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SEATS Missional Discipleship Program

1. SOM-11 Understanding Jesus Matthew2. SOM-12 Understanding Jesus - Mark3. SOM-13 Understanding Jesus - Luke4. SOM-14 Understanding Jesus - John5. SOM-15 Discipleship6. SOM-16 Hermeneutics of Money7. SOM-17 8 Principles of Being Like Jesus8. SOM-18 Jesus, Mission, & Church9. SOM-19 Truth & Transformation10. SOM-10 Men & Discipleship

Student Name Classes Completed

Jun Tayangona 9

Jun Sulad 9

Jun Mandreza 7

Mercy Claros 3

NeilNeri 5

IsmaelDalumpines 7

Jaime Arenas 4

Mario Robles 3

Marilyn Robles 4

PhilipDepatillo 4

RamirLigad 6

SOM-20 Men & Discipleship

Men : Women

41 : 76

5 : 16

13 : 12

• What does it mean to be a man? Anoba’ngibigsabihin ng pagiginglalaki?

• “His work, his hobbies, his entertainment, his follies, his addictions, everything he does, is designed to prove to the world he is a man.”

• This belief demands that “he avoid anything that might call his manhood into question.”

Why Are Men Not In Church?

• Many intentionally reject the Christian faith

• Some men are proud & want to be their own god

• Men hate to admit weakness or neediness

• Millions are captive to sin, unbelief & other religions that rule out commitment to Christ

• Men get distracted by the concerns of the world & lose interest in spiritual matters

• Men suffer abuse at the hands of church people & fall away.

Believe in God

Identify selves asChristians

Attend Church on

Sunday

Men

• Buddhism, Judaism, Hinduism have almost equal numbers.

• Islam may have more men

• Only Christianity has less men.

• Why?

Nashville: Thomas Nelson, Inc., 2005

Which set best describes Jesus & His Followers?

Left SetCompetence

Power

Efficiency

Achievement

Skills

Proving Oneself

Results

Accomplishment

Objects

Technology

Goal-oriented

Self Sufficiency

Success

Competition

Right SetLove

Communication

Beauty

Relationships

Support

Help

Nurturing

Feelings

Sharing

Relating

Harmony

Community

Loving Cooperation

Personal Expression

Mars Venus

Discipleship is probably the most misunderstood word in the church today. Here's simple definition: discipleship is people leading each other to maturity in Christ. As the Bible says, it’s one person sharpening another. It’s a band of brothers spurring each other on toward love & good deeds. It is the model left to us by Jesus.

We cannot expect men to come to maturity in Christ in a classroom environment. Although reading, study, sermon, & classes can help, these academic exercises cannot penetrate to the hidden places in a man’s heart. But discipleship can, because it’s teaching by example. Christ didn’t hand out a study guide, He demonstrated a life pleasing to God. His example, even more than His words, produced 11 men who shook the world. That is why a man who has sat in church for 30 years without much life change will be suddenly transformed by going on a mission trip. Men are changed by what they experience, not necessarily by what they are told.

SOM-20-01 Ephesians 4 & the 5-Fold Ministry of the Church

This class will examine the 5-Fold Ministry of the Church from Ephesians

4, & develop a theology of male discipleship in the church.

Ephesians 4:1-16I, a prisoner in the Lord, encourage you to livethe kind of life which proves that God hascalled you.Be humble & gentle in every way. Be patientwith each other & lovingly accept each other.Through the peace that ties you together, doyour best to maintain the unity that the Spiritgives. There is one body & one Spirit. In thesame way you were called to share one hope.There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism, oneGod & Father of all, who is over everything,through everything, & in everything.

Ephesians 4:1-16God's favor has been given to each of us. It wasmeasured out to us by Christ who gave it. That's whythe Scriptures say: "When he went to the highestplace, he took captive those who had captured us &gave gifts to people.” Now what does it mean that hewent up except that he also had gone down to thelowest parts of the earth? The one who had gone downalso went up above all the heavens so that he fillseverything. He also gave apostles, prophets,missionaries, as well as pastors & teachers as gifts tohis church. Their purpose is to prepare God's people, toserve, & to build up the body of Christ. This is tocontinue until all of us are united in our faith & in ourknowledge about God's Son, until we become mature,until we measure up to Christ, who is the standard.

Ephesians 4:1-16Then we will no longer be little children,tossed & carried about by all kinds ofteachings that change like the wind. We willno longer be influenced by people who usecunning & clever strategies to lead us astray.Instead, as we lovingly speak the truth, wewill grow up completely in our relationship toChrist, who is the head. He makes the wholebody fit together & unites it through thesupport of every joint. As each & every partdoes its job, he makes the body grow so thatit builds itself up in love.

Ephesians 4:1-16Be humble & gentle in every way. Bepatient with each other& lovingly accepteach other. Through the peace that tiesyou together, do your best to maintain theunity that the Spirit gives. There is onebody &one Spirit. In the same way youwere called to share one hope. There isone Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God& Father of all, who is over everything,through everything, & in everything.

Ephesians 4:1-16God's favor has been given to each of us. Itwas measured out to us by Christ who gave it.… He also gave [some] apostles, [some]prophets, [some] missionaries, as well as[some] pastors & teachers as gifts to hischurch. Their purpose is to prepare God'speople, to serve, & to build up the body ofChrist. This is to continue until all of us areunited in our faith & in our knowledge aboutGod's Son, until we become mature, until wemeasure up to Christ, who is the standard.

