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want to change anything in your life, you are advised to change thefrequency of your energetic signals by changing your thoughts.

Inherent in this idea is the concept that your current thoughts are creatingyour future. What you think about the most and focus on the most will,according to the theory, appear in your life. As the book puts it, "yourthoughts become things"; they become your reality.

It is clear that the authors are not just talking here just about the words youuse to speak to yourself, although these are considered very important, butalso to the feelings that accompany your words. The latter are seen asstrongly influencing your basic energy vibration.

This idea reminds me of the EFT Discovery Statement, which states thatthe cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the bodys energysystem. The additional suggestion in The Secret, however, is that yourenergy vibrations radiate outwards, acting much as a tuning fork might, tobring about similar vibrations in the universe. When we strike a tuning fork,

objects at a distance from that fork will start to resonate at the same soundfrequency as the fork itself (provided they contain certain similaringredients). These new objects will have been "entrained by the vibratoryrate of the original tuning fork.

The book describes your thoughts as magnetic forces that attract back toyou the same frequencies that you are sending out.

I wont take time here to discuss the value of the Law of Attraction,although this would make an interesting discussion, but consider the

implications of viewing reality this way.It is clear that, seen from this perspective, thoughts take on a tremendousimportance that we have not previously granted them. The Law of

Attraction implies that the vibrational frequency we radiate is of thegreatest importance to our life. Not only do we feel deep distress when thisfrequency is discordant, but it is said that we will attract into our lives anouter manifestation of this same type of distress, as the same negativefrequencies that we radiated out to the Universe are now reflected back tous.

If this is so, obviously we would want to do everything within our power tochange our negative frequencies to positive ones, and do so continuously.Only in this way could we avoid attracting negative consequences and bringabout desirable ones.

Changing our negative frequencies to positive ones is certainly a good idea,even if we were not to accept the basic premises of The Secret, but there isa missing ingredient in The Secret that raises a question. This ingredient isthe all-important "how to". The question we need to ask is: How do we go

about changing a negative frequency to a positive one?Obviously simply deciding that you are not going to emit a negativefrequency or that you want to send out a positive one, wont achieve the

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results you desire. I am reminded of the relevance of Gary Craig's conceptof "tail enders", those nagging inner contradictions that we so often have inthe back of our minds when we express a positive thought the doubtsand nay- saying that can easily negate our conscious positive intentions.Tail-enders can defeat any effort of ours to switch frequencies.

In neurolinguistic programming (NLP) terms, we are all too often notcongruent". That is, we don't agree 100% with what we ourselves arethinking or feeling, we don't fully believe it. The fact is that if we don'treach for something with one hundred percent of ourselves, we are notlikely to get it.

Consider this

If you were to send a positive signal into the Universe and at the same timeunwittingly send out a negative signal at the same time, an interference

pattern would be created with one signal tending to negate the other. Atbest, the positive signal would be ineffective and no particular identifiable

effects would be seen. At worst, the negative signal might be stronger ormore frequently emitted, in which case it would exert an overridinginfluence. In such a case, no matter how much you thought you weresending out a positive signal because that is what you had consciously triedto create through positive thinking, the negative signal would attractnegative consequences.

In order to be an effective attractor therefore (bring to yourself what youbelieve you are asking for) you would need to be free of innercontradictions about the issue at hand. But of course this is easier saidthan done. There may be deep negative patterns influencing your life whichinvolve core issues that must be handled before your vibrational frequency,the energy that you radiate outwards, can change. Only when these coreissues have been cleared will you be able to send unambiguous positivesignals to the Universe.

Fortunately, however, those who know EFT can use it to change theirvibrational frequencies with respect to many spheres of their lives.Sometimes negative energy will be immediately replaced by a rush of

positive energy, resulting in what Gary Craig calls a One Minute Wonder. Atother times, patience and persistence will be required to bring about amajor energy shift, but the payoff can be tremendous.

EFT is by definition a means of accomplishing a major shift in energy byeliminating our negative emotional reactions. However, it can also be usedto create positive vibrations directly. This is an EFT application thatinterests me greatly, and I have recently been writing about it on thiswebsite.

It is interesting to note that the EFT self-acceptance phrase, "Even though I

have (this problem), I deeply and completely accept myself." actuallytargets the level at which we vibrate. What more powerful means could weuse to change our essential energy level than to deeply and completely

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accept ourselves? This is a positive suggestion which, over time, couldcreate fundamental changes in our self image that might well alter the typeof energy that we radiate outwards. When at the same time we tap on theMeridian endpoints, our energy systems can now vibrate at a different rateand emit a very different signal than before. If, on a practical level, wewant to find a way to combine EFT with the principles expressed in TheSecret, what then might that be?

Aside from its all-important use to eliminate troublesome issues mentionedabove, there are several ways to use EFT directly to switch our energytoward the positive, and do this very quickly. I will be talking about these inmy future articles in this series.

Pat Carrington

Part 2: Appreciating Yourself with Loving Kindness

The "secret" of using EFT to implement The Secret (the Law of Attraction)

is to create a positive vibrational level within yourself that is radicallydifferent from the one that you are accustomed to. It is the frequency ofthe signal that you send out to the Universe that is said to attract to youevents and people of like frequency. This signal is not superficial, not wordsalone, nor is it just conscious intentions.

Ask yourself -- what is the primary type of signal I am sending to myself allday long? This is what you will be radiating outwards.

The answer to this question may surprise you because you will discover, if

you observe carefully, that most signals you give to yourself are of acorrective in nature:

"Don't lean too far to the left or you will fall down."

Or,

"Don't move too fast or youll spill the coffee."

Our survival depends on this type of negative feedback. Objective reality-based correction like this doesnt adversely affect our vibrational levelbecause we usually correct our errant behavior almost instantaneously. We

might compare the process to the way a jet plane manages to stay oncourse when in flight. The planes are actually off course approximately95% of the time, but their radar system corrects them constantly throughits calculated negative feedback. This feedback is essential for the correctoperation of the flight system as well as all living systems.

However, there is another kind of negative feedback that is not natural butlearned, and which is almost exclusively human as far as we know,although animals closely identified with human beings may learn to displaysomewhat similar behavior. This involves the use of negative judgments

about our own behavior. All day long we are telling ourselves that we havenot done this correctly, not done something we should have done, not

properly planned for something thats going to happen, arent executing a

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present task properly, and so on and on. Our past, present and futureactions are under our constant scrutiny and the resulting negative

judgments are so automatic that we dont even notice them.

This continuous stream of negative self-observations is at work on us in amanner that puts a damper on all that we do. It often effectively holdsback our natural exuberance at being alive, in the name of "improvement",efficiency, excellence, or some other misapplied value.

This doesnt mean we should do away with self evaluation. Not at all. It isimportant in our value oriented world, but what fails to occur here is abalancing of our own negative observations with our positive ones. Wetend to have a lack of positive feedback in our daily lives, because we areactually not noticing most of the things that we do correctly.

You can, however, effectively alter this situation by using a simple EFTexercise that I call simply Giving Loving Appreciation To Yourself. Itinvolves a kind of self-awareness that results in a new form of self

acknowledgment. If youd like to try it, heres how to go about it:

Set aside 20 minutes, preferably each day, but at least occasionally, tonotice everything that you do for yourself EVERYTHING during this shorttime period, then thank yourself for it.. Every little effort that you make tomeet your needs or the needs of others around you, is to be noticed andappreciated. You are to thank yourself by doing EFT for everything that youdo to serve yourself or others physically, mentally, or emotionally duringthis time.

Heres how a session of self appreciation of this sort would go if, forexample, you were doing it first thing in the morning.

Suppose that, after arising in the morning, you engaged in a ritual ofbrushing your teeth not unlikely I would think. You will probably have

performed this simple ritual tens of thousands of times before in your lifeand Im sure that you dont ordinarily identify it as an accomplishment,unless of course you have suffered from a handicap and have noticed howextremely complex this and most of the other simple acts that we take forgranted, actually are.

