the indian wedding explained
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Traditions of Indian Wedding procedures are explained in a simplistic manner.TRANSCRIPT
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TheWeddingExplained
TableofContents[hide]
1TheEssentialsofaHinduMarriage2SrijasandGaneshsWedding3PreWeddingRituals(weekstomonthsbeforethewedding)
3.1TheEngagement3.2Muhurtham:SettingaDateandTimefortheWedding
4PreWeddingRituals(daysbeforethewedding)4.1Pellikoothuru(DeclarationasaBride)4.2Mehindi(DecoratingtheBride)4.3Pellikoduku(DeclarationasaGroom)4.4Aarti
5TheDayBeforetheWedding5.1Snaathakam(Convocationorprologuetomarriage)5.2KashiYatra5.3EduruSannaham:Receivingthegroomwithhisfamilyandfriends5.4Nalugulu
6TheDayoftheWedding6.1PreliminaryEvents
6.1.1MangalaSnaanam6.1.2InitiationoftheEvent6.1.3GauriPooja6.1.4Ankurararpanam6.1.5GaneshPoojaonthestagebytheGroom6.1.6Sankalpam6.1.7RecitationofthePravara(AnnouncementofLineage)6.1.8YajnopavitaDharana(TheWearingoftheadditionalstrandsofsacredthread)6.1.9Mahasankalpam:ThegreatSankalpam6.1.10Mangalashtakam:Eightversesseekingwellbeing,prosperityandgoodfortune
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6.2GivingtheBrideAway6.2.1TheArrivaloftheBride6.2.2Terasalla:Thecurtainthatseparatesbrideandgroomuntilthemuhurtham6.2.3Kanyadaan
6.3MainEvents6.3.1Muhurtham:Themostimportantpartofthewedding6.3.2SumuhurtaAkshata6.3.3KanyasudhiorVadhuparisuddhi6.3.4ArrivaloftheBrideandGroomintheNewAttirefortheCompletionoftheWedding6.3.5JyotuluSumangali6.3.6PrayertotheMangalaSutra6.3.7MangalasutraDharana(TyingoftheMangalsutrawiththreeknots)6.3.8MangalaSutraAkshata6.3.9Yoktrabandhana6.3.10Talambaraalu6.3.11BrahmaMudiandRakshabandhana
6.4RitualsBeforeaSacredFire6.4.1PradhanaHomam6.4.2PaniGrihanam6.4.3PradhanaHomam:TheCircumambulationaroundtheHolyFire6.4.4Saptapadi6.4.5LajaHomam6.4.6AsmarohanaorSilarohana6.4.7PravesaHomam,ArundhatiandDhruvaDarshan6.4.8Sthaalipaakam6.4.9SadasyamandPhalpradhanam6.4.10Seshahomam6.4.11DampatiTamboolalu6.4.12Nakabali6.4.13Sachipooja6.4.14Appagintalu
7PostWeddingRituals7.1Vididigrihapravesam7.2Grihapravesh7.3SatyanarayanaPoojaandVenkateswaraDeeparadhana7.4UnitingtheMangalasutra
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TheEssentialsofaHinduMarriage
ThedetailedexplanationbelowwascarefullyandpainstakinglywrittenbyGaneshsfather,Dr.NarasimhamDasikaaftercollectinganddigestinginformationfromseveralbooksandfromhisownexpansiveknowledgeofancientritesandrituals.Wethankhimimmenselyforputtinginthetimeandefforttodothis.Itisatremendousresourceforusasanewbrideandgroomtohelpusbetterunderstandthemeaningoftheweddingceremonyandthepromiseswemakeforahappymarriagetogether.Itisalsobeneficialforyou,ourguests,tohelpyoufollowalongduringtheceremony.
AnidealHinduliferevolvesaroundfourstagescalledrams,thefirstofwhichisastageofeducationasabachelor(brahmacharyarams),thesecondisthatofahouseholder(gruhastaram),thethirdisthatofanelderlyrecluse(vnaprastharam),andfinallyarenouncerofworldlybelongings(sanysaram).ThefirststageofBrahmacharyaconcludeswiththewedding.InancientIndianculture,vivaha,ormarriage,isconsideredasasocialarrangementfortheinitiationofalifelongcompanionshipandlawfulunionbetweenamanandawomanforthepurposeofleadingalifeofDharma(fulfillmentofdutiestowardstheirancestors,descendantsandthesocietyinwhichtheylive),Artha(creationandmanagementofwealth),Kama(physicalunionforprogeny),andfinallytoachieveMoksha(liberationofsoulforeternalhappiness)withgooddeeds.
Ontheotherhand,theweddingisaneventfilledwithdeeplymeaningfulandsymboliccombinationofrituals,prayersandtraditionsattheconclusionofwhichthecoupleareexpectedtoleadalifeofperfectmonogamouscompanionshipwithmutualrespect,dependenceandlove.LovebeginswiththemarriageaccordingtoHindutradition.TheritualsofaHinduwedding,oftenreferredtoasaVedicwedding,arederivedfromancientscripturescalledVedas,writteninSanskrit.TheVedasarescripturesfromIndoAryanculture,thetextsofwhichweretransmittedorallyfromgenerationtogenerationwithspecificintonationandrhythm.Theyarebelievedtobeatleast4,000yearsold.TheritualsandVedicincantationsprovidesomeofthefoundationsofaHindumarriagetoprovideabindingspiritualandreligioussacramentwithprogressivelovebetweenamanandwoman.
Duringthewedding,severalritualsaretobecompletedinanorderlyfashion.Theweddingis
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finallydeemedcompleteonlyinthepresenceofAgni,thefirediety,whenthebrideandgroomtogethermakesevencirclesaroundasacredfireandtakesevenstepswhilerecitingvowstoeachotherwiththefireastheprimarywitness.Duringtheprocess,theythanktheSunforitslightandenergy,theEarthforthefood,Varun(theraindeity)forwater,Agni,andVayu(thewinddiety)forair.Theprayersandritualsaretojointhesoulsofbrideandgroomandtocreateastrongtiebetweenthetwofamilies.
