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  • WEDDING VOW ~ considerations

    • Consider adding readings to your ceremony.

    • Do something special to thank your parents (or other special people) for their support.

    • Symbolize the new life you are beginning. Options include Unity candles, blended sand ceremony and mixing water.

    • Memorialize your departed loved ones. There are many ways to do it.

    • Pray for a family member who is ill. This can add weight and impact to your ceremony, and it can raise the Spiritual energy.

    • If one or both of you already have children, consider adding a blended-family section of the ceremony so your children can be reassured that they are gaining love because of your marriage.

    Talk with your officiant. He or she will have suggestions on different ways you can include these ideas in your wedding ceremony.

    Blended Family Ceremony

    If your marriage will create an “instant family” because one or both of you already has children, consider asking your minister to create a Blended Family Wedding Ceremony for you and your children.

    In a Blended Family Ceremony, your children are called up to join you and your spouse just after the

  • ring ceremony. Typically your officiant will then talk with the children about the fact that the two of you are both marrying each other and making a commitment together to love them and help them grow up happy. Typically your officiant will also talk about how they can either help make a happy family and thus have a happy life . . . or they can behave in ways that will make them have an unhappy life.

    If you choose, at this time you and your spouse can give a small piece of jewelry to each child as a symbol of your joint commitment to them. (Ask us about the beautiful Blended Family Medallions you can purchase through us.)

    After your children have received their gift, the pastor will lead you into the final pronouncement of marriage, the First Kiss. The children will remain with you , and you all will be introduced together . . . “now legally a family”.

    Your officiant will help you decide whether this ceremony is appropriate to your situation, and if so, how to make it the most beautiful you can have!


    Prayer for Protection The Light of God surrounds us. The Love of God enfolds us. The Power of God protects us. The Presence of God watches over us. Wherever we are, God is, and all is well and we are grateful.

    Our Father ~ Our Father, Who art in heaven, Hallowed be Thy Name. Thy Kingdom come. Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven. Give us

  • this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.

    The Invitation

    by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

    It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

    It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

    It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain! I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it.

    I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

    It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

    I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day, and if you can source your own life from its presence.

    I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and

  • shout to the silver of the full moon, "Yes!"

    It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

    It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back. It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.

    I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

    A Celtic Prayer May God go with you and bless you, May you see your children`s children, May you be poor in misfortune and rich in blessings, May you know nothing but happiness from this day forward. May joy and peace surround you both, Contentment latch your door, And happiness be with you now And God Bless you Evermore. May you live you life with trust, And nurture lifelong affection, May your lifelong dreams come true for you, Move ever that direction. May the road rise to meet you, May the wind be always at your back, May the sun shine warm upon your face, The rains fall soft upon your fields. May the light of friendship guide your paths together, May the laughter of children grace the halls of your home. May the joy of living for each other trip a smile from your lips, a twinkle from your eye.

  • And when eternity beckons, at the end of the life heaped high with love, May the good Lord embrace you with the arms that have nurtured you the whole length of your joy-filled days. May the gracious God hold you both in the palm of His hands. And, today, may the Spirit of Love find a dwelling place in your hearts.

    Blessing for a Marriage

    By James Dillet Freeman - (1912-2003) served Unity

    School of Christianity for nearly 70 years as a teacher,

    writer and speaker. His poetry appeared regularly in

    Daily Word, Unity's daily devotional magazine. He

    became director of Unity's ministerial training

    program and also was the Director of Silent Unity.

    Called the "Poet Laureate to the Moon" or "a modern

    day Ralph Waldo Emerson," James Dillet Freeman

    was one of the most popular Unity writers of recent

    times. His poetry has been read by hundreds of

    millions of people all over the globe.

    May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding. May you always need one another - not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you succeed in all important ways with one another,

  • and not fail in the little graces. May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!" and take no notice of small faults. If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back. May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another's presence - no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities. May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it loving one another!


    ~ By Author Unknown ~

    True love is a sacred flame That burns eternally, And none can dim its special glow Or change its destiny. True love speaks in tender tones And hears with gentle ear, True love gives with open heart And true love conquers fear. True love makes no harsh demands It neither rules nor binds, And true love holds with gentle hands The hearts that it entwines.

    "Union" by Robert Fulghum

    You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks — all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” — those late night talks that included “someday” and

  • “somehow” and “maybe” — and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed — well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many thi