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1 JUNE 2015 [This is the second half of a Bereavement series begun in June 2014. The following is 1 of 3, and will run through August.] PHYSICAL REACTIONS TO GRIEF “The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep.” -Henry Maudlsy, Victorian Age Psychiatrist IT IS COMMON FOR THE EMOTIONAL STRESS OF THE DEATH TO IMPACT OUR PHYSICAL WELL BEING Each of us will have a unique blend of grief symptoms after the death of a loved one, and while our grief might be emotional, spiritual, practical, or financial, it is often the physical responses or reactions that we least expect and which cause us the greatest upset. The physical responses to grief include physical exhaustion, erratic sleeping and eating patterns, palpitations, shortness of breath, headaches, recurrent infections, high blood pressure, stomach upsets, hair loss, disruption of the menstrual cycle, diarrhea, or the worsening of chronic conditions such as asthma. Luckily many bereaved do not experience all these physical responses, but we should not be surprised if some happen to us after a death. Be sure to make an appointment with your physician. It is important that your physician is informed of what is happening in your life so that your blood pressure, weight changes, and other health indicators can be monitored. The death of your loved one may affect your whole body and mind. Be sure to take good care of yourself. Don’t Let Grief Take Your Breath Away Practice … Breathe in deeply to a count of four and out again slowly. Repeat three times. The stress we experience after the death of a loved one can affect our breathing. We might experience quick, shallow breaths which can lead to anxiety and heart palpitations, and if you find you have been sighing since the death it might be a signal from your body telling you to breathe more deeply.

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JUNE 2015 [This is the second half of a Bereavement series begun in June 2014. The following is 1 of 3, and will run through August.]

PHYSICAL REACTIONS TO GRIEF

“The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep.” -Henry Maudlsy, Victorian Age Psychiatrist

IT IS COMMON FOR THE EMOTIONAL STRESS OF THE DEATH TO IMPACT OUR PHYSICAL WELL BEING Each of us will have a unique blend of grief symptoms after the death of a loved one, and while our grief might be emotional, spiritual, practical, or financial, it is often the physical responses or reactions that we least expect and which cause us the greatest upset. The physical responses to grief include physical exhaustion, erratic sleeping and eating patterns, palpitations, shortness of breath, headaches, recurrent infections, high blood pressure, stomach upsets, hair loss, disruption of the menstrual cycle, diarrhea, or the worsening of chronic conditions such as asthma. Luckily many bereaved do not experience all these physical responses, but we should not be surprised if some happen to us after a death. Be sure to make an appointment with your physician. It is important that your physician is informed of what is happening in your life so that your blood pressure, weight changes, and other health indicators can be monitored. The death of your loved one may affect your whole body and mind. Be sure to take good care of yourself.

Don’t Let Grief Take Your Breath Away Practice … Breathe in deeply to a count of four and out again slowly. Repeat three times.

The stress we experience after the death of a loved one can affect our breathing. We might experience quick,

shallow breaths which can lead to anxiety and heart palpitations, and if you find you have been sighing since

the death it might be a signal from your body telling you to breathe more deeply.

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Deep breathing brings the air in through your nose fully filling your lungs while the lower belly rises. Deep

breathing can be one of the most powerful ways to ease physical grief symptoms.

Remember to practice deep breathing throughout the day. Try to pick three times a day to practice three

deep breaths. Some bereaved find it helpful to choose the time of day their loved one died such as 10 p.m.;

they take three deep breaths at 10 a.m., again at noon, and again at 10 p.m.

Don’t Let Grief Rob You of Your Sleep One of the most common physical grief reactions is changes in sleeping patterns. You might experience the

need to sleep 12 hours straight or you might not be able to get even one or two hours of sleep in a row.

