summer series how shall the young secure their hearts? 1
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Summer Series
How shall the
young secure
their hearts?
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controlling desires
Temptation
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• Desire
James 1:14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. 15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.
Understanding Temptation
+ Opportunity = Temptation
June 8th
Temptation – Controlling Desires
July 13
Temptation – Limiting Opportunities (Part 1)
Tonight
Temptation – Limiting Opportunities (Part 2)
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Because Sin is so ACCESSIBLE!
little eyes what you see little feet where you go
• Music Downloads• Language on TV & Movies
• Games
little hands what you do little ears what you hear
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Because Sin is so ACCESSIBLE!
little ears what you hear
little feet where you go
• Websites (pornography)
little hands what you do
little eyes what you see
Because Sin is so ACCESSIBLE!
little eyes what you see
little ears what you hear
little feet where you go
• Online Gaming • Posting on FB or Forums
• Text messaging• App downloads
little hands what you do
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GOD’s Word tells us… Y19
Romans 14:19 Therefore let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another.
Romans 12:18 If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.
Matthew 12:36 But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. 37 For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
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2 Corinthians 10:10 “For his letters,” they say, “are weighty and powerful, but his bodily presence is weak, and his speech contemptible.”
2 Corinthians 10:11 Let such a person consider this, that what we are in word by letters when we are absent, such we will also be in deed when we are present.
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Online GamingExcerpt from Dec. 2013 article on Forbes.com
I asked my eight year old to explain how Minecraft works. I wanted to know what an average day in his seemingly endless world of Minecraft servers looks like. He told me how he signs on to certain servers first, checking out what’s going on there, before moving somewhere else to build his own scenarios that random block-headed strangers can visit. I asked him if people were mean to each other on Minecraft. “Sometimes,” he said, “like calling people names and using curse words and wrecking people’s stuff.” It occurs to me that multi-player Minecraft is basically a huge, virtual version of the school playground. We as parents should be talking to our kids about the games so that we can give them the proper vocabulary and tools for navigating their way through virtual and real social scenarios.
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When gaming online, you will likely interact with some other players who will post obscene, racist, sexual and violent remarks. Same goes for many online forums.Teach your kids good “netiquette”. Talk to them about how to be nice to other people when texting or online, how to respond when someone else is acting inappropriately, and the importance of account privacy and information security. Be Involved…
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Researchers from Arizona State University, say that “Parents miss a huge opportunity when they walk away from playing video games with their kids. Often parents don’t understand that many
video games are meant to be shared and can teach young people about science, literacy and problem solving. Gaming with their children also offers parents countless ways to insert their own ‘teaching moment.’”
Video games can be an opportunity to open conversations with your kids.
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BE SAFE ONLINE!!!
• FBI Cyber Division - Never give out identifying information such as your real name, home address, school name, or telephone number. Never respond to messages or bulletin board postings that are suggestive, obscene, belligerent, or harassing.
• National Cyber Security Alliance - 50% of Facebook users give out enough personal data, such as full name and birth date, to enable identity theft.
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ProfanityI will say what I want to say!#yourenotthebossofmeLike Comment
Alcoholic BeverageNothing like a cold one to end the day!Like Comment
ImmodestyHey, hey! Look at ME!!#notgettingattention@homeLike Comment
News Feed
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#1 – Parents: Be clear regarding the times during which texting is acceptable. Children: learn texting manners.
• Don’t text during church. • Don’t text during class at school.• Don’t text at the dinner table.
Talking Texts 1/3 of teens send over 3,000 texts a month
4 RULES for safe texting
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#2 – Do not post hurtful messages. If someone else posts hurtful or inappropriate messages, do not respond. Do not communicate with someone who has made you uncomfortable, threatened or afraid, but do tell a parent, teacher, or other adult.
Talking Texts 1/3 of teens send over 3,000 texts a month
4 RULES for safe texting
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#3 – Driving and texting are never okay for parents or teens. If it’s an emergency, then pull over.
Talking Texts 1/3 of teens send over 3,000 texts a month
4 RULES for safe texting
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#4 – Do not take any cell phone pictures that involve nudity or partial nudity. They are illegal and classified as child pornography, which is a felony in most states. Many young people have been denied college scholarships, lost job opportunities, or have faced criminal prosecution and even placed on sex offender registries because they misused their cell phone. What you intend to send to one person MAY EASILY END UP ON THE SCREENS OF MANY.
Talking Texts 1/3 of teens send over 3,000 texts a month
4 RULES for safe texting
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• Over 900 new apps are submitted to Apple’s App Store each day.
• Approximately 830 new apps are added daily to the Android Market.
Let’s Talk Apps…
An app is short for “application.” For our discussion, an app is a program or software that runs on a mobile device. App categories include: Games, Books, Education, Lifestyle, Music, News, Social Networking, Travel, Weather, Etc. Most of these tools can be fun, educational and helpful. But some apps can be misused or dangerous.18
“Poof” appsDownWhisper
What’s that app do?