The fact is that brushing your teeth takes both skill and effort. It takesdirected intention, and requires making decisions on a small but constantscale. You need to decide, for example, how much toothpaste to feed ontothe brush at one time, how often to replenish the supply of toothpaste,which spots on your teeth to target with your brush many acts make upthe process of tooth-brushing and you actually expend considerable effortdaily, both mental and physical, on this task.

When you finish your tooth-brushing operation then do one round of EFT in

the following manner:Tap first on the karate chop spot, or the sore spot (whichever you use as

your psychological reversal point for EFT) while repeating out loud, three

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times, the phrase, "I thank myself for brushing my teeth I thank myselffor brushing my teeth I thank myself for brushing my teeth.

Or, you can use your own name instead of thanking yourself formally. WhenI do this exercise (I love it) I will often say, Thank you, Pat, for brushing

your (or my) teeth instead of I thank myself. It always feelscomforting to hear my own name used in such a kindly, aware fashion. Andby doing this I am thanking myself for something that is usually a totallythankless task.

You will repeat this thanks at each of the EFT tapping points, and do one fullround of EFT, "I thank myself for brushing my teeth", Thank you, Pat, forbrushing my teeth, "I thank myself for brushing my teeth etc.,at each

point.

For the rest of the exercise you repeat this procedure after every singletask that you perform for yourself or others during your allotted 20 minutes

Thank you, Pat, for cooking this egg.

"I thank myself for putting breakfast on the table.

Thank you, Pat, for making that phone call etc.

You will discover that every single thing you do in preparation for the daytakes effort and thought, and this will probably be the first time ever that

you have been thanked for doing it.

During this 20 minutes, the more that each act you perform is classified byyou as insignificant, the more important it is to appreciate the fact that

you've accomplished it. In other words, the smaller the act the better!Those very small things that you continually do for yourself are the unsungheroes of your life. They are finally being appreciated, and because you tapon them, these statements are going in on a very deep level.

The impression you take away from this exercise is that someone(yourself) is at last recognizing how faithful you are in fulfilling your needs.I cant emphasize strongly enough how immensely comforting this can beand how understood you can feel when you do this exercise. Its asthough you had the most attentive, caring and aware parent at your side,

watching with loving eyes each thing you do, and smiling with genuineappreciation at all that you do to simply manage to live.

Please realize, however, that I am not suggesting that you praise yourselfonly for your successes. You will not be saying, in effect, Good Girl! orGood Boy! to yourself just giving simple thanks. Thats all. Rewarding

yourself with praise is a different exercise which can be valuable in f itself,but it is not the one that I'm talking about here. I am suggesting somethingfar more fundamental that you recognize, at last, everything you actuallydo for yourself just in order to remain alive. This recognition is a major gift.

To sum up these instructions the total EFT exercise consists of doing (atleast) one round of EFT for every act of service you perform for yourself or

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another during a stated 20 minute period. Even if you make a mistakewhile preparing your breakfast, for example suppose you dropped a glassso that it shattered on the kitchen floor then thank yourself for thesimple act of picking up the broken pieces, placing them in the trash can,cleaning up the floor, and making certain that all splinters of glass havebeen eliminated from the area so that they endanger no one.

The same procedure applies to your acts of service to others. If for exampleyou were caring for a small child during this 20 minute period, you wouldthank yourself for every act that you performed for that child, each tiny actthat would ordinarily go entirely unrecognized and unappreciated. Howmany care-takers ever experience this kind of appreciation? This in itselfcould transform your day.

There is actually no limit to the type of acts that you can recognize andexpress this kind of gratitude for:

"Thank you,(your name) for checking the e-mail. (This phrase would be

repeated at each tapping spot)

Thank you, (your name) for deleting that email.

Thank you, (your name) for answering the phone and talking to thatperson.

And so on, and on, and on

If you tap repeatedly in recognition of the humblest services that youperform for yourself and others, you may well find that you feel an entirelynew kind of love from yourself. It is totally without strings attached, deeplyappreciative, and can change your entire vibrational frequency. You will beradiating this loving appreciation out into the Universe. Can you imaginewhat the repercussions of this powerful act could be, in addition to itsimmediate benefit?

In the next article in this series, I will be writing about how you can tap inthe positive when you fail to perform certain acts that you would like to do,that is, when you experience unfulfilled intentions. The method worksequally well for this purpose.

Pat Carrington

Part 3: Tapping In Gratitude for Positive Intentions

Today I will be talking about another way in which we can change ouressential vibrational level, not just in words, but with deep conviction.

It is an EFT exercise I call "Tapping in Positive Intentions".

Everyone realizes a number of times each day that something theydefinitely intended to do, they haven't gotten around to doing. You may

find that some new habit that you hoped to establish is not being put intoplace. Or that you have failed to respond to a phone call that you neededto answer, and so on and on.

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No matter how much you appreciate the small acts of service that youperform for yourself each day (the subject of last weeks article in thisseries) there will always be things you fail to do which you would have likedto do. The fact is, however, that you will never be able to fulfill all yourintentions on any given day. It is simply not possible, given humanimperfections and the fact that we do not (to put it mildly!) have unlimitedtime to get done what we feel we should have gotten done. It's fine to have

intentions, it helps to structure our lives, but it is unproductive to allow ourenergy level to be affected when we do not fulfill them.

Here is what I suggest you do when you are down on yourself because youhave not done all those things which you intended to do today.

Every time that you fail to realize your good intentions, you will create anEFT statement such as the following, and then tap it in. Do this byrepeating this statement three times while tapping on the karate chop spot(or rubbing the sore spot, whichever point you use in your variation of EFT),

and then repeat the statement again at each tapping point, for one round ofEFT. Sometimes you may want to do more than one round, thats fine too.There is no "even though" part to this statement for you will be using EFT

just for the purpose of tapping in the positive.

The exercise will consist of thanking yourself for every unfilled intention ofyours by tapping in your gratitude for that intention with using EFT. Thismay seem strange at first because ordinarily we dont even notice our own

positive intentions, just our actions, and we certainly dont expressappreciation for them.

In order to do this exercise, you will create an EFT statement that goessomething like this: "I thank myself (or thank you (insert your name) forhaving had the intention to start that exercise program today.

Or,

"Thank you (your name) for having had the intention to work on that projecttoday.

Or,

"Thank you (your name) for having had the intention to get back to (person)with an e-mail explaining the situation."

Or give thanks to yourself for having thought of whatever you genuinelywanted to do that you have not done.

These expressions of gratitude refer to things that you had sincerelyintended to but did not do for one reason or another, and therefore the listcan be very large. There are many intentions that each of us have everyday which are not fulfilled, and for which we can thank ourselves using thismethod.

You may be surprised at how this lifts a burden from you. For once you willfeel acknowledged for actually having had the idea of making that call, or

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the intention of performing that act, The fact that you didn't actually do it isnot relevant in this context, and it is immensely relieving to have someone(yourself in this case) notice that you did genuinely want to do such andsuch.

How often have you heard someone say to another person (in self-defense),"But I did intend to do that! I thought about it." This person was trying toindicate that there is a positive value in intending to do something, even if

you dont do it. In fact, thoughts being the powerful things that they arethere is real value in intentions, for correctly used they can pave the wayfor our most positive future acts.

However, you must not tell another person your good intentions and expectthat, except in unusual cases, they will give you much credit for them,because we are not trained to do this in our society You can however learnto give yourself that credit, and when you do, you won't have to ask forrecognition of your good intentions from anyone else. Once again you are

changing your own relationship to yourself by giving yourself lovingrecognition.

One of the interesting effects of doing this is that when you genuinelyrecognize and thank yourself for your own good intentions, you are lesslikely to resist doing the act in question the later on or the following day.Focusing on your intention often fixes the idea of doing a certain act in yourmind in an easy, supportive way. You know that you are loved andappreciated by yourself for actually having taken the trouble to formulatethe thought of doing it, the intention to do it. You have recognized that it is

a genuine accomplishment to have considered that thing worthy of doing even if you didnt put your idea into action yet. Like all other acts ofappreciation, this is very apt to result in changed behavior.