Establish healthy sleep practices:

Get up and go to bed at the same time each day

Increase your activity in the morning and afternoon

Get at least 30 minutes of sunlight or bright light soon after you rise

Practice your deep breathing

Eat a light evening meal then later have a light evening snack

A glass of warm milk before bedtime really helps to relax and warm you

Listen to relaxing music in the evening

Take a hot bath about 90 minutes before bedtime; as your body cools from the bath it will promote

sleepiness

Make sure your bedroom is pleasant and relaxing

Keep your bedroom dark

If there is street noise, use earplugs

Associate your bed with sleep; try not to use the bed to watch TV, listen to the radio, or read

Make a list of your problems or worries along with a list of all you are grateful for then set both aside

until morning

Avoid caffeine, coffee, tea, cola, cocoa, chocolate from afternoon onward

Check your over the counter medications for caffeine content

Avoid alcohol—it can make you sleepy but can also interrupt sleep later in the sleep cycle

Don’t Lose Your Balance Just as important as getting enough sleep and deep breathing are in grief, so is balance. Some of us

experience the physical grief symptom of clumsiness or lack of balance. This is an unnerving thing if we are

used to being quick or light on our feet.

Here are some gentle balance exercises:

Stand straight, hold on to a table or chair for balance. Slowly stand on tiptoe as high as possible.

Hold position. Slowly lower heels to the ground. Repeat 8 to 15 times. Rest a minute. Repeat 8 to 15 more

times.

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Stand straight, hold on to a table or chair for balance. Slowly bend one knee as much as possible

so foot lifts up behind you. Hold position. Slowly lower foot all the way down.

Repeat 8 to 15 times on each leg.

Stand straight with feet slightly apart, holding on to a table or chair. Slowly lift one

leg to the side 6 - 12 inches. Keep back and knees straight. Hold position. Slowly lower leg.

Repeat 8 to 15 times with each leg.

Be Aware Of Your Appetite Nutrition can suffer during bereavement as your appetite changes. Some of us, in an effort to comfort and

nurture ourselves, overeat. Some of us do not eat enough, forget to eat, or simply have no appetite at all.

Stress can interfere with the absorption of nutrients, while fats and sugars end up depleting your energy.

Start taking care of yourself by eating breakfast, and…

Eat whole grains, fruits, vegetables, beans, nuts, or seeds for dietary fiber. Try adding some protein such as

seafood, low-fat dairy products, skinless poultry, eggs, or egg substitute. Variety is a good way to be sure to

get plenty of servings of fruits and vegetables.

Tips and Ideas

Spread a whole-grain tortilla with peanut butter and a banana

Stuff a whole-wheat pita with low fat cream cheese and sliced peaches

Try whole-grain crackers and string cheese

Mix instant oatmeal with dried fruit, nuts, and a bit of cinnamon

Top a whole-wheat English muffin with a soy sausage patty and a slice of low fat cheese

Scramble egg substitute with salsa or veggies

SUGGESTIONS FOR COPING WITH PHYSICAL GRIEF

Make an appointment with your MD for a complete physical

Drink lots of water

Take vitamins

Seek out human touch; take all the hugs you are offered; cuddle with children or pets; get a massage;

hold hands

Recognize that your thinking processes, coordination and reaction times are not at their best, so be

careful driving and using knives

If you look good, you feel good—be sure to get up each day and comb your hair, brush your teeth, take

time for personal care

Find an exercise you like and will do and set aside time each day to do it

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ROSE GARDEN MEMORIAL CEREMONY Date: Wednesday, July 15

Time: 6:30 – 7:00 p.m. Location: Hospice Care Center This is EvergreenHealth Hospice’s annual Summer Memorial Service; hospice staff provides a half-hour program of songs and words of comfort followed by a reception. All who have had a loss on hospice over the years are welcome, and families who have had a loved one die on hospice in the past two years receive an invitation. Non-hospice families who have had the recent death of a loved one in the hospital are invited through the hospital’s Community Bereavement Department. Volunteers are needed throughout the day to help with set up, to greet the bereaved as they arrive, help them find seats, to assist with food and beverages, and to be there in support of the bereaved families who want to talk. Last, but not least, we always need help with clean up after the event. Watch for an email in mid-June with a list of the times and locations of the various duties we need help with. If you would like to help, please email or call Sheri Standley, Hospice Volunteer Coordinator, at [email protected] or 425-899-3290. If you have not attended this ceremony before or would like to honor a loss, we suggest that you come this year and experience the event as a participant. You are also free to invite and welcome anyone in your circle of family and friends who have had a death (hospice or not). Let your community know that this beautiful ceremony is open to all!

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FAMILY LETTERS “Thank you for treating our dad with love and respect.” “We appreciate your tender and gentle way whenever you have come into Dad’s room. Thank you for consideration of us, also.” “Thank you for the gentle way you guys took care of my grandpa. God bless you!!!” “You guys have been more than amazing. Thank you for all that you have done.”

