of Godwill cooperate with you, helping you to reveal Christ to the world."-The AdventistHome, pp. 213, 214.

4. What object lesson should Christian families set before the world? 1 Peter3:15, 16; 2 Corinthians 2:15, 16.

"God would have our families symbols of the family in heaven. Let parents andchildren bear this in mind every day, relating themselves to one another as membersof the family of God. Then their lives will be of such a character as to give to the worldan object lesson of what families who love God and keep His commandments may be.Christ will be glorified; His peace and grace and love will pervade the family circlelike a precious perfume."-The Adventist Home, p. 17.

INFLUENCE OF A CHRISTIAN FAMILYD Tuesday

March 8

BE A CHRISTIAN AT HOME

5. What will impart to our children a decided protection against the corruptinginfluences of the world? Matthew 5: 13.

"The home in which the members are kindly, courteous Christians exerts a far­reaching influence for good. Other families mark the results attained by such a homeand follow the example set, in their turn guarding their homes against evil influ­ences.... One well-ordered, well-disciplined family tells more in behalf of Christiani­ty than all the sermons that can be preached.... The influence of a carefully guardedChristian home in the years of childhood and youth is the surest safeguard against thecorruptions of the world."-My Life Today, p. 124.

6. How can Christian parents maintain a saving influence over associates andunbelievers? 1 Timothy 4:12-16.

"If you can exert a saving influence over one soul, remember there is joy inheaven over the one that repented.... You may, by judicious effort, be the means ofbringing back the lost sheep to Jesus' fold.... The firm purposes you may possess incarrying out good principles will have an influence to balance souls in the right direc­tion. There is no limit to the good you may do.... The silent witness of a true, unself­ish, godly life carries an almost irresistible influence.

"The unstudied, unconscious influence of a holy life is the most convincing ser­mon that can be given in favor of Christianity."-My Life Today, p. 122.

o WednesdayMarch 9

7. To what extent will true Christians manifest the Spirit of God and have har­mony at home? 1 Corinthians 13:6, 7; 1 John 4:7.

"Much may be gained by self discipline in the home.... Let each make life aspleasant as possible for the other. We must have the Spirit of God, or we cannever have harmony in the home We cannot cherish home affection with too

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much care; for the home, if the Spirit of the Lord dwells there, is a type of heaven....Everything that would tend to mar the peace and unity of the family circle must berepressed.... Tender affection should ever be cherished between husband and wife,parents and children, brothers and sisters.... It is the duty of everyone in the familyto be pleasant, to speak kindly. A house with love in it, where love is expressed inwords and looks and deeds, is a place where angels love to manifest their presenceand hallow the scene by rays of light from glory Love should be seen in the looksand manners and heard in the tones of the voice Self control on the part of all themembers of the family will make home almost a paradise."-My Life Today, p. 84.

8. Wherein is true love made manifest? 1 John 5:2,3; 2 John 6; Romans 13:10.

FAITHFULNESS IN EVERYDAY LIFED Thursday

March 10

9. To what degree will true Christian parents be faithful even in doing littlethings? Matthew 25:21.

"God's work is perfect as a whole because it is perfect in every part, howeverminute.... If we desire to be perfect, even as our Father in heaven is perfect, wemust be faithful in doing little things.... Speak the truth in regard to the smallestmatters. Each day do loving deeds and speak cheerful words. Scatter smiles along thepathway of life. As you work in this way, God will place His approval on you, andChrist will one day say to you, 'Well done, thou good and faithful servant.' "-Messagesto Young People, pp. 144, 145.

10. As a result of their good influence, what will God's faithful children hearfrom Jesus' own lips? Matthew 25:34, 35, 40.