SrijasandGaneshsWedding
Ourweddingwillbeconductedovertwodays.ThemanyritesandritualswhichareapartofourweddingincorporatevowsinSanskritwithgreatsignificanceinthepresenceoffire,concealedprayerstofiveelements,thesymbolicreplayofcelestialeventsandextensiveprayerstoseektheblessingsoftheplanets,celestialholymenandultimatelytheGod.WehavemadeanattempttodescribetheeventsofaVedicHinduweddinginEnglishwithtranslationofkeypartsofthevowsbybrideandgroom.WewouldliketosharethesignificanceoftheseelaborateHinduweddingritualsandtheconcealedmeaningwithallofyou.
PreWeddingRituals(weekstomonthsbeforethewedding)
TheEngagement
Wehadourengagementonthe21 ofDecember,2012.Onthatday,theformalceremonyinfrontofwitnesses,mostlyclosefriendsandrelativesofbothparties,beganwithprayerstoLordGaneshtoremovealltheobstacles.Followingtheinvocationofhislineage,thefatherofthebridemadeaformalproposalforthemarriagealliance.Thefatherofthegroomwhileacceptingtheproposalgaveahappyandaffirmativeresponsetodeclarehiscommitmentfortheunionofthefamiliesthroughtheinstitutionofmarriagebetweenthegroomandthebride.Thiswasfollowedbymoreprayers,giftstobrideandgroomandexchangeofclothesandgiftsbetweenfamilies.Attheconclusionofthefunctionbothparentsagreetoconsultlearned
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priestswithknowledgeofastrologytosetadateforthewedding.
Muhurtham:SettingaDateandTimefortheWedding
SettingadateforaVedicweddingisanextremelycomplexprocessofcalculationofplanetarypositionstomatchtwovariables.Thevariablesaretheplanetarypositionsattheexacttimeofbirthofbrideandgroom.TheconstellationofplanetsandtheirrelationshipsshouldmatchinaharmoniouswaywhenthegroomtouchesthebrideandlooksintohereyeswhiletheVedicversesarebeingrecitedbythepriests.Thisspecifictimehastobeinonlycertainlunarmonthsconsideredauspiciousforawedding.Ifitisintheday,ithastobebeforethenoonwhilethesonisascending.Thetimehastobecorrectedbyafewminutesbasedonthecalculatedtimeofsunriseandsunsetattheplaceofwedding,onthatday.OurfamilyastrologerinIndia,followingseveralhoursofcalculationdecidedthat2 June2013,at8:10AM,isthemostappropriatetimefortheWedding.ThistimeiscalledMuhurtaminsanskrit.
PreWeddingRituals(daysbeforethewedding)
Acanopyiserectedatthehouseofbride3to4daysbeforewedding.
Pellikoothuru(DeclarationasaBride)
Thisceremonyinvolvesanointingthebridewithoilandturmericbywomenfolk.Thewomenfolkpoundturmericrootsatthattime.
Laterthebridedonsnewclothesfollowingabath.Thebridetobewearsflowersinherhair.Sheadornsherforeheadwithabindiorvermilliondotandwearsbanglesonherwrists.Alltheelderlywomenandtheirhusbandsthathadalonghappymarriedlifeareinvitedtoblessthebridetohaveasimilarhappymarriedlife.Thisfunctionstakesplaceatbridesresidence.
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Mehindi(DecoratingtheBride)
Followingthebridalbath,apasteorpowderfromtheleavesofHennaplantisusedtocreateelaborativedecorativepatternsonthehandsandfeetofthebrideonthisday.Followinganhourormoreofcontactofhennawithskin,adelicateshadeofreddishbrowncolorisimpartedontheappliedareas.Thisformsastrikingcontrastontheskinthathasalreadyacquiredagoldenhuewiththeearlierapplicationofturmericbeforeherbath.Thefriendsandrelativesofthebridemayalsoparticipateintheevent.
Pellikoduku(DeclarationasaGroom)
Thisfunctionisheldinaseparatevenueatthegroomsplaceofresidenceorhotel,andissimilarinallaspectstothemakingofabride.FollowingtheceremonialbaththegroomwearsaDhoti(Indiandress)andisadornedwithTilakam,thereddotontheforehead.Womensingfolksongsandblessthegroom.
Aarti
Afterthedeclarationevents,theirfamiliesperformAartiaceremonythatinvolvesplacingalitoillampordiyaonaplateandcirclingtheplatearoundapersoninaclockwisedirection.
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Theclockwisemovementisfollowedtoimitatetheearthsmovementaroundthesun.Theceremonyissignificantasitcarrieswithitthefamilysprayerthatthemindofthebrideandgroombeilluminatedbywisdom.
TheDayBeforetheWedding
Snaathakam(Convocationorprologuetomarriage)
Thisritualisperformedatthebridegroomsplaceofresidenceorinourcasethehotel.ThegroomhascompletedhisformalandreligiouseducationandtheritesconstitutehimaDwija(bornagain)intheVedicculture.Toeliminateunknownerrorsinfollowingthevowofbrahmacharya,thegroomandhisparentswouldrepeatalltheVedicritualsdonethusfarinanabbreviatedfashion.SothisfunctionisuniquetoBrahminsandinvolvesbriefrepetitionofallthesacramentsduringGroomslifeuntilnow.ThegroomisnowreadytobecomeaSanyasi(Monkorascetic)byrelinquishingthematerialisticworld,unlesshedecidestomarryandbecomeahouseholder(gruhastaram).Thegroomshedshisfancyattire,wearsasimplecloth,woodensandals,holdsawoodenstickandcarriesonlyanumbrellatoprotecthimfromthewrathofsun.Thereisnodresscodeforgueststoattendthiseventandtypicallyclosefamilyandfriendsattendthisfunction.
