Personality is the sum total of ways in which an individual reacts and interacts with others. It is defined as the relatively enduring patterns of thought, feeling and behavior.

It generally implies to all what is unique about an individual

The characteristics that makes one stand out in a crowd.

 Personality is the sum total of individual’s psychological traits, characteristics, motives, habits, attitudes, beliefs and outlooks.

Heredity - refers to factors that were determined at conception.

Physical structure, facial attractiveness, gender, temperament, muscle composition and reflexes, energy level, and biological rhythms.

Characteristics that influenced by your parents - biological, physiological and psychological.

Environment - factors that exert pressures on our personality formation, the norms among our family, friends and social groups, and other influences that we experience.

The environment plays a significant role in shaping our personalities.

Situation - influences the effects of heredity and environment on personality.

An individual’s personality does change in different situations.

The different situation calls for different aspects of one’s personality.

means putting positive believes/ information into the store with out the knowledge of the watchman (conscious mind).

Auto-suggestions are the conscious way to program the subconscious mind for positive traits. It is the effective method of voluntary development of positive traits and attitudes.

Auto-suggestion mixed with emotions (giving feeling) and mixed with faith to translate themselves into physical or real equivalent.

Protesting or denying the negative traits at its very beginning of the entering in the subconscious store.

In real life situation it is very difficult because it may lead to confrontation and argument or Inaction.

While watching a picture we anchor the Hero, placing ourselves in place of hero. Similarly we can anchor Great men in imagination and let them shape our personality.

Invisible Counseling Committee comprising of great personalities of your choice.

Example:Mother TeresaAlbert Einstein

Personality traits control our body language. we can change our negative traits towards

positive traits by consciously practicing the body language for positive traits.

Environment is the driving force in shaping the personalities.

When one direct contact with great personalities will enriches his own to be the one.

Two basic drives: sex and aggression. He referred to these as Eros (love) and

Thanatos. Eros - represents the life instinct, sex being

the major driving force. Thanatos - represents the death instinct

allowed the human race to both procreate and eliminate its enemies.

mind as only having a fixed amount of psychic energy (libido). The outcome of the interaction between the id, ego and the superego, (each contending for as much libidinal energy as possible) determines our adult personality.

Personality had three parts1. Id2.ego3. super-ego.

The ego, having a difficult time trying to satisfy both the needs of the id and the superego, employs defense mechanisms.

Repression is perhaps the most powerful of these. Repression is the act by which unacceptable id

impulses (most of which are sexually related) are "pushed" out of awareness and into the unconscious mind.

Another example of a defense mechanism is projection. This is the mechanism that Freud used to explain Little Hans' complex. Little Hans is said to have projected his fear for his father onto horses, which is why he was afraid of horses.

begins at birthmouth is the primary source of libidinal

energy.A child who is frustrated at this stage may

develop an adult personality that is characterised by pessimism, envy and suspicion.

The overindulged child may develop to be optimistic, gullible, and full of admiration for others.

pleasure is on eliminating and retaining feces.

If the parents are too relaxed in this conflict - formation of an anal expulsive character (disorganized, reckless and defiant).

If a child may opt to retain feces - may develop into an anal retentive character (neat, stingy and obstinate).

boys develop unconscious desires for their mother and become rivals with their father for her affection.

castration anxiety - fear that their father will punish them for these feelings

identify with him rather than fight him.Oedipus complex - boy develops masculine

characteristics and inhibit his sexual feelings towards his mother.

Electra complex - girls go through a similar process

not a psychosexual development.stage when sexual drives lie inactive. period of unparalleled suppression of sexual

desires and erogenous impulses.Questions gender differences.

begins at pubertysexual urges are once again awakened. Interest now turns to heterosexual

relationships.

1. Accept Responsibility.2. Show consideration.3. Think Win-Win.4. Choose your words carefully.5. Never Criticize, Complain and Condemn.6. Smile and Be Kind.7. Put Positive interpretation on other people’s

behavior.

8. Be a Good Listener.9. Be Enthusiastic.10. Give honest and Sincere Appreciation.11. When you make a mistake, accept it and

make it easy to amend.12. Discuss but don’t argue.13. Don’t Gossip.14. Turn your promises into commitment.15. Be grateful but do not expect gratitude.

16. Be dependable and practice loyalty.17. Avoid bearing grudges.18. Practice honesty, Integrity and Sincerity.19. Practice Humility.20. Be understanding and Caring.21. Practice courtesy on daily basis.22. Develop a sense of humor.23. Don’t be sarcastic and put others down.24. To have a friend be a Friend.25. Show Empathy.