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SADA Is A Pakistan Premier Online magazine against drug abuse ,TRANSCRIPT
SADA
Volume 15 April 2012 A VOICE AGAINST DRUG ADDICTION
True Stories
Messages
Article
Islam Against Drugs
Golden Words
Helpline
A Publication Of Drug Free Nation
www.sada.drugfreenation.org
Riffat Sadiq PhD (Fellow) Editor-in-Chief Safia Rafiq M Phil Associate Editor
S No Contents Page No Al Quran 3
Revenge and Drug Abuse Problems By Riffat Sadiq 4
Children Learn From You By Erum Sultan 5
Life Skills for Students to Combat Drug Abuse Problems By Safia Rafiq
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Talent is Nothing Without Sense of Right or Wrong 7
From Sobriety to Success 8
Harsh Parenting Brings Disaster 9
Helpline 10
Golden Words 12
Contents
They ask you about wine and gambling. Say, "In them is great sin and [yet, some]
benefit for people. But their sin is greater than their benefit." And they ask you
what they should spend. Say, "The excess [beyond needs]." Thus Allah makes
clear to you the verses [of revelation] that you might give thought. Surah
Albaqrah Ayat No 219
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Al Quran Al Quran
According to Ysseldyk (2005), ''Revenge is an intense emotional state requiring
relief, based on the perception and motivation that one has been wronged, rather
than on rational thought, undifferentiated anger, or retributive justice"
Revenge is usually taken to punish or treat the offender in the same way as
he/she treated the offended person. Sometimes, this revenge is toward self as
the result of severe guilt and having feelings of rejection/unfair treatment from
the significant one and society. Desire to take revenge from either self or others
may lead to psychosocial problems.
Revenge is a potent factor for drug abuse problems among both men and women.
A woman started taking heroin when her husband got married to other women
without informing her. She worked hard to help her husband to grow
economically. After being financially established, he got married to another
woman without disclosing his first marriage. When she came to know about her
husband's second marriage, she could not bear the psychological pain she felt due
to her husband's fell in love with another woman. She did not accept her fate and
continuously had questions for self (e.g, why did I work hard for him? why did I
love him? I do I am at fault). One day, she experimented drugs to punish her self
but unfortunately became a heroin addict.
In another example, a 27 years old guy started taking cannabis and alcohol to take
revenge from his parents. He reported that his parents did not accept the girl of
his choice and his father wanted to treat him as puppet. He reported to be feeling
happy to tease his parents.
Having desires to take revenge or treating self and other in the same way after
severe offense may clear the road to total destruction. Empirical studies should
be carried out to discuss the consequences of revenge motivation, specifically
indulgence in drug abuse.
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Revenge & Drug Abuse Problems
By Riffat Sadiq
Four days back, when I was telling my children about the effects of using betel
nut (Chalia), my 11 year old son responded quickly, "No, betel nut is not
dangerous; grandmother is using it for a long time but nothing happened to her".
I tried hard to make to him understand that betel nut destroys our teeth, stomach
and concentration considering his mental level. I had difficulty to do so because of
comparing his grandmother's health with those who are not using betel nut.
Actually, my mother-in-law is very active and social type of person, can deal all
sorts of people besides doing household chores appropriately. She also watches
television with full interest that made my son wonder that her performance at all
level is good enough up till now then how betel nut could be harmful for rest of
the family members.
Children are too innocent who merely perceive the things from surface. They are
not able to pay a deep look inside the apparent behavior and learn by observing
others. In a family, where elder use drugs and any substance such as betel nut,
chewing tobacco, they present them as a role model for their youngest family
members (children). They put their children at great risk to use these
substances/drugs in future because children learn from us. At very early age, they
have no other way but to experiment things by observing others. Therefore, it is
our responsibility not to teach wrong behaviors to our innocent minds to copy
them.
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Children Learn From You
By Erum Sultan
Sometimes, stressors come in our live from four directions that have profound
impact on us, impede our growth and social functioning. In the current era,
students have multiple tasks to meet their academic objectives. While facing their
academic competitors, they come across various problems that may hinder their
performance. Sometimes, they have more or less same problems at educational
institute and family as well, e.g, lack of assertiveness, communication problems.
These problems are solved only by opting healthy solutions and are referred to as
life skills. These life skills help in combating personal and as well as social
problems. Absence of these skills results in emotional and academic problems
that increase the chances of using drugs among students.
Self-skills training pertaining to self-esteem, communication, decision-making,
problem solving, and interpersonal relationships should be conducted for
students. A student with good self-esteem and assertiveness may handle peer
pressure effectively that is a dominating risk factor for drug abuse among
youngsters. Similarly, student with problem solving skills can find the right
solution for his or her problem instead of taking drugs. Furthermore, technically
and emotionally skilled students will make strong and healthy nation.
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Life Skills For Students to Combat Drug Abuse Problem
By Safia Rafiq
Talent is Nothing Without Sense of Right or Wrong
I was very dearest to my family, specially my father because of my some unique
qualities. I wanted to do different and unique things. I was social type of person
and made many friends out of my residential area. Few of them were cannabis
users. When I was in grade 8, I experimented cannabis. I did not have money to
buy drugs; therefore I introduced the drugs successfully to my class fellow just to
manage money for cannabis. Gradually, I shifted to heroin and could not complete
my education.