"At the day of judgment, those who have been faithful in their everyday life, whohave been quick to see their work and do it, not thinking of praise or profit, will hearthe words, 'Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for youfrom the foundation of the world.' Christ does not commend them for the eloquentorations they have made, the intellectual power they have displayed, or the liberaldonations they have given. It is for doing little things which are generally overlookedthat they are rewarded. 'I was an hungered, and ye gave me meat,' He says, 'In­asmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done itunto me.' "-The Youth Instructor, January 17,1901.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSD FridayMarch 11

a. To what extent will the influence of the home be noticed within the com·munity in which the family lives?

b. Describe a practical demonstration of Christianity.

c. How can a true Christian family exert a saving influence upon associates andunbelievers?

d. What is the evidence that the Spirit of God is in control of the home?

e. How will our influence for good be assessed at the day of judgment? •

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Lesson 12 Sabbath, March 19, 1988

FRIENDS, RELATIVES, AND RECREATION

"Through the social relations, Christianity comes in contact with the world.Everyone who has received the divine illumination is to brighten the pathwayof those who know not the Light of life." - Messages to Young People,. p. 403.

KEY TEXT: "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is afriend that sticketh closer than a brother." Proverbs 18:24.

CHRIST'S EXAMPLEo Sunday

March 13

1. How did God meet man's greatest need? Romans 5:6-10. How did Goddemonstrate His great love toward mankind? John 3:16. How are we tomodel ourselves after the Divine Pattern? 1 Peter 2:21-23.

"Weare not to renounce social communion. We should not seclude ourselvesfrom others. In order to reach all classes, we must meet them where they are.... Notalone from the pulpit are the hearts of men touched by divine truth. There is anotherfield of labor, humbler, it may be, but fully as promising. It is found in the home of thelowly, and in the mansion of the great; at the hospitable board, and in gatherings forinnocent social enjoyment."-Messages to Young People, p. 403.

"Follow Him in befriending the most needy and friendless. Follow Him in beingforgetful of self, abundant in acts of self-denial and self-sacrifice to do others good;when reviled, reviling not again; manifesting love and compassion for the fallen race."- Testimonies, vol. 2, p. 178.

2. How will our demeanor help to disarm those in the world? Hebrews 5:2; 1Corinthians 13:4-8. To what extent does association influence destiny?

"[T]hose who are themselves 'compassed with infirmity' should be able to 'havecompassion on the ignorant, and on them that are out of the way.' Hebrews 5:2. Hav­ing been in peril themselves, they are acquainted with the dangers and difficulties ofthe way, and for this reason are called to reach out for others in like peril. There aresouls perplexed with doubt, burdened with infirmities, weak in faith, and unable tograsp the Unseen; but a friend whom they can see, coming to them in Christ's stead,can be a connecting link to fasten their trembling faith upon Christ."-The Desire ofAges, p. 297.

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IN THE WORLD, BUT NOT OF THE WORLDo Monday

March 14

3. How do we know that God never intended that Christians should be isolatedin a spiritual enclave? John 17:15-17; Proverbs 18:24. How may the Chris­tian escape the obvious taint of association with sin and sinners? Hebrews12:2 (first part).

"Religion should dictate and guide you in all your pursuits, and should hold ab­solute control over your affections. If you yield yourselves unreservedly into thehands of Christ, making His power your strength, then will your moral vision be clearto discern quality of character that you may not be deceived by appearances andmake great mistakes in your friendship. Your moral power must be keen and sen­sitive, that it may bear severe tests and not be marred. Your integrity of soul shouldbe so firm that vanity, display, or flattery will not move you."-Testimonies, vol. 3, p. 47.

4. What did Christ mean by the "world"? 1 John 5:19; 4:4-6. Why does isola­tion not offer a satisfactory solution to contamination by sin?

"It is natural to seek companionship. Everyone will find companions or makethem. And just in proportion to the strength of the friendship, will be the amount ofinfluence which friends will exert over one another for good or for evil."- Testimonies,vol. 4, p. 587.

FRIENDS AND FRIENDLINESSo Tuesday

March 15

5. Mention an example of lasting friendship as recorded in the Bible. 1 Samuel18:1-3. What common interest will be the basis of true friendship?