KUDOS Kudos from Michael Greene, MSW to Shino Posey, volunteer who provides haircuts: “Thank you so much for the care that you gave KT and all our other patients (RV LOVES his haircut…so did GG…and it was so meaningful to W.K….you gave her the last haircut of her life and helped her look nice for a very special visit from her daughter). You bring a very special gift to our patients who can’t get out of their homes. You help them look like themselves in a time when they are going through so many changes. This is a gift for family as well who witness their loved one’s physical appearance change.”

FOLLOW-UP TO BLANKET MAKING PARTY FOR MEMORIAL DAY We just received a thank you card from a family for the red, white and blue blanket her husband received. She wrote “I wish to thank you for the beautiful red, white and blue blanket you made and presented to my husband. He commented on the warmth, he’s cold much of the time, and the softness.” The card itself is very sweet too. That is just always amazing to me that people take the time out of everything they have going on to get a card, write it out, and find our address to mail it. Just amazing. -Melissa Lubatti, Hospice Volunteer Coordinator

SPECIAL FEATURES

MUTUAL APPRECIATION We meet the most amazing people and it always astonishes us how difficult it is to thank people who are giving to hospice because, in their service, whether it’s directly with patients or making items or helping us in the office, quite often their intention is to give back for the care given to their loved one(s). We have the privilege of hearing their stories when they show up in our office, at an interview, or as they introduce themselves on the first day of training. The email below is from a group of knitters who brought us some blankets. The mother doesn’t speak English and teaches the group. Her husband died at the hospice center 12 years ago (per her daughter who doesn’t knit, but drives them to deliver the blankets as her contribution) and this is their way to give back to hospice for the great care he received. We thanked them and let them know how meaningful the handmade items are to our patients, with the daughter translating to her mother. They also wanted to know if there were other items our patients could use and we gave them ideas and patterns. Melissa then thoughtfully gave them a tour of the hospice center and received the email below the following day. - Sheri

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“Hi Melissa, Thank you very much for introducing us to your wonderful team and giving us a tour of Evergreen Hospice's facilities. We were very impressed with the resources Hospice has to offer and the warmth, care, and kindness that transpires from everyone. It was with great love that each one of us crocheted the blankets and we hope to transmit this affection to the patients. The group will be meeting tomorrow and we will show the handouts you gave us for future projects. Again, many thanks and keep up the wonderful work. Sincerely, Knitters of Group Donha Tere”

CONGRATULATIONS!

Evergreen Hospice AAT Team Daniela Mazzucchelli and her dog, a Great Pyrenees named Cleo, went camping on Orcas Island last month, where Cleo won “Best Camper Dog” at the Pet Parade! Note: Cleo is actually directly from the Pyrenees in Spain, and Daniela’s father-in-law has a sheep farm in Chile (shown below). The 1,200 sheep are watched closely by his 16 Great Pyrenees dogs. (Photos: on left, sheep resting with the Chilean volcano Orsorno, in the background; right, one of the Great Pyrenees doing his job, rounding up sheep.)

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WELCOME TO THE CLASS OF MAY 2015!

Back row, left to right: Mandi, Laura, Carolyn, Dan, Randy, Ed, Chris, Mark, Bertha, Yan, Tina

Front row, left to right: Stacey, Kathy, Emily, Kimberly, Rachel, Constance, Mary, Erika

UPDATES AND ANNOUNCEMENTS

HELP WANTED – BEREAVEMENT DEPARTMENT We are looking for a volunteer that is interested in light office work: copying, filing, making brochures, inventorying supplies for our mailings, and addressing condolence cards when things are slow. It usually means 1-2 hours per week. You would be welcome to be a part of our other bereavement activities such as our monthly brown bag gathering, Rose Garden, Saturday workshops, etc. We’d be happy to speak to anyone interested! Thank you - Guy Freeman & Monica Cagayat, Bereavement Coordinators

FLU SEASON (AT EVERGREEN) IS OVER! Francis Riedo, MD – Medical Director of Infection Control and Prevention – has officially declared an end to required masking for those who have not been vaccinated against influenza. Please remember that we need to continue to diligently identify people with active cough or influenza type illness. Although the rates of flu are down, we continue to see it and other contagious diseases such as pertussis in our clinics and ED. Thank you for your cooperation and your commitment to the safety of our patients and staff.

