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Mindful Leadership

Through Emotional Intelligence

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OPAL Conference | August 5, 2016Peter Bromberg | peterbromberg.com

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I Believe that…We all exert influence

We can make conscious choices that will improve our influence

We can learn to make better choices

more consciously and consistently

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I Believe that…

Emotional and social intelligence correlates with our ability to have

positive influence in the world and…

These competencies can be developed.

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Influence is something we do

not something we are (i.e. “a LEADER”) or a position we hold.

Influence is situational It’s about the choices we make

moment by moment that either move things in the direction of a desired

goal or not. If not, we can choose again.

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Why Are We Here Today?

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Why Are We Here Today?

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Why Are We Here Today?

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World population: 7,400,000,000Ever Lived: 108,000,000,000

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David: Too much, there's too much *#%ing perspective now.

Nigel: It really puts perspective on things, though, doesn't it?

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Why Are We Here Today?

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Why Are We Here Today?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Upm9LnuCBUM&t=1m25s

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Why Are We Here Today?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Upm9LnuCBUM&t=1m25s

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Think about someone who’s

made a difference in your life

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Warren Bennis says leadership is management

of:AttentionSelfMeaningTrust

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AttentionDo you consciously

direct your attention and

focus it in ways that help you direct energy effectively?

SelfAre you tuned into, and take ownership for,

your needs, wants, behaviors, and

emotions?Meaning

Do you distinguish between the data you observe and the meaning you

create?

TrustAre your values, words, &actions congruent? Does

your behavior inspire the trust of

others?

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Emotional and Social IntelligenceDefinition of EQ from Daniel Goleman

• Self-awareness • Self-regulation • Social skill • Empathy • Self-Motivation

EQ can be developed

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SELF SOCIAL

AWARENESS

SELF AWARENESS

• Accurate Self-awareness

• Owns personal power• Self-Confident• Self-deprecating

humor

SOCIAL AWARENESS

• Empathy• Service Ethic• Organizational awareness• Cross-cultural sensitivity

MANAGEMENT

SELF MANAGEMENT

• Integrity/Trustworthy• Transparent• Optimism• Intentionality• Achievement Focused• Creative• Adaptable

RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT

• Builds Trust• Develops Others• Communication• Inspirational• Builds bonds• Collaboration/Teamwork

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It’s Not About Being Nice

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Increasing Resourcefulness

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The Neurobiology of EQ

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DeadlinesFeedbackEmail OverloadDisagreementsConflictOverworkingResponsibilityOver-commitment

The Neurobiology of EQ

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How to Renew and RechargeGratitude Helping others

Mindfulness Exercise

Nature Resonant Relationships

Journaling Prayer Touch

Playfulness Petting a pet

Visioning Expressing Appreciation

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MindfulnessAnd

EmotionalIntelligence

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It’s not just Google…

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The pace of change is accelerating and the progression is

exponential.

Indeed … we find not just simple exponential growth, but “double”

exponential growth, meaning that

the rate of exponential growth is itself growing exponentially.

- Ray Kurzweil, Author, Inventor, Futurist

https://www.facebook.com/blog/blog.php?post=112344532130 http://www.kurzweilai.net/the-law-of-accelerating-returns

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Where our attention goes, our energy goesWhere our energy goes, action followsWhere actions are taken, results follow

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It all starts with Attention

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Emotional Contagion

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Think about a bad boss or

supervisor you’ve had.

Peter Bromberg | Peterbromberg.com

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The Influence of Emotional Contagion

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“Being able to change your internal state might be one of the most powerful

techniques you learn in becoming an effective leader– one who inspires others

to learn, adapt and perform at their best.” -Richard Boyatzis

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The Influence of Emotional Contagion

Energy is contagious, especially so if you’re a leader. The way you’re feeling at any

given moment profoundly influences how the people who work for you feel.

How they’re feeling, in turn, profoundly influences how well they perform.

A leader’s responsibility is to fuel them in every possible way to bring the best of themselves to their jobs

every day. - Tony Schwartz , The Energy Project

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Negative Emotional Attractors

• Activate your sympathetic nervous system• Activate the task positive network of your brain• Result in stress and decreased cognitive,

emotional, perceptual, and creative capacity.

Negative Emotional Attractors include:• Getting

feedback• Analyzing• Problem Solving• Conflict• Expectations

• Fear• Pessimism• “Should do”s• Dissonant

relationships• Focus on weakness

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Positive Emotional Attractors

• Activate your parasympathetic nervous system• Activate the default mode network of your brain• Result in relaxation and increased cognitive,

emotional, perceptual, and creative capacity.

Positive Emotional Attractors include:• Mindfulness• Resonant

relationships• Experimenting• Focus on strengths• Visioning

• Learning• Practicing• Hope/optimism• Play• Gratitude

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The Power of Stories

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For Sale. Baby

Shoes. Never Worn.

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Painful nerd kid, happy nerd adult.

- Linda Williamson

http://www.npr.org/2008/02/07/18768430/six-word-memoirs-life-stories-distilled

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Who we are (Origin)Where we going (Vision)

How we act (Values)Change/Learning (Growth)

From: Circle of the 9 Muses by David Hutchens

Four Organizational Stories

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Stories of Values in Action

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Story MiningBuilding Culture with

Stories

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The most fundamental job of a leader is to recruit, mobilize, inspire, focus, direct, and regularly refuel the energy of those they lead.-Tony Schwartz

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“My job is to awaken possibility

in other people” -Benjamin Zander

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Thank you!

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