open mind heart & will (ebs closing lead session)

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EBs Session to close the NSC LEAD Experience by Dey Dos.

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Page 1: Open Mind Heart & Will (EBs Closing LEAD Session)

MINDHEARTWILL Open

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NO QUICK FIXES NO BULLSH*T

NO GIVEN SOLUTIONS

enhance self-awareness on what might be holding

you back

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“ Implementing change continues to challenge our leadership capacity.

WHAT WILL IT MEAN TO LEARN HOW TO BE LEADERS OF ECOSYSTEMS

INSTEAD OF EGOSYSTEMS?

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Our capacity to move from where we are to where we want to be is

what counts!

MINDHEARTWILL Open

Page 5: Open Mind Heart & Will (EBs Closing LEAD Session)

A major change are taking place in AIESEC right now!

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Change have been decided from outside of our circle of influence. Its immediate purpose seems to be the attainment of

AIESEC 2015; its longer range purpose seems unclear. Rationale for the change seem partially subjective. Training and concise information is limited.

Timelines are extremely challenging. The expected results seem to depend on pure faith.

No one is fully comfortable with the process.

WE ARE PRESENTED WITH HUGE CHALLENGES

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Wisdom TO SEE THE DIFFERENCES

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Wisdom is rare and cherished because it comes from a place not

normally accessed by most people in day-to-day living.

WHAT STOPS THE AVERAGE PERSON FROM BEING A TRULY WISE AND INSIGHTFUL

PERSON?

WHAT IS IT ABOUT WISDOM THAT MAKES IT SO HARD TO COME BY?

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DEEPLISTENING

To access true wisdom, insight, and guidance one must navigate past three voices on the journey that are the path way to deep listening.

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

“That’s a stupid idea.” “Who do you/they think you/they are?”

“Play it safe.” “Keep things the way you know them.”

Most of us are very familiar with this voice .

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

Whenever I become judgmental it is a sign that something within me is amiss, something I need to hear, reconnect with and accept.

As we judge one another, we will live into and function from the worst in each other, not the best.

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

When I can moderate the voice of judgment, I can begin to believe in the group/process and expect

the best from both them/it and myself.

Mutual trust and communication give both the group/process and me a way to enter into that space

of wisdom and deep listening.

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

OPENMIND THE CAPACITY TO SUSPEND

HABITUAL JUDGMENT

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What are some automatic judgments I am making

concerning the changes we are currently living in AIESEC?

SHARE WITH A PARTNER WHATEVER COMES TO YOUR MIND

KEEP ASKING EACH OTHER THAT

QUESTION UNTIL THE ANSWERS STOP COMING

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DEEPLISTENING

“Oh no, we already tried that before and we got hurt, remember? We ain’t going there again.”

“You can’t trust anyone.” “It’s better to hurt others before they hurt you.”

“It’s a dog-eat-dog world out there.”

This voice keeps you separate, alone, and bitter.

VOICEOFJUDGMENT

VOICEOFCYNICISM

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

VOICEOFCYNICISM

This is the voice that keeps you “safely” separate from others and the world, putting everything and everyone at “safe distance.”

This voice is afraid to be vulnerable and sees vulnerability as a direct threat to survival.

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

VOICEOFCYNICISM

For often understandable reasons, AIESEC leaders feel the need to distance themselves emotionally as way of self-protection.

But in doing so, they cause great damage to themselves and to the organization.

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

OPENHEART THE CAPACITY TO REDIRECT MY

PERSPECTIVE FROM MY VIEWPOINT TO SOMEONE ELSE'S

VOICEOFCYNICISM

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In what ways am I being cynical keeping challenges & challengers at arms distance, staying “safe,”

separate and alone?

SHARE WITH A PARTNER WHATEVER COMES TO YOUR MIND

KEEP ASKING EACH OTHER THAT

QUESTION UNTIL THE ANSWERS STOP COMING

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DEEPLISTENING

“I’ll be inadequate and will not find a way to step up.”

“I’ll be rejected and ridiculed.” “I’ll be all alone.”

All of your deepest fears can become activated.

VOICEOFJUDGMENT

VOICEOFCYNICISM

VOICEOFFEAR

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

VOICEOFCYNICISM

VOICEOFFEAR

This voice strives to maintain the status quo and holds onto what you already have and know.

This is the ultimate voice at the gate that goes right to your core animalistic instincts for survival.

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

VOICEOFCYNICISM

VOICEOFFEAR

Fear of losing, fear of being ostracized, fear of ridicule, fear of looking bad to others or to our leaders, and especially, fear of failure and being inadequate.

FEAR SPEAKS IN MANY VOICES

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Fear is so fundamental to the human condition that all the great spiritual traditions originate in an effort to overcome its effects on our lives. With different words, they all proclaim the same core message: ‘Be not afraid.’. . . Be not afraid does not say that we should not have fears . . .(but) that we do not need to be our fears.

PARKERPALMER

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

OPENWILL THE CAPACITY TO LET GO

AND LET COME

VOICEOFCYNICISM

VOICEOFFEAR

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What personal key fears are stopping me from fully

embracing this change process while being who I truly am & doing what I came here to do?

SHARE WITH A PARTNER WHATEVER COMES TO YOUR MIND

KEEP ASKING EACH OTHER THAT

QUESTION UNTIL THE ANSWERS STOP COMING

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I bet you can recognize each of these three voices in you.

I’m sure you’ve done battle with each of them at some point in your life.

DID YOU WIN? OR DID THEY WIN?

VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

VOICEOFCYNICISM

VOICEOFFEAR

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

VOICEOFCYNICISM

VOICEOFFEAR

Whether you win or lose is not so much the point.

BUT DID YOU ENGAGE WHOLEHEARTEDLY AND HONORABLY?

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VOICEOFJUDGMENT

DEEPLISTENING

VOICEOFCYNICISM

VOICEOFFEAR

These “battles” are only with ourselves.

awareness � courage � compassion

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Wisdom DISTINGUISHING WHEN TO ENGAGE AND

WHEN TO LET GO IS PART OF THE WISDOM YOU CAN DEVELOP OVER TIME

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1.  Be aware that these voices will always be on your path. That’s half the battle itself!

2.  Have the courage to face them and engage them. Don’t back down; how you engage is more important than winning.

3.  Have compassion for not only yourself, but have compassion for these aspects of yourself; have compassion for these voices.

4.  These voices are far more afraid than your conscious Self is – step up and show them the way out of their suffering and smallness.

QUICKSUMMARY

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Rainer M. Rilke

…perhaps all dragons of our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us once beautiful and brave. Perhaps everything terrible is in its deepest being something helpless that wants help from us.

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This is the moment in which I am better prepared to give my best.

What do I need to give to it my all?

FINISHINGSTRONG

Q4 HAS BEEN ALWAYS THE SAME IN THE LAST 4 YEARS

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AM I GOING TO BE MY

FEAR?

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