But please make sure of one thing. You should not be doing this exercise inorder to manipulate your own behavior, or trying to sneak in self-control.You are simply appreciating something that has hitherto gone unnoticed the fact that you really do have good ideas which you would like to put into

practice, and that ideas and intentions count.

The old saying that The road to hell is paved with good intentions" isactually much misunderstood. What this saying obviously refers to areinsincere intentions, the kind that are mouthed glibly but not felt. Instead,in this EFT exercise you will not be acknowledging yourself for empty

promises to yourself that you might have made, perhaps in order to gainsomebody else's approval, but will be thanking yourself for things that youthought were worth doing and that you wanted to do, but just somehowdidnt.

It goes without saying that if you find yourself strongly resisting doing the

thing that you think you intend to do, you will need to ask yourself someimportant questions, such as Is this really my own intention or is itsomeone elses for me? or, Do I really want to do this? Such questions

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as these can unearth what Gary Craig refers to as tail enders, your innerobjections and conflicts about the situation. If this happens, you will wantto tap on these tail enders first.

Since unfulfilled intentions form a large part of our lives, they give you awonderful opportunity to do EFT many times a day in loving appreciation ofthe fact that you actually thought of these good things and would genuinelylike to do them. In my experience, it is much more likely that I will do theseneglected things within the next day or so after having acknowledged thevalidity of my own positive intentions. This is an important way to create anew and different vibrational level within yourself and thereby send outvery different signals to the Universe.

In my next article in this series I will discuss how we can use EFT when wehave made an actual mistake, or have done something we would muchrather not have done. The tapping in method is equally effective for this

purpose.

Pat Carrington

Part 4: Handling Your Mistakes with Compassion

In this series I have been describing ways in which you can change yourvibrational level to provide a new kind of self acceptance and self-love, onethat radiates out into the universe as positive.

Today I will suggest a way that you can use EFT to deal with any mistakesyou may have made during the day, or anything you have done which you

regret, and do so with compassion and self understanding.Most people, and I am no exception, are not comfortable with having donesomething during the day which they consider stupid or impulsive or unkindor undesirable in some other respect. This sort of behavior on our parts canlead to much self recrimination. I will tell you about a way you can use EFTto reverse how you handle your mistakes of the day, and be much morelikely to prevent them in the future. It is more effective than any verbal selfblame. It is a kind technique that involves what I call Redoing TheIncident. Here is how it works.

First stop as soon as you realize that you have made a mistake, or as soonafter that as is convenient, and observe exactly what you did. Then ask

yourself, "How would I like to handle this if I had it to do over again? Howdo I want to handle this kind of situation in the future?"

Your answer to these questions must be detailed, generalizations won'twork here. What you will do is create a "movie" in your mind of exactlyhow you would like to behave if you find yourself in this situation in thefuture. This takes a little imagination but is well worth it.

Once you have your movie clearly in mind, then "tap it in in the way I willillustrate in the following true story.

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Recently I had occasion to use this EFT technique when I was driving on adeserted and icy road, and suddenly found that I had run out of gas, so thatI had a hard time pulling the car to the side of the road. This was clearlynot a desirable situation, but I knew that there was a gas station no morethan about a half mile away, and I also knew how difficult it can be in thatarea to persuade a service station attendant by telephone to come to astranded car with gasoline. So I decided that the best plan was to get out

of the car, walk to the gas station, and attempt to persuade the attendantsin person.

So this is what I did. It turned out to be an icy and unpleasant walk in veryhigh wind but I did arrive at the service station, only to find that theattendants were engaged in other matters so I had to wait well over half anhour before I could finally persuade one of them to drive me back to my carand put enough gasoline in it to get me back to the garage. When we didarrive back, their fuel pump was not working and I eventually had to go toanother service station to fill the tank.

As my gas tank was finally being filled, my first inclination, which I ampleased to say I managed to stifle quickly, was to tell myself how stupid itwas of me to have allowed the tank to get that low. I immediately stoppedmyself from doing this however and decided to do EFT instead. To do so, Icreated a mental movie in my mind of how I would like to handle this kindof situation in the future.

It was interesting what happened at that point. As I constructed the movie,I realized that the reason that I had not gone into a service station earlier to

refuel was because when I had realized that the tank was getting low, Ididnt have enough cash on hand for a full tank, and I refuse to use mycredit card at service stations. I imagine a service station attendant whom Idont know disappearing with my card into the interior of the shop and onlyemerging many minutes later. What would stop them, I tell myself, fromcopying my credit card numbers during that interval and making identitytheft? I realize, of course, that I allow people waiting on me at restaurantsto take my credit card out of the room, but somehow this seems safer tome than when on the road, irrational as this may be. Given that I feel this

way, however, I realized that I need not let this concern of mine prevent mefrom having at least a half a tank of gas in my car at all times.

What I decided to do, and consequently the way I constructed my movie ofthe future, was that, if for some reason I didnt have enough cash in my

purse to buy the needed gas, then I would get out of the car andaccompany the station attendant into the garage where I would standnearby and watch as they ran my credit card through the machine.

In my imagined movie, therefore, I first saw myself getting gas when mytank was low by paying cash for it, and then if I had no cash, I saw myselffollowing the attendant and watching as they used my card. I then tappedon the following EFT phrase, using the positive statement only.

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Always half a tank of gas no matter what.Always half a tank of gas nomatter what.Always half a tank of gas no matter what. I repeated this

phrase at each EFT spot. When I was finished, the impression of exactlywhat I would do in the future was so clear and deep in me that it felt like

present reality.

It was interesting to see what happened in the week following this incident.I did travel some distance in the car that week and of course the gas gaugeshowed a sharp lowering of fuel level as a result. As the needle moveddown toward the halfway point, I was unusually aware of this, and thewords Always half a tank of gas no matter what. came strongly into mymind.

Then I checked whether I had enough cash to get a decent amount ofgasoline, knowing that if I didnt have the cash on hand, I wouldnt this timeuse this as an excuse not to stop and attend to the matter. As it happened,I did have enough cash in my purse and so I did get the gasoline at the next

service station, following the steps of the first part of the movie the filmstrip of me getting the gasoline ahead of time. Had I not done this for anyreason, however, I would have followed the steps of the final part of themovie which showed me following the attendant into the service stationand watching my credit card be processed.

Ever since the time I did that tapping my awareness of this problem and myway of handling it has been different. I have made good resolutions aboutfuture behavior before, but it was quite different this time when I hadtapped on my positive movie of the future. My desired future was made

remarkably real by this tapping.To recap, here are the steps to follow if you want to use this technique:

1. Identify what it is you did that you would not like to do again. Ifpossible, figure out what your reasoning was behind doing it.

2. Construct a mental movie in your mind showing exactly how youwould like to behave in a similar situation in the future.

3. Run this movie in your mind as you tap in your positive statementsthat describe the behavior you want to have. Use short positivestatements, they might be considered the title of your movie.

4. Observe what happens during the next few days and weeks with regardto the issue you tapped on. You are likely to see a permanent change in

your behavior when you confront similar situations, and this change will beinstituted without any self recrimination.

Once again, you are changing your energy system so that your vibrationallevel becomes positive and life enhancing.

Pat Carrington

Part 5: Using the "Future Thanks" Method to Create What YouWant

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"The Secret", and other ways of using the Law of Attraction, emphasize thefact that you must clearly visualize (or at least conceptualize) your desiredgoals as though they were occurring in the present moment, in order toachieve them. The phrase "in the present moment" is the key factor here.These goals must not be seen separate from you, as something you want,but be experienced as something that already is. However, creating thefuture as though it were the present is not something that comes easily or

naturally to many people. Using EFT for this purpose can therefore be anexcellent move.

One way of doing this, which I will describe in todays article, wassuggested to me by the experience of an EFT user who was a former clientof mine. "Pete" was one of the most successful manifestors (if there is sucha word) that I have ever come across.