ELEVATOR UPGRADE WILL ENHANCE RELIABILITY AND REDUCE ENERGY USE Work will continue from April 2015 to the end of February 2016. Elevators have a lifespan! Like people, they’re vulnerable to the effects of time, friction and physics. And while our Facilities and Construction Management teams follow a preemptive maintenance and repair schedule, it is time to do a mechanical renovation on the Purple/Green elevators, one of which has been in service since the hospital opened in 1972.

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To reduce the inconvenience to patients and staff, workers will close just one elevator at a time, using the 4th floor Green hallway as the staging area. Work on each elevator will take about 11 weeks.

BEREAVEMENT CALLERS WANTED! Guy and Monica here! We are looking to recruit new Bereavement Phone Callers to add to our already talented group of volunteers. Bereavement Phone Callers are an integral part of our team. They reach out to our bereaved family members, check in and offer support. It can be very rewarding, takes only two hours per week, and is done at the hospice center. If anyone is looking for a change or is interested in being a part of our team, contact one of the Volunteer Coordinators. Then, you will:

Sit with Guy and Monica for an interview (we will ask questions about your loss history and your reasons for wanting to join our team).

Get additional training about grief/bereavement, making phone calls, being a supportive listener, the bereavement program and crisis.

Get hands-on training for phone calls and computer work.

Participate in monthly Brown Bag Lunches with other Bereavement Volunteers to support each other.

Some of our current callers reflect on their experiences: “The gathering once a month during lunch is really helpful.” “You hear thank you from our families; you really get to hear the positive feedback they have about hospice.” “It gives a sense of cohesiveness and community.” “I have a set schedule which I really appreciate, and I’m always learning something new. I also get a lot of interaction because I come to the center and get to see people before and after I make calls.” Just two hours of your week can really impact others. We appreciate any interest and are happy to answer your questions! With Gratitude - Guy Freeman & Monica Cagayat, Bereavement Coordinators

SUMMER DISCOUNTS Wild Waves Discount Tickets The 2015 Season starts May 3. You may purchase discounted tickets at https://shop.accesso.com/clients/accesso17/affiliate/login.php?m=11784&ec=10006 Username: Evergreen Health; Password: summer2015 BECU ZooTunes Tickets For concert dates and line-up please see the BECU ZooTunes flyer located on Everlink under Human Resources>Benefits>Employee Discounts.

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CALENDAR OF EVENTS

CREATIVE PLAYSHOP - Open Studio and Artwork Activities

for Hospice Volunteers and Employees Dates: Tues., June 16 / Tues., July 21 / Tues., August 18 Time: 10:15 a.m. – 12:15 p.m. Location: Hospice Center conference room Fee: $2 toward the cost of supplies Hospice Volunteer Karen Dawn, our fearless creative leader, is inspired by art as a form of healing, relaxation and self-expression. Sharing the power of art-making with others has become her passion. Come learn easy-to-use meditative and creative techniques that promote stress reduction, self-reflection and healing from within. If we have less than 3 RSVPs the class will be cancelled. RSVP to [email protected]

WE LOOK FORWARD TO CREATING WITH YOU!

HOSPICE STAFF AND VOLUNTEER MONTHLY REFLECTION TIME – FOURTH WEDNESDAY OF THE MONTH

(formerly MONTHLY MINDFULNESS GROUP) The new format for the monthly meditation meeting will be as follows: SCHEDULE: 6:00 p.m. Gather outside reflection room and enter together in silence 6 - 6:45 p.m. Time of silent reflection with brief check-in 6:45 - 7 p.m. Qi Gong for those who are interested

OR 6:45 - 7:15 p.m. Silent walking meditation to the Clinician Workroom for a time of check-in with volunteer coordinators and one another Day: The fourth Wednesday of each month Location: Hospice Care Center Leader: Asha Novak, volunteer (backup Arlene Sullivan, volunteer) Purpose: Quiet reflection and self-care for hospice staff and volunteers NOTE: Because of the reflective nature of this meeting, the doors will close at 6:00 p.m. If you are running late we will plan to see you the following month.

