WINNING LIFE WITH CONFIDENCE

Dr.T.V.Rao MD

A student’s career is dependent on knowledge and confidence, if we observe the students, everyone is different, but who are bold and confident win the race, we all should believe everyone has knowledge few are more confident about themselves, which certainly impresses everyone around. We teach very little about confidence when we are preparing students to success in their careers, do believe we are all human and have flaws. Even if your physical appearance or social skills aren't what you wish they were, that doesn't have to stop you from exuding self-assurance. Just believing in yourself, the best way to survive is, think of your good qualities in looks, friendships, talents, and most of all, personality. Think back on compliments from other people. May be they've remarked on your smile or your ability to stay cool and collected in stressful situations. Be sure to compliment them back, it will certainly boost your future. Think about the qualities you try to cultivate. No one's perfect, but if you're actively trying to be an honourable, good person, give yourself some credit for effort. The fact that you think about bettering yourself at all says that you're humble and good-hearted, and those are positive attributes. Best way to live is to forget about all the time thinking about yourself; Try not to feel like all eyes are on you, all the time. Most people are probably too preoccupied with how they appear to be constantly judging you. Breathe a sigh of relief and recognize that you don't have to be perfect all the time. Remember no one is perfect and flawless. Stop comparing yourself with everyone else. Not everything is a competition, and viewing life that way will wear you out. You don't have to be smartest, prettiest, most popular person in order to be happy. If you have a strong competitive streak that you can't completely ignore, try competing with yourself instead and strive to keep getting better. We all do mistakes, don’t over-apologize. Being able to say you're sorry is a good trait however, being careful to say it only when necessary. Apologizing when you've slighted or inconvenienced someone is polite. Apologizing when you haven't done anything wrong, though, can make you feel subordinate and like you should be sorry. Before it slips out of your mouth, take a second to make sure this is a situation that actually needs an apology from you. Many students compare grades with fellow students, and remember grades and ranks will not make a successful person, Imagine if you think 'I didn't get a good grade: Ok, so it means I will feel confident only when I will get good grades otherwise I will feel miserable and unconfident, is this logical? and isn't that extremely irrational), I thought confident means believing in yourself, when nobody else does. Am I doing it? Smile and make an eye contact. It's a subtle change, but it can work wonders on how other people perceive you. Don't be afraid to meet the gaze of someone else, and keep your grin in easy reach — both of these things can disarm most social situations and make everyone feel more comfortable. Don't get discouraged if you're not immediately awesome. Remember that learning is a process, and you're in it for the small success and the relaxing recreation time, not to be the best ever. If you are living in hostel or in a community as many students live, take up a hobby you can do with a group. Finding friends who are like-minded people who share your interests can be an easy way to make friends and build confidence. Look around your community for groups you can join, or find kinship with fellow hobbyists online, FACEBOOK proved for many to contact people with similar interests as I have done with on Rao’s Microbiology. Remember confidence as a process, not a singular achievement. Having confidence isn't a finish line you cross once, and the process won't always move forward — there will be days

when you feel like you're starting from square one. Take a deep breath, or keep silent remember the self-confidence hurdles you've already cleared, and resolve to keep going. In the toughest of times, it is good to make it your duty to pat yourself on the back even if you didn't do anything. I truly believe in reality you are best friend to yourself and many have reservations about you on so many matters, Try not to worry too much of what people think of you and trust in yourself! You are the only one who truly knows yourself! Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence are a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence. Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence are a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. And you will become a truly confident person to face the challenges in the World. Do not forget behind every successful man there is built in confidence and boldness to face the realities of the difficult world. Never forget we alone can create our Destiny with our parents support, and dedicated commitment to our Job assiagned by the almighty . (Inspired by Students and many confident people’s thoughts)

Dr.T.V.Rao MD Professor of Microbiology – Freelance writer

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