verbal, emotional or physical abuse of someone less powerful using technology (mobile phone or...
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Verbal, emotional or physical abuse of someone less powerful
Using technology (mobile phone or computer) to abuse someone
Can be from child to child Child to adult Adult to child Can be one on one, or a group of several
people onto individuals or groups
Bullying will only stop if we take action together. Victims of bullying need our support.
Bullying behaviour can be fuelled by the action, or lack of action, of the bystander.
The majority of children and adults want to take action to tackle bullying.
85% of bullying incidents take place with bystanders present.
Young people intervened in significantly more episodes than adults did (11% of episodes versus 4%).
Bullying behaviour stops in less than 10 seconds nearly 60% of the time
E.g. an observer, onlooker or witness.
The ringleader – those leading the bullying, but not always the person ‘doing’ the bullying.
Assistant(s) – those involved in ‘doing’ the bullying. Reinforcer(s) - support the bullying, might laugh or
encourage other people to collude with what is going on. Outsider(s) - ignore any bullying and doesn’t want to get
involved. This can actually include adults too! Defender(s) - stand up for someone being bullied. Know
that bullying is wrong. Feel confident enough to do something about it.
Fear of becoming a target.
Not wanting to be called a ‘grass’ or ‘snitch’.
Not wanting to look like a “goody goody”
It’s only a bit of fun.
Ignore it and it will go away.
They deserve it.
Empathy – know what it feels like.
Because it’s the right thing to do.
That’s what friends expect.
Feel confident enough to do it – sufficient training provided.
Age – primary age students are more likely to intervene than secondary students.
Remove them from immediate danger Listen to them and find out what has been
happening Ensure they have a good network of support
from their peers Arrange for them to have some one to one
support to help them gain back their confidence
Mediation and restorative approaches can be useful
As well as any necessary punitive action, talk to them and find out what the underlying problems may be
Get them involved in a more appropriate activity which will make them feel better about themselves
Start a “Cool to be Kind Club” in school, which they can help to run
Try to give them a feeling of self worth so that they don’t need to hurt others to feel powerful
Snitching or grassing – that is trying to get someone into trouble.
Telling or reporting – that is trying to get someone out of trouble.
There is a difference.
Don’t be afraid to speak out, even if you cannot intervene, tell someone else who can!
Tell an adult or older student. Adults need to know if bullying is happening.
Tell the bully to stop, if it is safe to do so.
Encourage the bullied person to tell someone.
Walk away with the victim and encourage them not to react. Reaction is vital to the bully! Its pointless without a reaction..
Go and get someone to help you stop the bullying.
Form a friendship group for the person being bullied to make sure they are not isolated.
Adults could speak to the bully to find out why they are doing it
Adults should ensure that their school or organisation has a clear, effective, whole community approach to addressing bullying
Because bullying is wrong and can make the victim feel so bad they could hurt themselves or worse still – actually commit suicide in some circumstances.
To stop it from happening to someone else. Because bullying creates an atmosphere of
fear and tension for others too. Because you can! Even if it is just by letting
someone else know who can do more than you can.
Rights
Respect
Responsibility
The only thing necessary for
the triumph of evil is for good
men to do nothing.
Edmund Burke (1795)
Rita Adair Regional AdviserAnti-bullying Alliance
www.anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk
07917 215202