SEATTLE AREA VOLUNTEER SUPPORT MEETING – FIRST THURSDAY OF THE MONTH Time: 8:15 – 9:15 a.m. Location: Northgate Panera Bread

For information contact Stephanie Murray at [email protected] All hospice volunteers are welcome to attend. BELLEVUE/SEATTLE VOLUNTEER SUPPORT MEETING – SECOND WEDNESDAY OF THE MONTH Time: 7 - 8 p.m. Location: Mercer Island Drive-Thru Starbucks, 7620 SE 27th St., Mercer Island This is an ongoing support meeting.

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BEREAVEMENT PHONE CALLERS SUPPORT GROUP LUNCH – FOURTH FRIDAY OF THE MONTH

Time: 12 - 1 p.m. Location: Hospice Center

COMPASSIONATE TOUCH VOLUNTEERS TO MEET Evergreen Hospice Compassionate Touch Volunteers will meet on the second Monday every other month in 2015 for dinner at 6 p.m. at PF Changs in Bellevue. These will be informal and friendly dinners where contacts can be made and information shared; a time to enjoy the company of other hospice volunteers who understand the unique challenges of Touch work. Massage, Reiki, Cranial Sacral and Reflexology volunteers are all welcome. They will meet on the following dates: July 13 September 14, and November 9. Any Touch volunteer who would like to participate should contact [email protected]

YOGA – SECOND FRIDAY OF THE MONTH Time: 10 - 11:15 a.m. Location: Hospice Center Instructor: Kate Casey

COMMUNITY REIKI CIRCLE – FIRST SATURDAY OF THE MONTH Time: 9:30-11:30 a.m. Location: Hospice Reflection Room Host: Theresa Nuccio A Reiki Circle is a time for Reiki practitioners to get together and share stories and support one another. We also exchange treatments. We would like to extend an invitation to any staff or volunteers who may want to get more information about or experience Reiki. The circle is being led by Reiki-certified group members, and everyone is welcome!

EDUCATION OPPORTUNITIES

SPEAKING OF DYING – DOCUMENTARY Speaking of Dying builds on the work Trudy James has done over many years that carries on through Heartwork end-of-life groups. The film clearly depicts today’s end-of-life challenges and resources, and it is a compelling testament to our human ability to do the inner and outer work of accepting mortality and planning meaningful end-of-life experiences for ourselves and our loved ones. We are deeply grateful to the patients, family members and medical providers who shared their intimate journeys with us (including two EvergreenHealth Hospice patients), and we deeply appreciate the many donors like you who have made Speaking of Dying possible. (View a list of sponsors and major donors on the film website: www.speakingofdying.com.) We are still in need of funds to complete and distribute the film. If you are able to donate, you can find out how on the website.

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This premiere is only the beginning – the film will also be distributed for screenings in senior centers, senior residences, congregations, clinics, college classes, and other locations. On the website you can request a screening for your own venue. Purchase of the DVD includes a custom notebook with more resources for discussion and instructions for creating end of life planning groups. As Dr. Atul Gawande said recently in his appearance on Frontline: "You can't always count on the doctor to lead the way; sometimes the patient needs to do it." Speaking of Dying shows us how to do our part. Seattle Screening: Wed., June 10, 6 p.m. at Seattle First Baptist Church (1111 Harvard Ave., Seattle) There is no admission charge for any of the screenings. Donations will be accepted and copies of the film DVD will be sold.

END OF LIFE UNIVERSITY – A YOUTUBE INTERVIEW SERIES End-of-Life University is an online educational interview series to promote increased understanding and acceptance of death and dying. Host Dr. Karen Wyatt, a hospice physician and author of the book What Really Matters: 7 Lessons for Living from the Stories of the Dying, interviews experts from all fields related to the end of life. The purpose of the interviews is to educate the public on important issues, encourage conversations about the end of life, and reduce the fear and denial of death and dying that exist in our society. Subscribe to End-of-Life University to receive email updates when new interviews are posted. Visit www.eoluniversity.com for more information. The series can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsBObhdE2nZ6za2dg0Om3Bw?mc_cid=5590e9c5a2&mc_eid=%5bUNIQID