KashiYatra
AftertherecitationofVedicversesthegroomstartshistraveltowardsKashi(ThecityofVaranasiinIndia,whichisthespiritualcapitalofIndia)toachievefurtherknowledgeofbrahman(infinitereality)andtheeventiscalledKashiYatra.HisintentionistodevotehimselftoGodandalifeofprayer.Thebrotherofthebride,whoisinsearchofaneligibleGroomforhisunmarriedsister,approacheshimanddecidestoenticehimtomarryhissister.ThebrotherofthebridepersuadesthegroomthatthereislifebeyondeducationandenteringGrihastasramam(householder)bymarryinghissisterisabetterwayoffulfillinghissacredduties.Thebrotheroffersnewclothsandgifts.Asexpected,hesucceedsinconvincingthegroomtomarryhissisterandsymbolicallyweanshimawayfromthepursuitofbecomingaMonk.Thisconcludesthemorningprogramof1 ofJune.ThiswillbefollowedbyLunch.st
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EduruSannaham:Receivingthegroomwithhisfamilyandfriends
Thehosts,bridesmotherandfatherandmarriedwomenofbridesfamilywaitattheMandap(Venue)withflowers,Garlandsandotheritemsfortheritual.TheBridegroomarrivesattheweddinghallalongwithhisfamilyandfriendsinaprocession.Theyarethenreceivedbythebridesfamilyandfriends.LiveIndianDrumsandwindinstrumentalmusicbeginstoplay.ThebridesmotherperformsDishti(towardoffevileye)withPaarani(platecontainingredcoloredwater)andthrowsawaythewateralongwiththeevilitcaptures.ThensheperformsAarati(ritualwithanoillamp)bywavingthelight3times,clockwiseinfrontofthegroomandstepsasidetoallowthefatherofthebridetosaywelcomewords.Theotherwomeninthebridesfamilyhelpthehostsininvitingtheguestsandsprinkletheguestswithflowers,perfumedwaterandsometimeswithfancygarlands.Allofthemtogetherwalktowardstheprearrangedstage.SincethissegmentoftheweddingisnotaccordingtoancientVedictradition,guestsandhostswearsuitsorothertypesofnontraditionalattire.
Acoolsugarydrinkandlightsnacksareservedtothegueststomakethemhappyandcomfortable.Familyandfriendsofbothpartiesintroduceeachotherinaveryinformalwayandmakenewfriendsandacquaintance.Afewminuteslaterthegueststaketheirseatsinthevenue,thebrideandthegroomareseatedonthestage,withselectedfamilymembersontherespectivesides.
Theprieststartsthefunctionwithabriefworshipservicebyrecitingafewversesofprayers.Onbehalfofthetwofamiliesabouttobeunitedthroughthesolemnceremonyofthewedding,oneoftheelderswelcomesalltheguestsandrequeststhemtobeseated.Thepriestofthehost,withtheentireassemblyaswitness,announcesthelineageofthebrideandspeaksafewwordsabouttheirfamily.Thepriestofthegroomthenannouncesthelineageofthegroomandspeaksafewwordsabouthisfamilybackground.Hethendeclarestheintentionsofthebridesfathertoseekalliancewaswholeheartedlyacceptedbythegroomsfather.Hefurtherdeclaresthattheeldersofbothfamiliesapprovedthismostappropriateallianceandthemarriagedateandtimehasbeensetandreadsouttheweddinginvitationcardfortheassembly.
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Theparentsofbrideandthegroomtreateachotherandtheimmediatefamilymemberswithgifts.Themotherofthegroomthenpresentsgiftssuchasgoldanddiamondornamentsandnewclothes.Thebridemayberequestedtowearthenewclothesandtheornaments.Uponherreturn,thebrideandthegroomareseatednexttoeachother.Thisceremonyconcludeswithblessingsbythepriestsandtheeldersoftheassembly.
Nalugulu
ThisisafuneventandisexclusivelyuniquetoTeluguspeakingfamiliesofthestateofAndhraPradesh.Themainpurposeofthisiseventistobreaktheicebetweenthemembersofthetwofamilies.Duringthiseventthemotherofthebridetriestomakefunoffuturemotherinlawofherdaughterandthemotherofthegroomreciprocatesthegesturewithsimilartongueincheekcomments.Eachpartysingscolloquialsongsintheirnativelanguagetobelittletheotherparty.Thispartyistraditionallyheldonthedayafterthewedding,butcanbeperformedanytimesinceitisnotaVedicevent.Laterbothpartiesjoininaninformaldinner.
TheDayoftheWedding
PreliminaryEvents
MangalaSnaanam
ThebrideandgroomstartthedaywithaMangalaSnaanamoranauspiciousbathearlyonthedayofthewedding.Thebathisfollowedbymeditationtocleanseandpurifytheirthoughtprocessandmakethemreadyforthesacredritestobefollowed.Theyarriveattheweddinghallby6AM.
InitiationoftheEvent
Theparentsofthebridearethehostsofthisentireeventwhichisperformedinaseparate
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room,notinthemainMandap(weddingstage).TheystartthedayveryearlyinthemorningbyGanapatiPooja.ThisisfollowedbyPunyahavachanam,aritualtopurifythevenueandallthematerialusedfortheeventandseekblessingsfromthepriestsandelders.Thebridelaterjoinsthemandsitsbytheside.
GauriPooja
ThebrideworshipstheGoddessGauribyperformingGauriPoojawhilethegroomisperformingganeshpoojaonthemainMandap.Duringtheperformanceofthispoojaorworship,thebridetypicallysitsinahandwovenbasketlinedwithasprinkleofunprocessedricegrainswhileperformingthisritual.Giventhecommunitysagrarianheritage,ricegrains(dhnyam)areasymbolofagoodharvest,andthus,prosperity.TheGoddessGauriisreveredasamanifestationofShakti(themostpowerfulmotheroftheuniverse)thepowerandenergybywhichtheworldiscreated,preservedanddestroyed.Shesymbolizesmotherhood,fertilityandthevictoryofgoodoverevil.HindusconsiderGauriandherconsortLordShivaastheidealcoupleintheVedicculture.Theyareoftenworshippedasasingleentity,denotingtheperfectemotional,mentalandphysicalunionbetweenthem.ByinvokingtheGoddessblessings,thebrideseekssimilarstrengthanddivineloveinherownlifeforalongandhappymarriedlifewithherhusband.
