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Ways to use your time to have successful relationship 7

Who will you blame for where you have found yourself today? Who will you blame for what your life becomes tomorrow? Have you heard people blame those that have hurt

them? Someone is to blame for where I am is the sad tale of irresponsible people;

someone not me. I love the Nigerian adage that says, ‘When you point an accusingfinger in the direction of another person, the other fingers in your hand points to

you.’

I have related with singles that have advanced in years; one thing that is synonymous to

all of them is the state they are in is the product of a heartbreaker. They got hurt; instead

of moving on with their lives, they plateau in the experience and allow it eat them up.

They allow the experience make them bitter and make them into hurting people (it is saidthat, ‘Hurting people hurt others’); the reality is that no one can stand a person who is

 bitter. So prospective partners after relating with them for some time move on; instead of 

seeing their part in what is happening, they get deeper in their hurt. By the time they are

wiling to let go, time had long been spent unwisely.

Time should be spent wisely because once it’s gone, it can’t be retrieved again. I guesssome of the people who will read this write up are people who have watched fiction films

that show time travel; were someone travels in between time, either to the past or the

future. I believe that this is one science man will never be able to accomplish for ever.

The reason is because when time runs, it goes into oblivion never to be able to go back toagain. I know that science has accomplished many feats, but I believe that this is one they

will never be able to achieve. The implication is that you should take care in the use of 

time; you won’t be able to go back to the past, however, what you do today will soon gointo the past. So it’s imperative that every single that will be privilege to read this article,

create the future they want tomorrow not by undoing the past (that won’t be possibleanyway), but by doing what is right in the present.

I will like share with you the concluding write up of this topic- Ways to use your time to

have successful relationship

Spend time to develop relationship with people- Human are created to be relational

 beings; we can only thrive through relationship and without it we really will not go far in

our interaction with anyone we’ll choose as a partner. We are not made to be ‘self made’ people, rather we are meant to be ‘relationship made’ people. I heard a wise saying some

months ago; someone said, ‘A self made man is a fraudster.’

We prepare for our marital future by the way we treat people that we relate with; I tell

singles, show me your partner and I will tell you what your relationship will be like when

you take the relationship to the phase of marriage. When I hear singles say, ‘when I meetthe love of my life I will change’; I laugh inside because you will ultimately treat your 

 partner the way you treat people around you. I call it the law of repetition- you’ll always

repeat the way you treat people in the way you relate with your partner in the long

run.

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If people that you relate with complain about certain traits you have; don’t give excuse

that that is who you are- change. Don’t wait until a lover boy comes before you startworking on yourself; if you start it then, it’ll be superficial.

Sola works with one of the multinational companies; she relates with few people and her colleagues try as much as possible to avoid her because they dislike the arrogant way she

carries herself. When she got into relationship with one of the staff, the workers called

her fiancé to find out from him what is wrong with him. To make it worse, when her fiancé told one of his friends (he is also a colleague) that he was getting married, the guy

 began praising him for the decision to getting married to another lady aside that proud

and pompous Sola.

They are married, however, Sola’s husband is already getting frustrated because she had

 begun the same attitude she treated people with in the way she now relates with him.

Spend time to understudy your parents and other people’s relationship- You haveheard the statement, ‘Experience is the best teacher.’ I believe to an extent this is true;

however, in many issues of life it’s better to learn from other peoples’ experience. It’sonly a fool that will fall in the ditch that he sees others falling into without avoiding it; I

strongly believe that we don’t have to have personal experiences in all issues of life to

learn.

Whenever I relate with singles, I ask them of their parents; interestingly, I observe that

those that holds either of their parents’ in contempt make similar mistake that parent

made. If you ever want to have a successful relationship, understudy your parents;observe what they do that makes either party happy or sad. One of the things that you will

observe is that despite the fact that you parents had been married for years, yet they

seems not to change. It shows that, never get married to a guy/lady with the

assumption that he/she will someday become a better person. You’ll become

frustrated like your mum/dad if you make that mistake; marriage really doesn’t change

 people.

Dennis dad is a male is chauvinist; he screams at his wife and is always ordering her 

around. He was the LORD of his house and his words are law; his wife is a loving and

submissive wife who respects and follows ever letter of her husband command thoughshe often don’t like the way he speaks to her. Dennis was also schooled by his dad on

how to treat women; his dad had taught him not to act like a dummy to any lady that he’ll

date and eventually get married to in life. His dad taught him that one of the traits heshould look for in a wife is someone he can handle.

When he met Doyin in the university, he liked her because she had the looks of a homemade lady who is submissive to authority. He asked her out and she gave her consent to

the relationship; two years in the relationship, Doyin informed him that she was quitting

and moving on with her life. Her reason was simple, she was tired of been treated like a

 piece of trash; she was tired of been bossed around and screamed at. He begged and

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 promised to change for the better; she however, didn’t bulge because he had said that to

her more than 3 times in the relationship when she wanted to quit earlier.

I take the time to read divorce write ups in newspapers so that I can learn from other 

 peoples mistakes in order to avoid the divorce trap they had found themselves.

Olufemi Fasanya

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www.relationship-singles.blogspot.com