Upcoming Workshop for Massage Volunteers BODYWORK IN END OF LIFE CARE: JOURNEYS IN DYING, PRESENCING DEEP PEACE Dates: Aug. 8-9 Location: The Trillium Institute, Seattle, WA www.presencingsource.com Instructor: Meg Robsahm 16 CE Hours NCTMB This two-day course offers fundamental concepts in palliative care and caring touch along with practical information about clinical considerations and bodywork adjustments necessary to work safely. Understanding the dying process, pain management and end of life symptoms with respective comfort measures is also a part of the curriculum. Many Evergreen Hospice Massage Volunteers have taken this excellent course and highly recommend it. A blend of lecture, case study review, discussion and hands-on time, this course will help the massage therapist move beyond their concerns; allowing us to open to sacred moments and presencing deep peace with the dying.

ONLINE PROGRAM: CONSCIOUS LIVING, CONSCIOUS DYING A professionally edited recording of a two–day workshop to train people to be Living/Dying Project volunteers and offer conscious and compassionate support to people with life-threatening illness can be viewed at your convenience. In addition, five hours of online streaming, live support with guided meditations, discussion and questions and answers will be offered. This workshop will also benefit anyone who wants to deepen their spiritual practice. A certificate of completion and California CEU’s for licensed social workers and psychotherapists will also be available. After completing this training you have the option of becoming a Living/Dying Project adjunct volunteer for regular online support groups addressing the issues that arise in working with dying clients.

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Cost for the virtual online version of the Healing At Our Edge Workshop is $200. The course began in mid-January, 2015. Please contact the Project office before registering to ensure space is still available. For more information, go to: http://livingdying.org/online/

ONLINE PROGRAM: THE FOUNDATIONS OF WELL-BEING

There is a great new online program from the Metta Institute: The Foundations of Well-Being: A Year of Positive Neuroplasticity. The program is a perfect fit for healthcare clinicians or hospice volunteers. The program develops the 12 Pillars of Well-Being: Self-Caring, Mindfulness, Learning, Vitality, Gratitude, Confidence, Calm, Motivation, Intimacy, Courage, Aspiration, and Service. The cost is just $25/month and there's even a money-back guarantee. For more information and to sign up for the series, go to http://fwb.rickhanson.net/

REFLECTIONS

The Way It Is

There’s a thread you follow. It goes among things that change. But it doesn’t change.

People wonder about what you are pursuing. You have to explain about the thread.

But it is hard for others to see. While you hold it you can’t get lost. Tragedies happen; people get hurt or die; and you suffer and get old.

Nothing you do can stop time’s unfolding. You don’t ever let go of the thread.

~ William Stafford ~

(The Way It Is)

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IDT TIMES AND LOCATIONS

Central Two (Criss) Mondays, 10:15 a.m. -12:15 p.m. Hospice Center Conference Room North Team (Sheri) Tuesdays, 8:30-10:30 a.m. Plaza 201 Central Team (Sheri) Thursdays, 8:15 – 10:30 a.m. Hospice Center Conference Room South Team (Criss) Fridays, 8:30-10:30 a.m. Hospice Center Conference Room Inpatient Team (Melissa) Thursdays, 11:30-12:30 p.m. Hospice Center Conference Room

PROTECTING YOUR PRIVACY WHEN CALLING FAMILIES FROM HOME Using our home phone risks our own privacy If you do not have Call Blocking as the default on your home phone, you can dial *67 + number you are dialing. This will block your number from showing up on patients/families’ caller ID for that specific call.

HELPFUL HOSPICE CONTACTS Melissa Lubatti, Volunteer Coordinator Hospice Center and Animal Assisted Therapy [email protected] 425.899.1028 425-899.1052 - Fax Criss East, Volunteer Coordinator Home Hospice South and Central Two Teams [email protected] 425.899.1049 425-899.1052 - Fax Sheri Standley, Volunteer Coordinator Home Hospice Central and North Teams [email protected] 425.899.3290 425-899.1052 – Fax Hospice Main Telephone Line 425.899.1040 or 425.899.1070

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Hospice Toll Free Number 1-800- 442-4546 Both numbers are answered 24 hrs. a day/7 days a week Hospice Fax 425.899.1052 Attn: Volunteer Department Hospice Bereavement 425.899.1040 Employee Health: 425.899.2282 - Reception Hours: Monday through Friday, 7:30 a.m. – 4 p.m. (M,T,W for TB testing) National Hospice Foundation www.hospiceinfo.org