Ankurararpanam
Shethensprinklesninekindsofgrains(navadhnylu)inrituallydecoratedearthenpotsfilledwithsoilfromananthill.Theantsbringoutextremelyfineclayfromtheearthoftenfromdepthsofahundredfeettobuildtheirdwelling.Thesoilfromananthillwherenoonestepstheirfootisspecificallycollectedforthispurposesinceitrepresentsasamplefromaverywideareawithnohumanoranimalwaste.Thesepotswiththegrainsinsidethemarepreservedinthebrideshouseforgermination.Thisissymbolicofthegerminationprocessofhumanlifeorprogenyforwhichamarriageisconducted.
Allthehonorableguestsarriveandtaketheirseatsatweddinghallvenueby7AMfortheevent.
GaneshPoojaonthestagebytheGroom
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Thebridegroomarrivesby6:30andenterstheMandap,andbowstoalltheguestswithrespect.HethenperformsGaneshPoojainthemandapamorweddinghalljustbeforethemarriageceremony.WorshippingGanesha,theelephantheadedGodisanimportantpartofmostHinduritualsasheisreveredastheremoverofallobstacles.HethenperformsPunyahavachanamandprepareshimselftoacceptthebride.Thefatherofthebridearrives.ThepriestsannouncethelineageofBrideandgroomfrom4generations
Sankalpam
AnyeventofreligioussignificanceinVedicculturestartswiththisevent.Thisisprocessbywhichthepersonthatperformsaritualorpoojahastoannouncetheminutestspecificsoflocation,time,hisidentityandthereasonforperformingtheevent.Theextremelycomplexspecificsincludethecontinent,itsshape,thecountry,geographicrelationrelativetoIndia,nearestOcean,riverorgreatlakes,specificmillennium,specificnamedyear,directionofjourneyofsun,nameofthelunarmonth,dayofthelunarcycleTithi(timetakenbymoontomove12degreesfromsun,15inacycle),dayoftheweek,nameofthestarclosertothemoon,nameoftheperformer,hisancestry,andallthereasonsforperformingthatevent,allinSanskrit.
ThepriestssaythefollowingwordsinSanskrit:
MayyouthegreatassembledgrantthepresenttimetobemostAuspicious.
Mayyouthegreatassembleddeclarethatthisweddingtasktobeauspicious.
MayyouexpressyourBlessings
RecitationofthePravara(AnnouncementofLineage)
SinceancientVedictimes,thepeopleofIndiaareclassifiedintotribes,witheachtribecarryingaspecificnamecalledGotra.ItisnotpermittedtoconductaweddingbetweenamanandwomenofsameGotra,sinceAryantimes,topreventconsanguineousweddings.ThePravarathatincludesthegotra,thegreatsagesofthattribeandthelineageofthepreceding
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4generationsofancestorsisannouncedloudlyforeveryonepresenttowitnesstheweddingtohear.Thisisrepeated3timessuchthateveryonepresentagreesthatthelineageisdistinctlydifferent.EveniftheGotrasaredifferent,marriagesarenotapprovedifmorethanonesageiscommon.
Theancestryofthebrideandgroom,includingtheirspirituallineagefromtheearliestsages,andfourgenerationsofforefathersisnarratedbythepriests.TheparentsofthebridearrivefromtheireventtotheMandapamandexpresshappinessthatthegroomissuitableandstarttheKanyadan(aritualtogiveawaythebride).InpreparationfortheKanyadan,thefatherofthebrideoffersadditionalstrandsofsacredthread,somewithceremonialstrandsofsilverandgoldtothegroom.
YajnopavitaDharana(TheWearingoftheadditionalstrandsofsacredthread)
Twomoresetsofsacredthreadsknottedwith3strandseachareaddedtothepreexistingsinglesetwith3strandsofYajopavtam,thegroomhasacrosshischestsincehebeganhispursuitofformaleducationasBrahmachari.The3strandssymbolizehisindebtednesstoTeacher,ParentsandGodincludingthefiveelements.Havingdeclaredhisintenttoletgoofhisbrahmacharyastageduringearlieratsntakam,thegroomnowproceedstotakeonyagnpavtamwiththreethreads.Thefatherofthebridealsooffersadditionalthreadsofgoldandsilver.
Mahasankalpam:ThegreatSankalpam
ThisisthesameasSankalpamdescribedabove,butrecitedinamuchmoreelaboratedwaybeforethemainKanyadanfunction.Thisincludescomprehensivedescriptionoforiginofthebrideandgroomincludingtheoriginsoftheirculture,geographyoftheirland,ancientrulers,holyplaces,andthereasonforgivingawaythebride.Sincetheparentsofthebridearegivingawaytheirbeloveddaughterforthebenefitofprogenyandgrowthofanewfamily,itisconsideredasthegreatestofalldutiesandsacrificesandcallsforaMahasankalpam.Itisabeliefthatthe7generationsofancestorsand7generationsofdescendantsofbridesfatherareblessedbythisgreatevent.
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Mangalashtakam:Eightversesseekingwellbeing,prosperityandgoodfortune
Theseare8verseseachofwhichisaddressedtoTrinity,rulersofeightdirections,5elements,greatsages,virtuouswomenenumeratedinepics,9planets,riversandgreattreesincludingallvegetationtolookafterthebrideandgroomwithextremekindness.
GivingtheBrideAway
TheArrivaloftheBride
ThebridearrivesattheMandapambybeingcarriedinabasketbyhermaternaluncles.ShecontinuestositinthesamehandwovenbasketinwhichsheperformedtheGauriPuja.AftersheisplacedontheMandapam,thebrideandgroomfaceeachotherbutareseparatedbyacurtain.