"You should get rid of your cold, frozen formality as soon as possible. You needto cultivate feelings of tenderness and friendliness in your everyday life. You shouldexhibit true courtesy and Christian politeness. The heart that really loves Jesus lovesthose for whom He died. Just as truly as the needle points to the pole, so will the truefollower of Christ, with a spirit of earnest labor, seek to save souls for whom Christhas given His life."- Testimonies, vol. 3, p. 466.

6. How did Ruth show that her friendship for Naomi had a spiritual basis? Ruth1:16-18. Why cannot a Christian maintain a deep friendship with a non­Christian without risk? Amos 3:3. How does Christ speak of His choice offriends? John 15:14-16.

"In forming friendship, great caution should be exercised lest an intimacy be con­tracted with one whose example it would not be safe to imitate; for the effect of suchan intimacy is to lead away from God, from devotion, and the love of the truth. It ispositively dangerous for you to be intimate with friends who have not a religious ex­perience. If ... you value your soul's salvation, you will not choose as your ... in­timate friends those who do not maintain a serious regard for religious things." - Testi­monies, vol. 3, p. 42.

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CHRISTIANS AND THEIR RELATIVESD Wf'dnesday

March 16

7. Show an example in which Jesus and the disciples attended a family gather­ing. John 2:1,2, 11.

"There was to be a marriage in Cana of Galilee. The parties were relatives ofJoseph and Mary. Christ knew of this family gathering, and that many influential per­sons would be brought together there, so, in company with His newly made disciples,He made His way to Cana. As soon as it was known that Jesus had come to the place,a special invitation was sent to Him and His friends. This was what He had purposed,and so He graced the feast with His presence."- The SDA Bible Commentary [E.G. WhiteComments], vol. 5, p. 1132.

8. How careful should we be in our association with worldly relatives? 1 Corin­thians 15:33.

"We cannot serve God and the world at the same time. We must not center ouraffections on worldly relatives, who have no desire to learn the truth. We may seek inevery way, while associated with them, to let our light shine; but our words, ourdeportment, our customs and practices, should not in any sense be molded by theirideas and customs. Weare to show forth the truth in all our intercourse with them. Ifwe cannot do this, the less association we have with them, the better it will be for ourspirituality. If we place ourselves among associates whose influence has a tendency tomake us forgetful of the high claims the Lord has upon us we invite temptation andbecome too weak in moral power to resist it. We come to partake of the spirit andcherish the ideas of our associates and to place sacred and eternal things lower thanthe ideas of our friends. Weare, in short, leavened just as the enemy of all righteous­ness designed we should be."-Testimonies, vol. 5, p. 543.

EXERCISE AND RECREATIOND Thursday

March 17

9. What example of Christ shows that Christian workers also need rest andrecreation? Mark 6:30-32. Why is exercise in the open air beneficial?

"Exercise in the open air for those whose employment has been withindoors andsedentary will be beneficial to health. All who can, should feel it a duty to pursue thiscourse. Nothing will be lost, but much gained. They can return to their occupationswith new life and new courage to engage in their labor with zeal, and they are betterprepared to resist disease."-Testimonies, vol. 1, p. 515.

10. Of what aim should we never lose sight in the field of recreation? Philippians4:8. To what extent should we as Christians avoid questionable places ofamusement?

"The true Christian will not desire to enter any place of amusement or engage inany diversion upon which he cannot ask the blessing of God. He will not be found atthe theater, the billiard hall, or the bowling saloon. He will not unite with the gaywaltzers, or indulge in any other bewitching pleasure that will banish Christ from themind."-Messages to Young People, p. 398.