I reported his experiences several years ago in this newsletter, but Illsummarize his story here to emphasize a possible reason for his success

that I just recently realized.Pete was an experienced EFT'er who was accustomed to using the EFTChoices Method. However, he employed it in a very special way which Inow think was an important factor in the success of his tapping to createwhat he wanted. Instead of saying the phrase "I choose" to introduce the

positive portion of his EFT statements, as is customarily done in the ChoicesMethod, he would say, "I thank the Universe for... and follow this with adetailed description of his desired outcome.

By using what I call his "Future Thanks" method, he was suggesting to bothhis conscious and unconscious minds that he was already in the future.Because it is not possible to say thank you for something that has not yetoccurred without shaking up one's perception of time, in a sense thismoved him into a state which was quite outside ordinary experience.Moving outside of our present concept of time obviously places us in adifferent position relative to creating what we want in our lives. We are, ina sense, accessing a different Reality when we do that.

Obviously, the act of expressing gratitude is also powerful in its effects and

we should include this in the equation. I have written the use of gratitudein previous articles, but I want to call your attention to the fact that whenyou indicate gratitude for something that has not yet occurred, you areasking yourself to bypass the ordinary laws of time . You are therefore

jarring yourself out of your usual ways of thinking. This is similar to thetactics used by a Zen monk who poses a Koan (paradoxical question) to a

pupil, such as "What is the sound of one hand clapping?" Because thequestion cannot be answered by ordinary logic, it requires the pupil to shiftgears mentally, and that is its value.

Here is what Pete did.His automobile had seen better days and was about to break down andbecome unrepairable. He badly wanted a new car but did not see how he

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could possibly afford the model that he wanted. He had searched theInternet for several months, visiting such sites as autotrader.com everyday, but had not found even a trace of the car that he desired.

Pete's taste was very definite and you will notice the specific manner inwhich he referred to what he desired in the Choices portion of the EFTstatement which he created for this problem. Gary Craig has repeatedlyemphasized the importance of specificity in the negative portion of the EFTstatement. I believe that specificity in the positive portion can be equallyimportant. Pete's EFT statement went as follows:

"Even though I don't know how this will happen, I thank the Universe forgiving me a light blue model 240 Volvo station wagon built between the

years of 91 and 93."

You can't be much more specific than that! Pete diligently tapped on thisEFT statement for over two weeks, at the end of which time an interestingthing happened. The car he wanted suddenly appeared in the online

listings. The ad he saw offered a light blue Model 240 Volvo station wagonmanufactured in 1992. It had all the amenities Pete wanted, and the sellerwas only a two hour drive from Pete's home. The car would be feasible tobuy if he only had the money.

How to pay for the car was the question Pete faced because he knew thatno financial institution would agree to finance such an old car. However, hehad been managing a property for a bank manager who had been very

pleased with his work, and when Pete asked him about a car loan this manarranged for his bank to finance the car at the lowest possible interest rate,for two years. Pete took advantage of this welcome opportunity, purchasedthe car, and he was enjoying it greatly when he last contacted me several

years ago.

Interestingly, this was not the only external manifestation that Pete broughtabout through using EFT and the "Future Thanks method, however. Whenhis old lawnmower broke down and he could not afford a new one, based onhis success in finding the right car using EFT, he decided to use EFT tomanifest a new lawnmower for himself and created the following statement

for this purpose:"Even though I don't have a useable lawnmower, I thank the Universe forgiving me one that just fits my purpose and works excellently."

Within a week of starting to tap daily for this new lawnmower, he wasdriving past a neighbor's house when he saw a lawnmower sitting with theirtrash by the curb. It looked in surprisingly good shape. He picked it up,brought it home, inserted a part that was apparently needed to generatesparks, and found that this did the trick. He now had a new lawnmower, atno cost.

He hoped that this lawnmower would continue to work in the future but inthe back of his mind he thought it would not be a bad idea to have another

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lawnmower just as a backup. So, he continued to use his EFT "FutureThanks" statement for a lawnmower, and a few weeks later, when hisnewest lawnmower showed some carburetor troubles, he was once againdriving around in his neighborhood when he saw a man cleaning out hisshop, apparently in preparation for moving, and not one but threelawnmowers had been discarded at the curb. Pete managed to get all threeback to his house and one of them started up right away, excellently (the

others he discarded after removing some of the parts). He adopted theworking one and was still using it when I last spoke with him.

Pete's story did not end here however, and the other portion of it is equallyimportant to note if you are planning to use EFT to help bring about thosethings which you desire.

About a year later, Pete became concerned about a pending career changewhich would have involved a life style change about which he had muchhesitancy. He wanted to tap to create an excellent job offer in a particular

field but had conflicting feelings about getting it since it would involvemoving to another town which might cause problems for his presentimportant relationship. This is what Gary Craig has so aptly termed a tailender, an inner conflict that creates an opposing voice in our minds whichcontradicts our avowed intentions (for a detailed description of Gary Craigsimportant concept of tail enders, see his The Palace of Possibilities DVD).

Because of his internal conflict about his goal, this time Pete had difficultyformulating his EFT statement, and not surprisingly no positive results wereforthcoming from it no matter how many times he used it with his Future

Thanks method. His tail enders needed to be worked on first, somethingwhich he did not pursue as far as I know.

Petes experience suggests that EFT can help a person create exactly whatthey want provided they have a clear and unequivocal desire for that thing,with no conflicts about it or reservations. I would guess, however, that inthe majority of cases when someone sets out to use EFT to bring a goodthing into their lives, that they may have some reservations or conflictsaround the receiving of that good, and they should address these first byusing EFT.

Once having cleared the blocks to receiving, these same people may thenbe able to use EFT for successful manifestation. If you want to use EFT forthis purpose, using the Future Thanks method should help you project yourconsciousness into the future in a highly effective way, thereby increasingthe possibility that you will achieve your desired goal.

In the next article in this series I will tell you about another way ofprojecting yourself into a future consciousness when doing EFT whichinvolves an even more radical departure from our usual ways of thinking

it is a method of posing certain carefully constructed questions to yourselfin EFT. You will discover how it works.

Pat Carrington

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Part 6: Accessing Your Goals With the "Why" Question

The basis of The Secret, or any other application of the Law of Attraction forthat matter, rests on the premise that you will be able to project yourselfinto the future state that you desire so completely that what you wish forseems to you to be a present reality. This is easily said of course, butunfortunately it is not so easily done. That is why I am writing this article

today. In a sense I am continuing with the article I wrote last week where Iproposed a method called Future Thanks which we can use in an EFTstatement to help trick our minds into stepping beyond the confines of ourhabitual time-bound consciousness.

To step beyond these bounds is of course essential for any manifestation ofa desired outcome. It is one of the cornerstones of The Secret, as of allother descriptions of the Law of Attraction. It has been repeatedly pointedout by serious thinkers on this subject that in order to bring aboutsomething you desire in the future, you must step into the future in an

emotional sense, you must in a sense transcend time. To pay lip service tothe concept of imagining something to be present which is not present rightnow is of course easy, but anyone conversant with the concept of likeattracts like as expressed by the Law of Attraction, knows that you mustbe resonating with the very essence of that which you want in order toattract it into your life and this is not something that comes naturally tomost people.

Although the movie and book The Secret do not emphasize the fact thatone must not just "believe in" the future that you desire but you mustactually "be" in it (in a profound emotional sense), those who created TheSecret clearly know this principle. I recently heard a recording of aninterview with Rhonda Byrne, the author of The Secret, in which shedescribed her own experiences when creating the movie and subsequentbook. She emphasized repeatedly throughout the interview that, as themovie was being made, there was not a shadow of a doubt in her mindabout the outcome of it. She actually experienced in advance the effect itwould have on peoples lives worldwide, this was as real to her asanything tangible in her surroundings could possibly be. I dont rememberher exact words ( I didnt record the interview) but they were to the effectthat the outcome of the movie and book were realities to her, not desiredoutcomes. They were for all intents and purposes done deeds as theysay, and she emphasized how important it is to adopt this stance whenapplying the Law of Attraction.