Terasalla:Thecurtainthatseparatesbrideandgroomuntilthemuhurtham
ThecurtainseparatesthemuntilbrideandbridegroomareallowedtolookintoeachotherseyesandtoucheachotheratthetimeofMuhurtam,themostauspicioustimesetbyastrologers.Theyarenottoseeeachotheruntilafterthemuhurtham.
Kanyadaan
TheKanayadaanisthatpartofthemarriageceremonyinwhichthegirlsfamilygivesherawaytothegroom.Hermaternalunclecarriesthebridetobeinabamboobaskettothemandapam,andplacesherinfrontofthegroomseparatedbyacurtainfromgroom.AtthistimethegroomisconsideredtobeapersonificationofLordVishnu.Thepriestinvokestheblessingsoftheancestorsbelongingtothelastsevengenerationsofbothfamilies.ThebridesparentswashthegroomsfeetinagesturethatsymbolizestheirbeliefthatLordVishnu,theprotectoroftheuniversecameintheformofgroom,towhomtheynowoffertheir
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daughtershand.Thepriestinvokestheblessingsoftheancestorsbelongingtothelastsevengenerationsofbothfamilies.ThebridesparentswashthegroomsfeetinagesturethatsymbolizestheirbeliefthatheisaformofGodtowhomtheynowoffertheirdaughtershand.TheytreathimwithMadhuparkam,verysweetconcoctionofmilk.Thevedicrecitationoftheeventisasfollows:
KanyamKanakaSampannamkanakabharanairyutham,DashtamiVishnaveThubhyamBrahmalokaJigeeshiya.
VishwambharaSarvabhuta,SakshinyaSarvadevatha,
Kanyamimampradasyami,PithrunamDharanayavai.
KanyamSarvalankrithamSadhvimSuseelayaSudheemathe
PrayathohamprayaghchamiDharmakamardhaSiddhaye
ThebridesfathersaysthatIamgivingthisbeautiful,virtuous,healthyyounglady,borntomeandraisedbyus,foremostamongallyoungwomen,dressedinfinestsilks,wearinggoldornaments,forcontinuationofyourlineage,tobedevotedtoyourwelfareandtomakeyoufitforperformingallthemoralandprescribedreligiousdutiesduringyourmarriedlife.Imayobtainsalvationbythisnobledeed.
ThefatherofthebridefurtherdeclaresthatWithallthebeingsinthisworld,withtheelementsandallthecelestialsasmywitness,Iamgivingthisgirltoyouforthegoodofyourancestorsanddescendantsandforliberationofmyancestors.
ThepriestsonbehalfofBridesfatherreciteMaymydaughtergainprotection,Mayholinessprosper,MaytherebeJoy,Mayshebeawhole,Mayshelivelong,flourish,beatpeace,wellnourished,andcontent.
Mayprosperityprevail,Mayanyillnessbestruckdown,Mayyougrantthis
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daytobehappyone,Mayyoublessherwellbeing,mayyougrantherabundance,Mayyougrantherrespectandstatus.
Asaconditionforthisofferinghisdaughterformarriage,thefatherofthebriderequestsapromisefromthegroomforassistingthebrideinrealizingthethreeends:dharma,artha,andkamaandrequesthimtonevertotransgressherrights.Withthesewords,thefatherofthebridepourswateronthehandsofthegroomthroughthehandsofbride.
ReciprocationByGroom:Iaccept
Dharmecha,arthecha,kamechanathicharithavyethi.Datavadeth.NathiCharatavya,NathiCharamiIshallnottransgress
Thegroommakesthepromisebyrepeatingthreetimesthathewillnotfailthebrideinrealizingdharma,arthaandkama,andpromisesnevertotransgressherrights.
ThebridesitsfacingtheeastintheMandapwhilethegroomissittinginfrontfacingher,butseparatedbyacurtaintheterasalla.
MainEvents
Muhurtham:Themostimportantpartofthewedding
Thisisexactlyperformedat8:10AM.Afterthepriestrecitestheweddingslokas(verses)fromtheVedas,thebrideandgroomapplyasmallcakemadefromapasteofcuminseeds(jeera)andrawsugar(jaggery)oneachothersheads,acrossthecurtain.Thesignificanceisslightlybittercuminandsweetjaggerywhengroundtogetherturnintoaninseparablemixture,denotingthatthebrideandgroomaresupposedtobecomeinseparablethroughlifesbitterandsweettimes.Thecakeiskeptexactlyatanteriorfontanel,anesotericaperturethatisbelievedtotransmitvisualandspiritualenergybetweenthemtobecomeaninseparablecouple.
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TheTerasallaisthenremoved.Thebrideandthegroomareinstructedtolookintoeachotherseyesandtheplaceinbetweeneyes.ThefollowingVedicversesarechantedatthattime:
DhruvanteRajaVarunoDhruvamDevoBruhspathi
DhruvanthaIndraschaangischaRashtramDhrayathamDhruvam
Whenyouenteryourownkingdomaftermarriage,youwillbeblessedwithstabilitybythekingVaruna(waterdiety),ThecelestialpriestBruhaspati,thekingoftheheavensIndraandAgni(thefireGod).
AbhrathrughneemVarunapathighneemBruhaspathe
IndraPuthrighneemLakshyamThamasyaisavithassuva
OVaruna,maythismarriageresultinprosperitytobridesfamily,OBruhaspati,maythisbrideaugmenttheprogressofherhusband,OIndra,pleaseblessthemtohavechildren.
AghoraChakshurChatushpade
Oblessedbride,mayyoulookatyourhusbandandhisfamilywithkindeyes,bringprosperitytohishouse,havealongmarriedlife,givebirthtochildrenwithvalor,bringlusterandbrilliancetoyournewhome,andbehaveinawaythatevenGodwillbeveryappreciativeofyou.
Theparentsofthebrideexitthestagebriefly.Thebrideandgroomsitsidebyside.
SumuhurtaAkshata
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Thosepresentattheweddingshowertheirblessingsonthecouplebysprinklingflowersandturmericcolouredrice(Akshata)onthem.
