Robab Khoshbooii EDP5003. What Is Grief? Grief is a natural reaction to the loss of someone important to you. There are many different types of loss,

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  • What Is Grief? Grief is a natural reaction to the loss of someone important to you. There are many different types of loss, and not all of them are related to death. For example, a person can also grieve over the breakup of an intimate relationship or after a parent moves away from home.. 1995-2007 The Nemours Foundation.
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  • Coping With Grief The grieving process is very personal and individual Everyone handles grief in different ways Some people reach out for support from others Some people might blame themselves or think they could have done something to stop the death. Some people get involved with activities to take mind off loss. some people become depressed and withdraw from activities, peers, family Some people seek for professional help from counselor or psychiatric 1995-2007 The Nemours Foundation.
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  • Do children experience Grief? Yes, if children are old enough to love, they are old enough to grieve. Many times in our society children are the forgotten grievers. For instance, when a parent dies, whom do we expect to help the child with their grief? The surviving parent. That parent not only has their own grief to deal with but they are learning for the first time how to be a single parent. They, like their child, can use support in their grieving.
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  • Children Grief (cont.) Children dont grieve the way we do. They dont openly talk about how they are feeling. A death in their life usually causes them to feel in secure and anxious Bereavement groups can be a helpful tool for children.
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  • Five stages of Grief Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance Elisabeth Kbler-Ross
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  • Five stages of grief
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  • stages (cont.) Failure to complete any of these stages can lead to incomplete healing. Stages of grief does not appear linear: May go from shock anger denial bargaining anger depression acceptance anger. Theres no perfect model- Theres no right or wrong way. We cant put grief into a perfect box
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  • The Grieving Student at the Classroom Children express their pain of grief by their performance Their behaviors usually vary based on their age and developmental level The most unusual behaviors are: Becoming distract easily by movement and sounds at class, Becoming more forgetful than used to, Becoming much more fearful that they left alone Being loud and noisy, Have a temper outburst, Start fighting with other children, Want to fight against everything Low grade in academic performance Older children may even run away from home
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  • Adolescence Grief Adolescence grief manifests as: Confusion Feelings of emptiness/or loneliness Sleep and eating disturbances Crying Exhaustion Low academic performance Aggressive behaviors Depression Anxiety Feeling of insecurity Usually express grief in short outbursts or suppress it- They dont want to feel emotionally out of control.
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  • What to do? Teacher Act natural. Be honest. Don't lie about death Show genuine care and concern Tell grieving is a normal process Be a good observer. A bereaved child's behavior can tell you about her emotions. Listen carefully. Let children tell you what grief is like for them. Tell them that you are there to listen Dont rush to explain their feelings Be patient. Children's grief isn't typically obvious and immediate. Talk openly and directly about the person who died. Use simple and direct language. Show you care, concern,support and love them Sit next to a child that wants closeness
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  • What to do? Teacher Remember : Your grieving student needs your support and understanding Your grieving student needs to know that school is a stable and loving refuge Your grieving student needs someone to listen and care, not offers so many advices You cant ease a students pain, but you can help them to manage their painful experiences
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  • What not to do Offer advice or quick solutions (I know how you feel. Time heals all wounds.) Try to shelter children from the reality of death; Give false or confusing messages (Grandma is sleeping now.) Tell a child to stop crying because others might get upset Try to cheer the person up or distract from the emotional intensity (At least hes no longer in pain. Shes in a better place now.)
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  • Needs of the Teenager at Grieving time To be encouraged to talk about what they think and feel Their thoughts and feelings will be respected His/her ways of grieving will be accepted To be taken seriously, no matter how shallow his/her concerns seem While this age-group may understand death intellectually, they may have great difficulty understanding it emotionally
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  • Needs of the Teenager at Grieving time Adequate information Their fears and anxiety to be addressed Watch and listen them carefully Their feeling are accepted Need help for overwhelming feelings Need to be involved and included Need to see other people grieving Need opportunity for remember
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  • Help Themselves Attending support groups Therapy with a psychologist or other licensed mental health professional Journaling Eating Well Exercising Getting enough rest Antidepressants such as Zoloft, Paxil, Wellbutrin, Lexapro, Celexa, Prozac and can be very effective to those who become clinically depressed
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  • Grief Groups By sharing feelings with one another, children find out that they are not alone and that others are also struggling with pain and suffer. Grief groups help children feel understood, accepted, and supported
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  • Group Activities Writing or drawing spontaneously on mural paper taped to the wall Creating a collage using pictures and words cut from old magazines Writing a poem, eulogy, or song Constructing a book that can be used as a journal or a memory book Going on a field trip to a funeral home, cemetery, etc.
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  • Signs that Bereavement in Young People Needs Outside Intervention If a young person pretends that absolutely nothing has happened If school work takes a dramatic decline or the student develops a school phobia If a young person threatens suicide If a young person panics frequently If a young person becomes involved with alcohol or drugs If a young person begins committing serious socially delinquent acts
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  • Signs that Bereavement (cont.) If the young person is unwilling or unable to socialize with other young people If a young person frequently physically assaults others or is cruel to animals If a young person had a difficult relationship with the deceased or behaves poorly with family members


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