The work toward becoming whole engages the three insights of

1) WHERE DID I COME FROM?... why do I feel what I am feeling?,

2) WHAT AM I BECOMING?... looking toward the future with the tools and

strategies essential for a loving relationship with oneself and others, and

3) WHAT IS?--knowing what I am feeling and who I am in the present,

free of the fantasies of past and future.

WHOLENESS is active participation in the PRESENT, while walking the PATH of LOVE.

This presentation touches upon the traditions of

Sufism, Buddhism, and Depth Psychology

and inspires us to engage in the delightful work of watchfulness and wakefulness lifting the

Veils of Illusion and freeing the heart to truly LOVE.

My heart, aflame in love, set afire every heart that came in touch with it.

~ Hazrat Inayat Khan

Whether your destiny is glory or disgrace, Purify yourself of hatred and love of self.Polish your mirror; and that sublime Beauty from the regions of mysteryWill shine as a flame from your heart as it did for the saints and prophets.

Then, with your heart on fire with that Splendor, the Secret of the Beloved will no longer be hidden.

~ 'Abd al-Rahman al-Jami

Hansel and Gretel are alive and well And they're living in Berlin She is a cocktail waitress He had a part in a Fassbinder film And they sit around at night now drinking schnapps and gin And she says: Hansel, you're really bringing me down And he says: Gretel, you can really be a bitch

She said: What is history?

He says: I've wasted my life on our stupid legend When my one and only love was the wicked witch.

And he said: History is an angel And he said: History is an angel Being blown backwards into the future Being blown backwards into the future

He said: History is a pile of debris He said: History is a pile of debris And the angel wants to And the angel wants to Go back and fix things Go back and fix things

To repair the things that have been brokenTo repair the things that have been brokenBut there is a storm blowing from Paradise But there is a storm blowing from Paradise

And the storm keeps blowing the angel backwards into the future And the storm keeps blowing the angel backwards into the future And this storm, this storm is called Progress And this storm, this storm is called Progress

Laurie Anderson The Dream Before (for Walter Benjamin)Laurie Anderson The Dream Before (for Walter Benjamin)

I remember where I came fromI remember where I came fromThere were tropical breezes and a wide open seaThere were tropical breezes and a wide open seaI remember my childhoodI remember my childhoodI remember being free. ~ Laurie Anderson - Freefall I remember being free. ~ Laurie Anderson - Freefall

You're out on the ocean and you get pulled downYou're out on the ocean and you get pulled downFreefall to the bottomFreefall to the bottomLike when you're drowning or falling asleepLike when you're drowning or falling asleepYou get turned aroundYou get turned aroundAnd when you think you're swimming to the surfaceAnd when you think you're swimming to the surfaceYou're swimming straight down.You're swimming straight down.Down to the bottom. All the way to the bottom.Down to the bottom. All the way to the bottom.

We're going down to the bottom. We're going down to the bottom. All the way to the bottom. All the way to the bottom. We get turned around.We get turned around.There is another world inside of this one.There is another world inside of this one.Rapture of the deep.Rapture of the deep.

Secret codes and cryptogramsSecret codes and cryptogramsI'm lost in your words I'm swimming.I'm lost in your words I'm swimming.We're going down to the bottom. All the way to the bottom.We're going down to the bottom. All the way to the bottom.Rapture of the deep.Rapture of the deep.

I got your letter. I couldn't read it. It was a cryptogram.I got your letter. I couldn't read it. It was a cryptogram.Did it say Take me with you or Take me as I am?Did it say Take me with you or Take me as I am?We're going down to the bottom. We're going down to the bottom. All the way to the bottom. We get turned around.All the way to the bottom. We get turned around.There is another world spinning inside of this one.There is another world spinning inside of this one.

We're going down to the bottom.We're going down to the bottom.

There is another world spinning There is another world spinning Inside of this one.Inside of this one.

"The dream was always running ahead of me.

To catch up, to live for a moment in unison with it, that was the miracle." ~ Anais Nin

If you do, everything will become dark before you.

When your object is, or seems to be, In a mist, do not cover yourself with clouds

Because your object seems far off.

If you keep your light clear, Then the ray shooting from your own soul

Will in time clear the mist.

But if you yourself are in confusionWhether to have this object or that object or no object,

Then there is no hope for you.

You must ever bear in mindThat the light and life that go out from you to the object

Are quite as important as that light Which comes to you from the object.

~ Hazrat Inayat Khan

““Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.” Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.” ~ Hans Margolius~ Hans Margolius

We don't see things as they are. We see things as we are.

~Anais Nin

I look into the mirrorI look into the mirrorSee myself, I'm over meSee myself, I'm over meI need space for my desiresI need space for my desiresHave to dive into my fantasiesHave to dive into my fantasiesI know as soon as I'll arriveI know as soon as I'll arriveEverything is possibleEverything is possibleCause no one has to hideCause no one has to hideBeyond the invisibleBeyond the invisible

It is timeIt is timeTo break the chains of lifeTo break the chains of lifeIf you follow you will seeIf you follow you will seeWhat's beyond realityWhat's beyond reality

Close your eyesClose your eyesJust feel and realizeJust feel and realizeIt is real and not a dreamIt is real and not a dreamI'm in you and you're in meI'm in you and you're in me

~ Beyond The Invisible -- Michael Cretu/David Fairstein~ Beyond The Invisible -- Michael Cretu/David Fairstein

God is Love, Lover, and Beloved.

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream ofthe future, concentrate the mind

on the present moment.”

Buddha

Compassion is the active principal.

How do I engage the present? What is it I do that affords me the

opportunity to be in the Now?

Much of our clinical work is geared toward accessing the present

in lieu of living in the illusions of the past or the future.

Hindus speak of Maya the delusion,

Taoists speak of the 10,000 things.

CBT, DBT, and EMDR are all techniques

that push aside the tendency of the psyche to engage in the defenses of lies,

to live in a world strengthened by clarity of mindfulness, and to no longer be hampered by the

negative associations tied to the traumatic incidents of the past.

We begin in the name of Allah, the most merciful, the most compassionate.

Bismilla

Wazifa—the 99 names of God.

The Sheik assigns any number of the 99 qualities of God to the adept asSpiritual practice affording a means of balancing the

personality and moving Toward the One.

The teacher, through knowing the adept, is able to give that practice which willThe teacher, through knowing the adept, is able to give that practice which will

afford balance and allow the path forward to be less filled with strife. afford balance and allow the path forward to be less filled with strife.

In a similar manner the Clinician can work through insight and affirmation with the qualities needed by the Client

gifting them tools to move more freely into the future.

If Fear is the challenge, then Courage is to be cultivated.If holding or control is impairing the Client, then acceptance is to be cultivated.

Within the use of any therapeutic technique Compassion for others and ultimatelyfor ourselves is the means by which we and our clients can engage in the Work.

This truism is from the perspective of the Client and the Clinician alike.

Empathy is defined by Kohut (as cited in MacIsaac and Rowe 1989) as, "the capacity to think and feel oneself into the inner life of another person" (p. 15)

"... In my early professional years Iwas asking the question: How can Itreat, or cure, or change this person?Now I would phrase the question in

this way: How can I provide arelationship which this person mayuse for his own personal growth?"

~ Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person

The natural tendency to become Whole is facilitated by the compassionate witnessing and the gentle guidance of theClinician for the Client.

In this envelope of Love the Client is encouraged to loosen the chains that bind and begin to enjoy their creativebirthright and freedom.