KanyasudhiorVadhuparisuddhi
Thegroomstandsinfrontofthebride.AsmallYokeisheldontheheadofthebridebythepriests.DropsofholywaterareallowedtodripthroughtheholeoftheyokeafterpassingoverGold.DuringthisritualvedicversesinpraiseofcelestialkingIndrarequestinghimtoeliminateanyhiddendeficienciesinthehealthofthebride,inanidenticalfashionheblessedanotherbrideApalainancienttimes.Theversessay,
Maythiswaterpurifyherandbestowgoldenglowonthebride,andgiveherpeace
Makethisbridefittogivebirthtohealthychildrenofvalor
Maythisbrideblessedbythisholywater,prosperandlivehappilywithherhusband
Thebrideandthegroomnowexitbriefly.
Thegroomandthebridewouldnowchangeintoauspiciousclothes(madhuparkamulu).Fortheremainingrituals,thebridewearsawhitecottonsariwitharedborder,whilethegroomdonsawhitecottondhoti,alsowitharedborder.Whitesignifiespurityandchastity,whileredisacolorthatrepresentsstrength.
ArrivaloftheBrideandGroomintheNewAttirefortheCompletionoftheWedding
Thebrideandthegroomarriveafterdonningtheprescribedcottonclothsforcompletionofthenextsegmentofmarriage.Theritualsofthissegmentaremostlyperformedforconsolidationofmarriage.
JyotuluSumangali
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Marriedwomen(Sumangalis),formpairsandarriveinaprocessioncarryinglargetrayswith16and17saucershapedlampsmadefromamixtureofriceflour,sugarandmilk,andtwolargetraysofwetRice.Thelitlampsrepresentsweetnessandlight,twoqualitiesthatthebridebringswithhertothisnewphaseoflife.Thericemixedwithatouchofturmericseekingabundanceofthesameinthenewhome.
Onthetopoftherice,theycarrytothestagetwogoldpendantsplacedonabetelleaf.Thegoldpendants(mangalyam)aretiedtogetherwithturmericladenmultilayeredthreadstoformtheMangalaSutramu.TheMangalaSutramuistiedaroundthebridesneckduringtheweddingandretainedforlife.Itisthemostauspicioussymbolofmarriageandthependantsarekeptclosetoheart.Eachgoldpendantisofaspecificweightandshape.Itisinitiallytakenaroundtobeblessedbytheeldersinthefamily.
PrayertotheMangalaSutra
ThebrideandthegroomthenperformpoojatotheGoldpendantstoinvokesanctityintothependants.Thepriestrecitesthefollowing,addressedtoGod:
Mayyou,goddessLakshmiofthismangalya,bepleasedwithourpooja,MayyourrealmbeasfirmasthatofVaruna,thegreatpriestBruhaspati,Indra,andAgni.
Thepriestalsoaddressestheaudiencewhoarewitnessestotheevent:
Mayallthegreatassembleheregrantthismomenttobeespeciallyauspicious.
Thepriestthenturnstothebride,saying:
Mayyourhusbandlivelong.
Andthenaddressesthebrideandgroom:
Mayyoubothlivelongandmayyourlifebefilledwithhealth,wealthandbeplentiful.May
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yourlifeashouseholdersprosperwell.
MangalasutraDharana(TyingoftheMangalsutrawiththreeknots)
Whilesanskritversesarebeingrecited,thegroomstands,andtiesthetwostringsseparatelyaroundthebridesneckwiththreeknots.Eachknotsignifiesalevelofmaritalcommitment,manasa(inheart),vacha(inword)andkarmana(indeed).Bytyingthenecklace,thegroomisofferingsafety,security,andcommitmenttothebride.
Duringthiseventthegroomrecites:
Mangalyatantunanenamamajeevanahetunaa:kanthebadhnamiSubhagesaajeevasaradamsatam
Omaiden,Itiethissacredthread,essentialformylonglife,aroundyourneck.Havingmanyauspiciousattributes,mayyoulivehappilywithmeforahundredyears
MangalaSutraAkshata
Havingtiedthemangalasutra,thecouplenowexchangegarlands.Thosepresentattheweddingshowertheirblessingsonthecouplebysprinklingflowersandturmericcolouredrice(Akshata)onthem.
Yoktrabandhana
ThegroomtiesaropeofresponsibilityaroundthewaistofthebridewhileprayingAgni(theFiregod)togiveherallthestrengthnecessarytoshouldertheresponsibilitiesofafamilylife.
Talambaraalu
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Thebrideandgroomshoweroneanotherwithtalambaraalu,ricemixedwithsaffron&turmeric,broughtontothestageearlier.Thissignifiesthecouplesdesireforhappiness,enjoymentandcontentment.Initiallytheytaketurnstoshowerthegrainsoneachotherwhilethepriestrecites:
Letpeaceflourishinyourlife,contentmentflourish,lettherebeno
obstaclesinlife,mayyougivedonationstotheneed,protectthecows,performmanygooddeedsandmaytheplanets
favoryourmarriedlife
Astheeventprogresses,therecitationstates:
Maytherebeabundanceofdairyandgrains,toperformdonationsandsacrifices.Theywisheachothertoliveinabundanceofgrains,essentialforanancientagrarian
community.
BrahmaMudiandRakshabandhana
TyingMadhuparkamthebrideandgroomtogetheriscalledBrahmamudi.Thepriestwilltieaknotbetweentheuppergarmentsofthegroomandthebrideforthenextsetofevents.Thegroomtiesasacredthreadaroundthewristofbrideandforherprotectionfromevil.Hedeclaresinfrontofthefirethat:Pooshatwetovayatu..maavadasiYoumaycometomyhouseonachariotofAshwinidietiestobecomethemasterofmyhouseandtakecontrolofthehousehold.ThisisdonebeforepradhanaHomam.