My family got me admitted to treatment center. After recovered from drug
addiction, I was sent to Dubai where I used to drink. I used to visit Pakistan after
months without informing my family. I used a lot of heroin in three days. When
my father passed away, I came back to Pakistan forever. I started working as
business development officer till 2007. During that time, I also used medicines that
resulted in serious health problems. I could not continue my career and now
spending my life in a treatment centre being a serious patient. I do not know
where my addiction would take me.
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True Stories
From Sobriety to Success
I belonged to an educated family. My father was employed in a renowned
company but used to busy in his work. Having appeared in graduation exam, I had
no other activity except sitting with friends just to pass the time. The friends with I
used to spend most of my time were alcohol users. One day, they offered me
alcohol and I could not resist. Eventually, I became alcohol user. After having
degree of bachelor, I joined a company.
I kept using alcohol besides doing job. One day, I drank a lot and fell on garbage.
When I got my conscious I felt guilty. I requested my mother to get me admitted
in the hospital. I got treatment for one month but I relapsed soon. One of my
friends introduced me to heroin. After becoming heroin addict, I reached to street
and passed my time under the bridge. I lost my health and job.
My family took me back to home. When I was sleeping, my family called outreach
workers to take me to treatment centre. Out reach workers tried to convince me
to get treatment. I agreed to go with them. I got treatment for four months and
now I am in recovery for one year.
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True Stories
Harsh Parenting Brings Disaster
I belonged to a religious family and was given a lot of respect from community.
My father was very strict and he tried to handle us in traditional way. Therefore, I
liked to stay out of home. Whenever, I came back home after 2 or 3 days, my
father used to punish me that made me more rebellion. I had developed anger and
hatred feelings toward my father and home.
My younger brother was also suffering from same problems. He gave up his
education and used drugs to escape from his problems. When my both parents
died, family property was handed over to my elder brother. After taking over the
family property, my brother changed his attitude toward all of us. He never helped
younger brother to get rid of drugs. Sisters are married and their husbands do not
allow them to meet their addict brother. My younger brother is now a heroin
addict. Many times I tried to help him but he could not recover. He was youngest
in my family and was very dear to us. Now, I feel very sad to see him in miserable
condition
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True Stories
Q-1: I am disturbed due to the conflict with my husband. My husband does not do
job and spend most of his time here and there. I tried many times to convince him
but he is not ready to take initiative. I and intermediate and give tuition to
children at home to run money and also provided some monetary help from sister-
in-law and my brother. I have two children and I need money for them and myself.
I remained worried and even could not get proper sleep. I consulted general
physician who prescribed tranquilizer that made me relaxed a lot. But gradually I
felt that I could not go to bed and without taking medicine. Kindly suggest me
what I should do? Amber, Karachi
A- First you should consult psychotherapist to overcome your apprehension.
Psychotherapy will help you to identify the problem in order to find proper
solution that medicine can never do. Once you learn to stop your worrying
habits, you will get go in right direction. Your actual problem is with your
husband who does not work to support you. There are women who are
working hard to support them and have set the examples for others. You
can do short courses and get vocational training to build technical skills.
You can also continue your studies as a private candidate. You are lucky to
have support from sister-in-law and your brother. Many women in our
society are not given a single penny by any family member. Therefore, pay
attention to whatever the resources you have and strive for future.
DFN
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Help line
Q-2: I am 31 year old, married and having one daughter. After one year of
marriage, I separated from my parents to please my wife. My parents got angry
but my wife did not want to live my parents. Even I did not support to my parents
and siblings. Now, I am using cannabis and my wife is not ready to live with me
having fear that I will be a heroin addict one day. She says that it is easy for her to
raise a single child alone but not two or three children. She is asking for divorce.
When I asked for help from my parents they refused to do so because I had left
them for the sake of my wife. I do not want to divorce my wife. How can I convince
my wife to live with me forever? Nabil, Karachi
A-Only request can never work out. Even verbal agreement can not bring your
wife back. You will have to prove that you are ready to get rid of addiction. First
you get treatment for your addiction from hospital that is exclusively providing
treatment to drug addicts. After treatment, you will have to keep in touch with
your treatment centre to maintain your recovery. Your few months of recovery
will be the only way to restore your family relations. But one thing keep in mind
that few months recovery does not mean that you are drug free, you will have to
strive for three years to prove yourself a successful recovering person. Few months
of recovery will help your family to realize that drug addiction can be cured. DFN
Names and places of senders have been changed to ensure the
confidentiality. Keep sending queries without hesitation to Drug Free
Nation (DFN) at [email protected]
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Help line
I Can Breathe Again By Elizabeth - 2010
I can breathe again
Whispers in the wind Telling me
That our lives can Be lived
Sober and Free From all the pain and anguish
That consumed Our lives
I can breathe again No more pain
Inflicted on you From me....
Having to break those vows Of life
For What? Why? Through those steps In that Big ass book You and I will learn To Breathe Again
Retrieved from
http://www.addictionz.com/recovery_poems.htm
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Golden words