Empowering Others…Empowering Others…The Coach ApproachThe Coach Approach

Megan RaphaelMegan RaphaelCourage ProjectCourage Project

Certified Professional CoachCertified Professional CoachAuthor, award-winning book Author, award-winning book The Courage CodeThe Courage Code

““You get the You get the best effort from best effort from others not by others not by lighting a fire lighting a fire

beneath them, beneath them, but by building a but by building a

fire within.”fire within.” Bob ProctorBob Proctor

Today’s PresentationToday’s Presentation

Your role and goalsYour role and goals

Effective mindsets Effective mindsets

Great skillsGreat skills

Your RoleYour Role Connect Connect

InspireInspire

EmpowerEmpower

InformInform

In essence…you are their coach!

Your GoalsYour Goals

1. Build a 1. Build a PartnershipPartnership:: Safe, Respectful, ResolvedSafe, Respectful, Resolved

2.2. Help Your Client Connect with Help Your Client Connect with Their Inner GuidanceTheir Inner Guidance- What’s important? Why?- What’s important? Why?

Inner Guidance = Inner Guidance = Personal PowerPersonal Power

NOT Power Over NOT Power Under

But, Power WITH

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Behavior (How we Act)

Attitude (How We Feel)

Thinking(What we believe)

Our Core

Values

“Alignment is the difference between a happy person and a

divided spirit.” John

Maxwell

““How do women How do women find their power? find their power? By being true to By being true to themselves, by themselves, by

starting to starting to question, and question, and

taking control of taking control of their lives.”their lives.”

Flora B. Flora B.

““Coaching is Coaching is 90% attitude, 90% attitude,

10% teaching.”10% teaching.”AmoryAmory

What’s Your Attitude… About Clients, About You?

Heavy metal music

Word: Hitler

Words: Love & Gratitude

Words: Thank you

Masaru Emoto,

Hidden Message in Water

3 Helpful Mindsets 3 Helpful Mindsets About Your About Your ClientsClients

• Naturally creative, Naturally creative, resourceful and wholeresourceful and whole

• It’s It’s theirtheir life life • Success starts with Success starts with

alignmentalignment

3 Helpful Mindsets 3 Helpful Mindsets About About YouYou

• Naturally creative, Naturally creative, resourceful and wholeresourceful and whole

• You don’t need to be You don’t need to be the expertthe expert

• It’s about progress, not It’s about progress, not perfectionperfection

““Be the change you want to Be the change you want to see in the world”see in the world”

GandhiGandhi

How Empowered How Empowered Do YOU Feel?Do YOU Feel?

Your Wheel of LifeYour Wheel of LifeIn what areas of your life are you:

Most/least satisfied?Most/least aligned?

Most/least empowered?

Fina

ncia

lCareer

Personal GrowthMaking a

DifferenceSpiri

tual

ityRecreation

Health and Appearance

Relationships

How Connected Are You How Connected Are You with Your Inner Voice? with Your Inner Voice?

5 Effective Skills 5 Effective Skills Creating Rapport & MomentumCreating Rapport & Momentum

1.1. 33rdrd level listening level listening - Beneath their words- Beneath their words - To your intuition- To your intuition

2.2. Questioning Questioning ““Probably my best quality Probably my best quality

as a coach is that I ask a as a coach is that I ask a lot of challenging ?’s and lot of challenging ?’s and let them come up with let them come up with their own answers.”their own answers.” Eddie Robinson

Great Coaching QuestionsGreat Coaching Questions What do you want?What do you want? What’s important to you about that goal?What’s important to you about that goal? What brings you joy?What brings you joy? What fulfills you?What fulfills you? What drains you?What drains you? How would your life look different if…How would your life look different if… What would you do if you absolutely knew What would you do if you absolutely knew

you wouldn’t fail?you wouldn’t fail?

3.3. Uncovering AmbivalenceUncovering Ambivalence

- Reasons I want to change?- Reasons I want to change? - Reasons I want things to stay - Reasons I want things to stay

the same?the same?

4.4. Looking to Past Looking to Past Successes/StrengthsSuccesses/Strengths- What worked? Lessons - What worked? Lessons learned?learned?- Done it once…do it again- Done it once…do it again

5.5. Focusing on Focusing on InspiredInspiredACTION ACTION (plus reflection)““Inspiration…Is remembering Inspiration…Is remembering the future.” the future.” John CahillJohn Cahill- Pulls forward, see around - Pulls forward, see around obstaclesobstacles- Action steps each time.- Action steps each time.

6.6. Reinforcing their CourageReinforcing their Courage

One Way of Looking at Courage:

Courage = Big, Bold Acts of Valor, Bravery

Outward actions only

One size fits all

What we think…

Why aren’t I THAT courageous? I couldn’t ever be that courageous! I’m not courageous.

What If…

You saw COURAGE You saw COURAGE in a very different way????in a very different way????

Acts of Heart and SpiritActs of Heart and Spirit Choices…To Live…In Alignment

Another Side of the Coin:

It’s unique to YOU!

Looking at Courage This Way:

Following your own heart.Following your own heart. Standing up for yourself.Standing up for yourself. Holding true to your own values.Holding true to your own values. Being resilient.Being resilient. Creating a life you want…helping others Creating a life you want…helping others

create a life they want.create a life they want.

You Are Courageous!

“Big Acts” of Courage”

“Everyday Acts” of Courage

Divorce, moving to a new town, coming to this class, etc.

Speaking up, resolving conflict, taking quiet time for yourself, etc.

"I never cease to be amazed at the power of the "I never cease to be amazed at the power of the coaching process to draw out the skills or coaching process to draw out the skills or talent that was previously hidden within an talent that was previously hidden within an

individual, and which invariably finds a way to individual, and which invariably finds a way to solve a problem previously thought solve a problem previously thought

unsolvable." unsolvable." John Russell, Managing Director, Harley-DavidsonJohn Russell, Managing Director, Harley-Davidson Europe LtdEurope Ltd..

Megan RaphaelMegan RaphaelFor women For women

who want to live well!who want to live well! Crystal-clear direction

Mastery of your psychology for getting what you want

Courage to take action.

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