HELPFUL HOSPICE LINKS Evergreen Hospice Volunteer Information and Application Forms www.evergreenhealthcare.org/services/hospice/hospicevols/default.htm National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization www.nhpco.org Hospice Foundation of America www.hospicefoundation.org Hospice Web www.hospiceweb.com Four Seasons Oasis Bookstore and Gallery (Very extensive collection of books on bereavement; especially miscarriage) www.fourseasonsoasis.com Free Workbook on Advance Care Planning (A workbook called "Your Life, Your Choices" to help people do advance care planning.) http://www.hsrd.research.va.gov/publications/internal/ylyc.pdf The Sacred Art of Living Center www.sacredartofliving.org Passages – Support and Education in End-of-Life Issues http://www.passageseducation.org/index.html Video link for Hospice A link to a music video with photos of our hospice center gardens taken by Volunteer Coordinator Criss East with music composed by Cathy Scarcello, and sung by Cathy and her sister Chris Clement, one of our hospice managers. Cathy wrote these songs for the Rose Garden Ceremony and they sing them each year. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yC1TliBe7to&feature=youtu.be Presencing – For Compassionate Touch Volunteers - https://www.presencingsource.com/

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JUNE 2015

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday

SAVE THE DATE Rose Garden Ceremony Wed. July 15 6:30-7 p.m.

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4 SEATTLE AREA VOLUNTEER MEETING Contact leader for location 8:15-9:15 a.m.

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6 COMMUNITY REIKI CIRCLE 9:30-11:30 a.m.

7 8 9 REIKI FOR STAFF AND VOLUNTEERS 9:30-11:30 a.m. HCC Reflection Rm.

10 BELLEVUE/ SEATTLE VOLUNTEER SUPPORT MEETING 7 – 8 p.m. Mercer Island Drive Thru Starbucks

11 12 YOGA 10-11:15 a.m. Reflection Rm.

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14 15 REIKI FOR STAFF AND VOLUNTEERS 11 a.m. – 2 p.m. HCC Reflection Rm.

16 REIKI FOR STAFF AND VOLUNTEERS 9:30-11:30 a.m. HCC Reflection Rm.

17 CREATIVE PLAYSHOP 10:15 a.m. – 12:15 p.m. Hospice Conference Rm.

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21 22 23 REIKI FOR STAFF AND VOLUNTEERS 9:30-11:30 a.m. HCC Reflection Rm.

24 REFLECTION MEETING FOR HOSPICE VOLUNTEERS & STAFF 6 -7:15 p.m. Reflection Rm.

25 26 BEREAVEMENT PHONE CALLERS LUNCH 12-1 p.m. Hospice Center

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28 29 30 REIKI FOR STAFF AND VOLUNTEERS 9:30-11:30 a.m. HCC Reflection Rm.

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SEATTLE AREA VOLUNTEER MEETING Northgate Panera Bread 8:15-9:15 a.m.

3 4 COMMUNITY REIKI CIRCLE 9:30-11:30 a.m.

5 6 7 REIKI FOR STAFF AND VOLUNTEERS 9:30-11:30 a.m. HCC Reflection Rm.

8 BELLEVUE/ SEATTLE VOLUNTEER SUPPORT MEETING 7 – 8 p.m. Mercer Island Drive Thru Starbucks

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10 YOGA 10-11:15 a.m. Reflection Rm.

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12 13 COMPASSIONATE TOUCH VOLUNTEER MEETING P.F. Chang’s 6 p.m.

14 REIKI FOR STAFF AND VOLUNTEERS 9:30-11:30 a.m. HCC Reflection Rm.

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19 20 REIKI FOR STAFF AND VOLUNTEERS 11 a.m. – 2 p.m. HCC Reflection Rm.

21 REIKI FOR STAFF AND VOLUNTEERS 9:30-11:30 a.m. HCC Reflection Rm. CREATIVE PLAYSHOP 10:15 a.m. – 12:15 p.m. Hospice Conference Rm.

22 REFLECTION MEETING FOR HOSPICE VOLUNTEERS & STAFF 6 -7:15 p.m. Reflection Rm.

23 24 BEREAVEMENT PHONE CALLERS LUNCH 12-1 p.m. Hospice Center

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