Today I am going to suggest a way of propelling ourselves into the future inour minds so that we can bypass the time restrictions which our logicalmind traps us in as it constantly points out that we are here now, and the

future is way off there. This method is based on a fascinating techniquewhich I like to call the Why Question. The man who created this idea,Noah St. John, refers to it as Afformations (notice that the i in this word

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is replaced with an o), but I personally call it the Why Question becausethe word Why is such an essential component of the concept. However,call it what you want, using the Why Question with EFT is a strikinglyeffective way to reach a sense of being in the future that is not easilyattainable any other way.

Noah has based his technique on the premise that questioning is the mostprofoundly productive thing the human mind can conceive of, and that ouralertness to questions exceeds our alertness to any other concept (mywords not his).

I am not repeating here what you can read in his book, which I will tell youabout in a moment, but am paraphrasing his concept and in so doing I amexpressing my own thoughts on this subject. I apologize if I don'tcompletely represent his way of thinking, but it is not necessary to take hisexact formulation because what he does for us is to spark off a type ofthinking which can help us break the bondage of time-bound thinking.

Once we have done that, the way is open for some surprising things tohappen.

My point of view is that we humans are inquisitive by nature otherwise wewould not have survived as a species or been able to develop civilization aswe have. In order to do this we had to ask incredibly profound questionsand ask them continuously throughout the ages. In other words, people arebasically questioners. We need only watch a young child first learning totalk and first exploring this world, to verify this fact. Why? Why? Why? isthe constant refrain of the child. Only rarely do they ask the question

How? and then only when they want to be shown specifically how to dosomething (most of the time theyd prefer to find it out for themselvesthough!).

How questions are of course useful ways of conveying information fromone person to another. How do I operate this new software? is a verygood question if you want to learn a transmittable technique, somethingsomeone else knows a lot more about than you do. By contrast a Whyquestion is an open ended one, it is tremendously broad in its scope andcan access large vistas. The minute you say the word why you tap a

profound area of the human psyche. You contact that part of yourself thatasks unanswerable questions as well as answerable ones. The deepest

philosophical, religious, or intuitive questions that have been asked downthrough the ages have all been Why questions rather than Howquestions the latter have been asked of course but they are much more

practical in nature.

I am going to suggest here that we use the Why Question in combinationwith EFT, so lets look at the type of Why Question that Noah St. John

proposes and how I have been using it to great effect with EFT.

The method which he calls Afformations ( o in the middle) has the personmake a statement about what they want to bring into their life in the form

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of a Why Question, and place that Why Question in the future so that, ineffect, the questioner is asking why something has, and I emphasize theword has, happened. I realize that you probably dont know what I'mtalking about so heres an example.

Suppose you found a relationship with someone important to you becomingextremely difficult because you reacted with annoyance to certain phrasesthat they used, or to certain mannerisms that they had (or whatever). Aswe all know, using EFT to change our level of irritation and change ourattitude towards that other person, and hopefully improve our relationshipwith them because of this, can be enormously effective. However, we canoften run into roadblocks to anything that we want to change, including ourattitudes and ourselves. In this method, if you encounter such a roadblock

you formulate a question that is stated as though you have already reachedthe state that you desire, and you are merely asking why this hadhappened. Its as simple as that. Such a future-oriented question might go Why have I been able to achieve such a quiet, balanced and effective wayof dealing with (this person)?.

Notice that you will be asking the question as though you had alreadyachieved your desired state, and it is already effective. If you try this, youwill discover that it is difficult to ask this kind of question without beingstartled out of your present time frame. It is much more effective than atraditional affirmation which would go, I am able to achieve a quiet,balanced and effective way of dealing with (this person). As Gary Craig hasso aptly pointed out, the latter could easily trigger an enormous number of

tail enders (inner contradictions) because it is so obviously contrary tofact. However, if you pose this same desired outcome as a question forwhich you are seeking an answer, you are likely to become unaware ofwhether it is contrary to fact or not a question always opens our minds,expands our horizons. Therefore the Why Question is a great help inbypassing tail enders that might otherwise block us.

Lets consider another type of desired goal and see how the Why Questionwould apply there. Suppose you wanted to have a wonderfully satisfyingnew career. In order to manifest that you would need to emotionally

experience the happening of it, and here is where the Why Question comesin. Instead of saying, I have a wonderfully satisfying and exciting newcareer (contrary to fact) you would ask yourself, Why did I create thiswonderfully satisfying career for myself? You would stir your owncuriosity the minute you did this. The desired outcome would now be farmore real to you. It will have come right into your being.

When you combine this questioning with the use of EFT you have what iscalled a double whammy its effect on you is multiplied impressively.Here is how to use it with EFT:

After formulating your Why Question, you then tap it in at every EFTtapping spot, beginning with the karate chop spot or sore spot (whicheverreversal spot you use). Then, at each one of the EFT points, you ask the

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Why Question again. That is all you do. You may want to do more than oneround of this, and of course if you have a great deal of distress about theissue, you will want to do a round or two of tapping on the negative before

you tap on the Why Question, e.g. Even though I feel despair about everfinding a career thats right for me, etc. doing several rounds of thishelps clear away the negative. After that go back to tapping just the WhyQuestion at every EFT point.

If you work with this method I think you will discover, as I have, that anypossible wish of yours can be turned into a Why Question, and thatrepeating this question as you tap creates an underlying assumption thatthe goal has already been reached. Underlying assumptions are powerful.If we have a negative assumption it can work against us, but if we have a

positive one it can work for us, and it can do so even more powerfully if weuse EFT to tap it in.

If you want to try this technique, I suggest you first write out a list of

desired outcomes in your own life, things you would love to see happen ineach main area of your life, and then turn each of these desired goals into aWhy Question. When you tap in a Why Question you may be amazed athow this breaks the grip of the word impossible, often making what youwant to achieve seem genuinely possible to you for the first time.

If you want to read the Afformations that Noah St. John describes, he hashundreds of Why Questions for all areas of life, in his book, The Little Bookof Afformations (obtainable through major book stores). While some ofthese may not suit you personally, others may really hit the nail on the

head as they say. When you add the power of EFT to Why Questions, youwill have a major tool for implementing The Secret.

Pat Carrington

Part 7: How to Handle Multiple Aspects of a Major Goal

I am going to write today about a way you can realize an unusually complexand major goal using EFT. I emphasize here the word "complex". Manytruly desirable goals contain a number of different aspects which makesthem into conglomerates, collections of things that you want, all groupedunder one heading. You cannot possibly crowd all these attributes into oneEFT statement.

There is, however, a distinct advantage in being able to list all the desiredaspects of any important goal. In one of the articles in this series ("FutureThanks) I described how a former client of mine was able to find exactlythe car he wanted through the use of incredible specificity in the way hedescribed that car in his EFT statement. It is of course not difficult todescribe a car in a single EFT statement as he did, but it is certainly not an

easy matter for example to describe the mate of your dreams in a singlestatement or the career of your choice in a short number of words.

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Nevertheless, specificity can pay off dramatically when you want tomanifest your goals.

There is a way to handle this problem that is often extremely effective. Toillustrate it let me tell you about a former client of mine whom I shall call"Kelly", who used this tactic with remarkable success.

With the help of EFT, Kelly had just emerged from an extremely destructive,

verbally abusive relationship of several years duration. When she firstconsulted me she could see no way out of the trap it posed and felt totallyhopeless about it. After almost a year of therapy, however, she had finallybeen able to extricate herself gracefully from this relationship in asatisfactory manner.

Kelly was finally dating again, although she was experiencing littlesatisfaction or success doing this. Eventually, however, she realized thatshe wanted to have a very different type of relationship than she had everknown, and that in fact that she now felt ready to be married (something

she had been very afraid of before). None of the men that she had beendating even remotely approached what she felt she would need or want in ahusband, however; they were not people with whom she wanted to spendthe rest of her life.