RitualsBeforeaSacredFire
PradhanaHomam
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ThefireceremonyisthemostessentialpartoftheHinduandVedicweddingandalsobylawthemarriageisnotcompleteunlessthisritualiscompleted.ThegroomthenleadsthebridetowardsHomam(Altar,hearthorfirepitforexclusiveuseofritualisticofferingsorsacrifice).
SinceAgni(thefireDiety)iscommontohumansandcelestials,heisrespectfullyrequestedtotaketheofferingmadethroughhimtobedeliveredtotheintendedcelestialdeity.AllthegreatHinduepicsstatethatAgniisamessengerandmediatorbetweenGodandhuman.ItisbelievedthatanyofferingsmadethroughAgniisconsumedhereonearthandreachestheintendeddeity.
Theholyfire,agreatprotectionagainstevil.Thisfireactsasaneternalwitnesstomarriage
Themeaningoftheversesrecitedwhileofferingthesacrificesare:
Om,PraisebetoAgni,thedomesticpriest,ministerofritualandinvokerofimmensewealth,pleasebringAditi,Anumati,Saraswatiandthesunaswitness
Ishallperformthesacrificialrites,sothatImayreceivethestatusofthehouseholderandmakethisbrideasmywife.
Ocelestials,thiswomanisleavingherownbehindandisfollowingmetojoinmyfamily.Iamperformingtheseoblations,requestingyoutograntherstableandprosperouslife,virtuouschildren,andalifewithoutsorrow.
PaniGrihanam
Thebridegroomstandsfacingthebrideenclosesallofherrighthandwithhisrighthand,withAgniaswitness,andsays:
Obride,thecelestialshavegivenyoutomeandblessedmetobecomeyourhusband.Iam
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holdingyourhandsothatyouwillhaveseveralgoodchildrenandlivehappilywithmetillripeoldage.
HeyGoddessofwealthLakshmi,youblessuswithalltheluck,richesandfoodandsowewhohaveheldourhandstoday,hopetogetrichesandpleasuresbyyourblessings.Iannouncethisloudlyinfrontofallsothatyouwilldefinitelyblessme.
OSaraswati,graciousone,youwhomwehymnfirstofalltheGods,mayyouprosperthismarriage.Heymaiden,LetVayuwhohasthe
capacitytotravelinalldirections,whokeepsagoldcoininhishandtogivetothosewhoprayhimandwhoisthefriendofAgniwhohasthe
capacitytopurifyeverythingaswellasthecapacitytomakerawfoodedible,enteryourmindandmakeyoulovemeforeveryminuteofour
futurelives.
PradhanaHomam:TheCircumambulationaroundtheHolyFire
Holdingeachothershandwithfireasaneternalwitnesstomarriage,thebrideandgroompledgeanddeclaretoallthosepresentthattheyhaveacceptedoneanothervoluntarily.
Thebridegroomholdsthebridebythehandandbothwalkthreetimesaroundthenuptialfire.BothofferoblationsandreciteappropriateVedichymnstoGodsforprosperity,goodfortune,andconjugalfidelity.Theytoucheachothersheartandprayforunionoftheirheartsandminds.
Saptapadi
Thisisthemostimportantpartoftheceremonythatconfirmsandsanctifiesthemarriage.Onlyafterthisritual,thebrideandthegroomareacceptedasmarriedreligiouslysociallyandlegally.
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Holdingeachothershands,tiedtogetherwithuppercloth,thecoupletakessevensteps.WitheachstepaverseisrecitedandLordVishnusblessingsaresought.Sevenlittleheapsofriceisarrangedinaline.Thegroomslipsasilvertoeringonthesecondtoeofthebride.
WithLordVishnutheprotectoroftheuniverseasourguide,letustake,
Firststepforthesakeofplentyoffoodtonourisheachother
Secondstepforthesakeofstrength
ThirdstepfortheabilitytoperformYajnasandausterities
Fourthstepforthesakeofloveandconjugalhappiness
Fifthstepforthegrowthofourcattleandwealth
Sixthsteptosurviveandenjoythefruitsofallseasons
Seventhsteptoperformvedicsacrificesandtobesacredlyilluminated.
Aftertheseventhstephemakesherremainwheresheisandsays:Withsevenstepswebecomefriends.Letmereachyourfriendship.Letmenotbeseveredfromyourfriendship.Letyourfriendshipnotbeseveredfromme.TheSaptapadiceremonyconcludeswithaprayerthattheunionisindissoluble.Attheendofthisceremony,thebridegroomandbridebecomehusbandandwife.AccordingtoIndianCivilLaw,this,thetakingofthe7thstepsignifiesthedefiningmomentofaHindumarriage.
Finallythegroomdeclaresthatwiththese7stepsmayyoubecomemyfriend,letmedeserveyourfriendship,letnotpartwithyourfriendship,letyounotpartfrommyfriendship.Letusliveasloving,vigoroushappycoupleenjoyingeachotherscompany,listeningtoeachotherforahundredyears.
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LajaHomam
LajaHomamisthefirstritualsacrificeperformedbythecoupleashusbandandwife.ThisisanofferingoffoodtothecelestialsthroughtheAgnifortheirblessingsforalongmarriedlife.Thebrotherofthebrideprovidestheparchedricefortheofferings.WiththefirstofferingtoAgni,thewifesaystohusbandThisgrainIspillMayitbringtomewellbeinganduniteyoutome.MayAgnihearus.Theyalsoseekprosperitytotheirrelatives.Aftereachofferingthecoupleperformscircumambulationofthefire.
AsmarohanaorSilarohana
Attheendofeachcircumambulation,thebridewillbeaskedtosteponagrindstonecalledsannikallu.Thehusbandholdsrighttoesofhiswifeandplacesthemflatonthestonewhilereciting
Atistemamasmanamasmevathvaggsthirabhavaha
Abithishtapruthanyathassahasvaprutanayathaha
Meaning:Mountupthisstone.Letthymindberockfirm,unperturbed,bythetrialsandtribulationsoflifeandwhenitisfinished,thegroomadornsthebridestoeswithmattelu,silverrings.Thisistosignifythatanyhardshipsthecouplemightencountercanbedealtwithpatience.
