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From Mistakes

“If you don't make mistakes, you're not working on hard enough problems.  And that's a big mistake.”  ~F. Wikzek

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.”  ~Elbert Hubbard

Nobody likes making mistakes. If you learn from mistakes correctly, they can propell will you forward. You must also realize that mistakes are an essential part of self improvement. Don’t be overwhelmed with guilt and regret, analyze how you can learn from them. Here are 12 secrets from mistakes :

Secret # 1 : Accepting responsibility makes learning possible.You can only learn from a mistake after you admit you’ve made it. If you courageously stand up and honestly say “This is my mistake and I am responsible” the possibilities for learning will move towards you. Wise people admit their mistakes easily. They know progress accelerates when they do.

Secret # 2 : Don’t equate making mistakes with being a mistake.You should avoid feeling guilty about making mistakes, but at the same time,

you should make a resolution to learn from them. If you repeat the same mistakes, it shows you aren’t making progress and causes repeated suffering.

Secret # 3 : You can’t change mistakes, but you can choose how

to respond to them.What’s missing in many people’s beliefs about success is the fact that the more challenging the goal, the more frequent and difficult setbacks will be. The larger your ambitions, the more dependent you will be on your ability to overcome and learn from your mistakes.

Secret # 4 : Growth starts when you can see room for improvement.From your own mistakes you can gain wisdom and accelerate self-

improvement. Mistakes, because of their relationship with risk taking, are essential to success. The important thing is to view mistakes as a useful stepping stone to a higher reality and better outlook on life.

Secret # 5 : Work to understand why it happened and what the factors were.Often mistakes are caused by bad habits. To avoid making the same mistakes

you need to break these bad habits. This requires careful consideration and sustained effort to change your way of thinking.

Secret # 6 : What information could have avoided the mistake?Study the past, practice for the situations you expect, and get back in the game.

Your studying of the past should help broaden your perspective. You want to be aware of how many other smart, capable well meaning people have made similar mistakes to the one you made, and went on to even bigger mistakes, I mean successes, in the future.

Secret # 7 : What small mistakes, in sequence, contributed to the

bigger mistake?The more complex the mistake, the further back you’ll need to go and the more careful and open-minded you need to be in your own investigation. You may even need to bring in an objective outsider to help sort things out. You’d never have a suspect in a crime lead the investigation.

Secret # 8 : Are there alternatives you should have considered but did not?Progress won’t be a straight line but if you keep learning you will have

more successes than failures, and the mistakes you make along the way will help you get to where you want to go.

Secret # 9 : What kinds of changes are required to avoid making

this mistake again? What kinds of change are difficult for you?

The more complicated the mistake you’ve made, the more patient you need to be. There’s nothing worse than flailing around trying to fix something you don’t understand: you’ll always make things worse.

Secret # 10 : How do you think your behavior should/would change in you

were in a similar situation again?Refusing to acknowledge mistakes, or tendencies to make similar kinds of mistakes, is a refusal to acknowledge reality. However, the sooner you change your habits, the sooner you will avoid making the same mistakes.

Secret # 11 : Work to understand the mistake until you can make fun of it

(or not want to kill others that make fun).Humor loosens up your psychology and prevents you from obsessing about the past. It’s easy to make new mistakes by spending too much energy protecting against the previous ones. “A man fears the tiger that bit him last, instead of the tiger that will bite him next”.

Secret # 12 : Don’t over-compensate: the next situation won’t be

the same as the last.While mistakes are inevitable, if you can learn from the current one, you’ll also be able to learn from future ones. However, without careful analysis the wrong conclusion would have been reached and the wrong lesson would have been learned.

Here are 12 Secrets that can help you learn from mistakes :1. Accepting responsibility makes learning possible.2. Don’t equate making mistakes with being a mistake.3. You can’t change mistakes, but you can choose how to respond to them.4. Growth starts when you can see room for improvement.5. Work to understand why it happened and what the factors were.6. What information could have avoided the mistake?7. What small mistakes, in sequence, contributed to the bigger mistake?8. Are there alternatives you should have considered but did not?9. What kinds of changes are required to avoid making this mistake again? What kinds of change are

difficult for you?10. How do you think your behavior should/would change in you were in a similar situation again?11. Work to understand the mistake until you can make fun of it (or not want to kill others that make

fun).12. Don’t over-compensate: the next situation won’t be the same as the last.

If a mistake is not a stepping stone, it is a mistake.  ~Eli Siegel

“In the game of life it's a good idea to have a few early losses, which relieves you of the pressure of trying to maintain an undefeated season.”   ~Bill Vaughan

Never say, "oops."  Always say, "Ah, interesting."  ~Author Unknown

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