She then asked me if it was possible for her to use EFT to help her find theman she really wanted. I told her that it might help, but that she needed tobe extremely clear first as to exactly what kind of man she was reallylooking for. In order to help her do this, I handed her a large pad of paperand asked her to write down, on separate lines one under the other, everyattribute of her "ideal man" that she could possibly think of the man shewould like to have for a husband.

Kelly did this with her usual diligence, and came up with about 23characteristics of such a man. They came to her mind easily and quickly.She had listed everything from what he looked like, to what kind of foodsand restaurants he preferred, to how he liked to spend his free time, to theway he handled disagreements, how he felt about independent time awayfrom each other, etc..

When she had finished the list, I asked her to go home, take the list withher, add more attributes to it any time during the week if she felt like doingthis, and bring the list back to her next appointment with me.

Kelly did as I had suggested, and when she came back, 42 attributes werenow on her list of Ideal Man. New characteristics which she wanted hadoccurred to her during the week, and every time that one did she had jottedit down . She found that it was enjoyable for her to write down anythingthat she felt that she wanted, and this was a new experience for her.

Now that she had clearly delineated her goal, I asked Kelly to give this list atitle, such as she would give to her Mental Movie when doing EFT in themanner that Gary Craig suggests. She chose the title My Ideal Man for

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the list. It could have been The husband I will have, or another similartitle, the only requirement was that this would serve as a quick, accurateway to sum up the entire list in her own mind.

I then asked her to create an EFT Choices Statement using this title. Sheobviously could not list the whole 42 desirable characteristics shown therein her EFT statement so she was to hold the list in front of her or place it onher lap as she tapped, and just glance at it briefly before starting EFT, torefresh it in her mind, and use just its title in the statement..

She tapped on the following phrase:

"Even though he's not apparent in my life as yet, and even though I'mdissatisfied with my dating at present, I choose to find My Ideal Man (thiswas the title of her list) and have him feel the same way about me as I doabout him."

She did several rounds of EFT using this statement and commented thatalthough this felt like a wonderful goal but she couldnt imagine that itwould really work. However she said that she would keep[ on tapping athome.

I knew that Kelly was the type of person who would follow through on a planlike this, and she was willing to make a commitment to doing this daily.

For the next several weeks she tapped systematically on this statement,holding the list in front of her as she did so. I had also instructed her toread the list over again several times a week to keep its contents fresh inher mind, and reminded her that if she wanted to add any more attributes

to it that she could. In fact, Kelly did add three of four new ones to the listduring that time.

What is fascinating about this story is that Kelly began feeling better andbetter about herself as she tapped on her goal. She soon tapered off herunsatisfactory dating which left her free to pursue some interestinghobbies, and allowed her to rest from the search. In fact, she stoppedcoming to see me for a while because she was feeling so much better abouther life and herself just by doing this daily tapping on her ultimate goal for ahusband.

Several months later, I got a telephone call from Kelly asking for a "brushup" session. When she came in to see me she told me, with excitement inher voice, that she had started dating a man from another section of theorganization where she worked. Although she had met him casually onceor twice before, she had paid little attention to him at that time. She saidshe found him quite different to go out with, and as she began to knowhim better, it had suddenly dawned on her that he possessed many of thecharacteristics that she had written down on her list of the Ideal Man. This

impressed her, and she had pulled out the list and systematically began tocheck off every characteristic on it which he possessed. When she did thisshe was stunned to discover that out of the now 48 attributes on her list, he

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seemed to have at least 35 of these characteristics! There were still someof them which she was unsure of because she really didn't know him wellenough to be able to say whether he met these criteria. These involvedissues of compatibility in their interests which she had had no way to testso far, such as the types of vacation they might like to take together and afew of his characteristics were dissimilar to what she had put down forexample, his religion was different from that which her family of origin

would have desired.

She had come back at this time to work out some obstacles she foundherself encountering in the way of allowing herself to trust this newrelationship. She accomplished this short term goal in several sessions andthen I didn't hear from he again for the next six months.

Finally she called me once again to ask for a single appointment. When shearrived at my office she told me that her relationship with Ed was sodifferent from any that she had ever had before that she could scarcely

believe it. Then she told me that there were only three characteristics,and these werent major ones either, that he didnt have. She worked a bitmore on allowing herself to have such a good relationship and then leftagain, phoning me some months later to tell me that they were nowengaged..

The upshot of this story is that within a year Kelly had married this man.That was six years ago, and today they are an unusually happily marriedcouple, strikingly so in fact if one compares them to many other marriages.

Please realize, however, an important fact. Kelly was ready for thisrelationship when she began tapping on her Ideal Man. She had done muchinner work on herself to bring her to this point, and she was no longerambivalent about what she wanted. This was undoubtedly the reason thatshe was able to realize her goal.

When, about a year and half after she got married, she consulted me forhelp in another area of her life, that of her career, the outcome was not sofavorable. This was an area where she had much uncertainty aboutwhether she could handle the type of job that she thought she wanted, and

although she wrote down a long list of attributes that she desired for herIdeal Job, and tapped on them daily as she had on the Ideal Man list, thistime the effort was not successful.

This fact actually did not actually surprise Kelly. With many doubts aboutwhether she could measure up to such a job, it was clear that she neededmore work to help her deal with her conflicts about finding such a job, andher fear of failing at it if she did. It was not until much time had passed thatKellys work life substantially improved and it still does not match her ideal,although it is approaching it in certain important respects (she is no longer

in therapy except sporadically).The lessons in this story are twofold. On the one hand, it tells us that verylong lists of attributes of a desired outcome, as complex as is necessary in

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fact, can easily be handled by EFT and when they are can have powerfulresults. On the other hand, it is apparent that you must be entirelycongruent (i.e. not in conflict) about the goal that you think you desire.

If your goal is crystal clear and you are unconflicted about it andemotionally ready to receive it, then you can feel confident making a longlist of specific attributes that you want and holding this list in front of youwhen you tap. Your subconscious will this way remember all of theattributes as you tap. You have only to review this list occasionally to keepit fresh in your mind. You may well want to try this for some of the majorissues in your life.

Pat Carrington

A New Way to Express Gratitude with EFT

Hi Everyone,

EFT Master Pat Carrington gives us yet another useful approach for EFT.

Hugs, Gary

By Patricia Carrington, Ph.D., EFT Master

Some of you will remember how I recently wrote about ways in which youcan use EFT to express appreciation to yourself for the little things you dofor yourselves, and many people seem to have found this technique very

useful. Also, in another article I wrote about a way in which you can thankthe universe, in advance, for bringing you what you want to create in yourown life. Today I am going to tell you about another way of experiencingappreciation for your own self that I find unusually effective ... even

profound. I have been using this method more and more with my clientsand myself. It is deceptively simple.

The method can be used in two ways. It can be used in the traditional EFTfashion -- by starting the EFT statement with the words Even thoughfollowed by a description of your problem, and then by giving of thanks (in

the positive portion of your statement) for the gift of your own self. Thetraditional approach is particularly useful when you are experiencing astrong negative emotion that must processed out before the positivestatement can take effect.

However, you can also use this phrase all by itself, without preceding itwith any negative statement. To do this you simply "tap in" a sense ofgratitude. The positive phrase you use is a very simple one. It goes likethis:

I thank the Universe for giving me, ME."When I first started using this phrase I was astonished at the effect it hadon me. I didnt realize beforehand what is now obvious to me, which is that

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most of us dont look at ourselves as the gift that we really are we almostnever do this in fact. Even if we do appreciate certain things aboutourselves, and even if others tell us many good things about ourselves, andeven if we know we have certain fine traits, the amazingness of our ownselves escapes us most of the time. I am tempted to say it escapes us all ofthe time, but I never speak in absolutes because there are alwaysexceptions to them.

In order to understand what Im talking about here, I would like you to do asimple experiment. Right this very moment, please stop whatever you aredoing, which right now is reading this article. Instead, commencing withthe inner eyebrow spot, do one full round of EFT repeating to yourself ateach tapping spot I thank the Universe for giving me, ME."