TheyrequestAgnitograduallyreduceherattachmenttoherparentshomeandtoincreaseattractiontohusbandshouse.
PravesaHomam,ArundhatiandDhruvaDarshan
ThisHomamisanextremelyancientritualthatwasperformedwhenmarriageswereperformedbetweenamanandwomenhailingfromthesamevillageortownandhencenotapplicable.Intheeveningwhenthestarsappearinthesky,thepriestshowsthecouplethe
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constellationofUrsaMajorandtheArundhatistar(Alcor),astarthatisincloseproximitytoVasista(Mizar).Arundhati,theidealwifeofvasisthamaharshi(thegreatsaint),isexemplifiedasamostvirtuouswomanandanembodimentofchastity.TheeventistoinformthebrideofmaritalvirtueofArundhatiandtoseekherblessings.
ThetwofrontstarsoftheconstellationpointtotheDhruvaStar(Polaris),thebrighteststarintheUrsaminor.Sincethisstarisstationary,thecouplelookatthestarasasymbolofstability.
Sthaalipaakam
ThebrideboilsaverysmallquantityofriceandoffersittoAgni,thefiregodritualistically.ThericemadeforthefirsttimebythebrideasahousewifeisofferedsymbolicallytoAgni.
SadasyamandPhalpradhanam
Towardstheendofthewedding,thepriestsperformVedicchantstobringpositiveinfluenceforalonglastingmarriage.Followingthechants,thescholarsandtheeldersarehonoredwithgiftsbythecoupleandseektheirblessings.
Seshahomam
Thisisthelasteventinfrontoffire.Duringthisevent,thewiferecognizesthatherhusbandasaprincipledandlearnedmanfromhissincerevowsanddeeds.Sheperformsprayersforprogeny.
DampatiTamboolalu
Elderlymarriedwomenwithprolongedmarriedlifearehonoredwithgiftstoseektheirblessings.
Nakabali
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Asmallpartofthestageisdecoratedwithcolorfulpowders.Fourdecoratedpotsandfourlitoillampsareplacedstrategicallyonallthesides.PrayersareperformedforthecelestialLordIndra.
Asilkclothcradlewasmadeandasandalwooddollisplaced,sometimeswitharipemango/bananaandturmericwasplacedinittoprayforanoffspringashealthyastheripemango,aspureastheturmericandasselffragrantasthesandalwood.Thesisterofthegroomapproachesthebrideandasksherfornephew/niceoradairycow.Thebriderepliesthatshewouldgiveboth.Thisritualisaprayerforhealthychildren,andtocreateinterestofmotherhoodinthebride.
Thegroomthenslipssilvertoeringsonthebridesfeet.Hetiesanecklacewithblackbeadsandgold.
Sachipooja
PrayersarethenofferedtothewifeofcelestialLordIndra.Whilerecitingtheprayers,agoldringisdroppedintoalargevesselfilledwithwater.Thebrideandthegroomcompetewitheachothertoquicklypulltheringfromthevessel.Thisisdone3times.Itisabeliefthatthespousethatcollectsthering2outof3timeswilldominatethemarriedlife.
Thenthedarbhagirdle(Yoktra)placedaroundthebirdeisremoved.Thegroomrecitesthefollowingprayersandthenuntiesthedharbhastringhehastiedearlier:
IfreefromtheropetiedbyLordParameshwarawhotiesthisropeofVarunaforallthegoodmindedbeings,Igiveyouthepositionofpleasurewithmetoyouintheworldof
Brahma.
IfreeyouformthestringofVarunatiedbytheLordParameshwarawhogivesblessingstohisdevotees.YoucanlivewithmeinBrahmalokawheretheblessedgoandbewithme
withoutthefearoftheropeofVaruna.
Appagintalu
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Thisisthefinaleventonthestage.Thebridewillberitualisticallybedeclaredaspartofthegroomsfamily.Thefatherandthemotherofthebridejoinsthehandsofthebrideindividuallytothegroom,hisparentsandsister.Herecites,IhavenurturedthischildtillthisageandIamhandingherovertoyourfamilyfortheprosperityandprogenyofherhusband.Dearparentsandsisterofthegroom,fromnowonconsiderherasyourowndaughterandbeaguideandphilosopher.
Thisisanextremelyemotionaleventforthebridesfamily,sincethedaughtertheyraisedsofarisleavingthehouseandtheseparationisfinal.
PostWeddingRituals
Vididigrihapravesam
Thebrideandthegroomwillbewelcomedtothegroomshouseorroomasanewlymarriedcouple.
Grihapravesh
Themarriageceremonyover,thebrideistakentothegroomshomeforGrihaPravesh(enteringthehouseforthefirsttime).Whentheyreachhishouse,hesays:Enterwithyourrightfoot.Donotremainoutside.Thebrideentersthehomeplacingtherightfootconsideredauspicious,first.Whenthebrideandthegroomenterthegroomshouse,themotherofthegroomwelcomesthebridebydoinganAarati.Thecoupleretireintotheirownrooms.
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SatyanarayanaPoojaandVenkateswaraDeeparadhana
Thecoupleperformtheirfirstpoojaintheirownhome.Thisdoneonthefirstorseconddayafterarrivalofthebridetohernewhome.
UnitingtheMangalasutra
Thetwomangalsutrasareunitedonacommonthreadandareattachedtoagoldchain16daysafterthewedding.Aneldermemberofthefamilyorthehusbandhimselfcanunitethetwomangalsutrasonacommonthread.Afewblackorgoldenbeadsareslippedbetweenthetwoplatessothattheydontclashwitheachother,signifyingharmonybetweenthetwofamilies.Thebridetakesabathandwearsanewsaribeforewearingthemangalsutraonthisday.Thenumber16isaveryauspiciousnumberamongHindus.Also,16daysaresymbolicofthetimeneededbythebridetounderstandherhusbandsfamily.