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"Our gatherings [for recreation] should be so conducted, and we should so con­duct ourselves, that when we return to our homes we can have a conscience void ofoffense toward God and man; a consciousness that we have not wounded or injured inany manner those with whom we have been associated, or had an injurious influenceover them."-Counsels to Parents, Teachers, and Students, p. 337.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSo FridayMarch 18

a. How did God demonstrate the principle of love?

b. By looking to Jesus Christ our Redeemer, how shall we be protected from thethings of this world?

c. In forming friendships, how cautious should we be? Why?

d. When we attend a family meeting, how can we be a blessing to those present?

e. What questionable places of amusement should be avoided and why? Men-tion some activities that will benefit us and our families. •

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Lesson 13 Sabbath, March 26, 1988

HOW TO HANDLE

HOME DIFFICULTIES

"We need never feel that we are alone. Angels are our companions. The Com­forter that Christ promised to send in His name abides with us. In the waythat leads to the City of God there are no difficulties which those who trustin Him may not overcome. There are no dangers which they may not escape.There is not a sorrow, not a grievance, not a human weakness, for which Hehas not provided a remedy."-The Ministry of Healing, p. 249.

KEY TEXT: "Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that hemay exalt you in due time: casting all your care upon him; for he car­eth for you." 1 Peter 5:6, 7.

HOW TROUBLES ARE CREATED UNNECESSARILYo Sunday

March 20

1. Explain how, on one occasion, Peter was overtaken by trouble on the lake.Matthew 14:26-31. How do we often act like Peter under similar circum­stances?

"Walking side by side, Peter's hand in that of his Master, they stepped into theboat together. But Peter was now subdued and silent. He had no reason to boast overhis fellows, for through unbelief and self-exaltation he had very nearly lost his life.When he turned his eyes from Jesus, his footing was lost, and he sank amid thewaves.

"When trouble comes upon us, how often we are like Peter! We look upon thewaves, instead of keeping our eyes fixed upon the Saviour. Our footsteps slide, andthe proud waters go over our souls."-The Desire of Ages, pp. 381, 382.

2. How do we often get into trouble unnecessarily? James 3:1-6. How couldmost of our troubles be avoided?

"An excited temper and cutting censure will not impress the people or gain theirsympathy....

"The largest share of the annoyances of life, its daily corroding cares, its heart­aches, its irritation, is the result of a temper uncontrolled. The harmony of thedomestic circle is often broken by a hasty word and abusive language. How much bet-

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ter were it left unsaid. One smile of pleasure, one peaceful, approving word spoken inthe spirit of meekness, would be a power to soothe, to comfort, and to bless. Thegovernment of self is the best government in the world. By putting on the ornamentof a meek and quiet spirit, ninety-nine out of a hundred of the troubles which so ter­ribly embitter life might be saved. Many excuse their hasty words and passionatetempers by saying: 'I am sensitive; I have a hasty temper.' This will never heal thewounds made by hasty, passionate words."-Testimonies, vol. 4, p. 348.

HELP IN TIME OF NEEDo Monday

March 21

3. When we are in trouble, to whom should we cry for help? Psalms 28:1, 2;27:14.

"Weare in a world of suffering. Difficulty, trial, and sorrow await us all along theway to the heavenly home. But there are many who make life's burdens doubly heavyby continually anticipating trouble. If they meet with adversity or disappointmentthey think that everything is going to ruin, that theirs is the hardest lot of all, that theyare surely coming to want. Thus they bring wretchedness upon themselves and cast ashadow upon all around them. Life itself becomes a burden to them. But it need notbe thus. It will cost a determined effort to change the current of their thought. But thechange can be made. Their happiness, both for this life and for the life to come,depends upon their fixing their minds upon cheerful things. Let them look away fromthe dark picture, which is imaginary, to the benefits which God has strewn in theirpathway, and beyond these to the unseen and eternal."-The Ministry ofHealing, pp. 247,248.

4. What has the Lord promised to do when His obedient children cry to Him inneed? Psalms 34:17; 145:19; 1 Peter 5:7.

"None need abandon themselves to discouragement and despair. Satan may cometo you with the cruel suggestion, 'Yours is a hopeless case. You are irredeemable.'But there is hope for you in Christ. God does not bid us overcome in our own strength.He asks us to come close to His side. Whatever difficulties we labor under, whichweigh down soul and body, He waits to make us free."-The Ministry of Healing, p. 249.