What did you experience when you did this? Did you see your own self in adifferent perspective than before as you made this statement? Or was itdifficult or confusing for you?

If you found, as some people do, that reasons came to your mind about whyyou do not consider yourself a gift, then that is rich territory to mine. Youcan now create EFT statements that target those tail enders, and thenmove on later to the positive statement itself.

For example, one woman to whom I made this suggestion found herselfsaying in her mind, "I wish I hadn't been given this self. I wish I hadn't. "This woman happened to be suffering from a considerable amount ofdepression accompanied by self deprecation. She could not, at first, acceptthe concept of her own self being in any way a gift to her.

I therefore suggested that she use the following phrase for her EFTstatement, "Even though I wish I hadn't been given this self, I thank theUniverse for giving me the real me underneath it all.

I added the qualifying words, the real me underneath it all because thisexercise is not designed to give thanks for what you are on the surface, orhow you act, or how you seem to the world, or what you think you are. Itasks you to give thanks for what, way down deep, in the depths of yourbeing, you really are.

This woman found that the modified phrase helped her a great deal whenshe tapped on it because it differentiated between what she didn't likeabout herself and what she really knew to be of value in herself. And thenegative did not win out. Finally, interestingly, she was able to use the

phrase all by itself. When she did, thanking the universe for having givenher her own real self, was an eye opener for her.

Many people, when they tap in this phrase, discover that the negativethoughts they have about themselves seem to fade into unimportance

Recently I used this phrase with a client who was feeling deeply hurt by afriends seeming betrayal. This was deeply saddening to her, but when shebegan to thank the Universe for giving her herself she suddenly sensed

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the enormity of that gift, the incredible value of it. She saw that it was, infact, the most compelling part of her life. No one else's opinion of her, noone else's support, no one else's vote of confidence, could compare to whatin her heart she suddenly realized about herself.

The fact is that we have all been living with our own selves for many years,and that person who has been "us" is an amazing experience, even in itsdown moments. It is immense.

I suggest that you try tapping on this phrase when another person'sbehavior has disturbed you, or a situation is impinging upon your peace ofmind. Simply stop and tap in your gratefulness for having been given thisamazing self that you are. When you do this, other considerations may justfall by the wayside.

I would appreciate it if some of you could let me know your experienceswith this technique. I am extremely impressed by its depth and power andwould welcome feedback about it.

Pat Carrington, PhD

Not Enough Time For Success...

For those of you who did not receive Issues #17--21, please visithttp://www.CarolLook.com/newsletterdirectoryfor a copy of these pastissues. (Please add me to your "safe friends" list or "white list" so thenewsletters are not bounced.)

I know when I receive numerous emails on the same subject, it's time to

write about it! Many of you have emailed me this month saying you areconvinced that when you become "successful" in the way you want to be,

you won't have enough time for family, fun, and relaxation, so you aresabotaging opportunities for advancement and success.

First of all, ask yourself the following questions:

(1) Who are your models that give you this impression?(2) When did you first "learn" this could happen?(3) Why are you convinced this is true?

(4) Have you considered delegating responsibilities and hiring help so youhave more time?

This problem of having no time because you are successfulis only abelief that comes from fear. While some people who are successful organizetheir lives so they have no time to relax, this problem doesn't need to betrue for you. If you have this fear, you will indeed sabotage yourself toavoid this conflict.

Below you will findEFT Setup Phrases followed by two rounds (one

negative and one positive) for this newsletter's topic, Not Enough TimeFor Success....

1. EFT SETUP PHRASES

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The EFT SETUP Phrases for this topic are as follows:

While tapping the karate chop spoton either hand, repeat these phrasesout loud, (or change the words to fit your exact situation).

"Even though I'm afraid I won't have any time if I am successful, Ideeply and completely love and accept myself anyway."

"Even though I assume being successful will be too time-consuming

and I'll have to give up what I love, I accept who I am and how Ifeel about it."

"Even though I sabotage my success because I'm afraid of theconsequences, I accept my talents, and choose to find new ways tofeel satisfied."

I have indicated where to tap while saying each of the phrases below. Youmay repeat this round more than once if you wish. (Those of you who arenew to EFTmay view a chart of the spots on my web site under the EFT

pages.)***Now, for the phrases that focus on the problem***

Eyebrow: "What if I don't have enough time?"

Side of Eye: "I feel so anxious about this problem."

Under Eye: "I already don't have enough time for myself."

Nose: "No wonder I keep sabotaging my success."

Chin: "I don't think there will be enough time for my family."

Collarbone: "I think I'll be too stressed out."

Under Arm: "That's why I keep sabotaging myself."

Head: "I am not ready to give up more time."

***Now for the positive focus on the solution***

Eyebrow: "I choose to find new ways of enjoying my time."

Side of Eye: "I have decided to enjoy how much time I do have."

Under Eye: "I look forward to finding new ways to be productive."

Nose: "I appreciate how much time I have now."

Chin: "I appreciate how free I feel."

Collarbone: "I appreciate the creative guidance I am receiving about thisproblem."

Under Arm: "I am ready to find ways to meet my needs even if I am wildlysuccessful."

Head: "I love appreciating how successful I am and how much time I have."

Then tap on the following phrases as you complete one moreround:

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I love knowing we all deserve abundance...I choose to believe in the guidance I am receiving...I appreciate the prosperity in my life...I love appreciating my body, my friends, my opportunities...I'm grateful for all the new opportunities for abundance...I appreciate exactly who I am...I appreciate all the lessons I have learned...

I am so grateful for all the prosperity in my life.

2. RECOMMENDATIONS AND TIPS:

MyWHAT IF series I wrote for the Masters' section of Gary Craig'snewsletter made a big impression on a number of readers, so I amsuggesting the technique for this newsletter.

Using the topic of not having enough time, use the WHAT IF technique totrigger more feelings and take you to a new level.

While tapping each of the EFTpoints (starting with the eyebrow point andending on the top of the head) ask yourself questions that might provokesome emotional responses.

Eyebrow: What if there IS enough time for me?Side of Eye: What if I asked for more help?Under Eye: What if I could figure out this challenge?Under Nose: What if I put myself first?Chin: What if I could prioritize my life?Collarbone: What if I slowed down and noticed what's going well?

Under Arm: What if I felt relaxed about this "time" issue?Top of Head: What if I choose to feel free about my success?

Keep tapping in this way until you feel new clarity about this challenge oftime. If you don't clear this fear, you will continue to sabotage yourself asfar as abundance is concerned.

This next exercise is a modified version of the one I included in last month'snewsletter. Please use it this month as well.

Try some deep, clear, positive affirmations of who you are. Close your eyes,

and place your left hand over your heart chakra (in the middle of yourchest). Take a deep breath and imagine you are breathing in relaxationthrough your hand into your heart area. Then imagine you are breathingout stress or tension through the same hand. Now say some positiveaffirmations about yourself out loud. "I appreciate who I am...Divine lovefills my heart...I deserve abundance..."

Keep your hand on your heart chakra area and repeat positive affirmationsabout yourself out loud again. Declare that you appreciate who you are andhow you feel. Connecting to your heart area is very powerful, and the more

you disengage from the static of your left brain, the clearer you will beabout your path.

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(For more on heart-centered meditations and clearings, please visithttp://www.heartmath.com). I highly recommend their work and thescientific research that supports it.

Feeling Good Instead of Guilty

I will be brief this month...the point of this newsletter is to encourage you torelease the guilt you are holding onto about something you said or didn't

say, or about what you did or failed to do. The unnecessary guilt we carryaround slows down the process of attracting abundance. And it never helpsthe people we think we wronged. Haven't you been punishing yourself longenough? Aren't you tired of the constant sabotage behavior? When we feeldeeply guilty, we tend to find new ways to sabotage our success all thetime. Make a decision today to release all that old guilt. It's nothelping anyone.

For those of you who did not receive Issues #17--21, please visithttp://www.CarolLook.com/newsletterdirectoryfor a copy of these past

issues. (Please add me to your "safe friends" list or "white list" so thenewsletters are not bounced.)