Photo Vault – This app allows the user to “Lock” their photos and videos so that they may only be viewed with a password.The Danger – a child might be taking or receiving pictures or videos that were dangerous and the parent wouldn’t be able to see the images on the phone.
SMS appsPhoto Vault
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“Poof” appsDownWhisperPhoto Vault
What’s that app do?
KiK Messenger – This is a private messenger app that allows kids to send private messages that their parents can’t see. The Danger – There is very little you can do to verify the identity of someone on Kik, which poses the risk of sexual predators and cyberbullies chatting with your child.
SMS apps
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“Poof” appsDownPhoto Vault
What’s that app do?
Whisper – This app allows you to post secrets anonymously and also allows you to chat with other users in your geographic area (GPS).The Danger – This app allows you to exchange messages with people nearest to you (so your identity may be discovered). Also, some kids use this app to talk about or bully others while remaining anonymous.
SMS apps Whisper
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“Poof” appsPhoto Vault
What’s that app do?
Down/Tinder – The slogan for the App: “The anonymous, simple, fun way to find friends who are down for the night”.The Danger – This app, and similar apps such as Skout, Pure, and Blendr are primarily used as an opening for casual sex. Crimes related to these apps include: Assault, Robbery, Rape, Torture, & Murder.
SMS apps Whisper Down
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Photo Vault
What’s that app do?
Poof – You select which apps you would like to hide and their icons will no longer show up on your smartphone screen.The Danger – If children have apps that they want to keep hidden from their parents, all they have to do is download this app and “poof,” their screen is clear of any questionable apps.
SMS apps Whisper Down “Poof” apps
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Apps for Parents!
Curfew App for your
kid’s phone
No text & drive app, also speed limit app
Notifies parents of apps kid
downloads
Locks kid’s phone until they contact
parent
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Recommended Digital Strategy
Turn Apps off & Route text messages thru
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To turn OFF App downloads…
Go to Settings. 26
Click on General, then click on Restrictions 27
Click Enable Restrictions 28
Pick a password. onealchurchofchrist.org29
Re-enter password30
Go to Installing Apps and turn it OFF. 31
How do I view my child’s texts on my phone?
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One way to view your child’s text messages
on your phone… 33
Scroll down and click on Messages
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Make sure iMessages are turned on, then click on
Send & Receive35
Your-phone-number
Kids-phone-number
Your-phone-number
Kids-phone-number
Under the heading that says “you can be reached by iMessage at”, simply
click on your child’s phone number.
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Don’t be afraid to ask for or take “your
child’s” phone.
I trust my kids. I don't trust OTHER people's kids.My kids know the phones they use are MINE. They are not to expect privacy using MY PHONES. They know at any time, I can read through their messages. It isn't their right to have a phone, it is a PRIVILEDGE.
Don’t you trust your kid?
What one parent said:
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Because Sin is so ACCESSIBLE!
little eyes what you see
little ears what you hear
• Clubs & bars• Wild Parties
• Inappropriate Settings
little hands what you do
little feet where you go 38
Proverbs 4:14 Do not enter the path of the wicked, And do not walk in the way of evil. 15 Avoid it, do not travel on it; Turn away from it and pass on. 16 For they do not sleep unless they have done evil; And their sleep is taken away unless they make someone fall. 17 For they eat the bread of wickedness, And drink the wine of violence. 18 But the path of the just is like the shining sun, That shines ever brighter unto the perfect day. 19 The way of the wicked is like darkness; They do not know what makes them stumble. 26 Ponder the path of your feet, And let all your ways be established. 27 Do not turn to the right or the left; Remove your foot from evil.
GOD’s Word tells us…O3
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Use GPS to your advantage
Recommended digital strategy
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Life360GPS
Monitoring App
Recommended App
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How Life360 works
Life360 uses the Smartphone's GPS to track
your location and the location of your group
members.
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How Life360 works
Life360 can send you notifications when your
loved one has left or arrived at designated
locations.
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How Life360 works
Your child can use Life360 to check-in.
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How Life360 works
Life360 will send you a notification that your child
is checking in and their current location.
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How Life360 works
Answer – GPS tracking is reasonably accurate on
smart phones and tablets.
Side note - This is very helpful if your phone is stolen or if you
misplace your phone on a regular basis like me!
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Question-How accurate is it?
How Life360 works
Most of these services have a “panic” feature. Life360 will notify you
IMMEDIATELY if a member of your group pushes the
panic button.
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How Life360 works
And you will receive a call giving you information
about the location of the person that pushed the
panic button.
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How Life360 works
Answer – Yes. Life360 will indicate when a member of your group
has turned of his/her location sharing.
Question-Can my child turn their
location sharing off?
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Monitoring and safeguarding are helpful, but will NEVER be a substitute
for teaching and communicating.
Christians are instructed to teach their children the Bible and today that includes teaching them how to apply Bible wisdom to modern media. Phone/Internet safety are just like any other kind of safety. You don’t just teach your child how to cross the street one time, you tell them to “look both ways” for years!
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Puzzle answerPuzzle Answer Teach your children
diligently.
Deuteronomy 6:5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. 6 "And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.
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