HELP IN TIME OF NEED (continued)o Tuesday

March 22

5. What has God provided for every need? Jeremiah 8:22; Hosea 6:1, 2; Mal­achi 4:2.

"For every trial, God has provided help. When Israel in the desert came to the bit­ter waters of Marah, Moses cried unto the Lord. The Lord did not provide some newremedy; He called attention to that which was at hand. A shrub which He had createdwas to be cast into the fountain to make the water pure and sweet. When this wasdone, the people drank of the water and were refreshed. In every trial, if we seekHim, Christ will give us help. Our eyes will be opened to discern the healing promisesrecorded in His word. The Holy Spirit will teach us how to appropriate every blessingthat will be an antidote to grief. For every bitter draft that is placed to our lips, weshall find a branch of healing.' '-The Ministry of Healing, p. 248.

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6. What experience must we have before the Lord can help us out of ourtroubles or heal our infirmities? Isaiah 27:5; Acts 5:31; Psalm 103:3.

"Weare not to let the future, with its hard problems, its unsatisfying prospects,make our hearts faint, our knees tremble, our hands hang down. 'Let him take hold ofMy strength,' says the Mighty One, 'that he may make peace with Me; and he shallmake peace with Me.' Isaiah 27:5. Those who surrender their lives to His guidanceand to His service will never be placed in a position for which He has not made provi­sion. Whatever our situation, if we are doers of His word, we have a Guide to directour way; whatever our perplexity, we have a sure Counselor; whatever our sorrow,bereavement, or loneliness, we have a sympathizing Friend." - The Ministry ofHealing,pp. 248, 249.

FAITH AND OBEDIENCEo Wednesday

March 23

7. What condition will decide, to a great extent, whether or not we shall see thehelping hand of God in our behalf? Mark 9:23; Matthew 8:26 (first part).

"All things are possible to him that believeth; and whatsoever things we desirewhen we pray, if we believe that we receive them we shall have them. This faith willpenetrate the darkest cloud, and bring rays of light and hope to the drooping,desponding soul. It is the absence of this faith and trust which brings perplexity,distressing fears, and surmisings of evil. God will do great things for His people whenthey put their entire trust in Him."-Testimonies, vol. 2, p. 140.

8. What circumstance will interrupt our communication with the Lord so thatHe will not hear our prayers? Psalm 66:18; Isaiah 59:1, 2.

CONTENTMENT IN THE HOMEo Thursday

March 24

9. What example of Christ, if followed, will close the door against a multitude oftroubles in the home? Matthew 20:25-28.

"In order to be happy, we must strive to attain to that character which Christ ex­hibited. One marked peculiarity of Christ was His self-denial and benevolence. Hecame not to seek His own. He went about doing good, and this was His meat anddrink. We may, by following the example of the Saviour, be in holy communion withHim; and by daily seeking to imitate His character and follow His example, we shallbe a blessing to the world and shall secure for ourselves contentment here and aneternal reward hereafter."- Testimonies, vol. 4, p. 227.

10. What will contentment do within the home circle and how should it becultivated? 1 Timothy 6:6-8; Psalm 37:16.

"Too many cares and burdens are brought into our families, and too little of nat­ural simplicity and peace and happiness is cherished: There should be less care forwhat the outside world will say and more thoughtful attention to the members of thefamily circle."-My Life Today, p. 169.

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"[W]hether the home be humble or elegant, its appointments costly or the re­verse, there will be no happiness within its walls unless the spirit of its inmates is inharmony with the divine will. Contentment should reign within the household."-TheAdventist Home, p. 154.

REVIEW AND THOUGHT QUESTIONSo FridayMarch 25

a. What is the result of an uncontrolled temper?

b. How do many make life's burdens doubly heavy for themselves? .c. "For every trial, God has provided help." Give an example from the history

of Israel traveling in the wilderness.

d. What is the real cause of perplexity, distress, and fear?

e. Mention one marked peculiarity of Christ's character which we should striveto imitate in order to avoid unnecessary trouble. •

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