Ephesians 4:1-16Then we will no longer be little children,tossed & carried about by all kinds ofteachings that change like the wind. We willno longer be influenced by people who usecunning & clever strategies to lead us astray.Instead, as we lovingly speak the truth, wewill grow up completely in our relationship toChrist, who is the head. He makes the wholebody fit together & unites it through thesupport of every joint. As each & every partdoes its job, he makes the body grow so thatit builds itself up in love.

Apostle

Prophet

Evangelist

Pastor

Teacher

Eph 4:11

“… upangihandasapaglilingkodanglahatnghinirang,

saikauunladngkanyangiglesya.”

5-Fold Ministry

“At angiba’yginawangapostol, angiba’ypropeta, angiba’yebanghelista, angiba’ypastor at guro.”

Tungkulin:Apostle

One who is sent

Urgency of Tomorrow

Impact: Extension

Tungkulin:Prophet

One who knows

Demands of today in light of tomorrow

Impact: Integration

Tungkulin:Evangelist

One who recruits

Urgency of today

Impact: Expansion

Tungkulin:Pastor

One who cares

Demands of today

Impact: Nurture

Tungkulin:Teacher

One who explains

Integration

Impact: Under-

standing

Day 2

Apostolic

Apostle

Mission Matrix: The Nature/Structure of the whole church’s mission

Mission Matrix: The Nature/Structure of the church’s leadership

A

P

E

PT

Entrepreneur, pioneer, strategist,

innovator, visionary

Questioner, disturber, agitator

Recruiter, passionate communicator of organisational

message, recruits to the cause

Humaniser, carer, social

cement/glue

Systematiser, philosopher, tran

slator

From Frost & Hirsch, The Shaping of Things to Come, 174

It's not that movements abolish the clergy. Rather they abolish the laity.

Everyone is ordained & mobilized for ministry.Steve Addison, When the church goes to the dogs

(Shapevine Training Systems, 2009), p 3.

• If you are the pastor of a church can you be called “bishop” / “overseer”?

Male Work Cycle

1. Plan

2. Work

3. Celebrate

4. Rest

Spiritual Disciplines

• Read your Bible.

• Pray.

• Give.

• Go to church.

Discipleship is probably the most misunderstood word in the church today. Here's simple definition: discipleship is people leading each other to maturity in Christ. As the Bible says, it’s one person sharpening another. It’s a band of brothers spurring each other on toward love & good deeds. It is the model left to us by Jesus.

We cannot expect men to come to maturity in Christ in a classroom environment.

Although reading, study, sermon, & classes can help, these academic exercises cannot penetrate to the hidden places in a man’s heart.

But discipleship can, because it’s teaching by example.

Christ didn’t hand out a study guide, He demonstrated a life pleasing to God. His example, even more than His words, produced 11 men who shook the world.

That is why a man who has sat in church for 30 years without much life change will be suddenly transformed by going on a mission trip. Men are changed by what they experience, not necessarily by what they are told.

Group Work

Develop a Male Discipleship Plan

“How can we bring the Church to men?”

FIFTY WAYS TO MAKE YOUR CHURCH MORE APPEALING TO MEN:

Front door experience:

• Maintain your buildings and grounds

• Put men in the parking lot

• One layer of greeters (don’t be too friendly)

• Lots of signs so men don’t have to ask directions

Worship service:

• Keep the focus on God – not the family

• Minimize dead time between elements

• Do something unexpected

• Add humor or something fun

• Good lighting and sound so people can easily see and hear

Décor:

• Remove the “old lady” stuff: quilts, felt banners, needlepoint, etc.

• Remove lace and flowers from communion table.

• Remove bulletin boards and “kindergarten classroom” collages from interior walls

• Decide if religious symbols in the sanctuary help or hinder

• Colors: choose earth tones and colors of the field

Give men space:

• Do not ask the congregation to hold hands

• Do not ask everyone to hug everyone else

• Discourage “prayer mushrooms”

Prayer:

• Keep pastoral prayers short

• Avoid showy “prayer-speak” when praying in church

• Avoid “vain repetitions” in public prayers

• Offer prayer after the service instead of prayer-and-share

Music:

• Quality is vital. Don’t attempt more than your musicians can deliver.

• Choose songs that convey respect to God

• Avoid wimpy “love songs to Jesus”

• Avoid more than 3 repeats of any chorus

• Select a key the baritones can sing

• Help the worship leader “man-up”

A pastor who relates well to men will:

• Talk like a regular guy (avoid “preacher-speak”)

• Do man stuff and talk about it during the message

• Choose metaphors and stories men can relate to

• Be firm but gracious on theology and moral issues

• Be judicious about emotive displays

Teaching:• Shorter is almost always better. Say it and be done. • Share personal stories of your struggles as a man • Avoid feminine metaphors (such as “fall in love with

Jesus”) • Avoid “preacher-speak”• Build sermon around great illustrations • Use visual aids • Use video clips to illustrate • Use an object lesson to illustrate• Call men forward for a 3-minute “men’s huddle” at

the end of the service

Honor men’s time:

• Start and end the service on time

• If something goes long, cut something else on the fly

• For services more than 90 minutes, offer an intermission or an opportunity to “get-up-and-go” so men don’t feel trapped

Sunday school:

• Bury the name “Sunday school”

• Abandon the classroom method in favor of a more kinetic one

• Place boys with male teachers

• Don’t ask boys to read aloud

• Use a boy-friendly curriculum with hands-on learning

• Use professionally produced videos to help teach spiritual truths