Below you will findEFT Setup Phrases followed by two rounds (onenegative and one positive) for this newsletter's topic, Feeling GoodInstead of Guilty.

1. EFT SETUP PHRASES

The EFT SETUP Phrases for this topic are as follows:

While tapping the karate chop spoton either hand, repeat these phrasesout loud, (or change the words to fit your exact situation).

"Even though I still feel guilty about what I did, it is time to forgivemyself now."

"Even though I'm afraid to forgive myself for what I did, I acceptwho I am and that I am worthy of forgiveness."

"Even though I feel compelled to continue punishing myself forwhat I did and said, I accept myself as I learn to feel at peace

about what happened and what I did."I have indicated where to tap while saying each of the phrases below. Youmay repeat this round more than once if you wish. (Those of you who arenew to EFTmay view a chart of the spots on my web site under the EFTpages.)

***Now, for the phrases that focus on the problem***

Eyebrow: ""I still feel guilty about what I did."

Side of Eye: "I feel so guilty about what I said."

Under Eye: "I don't know if I should forgive myself."

Nose: "No wonder I keep punishing myself."

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Chin: "I don't think I should be forgiven."

Collarbone: "I deserve to be punished."

Under Arm: "That's why I keep sabotaging myself."

Head: "I am not ready to forgive myself."

***Now for the positive focus on the solution***

Eyebrow: "I choose to do the best I can do right now."Side of Eye: "I have decided to forgive myself...I made a mistake."

Under Eye: "I have been using this issue as a way to punish myself."

Nose: "I have no excuses now...I can accept abundance into my life."

Chin: "I appreciate that it is time to release the guilt."

Collarbone: "I forgive myself for those mistakes I made."

Under Arm: "I am ready to appreciate myself even though I made

mistakes."

Head: "I love appreciating who I am right now and I release the guilt."

Then tap on the following phrases as you complete one moreround:

I love knowing we all deserve abundance...I choose to believe in the guidance I am receiving...I appreciate the prosperity in my life...I love appreciating my body, my friends, my opportunities...

I'm grateful for all the new opportunities for abundance...I appreciate exactly who I am...I appreciate all the lessons I have learned...I am so grateful for all the prosperity in my life.

2. RECOMMENDATIONS AND TIPS:

Releasing More Guilt: Try some deep, clear, loud, positive affirmations ofwho you are. Close your eyes, and place your left hand over your heartchakra (in the middle of your chest). Take a deep breath and imagine you

are breathing in relaxation through your hand into your heart area, andbreathing outstress or tension through the same hand. Now say yourpositive affirmations about yourself out loud. "I appreciate who I am...Divinelove fills my heart...I deserve abundance..."

Now think of something you regret or feel guilty about, and declare "Iforgive myself...I was doing my best back then..." Then think of something

you said that you feel guilty about...take a deep breath and say out loud, "Iforgive myself once and for all..." until you feel cleared of this guilt.

Then while keeping your hand on your heart chakra area, repeat your

positive affirmations about yourself out loud again. Declare that youappreciate who you are and how you feel.

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Hi Everyone,

In this 3 part series, EFT Master Patricia Carrington superbly presents newuses of EFT to bring an extra level of richness to our lives. This is well worth

your attention.

Hugs, Gary

Part 1 of 3: Using EFT to Create a Storehouse of Positive Memories

Part 2 of 3: EFT for GratitudePart 3 of 3: Using EFT for Forgiveness: The 1% Solution

By Patricia Carrington PhD, EFT Master

Part 1 of 3: Using EFT to Create a Storehouse of Positive Memories

Gary Craig has suggested that with EFT we are on the ground floor of ahealing high rise, and I am certain that the positive uses we have found forEFT so far are but the tip of the iceberg. In this series of articles I will be

sharing with you some new uses of EFT that I have been using with myclients and myself, and about which I am very excited.

Today I will tell you about a method by means of which you can consolidatememories of fleeting positive experiences that may occur during the dayand otherwise be ignored, and then reproduce these same experienceslater on so that you can resonate with a feeling of well being, goodness,optimism and appreciation any time that you want to.

I think you would agree that this is a desirable outcome. If you happen tobe familiar with the work of Abraham-Hicks (The Law of Attraction), or the

popular version of their viewpoint presented in the recent movie TheSecret (see references at end of article) you will understand why changingour vibrational level (the emotional tone of our lives which includes thetone of our entire physical being) is fundamental to creating the life wewant. What is intriguing about this is that I have found that we can use EFTto help achieve this goal!

Even if you dont accept the concept of vibrational levels (some peopledont), you will probably agree that being able to change your responses to

life events so that you experience them differently, with relish and delightand a new sense of meaning, is something to be desired.

I have recently been using EFT to create a virtual storehouse of positivememories which we can draw upon at any given moment to change ouremotional state whenever we want.

This storehouse of captured positive experiences can be created throughthe use of EFT, then later be made available to us again, by using EFT atanother time.

The positive memories that are stored by this process do not consist ofwords, sentences or mental images alone, but are made up of deeply-feltand compelling experiences that EFT can bring back to us whenever weneed them.

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The experiences that are captured in this way are those precious fleetingmoments in our lives that we may actually come into contact with far moreoften than we realize, but which, in the usual hassle of life, often pass by sorapidly that we barely notice them, if in fact we notice them at all.

The demands made upon us in modern life can engulf us so fully that wefind ourselves responding to our days negatively as we try to fight off thedistress that not being able to meet all these demands creates in us andof course we can never come close to meeting all of them! As a result, weoften forget that we have within us the possibility of an amazingly deep joyin living.

The exciting news is that we can use EFT to shift our awareness so that theside of ourselves that revels in life for its own sake becomes far moreavailable to us than it is at present.

To show you how this process works out in action, let me give you anexample from my own life.

On a cloudy morning about a month ago I awoke to the sound of a softpattering of rain on my window pane. It was a delicate sound, and I havealways liked the sound of gentle rain. However, my tendency, like that ofmany other people, has been to listen to it for perhaps 15 seconds or so,and then get up and go about my day because there is so much to do.

On this particular morning, however, I decided to use EFT in the new way Ihad been experimenting with.

I wanted to fix this experience in my memory using EFT. To do this, I

created a short phrase that summed it all up for me:

The sound of rain on my window.

Without using any elaborate EFT statement, in fact without using anynegative statement at all (there was no even though phrase) andwithout the use of self acceptance affirmations or Choices statements, Irepeated that one simple phrase at each tapping point, starting with theinner eyebrow and ending up on top of my head.

This is, of course, is the Short Form of EFT, but you can do this using the

long form or any other EFT variation.

The process went like this:

Inner eyebrow: The sound of rain on my window

Outer eye: The sound of rain on my window

Under eye: The sound of rain on my window

and so on for one complete round.

One round of EFT was all I did, but at the end of it I felt an unusual sense of

peace. The sound of the rain pattering on my window pane had nowassumed much more importance because I was tapping it in with EFT.

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A deeper awareness

Tapping on this experience also seemed to have sharpened my sensesbecause I was now aware of another sound, one I had not noticed before. Itwas that of a single raindrop repeatedly tapping on an iron chimney whichextends from my bedroom through the roof, connecting an old stove in myroom to the outdoors.

The sound was hollow and seemed to reverberate like a distant bell. Thedrop (it was actually a series of consecutive rain drops) was tappingintermittently at its own pace and had its own rhythm. I decided tocapture it for my repository of positive fleeting moments, so I tapped onthe phrase:

Inner Eye: Sound of the raindrop on the chimney

Outer Eye: Sound of the raindrop on the chimney

Under eye: Sound of the raindrop on the chimney

Under nose: Sound of the raindrop on the chimney, taking its own time

and so on.

I was impressed by the fact that the raindrop so clearly took its own time. Icould not force it into my rhythm but had to allow it its own pace. As Icontinued to tap, I was aware of an increasing acceptance on my part of thedrops pace and its unpredictability, of allowing it to be outside of mycontrol.

The more I tapped on the sound of the single rain drop agains

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